Holding your SO's purse
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metalmonstar
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It is more of problem with carrying her stuff. Even with water bottles I am quick to try to return them.
Broken Joystick
At least you can talk. Who are you?
I'm really surprised too. It's a bag. People comparing it to wearing a dress or something seems totally foreign to me.
edit: all the "if she doesn't want to carry it, she shouldn't have brought it" complaints. Like, I get it if this was an all the time thing, but do you people seriously tell your SO "Well, I'm not gonna carry it cos you brought it so it's your own problem"?
I have done it and would do it again, and the humorous angle sounds like a good planplus I've come to believe that breaking gender stereotypes, even in small ways, is a good thing. But
The idea of being tested like this is kind of horrible. We can pass those tests when they come up in real life.
partyphone
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it's just a bag who cares?
cubicle47b
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Yeah, no kidding. If sex becomes a reward you're in a shitty relationship.
we.are.the.armada
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Actually, the really manly thing to do is carry the purse as soon as you get to your destination. Never ask, just take it. At first she'll be like "what?" and then she might start thinking it's funny, but it doesn't matter. Also, never explain why you did it.
cubicle47b
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Yes. If I'm already up, sure, I'll get her a drink. If we're both sitting on the couch and she asks for something, I'll make a face and tell her to get it herself. Household chores get split evenly, though. That's different.
Gravy Boat
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That's weird to me. As long as she's not asking me to do it all the time I've no problem in doing something like that once in a while. It seems strange to need an excuse to do something nice for your partner.
Amentallica
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The fact that it's a purse has no bearing on whether I will hold it for my girlfriend, it's if she's bringing it along and asking me to hold it because she's too lazy to hold it herself. As the OP did, I would have and have handed it back. Now if she's truly tired and had a long day I wouldn't mind.
It reeks of laziness and disrespect. If you are both sitting comfortably on the couch and only one of you wants a glass of water or a drink, get up and get it. You have two legs and two feet, same as me.
If you had a friend over and you were both playing videogames or watching a movie, would you ask your friend to get up and get you a glass of water from your fridge?
Gravy Boat
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It's hardly disrespect, come on. I do it for her, and she does it for me when I ask. It is laziness though, but that shouldn't be a problem if you're in a relationship with someone and it works both ways.
Sometimes, if they're sitting closer to it or something. They're free to say no but none of my friends are dicks about things like that. They'd do the same to me.
You have the correct priorities.
Why are purses getting bigger as time goes?
Why do women need more in their purse?
But its just holding a purse.I'll do you he favor. I'll get mine later.
cubicle47b
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I do plenty of nice things for her like help her budget, do financial planning, advise on projects she's managing at work, etc. I don't need to fetch things for her.
I mean, if I'm up getting myself a glass of water I will always ask my girlfriend if I can get her something while I'm up. I'm not an inconsiderate dick like that.
If my wife asks me to carry it so she can do something else that the purse gets in the way of, I have no problem carrying it.
If she has it loaded with heavy things for the both of us and/or our kid, I happily carry it to give her a break.
Under most circumstances, if we're just walking around and she doesn't feel like carrying it, yes I would ask why she brought it if she doesn't feel like carrying it.
But in ten years with my wife that's never come up. *shrug*
If she has it loaded with heavy things for the both of us and/or our kid, I happily carry it to give her a break.
Under most circumstances, if we're just walking around and she doesn't feel like carrying it, yes I would ask why she brought it if she doesn't feel like carrying it.
But in ten years with my wife that's never come up. *shrug*
Tinfoilhatsron
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Wow. I am legit fucking suprised that some of you guys have friends or GFs or wives. Really? If your mom asked you to carry her purse are you going to go "nope equality bitch"? It's a couple fucking times and I know she'd do the same. I'm getting flashbacks to GG.
Pursegate: It's about purses in betaism.
Or
Pursegate: It's about equality in relationships
Pursegate: It's about purses in betaism.
Or
Pursegate: It's about equality in relationships
Spinosaurus
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And here I even carry my mom and sister's purses when they ask me. :x
styl3s
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Boyfriend doesn't use a purse but i have held my sisters purse, moms purse and a bunch of friends purses in public.
I don't really see the problem in holding it but i also don't give a shit what people i don't know think about what i wear or do. But what do i know? I walked around the mall with my niece after her graduation with a giant pink congrats hat with equally as big glasses.
I don't really see the problem in holding it but i also don't give a shit what people i don't know think about what i wear or do. But what do i know? I walked around the mall with my niece after her graduation with a giant pink congrats hat with equally as big glasses.
Subpar Spatula
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It's just a purse. Hold it. You're not going to die from shame.
tryagainlater
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I certainly wouldn't care about being seen holding a purse in public but her lazy ass could have carried it herself.
My answer right here.
This right here, this is manly as hell!
Also comparing holding a purse to wearing a dress is the fucking greatest, lmao. You folks are incredible.
You come across as a dick in your response ("I hope for your sake you never have a daughter").
A child's purse or bag is OBVIOUSLY a different scenario - this is not what the OP asked about. I'm talking about women's handbags/purses.
If we're talking about backpacks or something similar you might have a point.
ConsumerSquare
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My wife doesn't ask me to carry her purse. I don't ask my wife to walk behind me with her eyes down in public. It's a good arrangement that works for us.
styl3s
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Why is it suddenly different and ok to hold a childs purse but not your wife/GF's? It's just a bag, it's not going to somehow melt you or cause you to explode.
D'ultimate
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Obviously the OP cares. So do many other posters in this topic.
You can't have this attitude about everything in every situation. That would lead to abuse by others you're in a relationship with, be it intentionally or unintentionally.
It's her accessory, not his. He would hold it for a period of time for good reason but it's unfair to him to be asked to hold it for and extended period of time "just cause". If she didn't want to have it on her she could leave it in the car as he said.
Gravy Boat
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I meant in the sense that daughters will always want to dress you up, put make up on you etc. They don't care if it's in public or not, they just want daddy to look pretty and you made it clear that this just isn't something you would be comfortable doing.
"I would NEVER wear the damn thing around my shoulder or, god forbid, WALK with the thang.
I'm comfortable with my sexuality but not comfortable enough to be seen wearing a woman's accessory.
To me this would be the same as wearing a dress in public (and I ain't into that either obviously)."
If my daughter wanted me to go to the shops dresses as a princess then I wouldn't think twice as long as it made her happy. If my girlfriend wants me to hold her bag, then I'd happily do that too as long as she wasn't abusing my good nature and expecting me to do it all the time. I don't see any difference between holding a child's purse or bag, and your other half's.
Yup this. And besides, I'm sure my wife understands it on that whole "I'm a man" level. There are just certain things that feel wrong, walking with a purse is one of them.
Wow some of you are making it such a big deal. It's just a bag, if she's tired I'll hold it just like how she'll hold stuff for me if I am tired of holding it. It's just kindness, there's no need for your shit so you deal with it and my shit kind of selfish attitude in a relationship but I get how some won't bother with it. Remember that if you don't do it for her and actively go out of your way to avoid it then she won't do it for you if you need it either.
As for those who are wondering why would one get tired of holding a bag remember that girls keep a lot of stuff in their bag, it's their equivalent of backpack.
Also the masculinity argument is hilarious.
As for those who are wondering why would one get tired of holding a bag remember that girls keep a lot of stuff in their bag, it's their equivalent of backpack.
Also the masculinity argument is hilarious.
A child may need legitimate help when carrying stuff - that purse could be too heavy for the poor kid.
My SO doesn't need help. She would find me wearing a women's purse strange as well.
scotcheggz
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That's a nice bag/purse! I'd probably walk around with that regardless to be honest. I would only begrudge holding a purse if it was an ugly purse. Gotta have standards.
Gravy Boat
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Children are lazy as shit and will always get you to do things just because they can't be bothered. Even when they learn to walk they still want you to carry them, not because they need you to, but because they just like being carried.
cubicle47b
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It's not about the bag, it's about carrying around other people's crap. If it's your kid, it's your responsibility to make them carry it or do it for them. If it's your girlfriend, she can take care of herself.
For those who actually somehow feel emasculated holding a woman's purse for her (which I can only barely grok), think about this - that awkward way you're holding it will instantly convey to every passerby that actually cares enough to look at you that it is not your purse, and that you are holding it for someone else. They're not going to think it's yours.
Gravy Boat
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Do you hold the same attitude anytime your other half asks you for a favour?
Swing it over you head and shout "weeee i'm a helicopter". You'll never get that request again.
Luckily my wife is a minimalist so rarely carries one, although I get the "will you put this in your pocket for me". The only time I get that request was if she was going in a restroom or trying on clothes, and to be honest doesn't bother me.
Luckily my wife is a minimalist so rarely carries one, although I get the "will you put this in your pocket for me". The only time I get that request was if she was going in a restroom or trying on clothes, and to be honest doesn't bother me.
EraldoCoil
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I'd rock that shit all day for my lady if I had to.
I'll reluctantly hold it.
But what I've started to refuse to do is look in her purse for things she asks me to look for:
"Oh, it's in the big pocket"
<see two equally large pockets, rummaging back and forth, start to question my intelligence/sanity, how am I not finding this goddamn thing>
"Oh, nevermind, it's on the table"
"FFFFFU-"
Yeah, or stealing it.
But what I've started to refuse to do is look in her purse for things she asks me to look for:
"Oh, it's in the big pocket"
<see two equally large pockets, rummaging back and forth, start to question my intelligence/sanity, how am I not finding this goddamn thing>
"Oh, nevermind, it's on the table"
"FFFFFU-"
Yeah, or stealing it.
Gravy Boat
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This is the real problem. Handbags/purses are a dark void or organised mess and improperly sealed makeup things.
Spinosaurus
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Every time
cubicle47b
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It depends on the favor. I almost sent her a lmgtfy link about an hour ago after she asked what shiva was.
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