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[ZackieChan]

If you guys text with girls the way you post in this thread, no wonder you're not having luck. Get to the point. Don't tell ridiculously long stories. Mah gawd. It is exhausting for someone to get that many texts and details about anything.

 

[NateDrake]

You are friendzoned, Johnny Cage. The comment of "hanging out now and then" is friendzoned.

 

[Johnny Cage In The Shower]

You are friendzoned, Johnny Cage. The comment of "hanging out now and then" is friendzoned.

Yeah, no I don't doubt that I am, but .. jimcarreydumbanddumber.jpeg

If you guys text with girls the way you post in this thread, no wonder you're not having luck. Get to the point. Don't tell ridiculously long stories. Mah gawd. It is exhausting for someone to get that many texts and details about anything.

I admit, I am guilty of sending (wouldn't say "a wall" but a...) paragraph of text to ladies.

And I believe you,

This date was ruined by me allowing to open the flood gates to instant messaging and other social media, we said all we need to say to each other for 8 hours on Google chat per day for a full fuckin week, add to that an hour long phone conversations, texting and Snap chat.. there really wasn't left much to talk about when we got together in person...

Brutal...

next time I am going to be as reserved and out of reach as fuckin possible until I go sit down with her and have a drink!

 

[Jhoan]

That does sound like good advice, but with her jam packed schedule it would be difficult.

Remember my friend: even the busiest of people make time to socialize. If she's interested, she'll make time for you. It's that easy.

Unless it's the case where the girl in question is going to be out of town for the rest of the summer such as in my case, in which case, you say to tell her to let you know when returns and hope that her interest is still there when she gets back.

However, since you're not in my scenario, you really have no excuses. Enough with the buts and get it to it since you're not getting any younger. If it's one thing that I learned from my earlier twenties, is that I should have taken more risks and not have given a hoot.

 

[Gray Matter]

Remember my friend: even the busiest of people make time to socialize. If she's interested, she'll make time for you. It's that easy.

Unless it's the case where the girl in question is going to be out of town for the rest of the summer such as in my case, in which case, you say to tell her to let you know when returns and hope that her interest is still there when she gets back.

However, since you're not in my scenario, you really have no excuses. Enough with the buts and get it to it since you're not getting any younger. If it's one thing that I learned from my earlier twenties, is that I should have taken more risks and not have given a hoot.

You're right.

But I'm not using any excuses, I'm just wondering if her giving me her number was because she wanted to, or because she felt like she had to.

 

[cametall]

You're right.

But I'm not using any excuses, I'm just wondering if her giving me her number was because she wanted to, or because she felt like she had to.

I've only read a few of your posts, so feel free to ignore me but seriously, stop thinking about it and just ask her out.

The worst thing she can do is say no, I promise the world won't end.

And anyways, her actually giving you her number is a good sign.

 

[ZackieChan]

You're right.

But I'm not using any excuses, I'm just wondering if her giving me her number was because she wanted to, or because she felt like she had to.

What he said. If she isn't interested, move on. Who cares?

 

[stn]

@JohnnyCage

Don't blow your load so early. By that I mean don't text and chat nonstop before you've established any kind of relationship. The key is to always escalate things in every situation. Escalate flirting, escalate tension, and escalate time spent talking. Reserve chatting for in person. Use the phone only to agree on specific details. Avoid the temptation of talking all day.

 

[eyeball_kid]

Yeah, no I don't doubt that I am, but .. jimcarreydumbanddumber.jpeg

I'm glad that she at least had the decency to respond. She was probably distant because she didn't know how to back out of the weekend gently.

Even after you realized that about the weekend, you were probably still texting her too much. The fact that she still responded after everything and still wants to hang out is not a terrible sign. She wants to throw some ice water on the fire. But if you had real chemistry, as long as you just play it cool and breezy the next few times you "hang out" the natural chemistry might spark something again once she sees that you're not going to try to push things too fast.

 

[G-Bus]

Spoilering because it's a little nsfw (erectal dysfunction problems):

Spoiler

Had the Tinder girl over today and we started making out after a movie, eventually leading to the bed. Naturally, I couldn't get it up properly, no matter how both she and I tried. We settled with making out and cuddling, until eventually I got something going, but I lost it again after about two minutes of going at it.

Backstory: I'm a virgin, and without going into age too much, I'm pretty damn late. I've watched porn and masturbated pretty much every day for many many years, which obviously leads to this. I'm cutting all that out now, and I should have a long time ago.

I definitely find her attractive, so that's not the reason. I'm also really turned on, so that's not it either. I assume it's a combination of me being nervous and being too used to porn, which sucks. Luckily she was very understanding and I assured her that it's not her fault.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you deal with it?

Went through the exact same thing 3.5 years ago when i met my now fiance.

24 year old virgin. had only kissed a few girls before her. watched a lot of porn etc.

It was crazy frustrating. Think it took me 2 or 3 weeks before i could even get it up/hard enough around her to have sex. Even then I didn't last long at all. Took me another month or two to get decent in bed. We reminisce sometimes and its funny now.

Now that I think about it i don't think I cut porn out. Might have sped things up for me if i had.

Still amazes me she went through it all and stuck with me considering how much she likes sex. Well, I have an idea why...

Good luck OP. Glad shes understanding. Is she aware that your a virgin?

 

[n64coder]

Guess she didn't want to sound "mean" or "cruel" or anything...

So Longer story shorter, I am most likely friendzoned by this one...

I have to give you kudos for being direct in your last conversation with her. You can tell that she was trying to be evasive and let you down easily.

Just chalk this one as a learning experience and may the next encounter be a better one.

 

[Jindrax]

Date went well, got the next one on thursday

 

[GtwoK]

Har har, it's me, back again!

OKAY:

So, as I expected after having the constant tindering not going well, the problem WAS in fact, that I just wasn't connecting with the right matches. There's a girl I've matched with yesterday (who I originally wiped right on a month and a half ago, when starting up my account haha), and it was one of those situations where you could just tell there was an instant connection, and I'm really happy

As per GAF's advice, I moved things off Tinder and into texts real quick, which was good advice.

Basically, my question is this: how have you guys dealt with long distance stuff in the past? This girl's ~ 55km / an hours drive from me, each way. We've both got cars, and if this was further on in the relationship, I'd be fine with making the trip once a week or whatever. But being so we're just starting out, well... is that a bad sign? I mean, things are going very well for both of us, there's a strong mutual interest, and constant texting. I'm just trying to think of way of alleviating a the distance problem early on, in (what will more than likely become) a relationship. We haven't met yet, but I'll probably ask her to hang out / grab coffee this weekend.

This is also LESS of a problem if you can sometimes stay at the other's house / have them stay at yours for a night; in this situation, however, we're both living with our parents for the time being, so that wouldn't fly here. At least on my end.

Anyone got experience to share?

 

[Thorgal]

Anyone?

So i am interested in a girl who works at the local summer bar .

I wanted to ask her if she was interested in a drink this weekend when not on the clock but since there was a party going on today and it was crowded as hell , i did not want to bother her while swamped in work .
I also believe that our first meeting should not be a shouting match trying to understand each other .

I plan to ask her tomorrow when the place is calm but i do not know what her reaction will be .

But on the other hand , every time we passed each other she smiled at me , now this might have been a smile out of friendliness for the customers or not , but hey, i got a smile every time and not a dirty look ( not that most girls do that to me ) so that is something .

so I am gonna ask her tomorrow , what do i have to lose right , except feeling a bit shitty for a day Upon rejection ?

Should i go for it ?

i could ask her once her shift is over , but i don't know when that is .
should i ask her during her work when the place is almost empty ?

 

[GtwoK]

Anyone?

I may be wrong (as I've never asked someone out while they were working before), but I feel like the better method might be to not put them on the spot by asking them. I would maybe wait until it's dead / she isn't busy, go up to her and tell her you think she's good-looking or what have you, and that you are interested in taking her out for coffee or something. Then give her your number, on a napkin / receipt / whatever.

Again, maybe I'm wrong.

 

[Feltrol]

Anyone?

Go for it! Though I don't suggest asking her while she's working.

 

[Unai]

Anyone?

Well, if you don't ask, you won't know her reaction as either.

 

[Gray Matter]

I've only read a few of your posts, so feel free to ignore me but seriously, stop thinking about it and just ask her out.

The worst thing she can do is say no, I promise the world won't end.

And anyways, her actually giving you her number is a good sign.

Her not replying isn't a good sign, but yes, I'll ask her out next week because I'll be out of state this weekend.

 

[Shuggananas]

Har har, it's me, back again!

First:

OKAY:

So, as I expected after having the constant tindering not going well, the problem WAS in fact, that I just wasn't connecting with the right matches. There's a girl I've matched with yesterday (who I originally wiped right on a month and a half ago, when starting up my account haha), and it was one of those situations where you could just tell there was an instant connection, and I'm really happy

As per GAF's advice, I moved things off Tinder and into texts real quick, which was good advice.

Basically, my question is this: how have you guys dealt with long distance stuff in the past? This girl's ~ 55km / an hours drive from me, each way. We've both got cars, and if this was further on in the relationship, I'd be fine with making the trip once a week or whatever. But being so we're just starting out, well... is that a bad sign? I mean, things are going very well for both of us, there's a strong mutual interest, and constant texting. I'm just trying to think of way of alleviating a the distance problem early on, in (what will more than likely become) a relationship. We haven't met yet, but I'll probably ask her to hang out / grab coffee this weekend.

This is also LESS of a problem if you can sometimes stay at the other's house / have them stay at yours for a night; in this situation, however, we're both living with our parents for the time being, so that wouldn't fly here. At least on my end.

Anyone got experience to share?

55km ain't long distance at all man. If things work out then good for you, no need to stress for such a small distance
Both living at your parents' places is a bit annoying though I'll admit, but you can still see each other often enough

 

[cametall]

Her not replying isn't a good sign, but yes, I'll ask her out next week because I'll be out of state this weekend.

I went out with a girl who was horrible at responding to texts, and still is. She didn't even respond when I was trying to probe her on her availability.

But I said "screw it" and called her and she said yes to going out with me.

So, try not to think about the texts and just pick a time to call her.

 

[Daria]

I was going to post this in the mental health OT but figured to try her first. Brush it off if it doesn't belong.

Basically my SO has quite well-off parents who have supported her for the last 19 years and continue to do so. Although there's a problem that seems to always rear it's ugly head. Her mother continues to constantly put them down, talk to them as if they're children, calling them spoiled and ungrateful. Maybe i'm thinking wrong on this, but she is part of the problem with enabling everything that is given to her children.

I've been around since Feb/March and I can definitely see the ridiculous amounts of money that is either given to her, items are bought for her, or just anything like that. Is it the children fault for taking what is given to them? I mean, if you want to teach your kids about responsibility and all that, think about the actions and what you're showing them. You can't control their paychecks because they live under your roof (read as work 2 jobs, parents take one for the kids savings. all of it) yet continue to hand them a hundred dollars every weekend or bags of new clothes a couple times of month. If you're not letting them manage their own money, then you need to control your spending before they think it's an always reoccurring thing.

She tells my SO that she is spoiled and ungrateful which is absolute bullshit to me. like, how can a parent have such a bad attitude and say this and other hurtful things constantly to your children? she knows about her mental health, yet she will just tell her to cut it out, she's being overdramatic or some bullshit. maybe it's the intelligence level that comes with being a doctor that you just have a certain way with words where you lose a sense of your own emotions and instead just ruin everybody else.

I don't know what to do anymore really. I try to tell my SO to just ignore her, that she needs to move out with her ex step-sister as soon as she can because its nothing but trouble at her home. Now i'm sure she could do more at home to show appreciation but i'm only there for a couple days at a time and her mom ALWAYS mentions the fact that we don't get much time to spend together so why don't we go out and do something. yet if we do that, we'll come in late and then the next day she'd wonder what we were doing or why we came in so later (as in 1230a night time). It hurts me to see my SO be in such a mood, to feel like her own parents are putting her down, thinking she's worthless. I try to help to show her that none of it is true, she's very special and have a meaning for being here.

I don't really know what i'm asking from you gaf, i just needed to vent a little bit or something. maybe you have a relationship similar to this and you can help. if not, continue on with your regular discussions. i'll delete this if it's in the wrong OT.

 

[Rest]

So that girl finally sent me another message, saying that what she meant by "I'll think about it" was "I have a boyfriend." It would have been nice to know that in the first place...

 

[ZackieChan]

So that girl finally sent me another message, saying that what she meant by "I'll think about it" was "I have a boyfriend." It would have been nice to know that in the first place...

Good thing you didn't buy her any games.

 

[Gray Matter]

Well, she finally replied, exchanged a few messages before she stopped replying, I'm assuming she's working again.

When I get back from my weekend trip I'll get straight to the point, if nothing comes of it, I guess it'll be moving on time.

 

[NateDrake]

Odd request for Dating GAF but I need a game similar to the tension and scares of the PT demo. A girl I'm seeing loved that demo even though she had to sleep with the lights on for a few nights. I'm thinking Siren for PS3, but am open to suggestions.

 

[rubbishmonkey]

Hello Dating-Age!!! I have a date tomorrow. My first for like 3 years! I dont know her real name (we met online and i forgot to ask when we exchanged numbers). I'm figuring i just ask "hey is x your real name" is the only way to do it. What say you dating-gaf?

 

[rubbishmonkey]

Odd request for Dating GAF but I need a game similar to the tension and scares of the PT demo. A girl I'm seeing loved that demo even though she had to sleep with the lights on for a few nights. I'm thinking Siren for PS3, but am open to suggestions.

Outlast perhaps?

 

[NateDrake]

Outlast perhaps?

Oh yeah. Forgot that game existed.

 

[rubbishmonkey]

Oh yeah. Forgot that game existed.

Also... Alien: Isolation. Think Outlast is your best bet though

 

[NateDrake]

Also... Alien: Isolation

I think that would be too slow moving. PT was perfect since it was short, scary, and didn't have any dialogue or stuff to deal with. Basically need something that gets right into the terrors and not pussyfoot around.

 

[rubbishmonkey]

I think that would be too slow moving. PT was perfect since it was short, scary, and didn't have any dialogue or stuff to deal with. Basically need something that gets right into the terrors and not pussyfoot around.

Outlast it probably is then... with headphones in the dark...although amnesia is scary? i aint played it though so i dont know how it rates on that P.T. vibe

 

[gaiages]

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Honestly, you really can't do much. That's between your girl and her mother. You attempting to help is nice, but if you force it all too much you can easily be blamed as the wedge between their relationship, and assuming all you said id true about the mother she'd probably make a "it's him or me!!!" statement... and, well, it's hard to pick anyone over your mother. Especially a mother that gives you lots of money, even if she's a jerk about it.

Maybe when you guys have been together longer, or something. I certainly wouldn't attempt anything now.

Odd request for Dating GAF but I need a game similar to the tension and scares of the PT demo. A girl I'm seeing loved that demo even though she had to sleep with the lights on for a few nights. I'm thinking Siren for PS3, but am open to suggestions.

What kind of scares are you looking for? I always recommend Yumi Nikki myself, but that's a decidedly different type of horror that jump scares and whatnot.

Eternal Darkness is also good.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

I think that would be too slow moving. PT was perfect since it was short, scary, and didn't have any dialogue or stuff to deal with. Basically need something that gets right into the terrors and not pussyfoot around.

REMake? She'd be terrified after the first dog-through-the-window. I know I still am.

 

[NateDrake]

What kind of scares are you looking for? I always recommend Yumi Nikki myself, but that's a decidedly different type of horror that jump scares and whatnot.

Eternal Darkness is also good.

Anything close to PT type of scares. Can be creepy atmosphere with jump scares, or just jump scares. She loved PT because it had her on edge from the start.

REMake? She'd be terrified after the first dog-through-the-window. I know I still am.

This could work.

 

[FLAguy954]

@JohnnyCage

Don't blow your load so early. By that I mean don't text and chat nonstop before you've established any kind of relationship. The key is to always escalate things in every situation. Escalate flirting, escalate tension, and escalate time spent talking. Reserve chatting for in person. Use the phone only to agree on specific details. Avoid the temptation of talking all day.

This. I just got a girl's number this weekend and arranged to meet her at an ice cream festival this weekend. I told her I'l call her with the details this Saturday to keep the anticipation/tension high .

By the way, how would do you guys/girls make your casual dating intentions known? I'm not looking for anything too serious right now since I just came out of a long term relationship just a few months ago.

 

[shanafan]

Well, she finally replied, exchanged a few messages before she stopped replying, I'm assuming she's working again.

When I get back from my weekend trip I'll get straight to the point, if nothing comes of it, I guess it'll be moving on time.

I surely hope you will text her before the weekend, and not wait till you get back.

Honesty, better to ask now than wait the entire weekend. If it was me, I would text her that I am going away for the weekend, but when I get back, I think it would be fun if we grabbed lunch next week. Just go for it now. The longer you wait, the more it would seem like she just friended a texting buddy or something. You asking her for your number implies that you will eventually ask her out. The longer you prolong it, the more she will see that you lack confidence to go for it.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

@JohnnyCage

Don't blow your load so early. By that I mean don't text and chat nonstop before you've established any kind of relationship. The key is to always escalate things in every situation. Escalate flirting, escalate tension, and escalate time spent talking. Reserve chatting for in person. Use the phone only to agree on specific details. Avoid the temptation of talking all day.

I normally don't disagree with stn, who always provides spot-on advice, but I want to point out a nuance some might not have considered: if you're texting and chatting about witty banter alone, continue. I texted someone last Saturday and Sunday, before asking her to cancel plans and meet up with me Monday; we didn't discuss anything substantive. No hometowns, interests, places of employment, or other standard questions. It was intentional on both our parts, really. It was light and flirty. And when I met up with her Monday night, both of us weren't nervous at all.

In other words, I think the better rule is this: don't talk about anything you might use to fill a possible period of silence in person while you're texting. I know that's a tough line. I suppose you can distill it down to this: if you're enjoying yourself while texting, keep going; but if you start to hit anything serious, consider saving it for later.

 

[Smo21]

Ok so this girl I've been seeing for about a month and a half is being super weird. About a week ago she started being really distant and now is just straight up ignoring me at times(I can see she read my bbm message). I asked her about it the other day and she said I did nothing wrong and that she's just busy and has a lot going on (mom bugging her, dad recently passed away 2 months ago , New job.) Ive told I'm here for her how ever she needs me to be or if she needs anything.

I'm sure I'm gonna get a lot of hey move on suggestions but I can't wrap my head around this. Things felt like they were going so well then all of a sudden she starts acting weird.

I've heard of girls flaking out after a couple dates but we've going on several and spends lots of time together so I don't get it. Anyone have this happen. Is there any way I should go about this, maybe she's just having a bad week.

If it is over in really want to know what went wrong but I have no clue how to go about this. Probably selfish of to feel like she owes me an explanation but I'm just so frustrated right now.

I really care about this girl and up until this last week I felt like she felt the same.

Thanks in advance. Sorry if this is really long, needed to get this out.

 

[shanafan]

Ok so this girl I've been seeing for about a month and a half is being super weird. About a week ago she started being really distant and now is just straight up ignoring me at times(I can see she read my bbm message). I asked her about it the other day and she said she's just busy and has a lot going on (mom bugging her, dad recently passed away 2 months ago , New job.) Ive told I'm here for her how ever she needs me to be or if she needs anything.

I'm sure I'm gonna get a lot of hey move on suggestions but I can't wrap my head around this. Things felt like they were going so well then all of a sudden she starts acting weird.

I've heard of girls flaking out after a couple dates but we've going on several and spends lots of time together so I don't get it. Anyone have this happen. Is there any way I should go about this, maybe she's just having a bad week.

If it is over in really want to know what went wrong but I have no clue how to go about this. Probably selfish of to feel like she owes me an explanation but I'm just so frustrated right now.

I really care about this girl and up until this last week I felt like she felt the same.

Thanks in advance. Sorry if this is really long, needed to get this out.

Give her time.

Honesty, the fact that you listed this reason AFTER her Mom bugging her reason shows that you aren't quite tuned into her feelings. Calling her out for questioning your relationship would look selfish on your part.

How close were you with her when her dad did pass away? Did you attend the wake/funeral? Those are key moments in any relationship. Did you show her that you were there for her, or did you just mention it?

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Ok so this girl I've been seeing for about a month and a half is being super weird. About a week ago she started being really distant and now is just straight up ignoring me at times(I can see she read my bbm message). I asked her about it the other day and she said she's just busy and has a lot going on (mom bugging her, dad recently passed away 2 months ago , New job.) Ive told I'm here for her how ever she needs me to be or if she needs anything.

I'm sure I'm gonna get a lot of hey move on suggestions but I can't wrap my head around this. Things felt like they were going so well then all of a sudden she starts acting weird.

I've heard of girls flaking out after a couple dates but we've going on several and spends lots of time together so I don't get it. Anyone have this happen. Is there any way I should go about this, maybe she's just having a bad week.

If it is over in really want to know what went wrong but I have no clue how to go about this. Probably selfish of to feel like she owes me an explanation but I'm just so frustrated right now.

I really care about this girl and up until this last week I felt like she felt the same.

Thanks in advance. Sorry if this is really long, needed to get this out.

You asked her directly once and she gave you a response. You correctly offered support in her time of legitimate need. All you can do now is wait it out. Please note that you're conflating two arguably different things: how she's acting in person and how she's acting via text.

If you've had the exclusivity conversation - and you're legitimately "together" - then you're owed an explanation ... which she gave you. All you can do now is be supportive, as you're suggesting you have been.

 

[Smo21]

Give her time.

Honesty, the fact that you listed this reason AFTER her Mom bugging her reason shows that you aren't quite tuned into her feelings. Calling her out for questioning your relationship would look selfish on your part.

How close were you with her when her dad did pass away? Did you attend the wake/funeral? Those are key moments in any relationship. Did you show her that you were there for her, or did you just mention it?

I met her shortly after he passed and have been there for her since. The order is all messed up because posting on mobile sucks. Some other stuff happened that I won't go into but I was there for her for that. I guess I'm just frustrated and needed to vent a little. I'm here for her no matter what. I know I need to give her time, guess I'm just being insecure about it.

Please note that you're conflating two arguably different things: how she's acting in person and how she's acting via text.

Haven't been able to see her since she this started so it's all been text. Again because she's busy.



Just gonna give her time and check in every once and a while. I don't want to smother her or make her feel like she has to drop whatever to see me because I miss her. When she wants to see me she'll see me.

 

[RpgN]

I met her shortly after he passed and have been there for her since. The order is all messed up because posting on mobile sucks. Some other stuff happened that I won't go into but I was there for her for that. I guess I'm just frustrated and needed to vent a little. I'm here for her no matter what. I know I need to give her time, guess I'm just being insecure about it.

Haven't been able to see her since she this started so it's all been text. Again because she's busy.

Just gonna give her time and check in every once and a while. I don't want to smother her or make her feel like she has to drop whatever to see me because I miss her. When she wants to see me she'll see me.

Is she the same girl that offered to help you find a replacement (in bed) for 2 weeks because she couldn't? How did that work out? How did you respond?

 

[Dr Duncan Steel]

Met a girl at a bar through friends on the day that I buy the tickets for a 3 week trip with no chance of delaying it. We hit it off more than well and I get her number.

She text me to make plans to see each other before I leave but plans fall through but tells me to hit her up when I get back.

I mean yeah that's concrete evidence that she wants to meet up after I come back but let's be real, you think she knows I'll exist by the time I get return? I met her once and the next time I see her will be basically a month later.

 

[Gray Matter]

I surely hope you will text her before the weekend, and not wait till you get back.

Honesty, better to ask now than wait the entire weekend. If it was me, I would text her that I am going away for the weekend, but when I get back, I think it would be fun if we grabbed lunch next week. Just go for it now. The longer you wait, the more it would seem like she just friended a texting buddy or something. You asking her for your number implies that you will eventually ask her out. The longer you prolong it, the more she will see that you lack confidence to go for it.

You're right, I'll do exactly this.

 

[Smo21]

Is she the same girl that offered to help you find a replacement (in bed) for 2 weeks because she couldn't? How did that work out? How did you respond?

She was saying it's just sex don't worry. I was like don't worry I can wait. You're worth it. Topic kinda died down after that. Was talking last night and she seemed a little more talkative this time. This whole thing is probably just her needing some alone time and I'm overreacting. Thanks for the help everyone.

 

[PflargBlarg]

Odd request for Dating GAF but I need a game similar to the tension and scares of the PT demo. A girl I'm seeing loved that demo even though she had to sleep with the lights on for a few nights. I'm thinking Siren for PS3, but am open to suggestions.

I don't know what PT is, but you could try Amnesia or Penumbra.

Amnesia scared the crap out of me I'll tell you that.

 

[Deleted member 10571]

I don't know what PT is, but you could try Amnesia or Penumbra.

Amnesia scared the crap out of me I'll tell you that.

Yes. Amnesia, no question. Also, Outlast.

 

[n64coder]

Hello Dating-Age!!! I have a date tomorrow. My first for like 3 years! I dont know her real name (we met online and i forgot to ask when we exchanged numbers). I'm figuring i just ask "hey is x your real name" is the only way to do it. What say you dating-gaf?

I would just say something like "Gee, I can't believe I forgot to ask you what your name is. It completely slipped my mind when we were chatting, etc"

 

[RpgN]

She was saying it's just sex don't worry. I was like don't worry I can wait. You're worth it. Topic kinda died down after that. Was talking last night and she seemed a little more talkative this time. This whole thing is probably just her needing some alone time and I'm overreacting. Thanks for the help everyone.

That's good to hear. The things that she has been experiencing for a while could really be it. You can't do much besides giving her space and being there for her when you feel like she needs you.

 

[stn]

Just found out that my "one who got away" is getting married very soon. Bittersweet because it was I who screwed everything up even though she was/is a great match. Still happy for her!