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[ZackieChan]

Well now you're speaking the truth... To a woman these words.."lawyer" "entrepreneur" mean you're stable and financially well off and the word "digital" throws it off.. Doesn't say much about someone who is always traveling and on the move.

And.....Dude if you're coming up all to way to Seattle, might as well drive the extra two hours and come visit me (some of us GAFers) in Vancouver, I'll buy you a pint and we can hit on a few ladies here at the beach!!

Hah, and those words can't be further from the truth (not even close to stable or well off).

Hmm, I'm up there for PAX - I think my plane leaves the day after. I want to come up at some point, though. Maybe next year? I will hut you up, for sure.

 

[NipplesAndToes23]

A woman told me that she draws from mystical and magical energies. How do I reply to that?

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

A woman told me that she draws from mystical and magical energies. How do I reply to that?

Tell her that you also enjoyed Final Fantasy VIII.

 

[ZackieChan]

Tell her that you also enjoyed Final Fantasy VIII.

She's probably rocking some sweet materia

 

[gaiages]

Tell her that you also enjoyed Final Fantasy VIII.

I legit lol'd at that.

Serious answer:

Spoiler

Run for the hills

 

[Mordeccai]

I was gonna make a thread but I'll just post in here instead.

I just asked this girl at work out but I think I've made a mistake. Two weeks ago I dropped off some stuff to be sterilized and did a goofy dance to some Spanish music on the radio. I looked at the chick working back in central sterile and told her with serious eyes "I am the best dancer ever." She laughs and tells me her favorite thing to do is dance.

Fast forward and we've flirted a bit since but a few minutes ago i saw her and something just snapped. I pulled her aside into my office and told her I was gonna take her out dancing this weekend. She smiled and said that sounded like a lot of fun and gave me her number.

Here is the problem. I am new to this city (Houston) and I literally have no idea how to dance. I am lanky and uncoordinated as fuck.

What the hell do I do now. There is no way for me to learn to dance in three days.

Also I broke the rule about not dating where you work. I've never done it, but every friend ive seen go down this path has... Stories, to put it mildly.

 

[Unai]

Tell her that you also enjoyed Final Fantasy VIII.

I just want to say that I really laughed out loud here. Thank you.

 

[Ric Flair]

I was gonna make a thread but I'll just post in here instead.

I just asked this girl at work out but I think I've made a mistake. Two weeks ago I dropped off some stuff to be sterilized and did a goofy dance to some Spanish music on the radio. I looked at the chick working back in central sterile and told her with serious eyes "I am the best dancer ever." She laughs and tells me her favorite thing to do is dance.

Fast forward and we've flirted a bit since but a few minutes ago i saw her and something just snapped. I pulled her aside into my office and told her I was gonna take her out dancing this weekend. She smiled and said that sounded like a lot of fun and gave me her number.

Here is the problem. I am new to this city (Houston) and I literally have no idea how to dance. I am lanky and uncoordinated as fuck.

What the hell do I do now. There is no way for me to learn to dance in three days.

Also I broke the rule about not dating where you work. I've never done it, but every friend ive seen go down this path has... Stories, to put it mildly.

Have you ever gone dancing at a club before? Literally no-one knows how to dance. Half the fun in going dancing is being goofy around someone else and having a good time. I would take her out to dinner beforehand to give you something you can talk over. Just dancing will make it hard to build report with one-another

 

[Coda]

Have you ever gone dancing at a club before? Literally no-one knows how to dance. Half the fun in going dancing is being goofy around someone else and having a good time. I would take her out to dinner beforehand to give you something you can talk over. Just dancing will make it hard to build report with one-another

Agreed, just get a few drinks in you both and let the dancing and night be natural.

 

[ZackieChan]

Have you ever gone dancing at a club before? Literally no-one knows how to dance. Half the fun in going dancing is being goofy around someone else and having a good time. I would take her out to dinner beforehand to give you something you can talk over. Just dancing will make it hard to build report with one-another

I looked it up on YouTube before I went to a club in China. No one knew what they were doing, and it was like 90 percent dudes on the dance floor. Fun times, though.

OP should just watch that scene from Hitch.

 

[Zaraki_Kenpachi]

I was gonna make a thread but I'll just post in here instead.

I just asked this girl at work out but I think I've made a mistake. Two weeks ago I dropped off some stuff to be sterilized and did a goofy dance to some Spanish music on the radio. I looked at the chick working back in central sterile and told her with serious eyes "I am the best dancer ever." She laughs and tells me her favorite thing to do is dance.

Fast forward and we've flirted a bit since but a few minutes ago i saw her and something just snapped. I pulled her aside into my office and told her I was gonna take her out dancing this weekend. She smiled and said that sounded like a lot of fun and gave me her number.

Here is the problem. I am new to this city (Houston) and I literally have no idea how to dance. I am lanky and uncoordinated as fuck.

What the hell do I do now. There is no way for me to learn to dance in three days.

Also I broke the rule about not dating where you work. I've never done it, but every friend ive seen go down this path has... Stories, to put it mildly.

Ask her to teach you? Goof around and have fun with it? Depends on how you want to handle it but it's not like you screwed yourself if she likes. If she likes it that much she'll usually help you learn or you just double down and have fun with it. Buddy of mine did something similar and did silly things like stood straight, did like hard 30 degree pivots on the spot he was standing, held one arm out in front of him and used the other hand like he was speaking out water and told her he called that move "the sprinkler" (like a lawn sprinkler) and she loved it. I think a girl I dated recently said it best "You don't have to be great at something, you just have to enjoy it". So you don't have to be done championship dancer, I'm sure she picked up that you were joking so just have fun with it. I doubt her some criteria for dating is how will you dance and nothing else. Go with the flow.

 

[Deleted member 529084]

Ugh...as evil as she was my heart is torn up.
Can't sleep, eat, relax..fuck.

Break-ups suck ass.


This normal, 30 year old, quirky, cute, librarian who lives in the city and me started talking. Met her at a bar in Philly around 2 months ago during one of me and the Ex break-ups, talked for a week then I got back with Ex and we stopped talking. Decided to give her a ring cause I was lonely.

She's the opposite of the ex in every good way, and looks amazing also. 5'3" adorable with blonde hair, cute little wayfarers.

But I feel like I'm luke warm on her...and she's digging me. I'm charming my way into getting her into me really bad...then an hour later I'm ignoring her text cause I'm depressed thinking about the ex.

Can't get the ex out of my head.

 

[Dryk]

You need to get her on the same page pretty quickly from the sounds of it

 

[twinturbo2]

I'm still waiting on that meetup group to set up anything, so that's a no-go for the time being. I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels at this point and I'm considering going back to OKCupid. Now what? I'm still feeling burnt from last time.

 

[Lionheart1827]

Ugh...as evil as she was my heart is torn up.
Can't sleep, eat, relax..fuck.

Break-ups suck ass.


This normal, 30 year old, quirky, cute, librarian who lives in the city and me started talking. Met her at a bar in Philly around 2 months ago during one of me and the Ex break-ups, talked for a week then I got back with Ex and we stopped talking. Decided to give her a ring cause I was lonely.

She's the opposite of the ex in every good way, and looks amazing also. 5'3" adorable with blonde hair, cute little wayfarers.

But I feel like I'm luke warm on her...and she's digging me. I'm charming my way into getting her into me really bad...then an hour later I'm ignoring her text cause I'm depressed thinking about the ex.

Can't get the ex out of my head.

It may be way too soon for this. You're gonna end up comparing her to your ex in every way. You need to get in a more emotionally strong position first before dating again or you're gonna risk hurting this new girl and messing yourself up further. Unless your goal is to get a rebound/non serious dating thing, this may end badly. Tread lightly

 

[Septimius]

Ugh...as evil as she was my heart is torn up.
Can't sleep, eat, relax..fuck.

Break-ups suck ass.


This normal, 30 year old, quirky, cute, librarian who lives in the city and me started talking. Met her at a bar in Philly around 2 months ago during one of me and the Ex break-ups, talked for a week then I got back with Ex and we stopped talking. Decided to give her a ring cause I was lonely.

She's the opposite of the ex in every good way, and looks amazing also. 5'3" adorable with blonde hair, cute little wayfarers.

But I feel like I'm luke warm on her...and she's digging me. I'm charming my way into getting her into me really bad...then an hour later I'm ignoring her text cause I'm depressed thinking about the ex.

Can't get the ex out of my head.

You are not ready to date. It hasn't even been a week. Relax. If you have such a desperate need for contact, you need to find other ways of having that. Hang out with friends. If they can't, find activities to do, groups to do stuff with. Get hobbies. Do healthy stuff for yourself and your mind. Don't start dating to fill the void in your life. That never works.

 

[gaiages]

.

A little off topic, but maybe not?

I was looking through your post history. In June, you said your wife died a few months prior.

That same day, in the Online Dating thread, you've said you've "never been in love". Did you not love your wife? Legit question, people marry for various reasons and love isn't always one of them. But yet you fell super hard for this woman and put you in a relationship that was toxic on both sides?

Not trying to call you out or anything (which is why I won't post the posts themselves), I'm just trying to understand your mindset. Are you really ready for any sort of relationship right now? If my timeline is right, your wife died this year. Is it really so healthy to be going after women, when it's only been a few months since your wife died, and a few days after you broke up with your ex?

How's your son doing? I mean that seriously. He lost his mother and he's a teenager. From how your life works, with all these women that you were casual with before your ex and the amount of time you seemed to spend with her, how are you there for him? I lost my mother when I was a teenager, and I was a fucking wreck for a good year afterwards... and while I'll admit some of that emotional stress came from some other outlets, dealing with the death of a parent, especially when young, is a hell of a hard thing to handle. Are you spending proper time with him, or just leaving him to his own devices when he's lost one of his parents?

Honestly, you should take a break. Just, stop dating/boning people for a few months, take time to relax, and spend time with your son. Then get back into it when everything a bit less insane in your life.

 

[AcridMeat]

Sure enough as I was about to post about his son gaiages beats me to it again.

I said it before when you did the break up, go spend quality time with your son.

 

[Johnny Cage In The Shower]

Well as usual, not to brag or anything, my first dates always tend to be knock outs! mind you I need to start watchign my spending though, I am always picking up the tab and it was a little shy of $160 last night, we went to two bars. (one we ate and drank, other just cocktails

 

[Relix]

So quick question. I may be on the verge of my real major fight in 6 months with my SO.

Reason? Last night I was tired and went to bed at about 9:30pm. I promised her earlier that I'd take her to get an ice cream or something, but i felt too tired and cancelled. She understood. We talked, went to bed. About 30 minutes earlier a friend was visiting (he lives out of town, like... several thousand miles ) and called me up. He was leaving today, so after some convincing I dressed up and went out with him and some pals for an hour or two. We grabbed some beer and shitty food.

Apparently this caused an outrage because she hasn't spoken to me in all day, has seen the messages I sent her, etc, etc. I am frankly, quite pissed she's mad a this. Thankfully she didn't answer me in the morning or it would have been bad. I calmed down a little now. So, is she right or am I? I feel I did nothing wrong, its a friend who comes maybe once a year and was leaving so I made that one exception.

 

[LucidMomentum]

So yeah, first date, we did it and I slept at her place overnight, I mentioned again, I have certain body image issues and I like to stretch out the sex in dating as long as I can, (kinda weird) but yeah, I like to wait.. So now I am nervous I will lose this one as well..

She was mad interested, dude. Considering she replied in between your series of texts and then CHANGED her response right as it showed up says something.

Just don't stress and go for it.

So quick question. I may be on the verge of my real major fight in 6 months with my SO.

Reason? Last night I was tired and went to bed at about 9:30pm. I promised her earlier that I'd take her to get an ice cream or something, but i felt too tired and cancelled. She understood. We talked, went to bed. About 30 minutes earlier a friend was visiting (he lives out of town, like... several thousand miles ) and called me up. He was leaving today, so after some convincing I dressed up and went out with him and some pals for an hour or two. We grabbed some beer and shitty food.

Apparently this caused an outrage because she hasn't spoken to me in all day, has seen the messages I sent her, etc, etc. I am frankly, quite pissed she's mad a this. Thankfully she didn't answer me in the morning or it would have been bad. I calmed down a little now. So, is she right or am I? I feel I did nothing wrong, its a friend who comes maybe once a year and was leaving so I made that one exception.

Calling it a fight from the get go isn't a good sign. Call it a misunderstanding and go from there.

Also making every issue a one side has to be right thing is a great way to make a relationship last. /s

If it's a guy friend, and you did stuff with him before telling her you're too tired to do stuff with her before bed, but didn't tell her that you were tired because said friend was in town and was leaving today, I could see why she might feel upset that you blew her off without explaining why exactly. She may see it as you weren't tired enough to hang out with him, but was too tired to keep your promise to her.

You didn't tell her you'd make it up to her for cancelling last night? Maybe she was looking forward to spending time with you. Maybe she could've had something to do but instead chose to wait for you. Who knows without communicating about it?

 

[Kieli]

So quick question. I may be on the verge of my real major fight in 6 months with my SO.

Reason? Last night I was tired and went to bed at about 9:30pm. I promised her earlier that I'd take her to get an ice cream or something, but i felt too tired and cancelled. She understood. We talked, went to bed. About 30 minutes earlier a friend was visiting (he lives out of town, like... several thousand miles ) and called me up. He was leaving today, so after some convincing I dressed up and went out with him and some pals for an hour or two. We grabbed some beer and shitty food.

Apparently this caused an outrage because she hasn't spoken to me in all day, has seen the messages I sent her, etc, etc. I am frankly, quite pissed she's mad a this. Thankfully she didn't answer me in the morning or it would have been bad. I calmed down a little now. So, is she right or am I? I feel I did nothing wrong, its a friend who comes maybe once a year and was leaving so I made that one exception.

You need to convince her to talk, soon. You are both adults and possess the mental faculties, reason, and logic to work out a solution. She's not a kid anymore. Throwing a temper tantrum like that is unacceptable.

Petty fights like this are the bane of a relationship. The sooner you can iron out these sort of misunderstandings by talking it out, the healthier it will be.

I'm the type that always gives people a chance. But I tell them very explicitly that if there is ever a problem (with me or about me), that we need to talk about it and reach a compromise or negotiate. Don't do that petty, passive shit because I will instantly drop you and feel no remorse in doing so.

 

[Subtle]

Might post a story later on, but I just want to gauge the general consensus here. Are highschool relationships doomed to fail in college? Is it worth it?

 

[gaiages]

So quick question. I may be on the verge of my real major fight in 6 months with my SO.

Reason? Last night I was tired and went to bed at about 9:30pm. I promised her earlier that I'd take her to get an ice cream or something, but i felt too tired and cancelled. She understood. We talked, went to bed. About 30 minutes earlier a friend was visiting (he lives out of town, like... several thousand miles ) and called me up. He was leaving today, so after some convincing I dressed up and went out with him and some pals for an hour or two. We grabbed some beer and shitty food.

Apparently this caused an outrage because she hasn't spoken to me in all day, has seen the messages I sent her, etc, etc. I am frankly, quite pissed she's mad a this. Thankfully she didn't answer me in the morning or it would have been bad. I calmed down a little now. So, is she right or am I? I feel I did nothing wrong, its a friend who comes maybe once a year and was leaving so I made that one exception.

Does one of you really need to be 'right' in an argument? It's really not about winning or losing. Additionally, it's never good to get angry at a person because they're angry at you.

This is what your gf probably saw what happened:
"Sorry baby I don't wanna get ice cream, I'm really tired. Let's go to bed"
*half hour later the phone rings*
"Hey I'm going out with my friends to a bar! See ya later"
*leaves*

Did you bother to tell her that your friend was only in town for a few more hours? Did you bother to explain to her that while you're still tired, you only get to see him once a year or so? Did you bother to make new ice cream (or "whatever", in your own words) plans for her?

If the answer to all of those questions is yes, she *may* be unreasonable. But that still doesn't factor in things like: How often you two are together, do you cancel plans a lot in general, how much she was looking forward to it, if she had bad day, and so on.

Simple communication goes a long way in this scenario.

Might post a story later on, but I just want to gauge the general consensus here. Are highschool relationships doomed to fail in college? Is it worth it?

Most relationship advice doesn't really have a one size fits all solution. You might wanna elaborate with that story there. General consensus on things involving emotions rarely means much, unless it pertains to *some* basic online dating rules (like "don't say just 'hi'" kinda stuff).

 

[Kieli]

Does one of you really need to be 'right' in an argument? It's really not about winning or losing. Additionally, it's never good to get angry at a person because they're angry at you.

This is what your gf probably saw what happened:
"Sorry baby I don't wanna get ice cream, I'm really tired. Let's go to bed"
*half hour later the phone rings*
"Hey I'm going out with my friends to a bar! See ya later"
*leaves*

Did you bother to tell her that your friend was only in town for a few more hours? Did you bother to explain to her that while you're still tired, you only get to see him once a year or so? Did you bother to make new ice cream (or "whatever", in your own words) plans for her?

If the answer to all of those questions is yes, she *may* be unreasonable. But that still doesn't factor in things like: How often you two are together, do you cancel plans a lot in general, how much she was looking forward to it, if she had bad day, and so on.

Simple communication goes a long way in this scenario.

All of this. Important to establish early on a method of resolving "conflicts" so they don't reach the point where you are not on speaking terms with one another.

Obviously, fights are going to happen. But those will be the big, important ones while the small, petty ones are mostly rid of.

 

[Relix]

Does one of you really need to be 'right' in an argument? It's really not about winning or losing. Additionally, it's never good to get angry at a person because they're angry at you.

This is what your gf probably saw what happened:
"Sorry baby I don't wanna get ice cream, I'm really tired. Let's go to bed"
*half hour later the phone rings*
"Hey I'm going out with my friends to a bar! See ya later"
*leaves*

Did you bother to tell her that your friend was only in town for a few more hours? Did you bother to explain to her that while you're still tired, you only get to see him once a year or so? Did you bother to make new ice cream (or "whatever", in your own words) plans for her?

If the answer to all of those questions is yes, she *may* be unreasonable. But that still doesn't factor in things like: How often you two are together, do you cancel plans a lot in general, how much she was looking forward to it, if she had bad day, and so on.

Simple communication goes a long way in this scenario.



Most relationship advice doesn't really have a one size fits all solution. You might wanna elaborate with that story there. General consensus on things involving emotions rarely means much, unless it pertains to *some* basic online dating rules (like "don't say just 'hi'" kinda stuff).

She hasn't yet given me time to even talk to her so I haven't been able to explain anything to her which is what frustrates me. She's quite probably assuming I ditched her so I could go drinking when its absolutely incorrect. Getting this through her will be a mission on its own, she can be hard headed when she's pissed.

 

[shanafan]

Might post a story later on, but I just want to gauge the general consensus here. Are highschool relationships doomed to fail in college? Is it worth it?

Well, the majority of high school relationships do not last for a number of reasons. College, maturity levels, etc etc.

However, yes they are worth it. It's all experience really. Do not forgo a high school relationship just because you think it may end after hs ends. It may, or it may not. HS relationships are for fun anyways too, go for it!

 

[stn]

I am always picking up the tab and it was a little shy of $160 last night, we went to two bars. (one we ate and drank, other just cocktails)

For a first date? This is a really bad idea for so many reasons, dude.

 

[Kieli]

She hasn't yet given me time to even talk to her so I haven't been able to explain anything to her which is what frustrates me. She's quite probably assuming I ditched her so I could go drinking when its absolutely incorrect. Getting this through her will be a mission on its own, she can be hard headed when she's pissed.

That's not a good quality. She needs to know as such.

 

[gaiages]

She hasn't yet given me time to even talk to her so I haven't been able to explain anything to her which is what frustrates me. She's quite probably assuming I ditched her so I could go drinking when its absolutely incorrect. Getting this through her will be a mission on its own, she can be hard headed when she's pissed.

So... you didn't tell her before you went out that your friend was only in town for that last night, and he only comes by once a year?

As in, the situation I outlined is pretty much exactly what happened?

I'd be hella pissed at you too, and ignore your texts for a few hours (not days, because I tend to cool down fast), because it totally looks like you ditched her to go drinking with buddies, regardless of what it actually was.

Next time: "Hey my friend from out of town just called, he's only in town for one more night and he wants to go to a bar for an hour or so, I'm gonna go baby, I'm sorry but let's go out for dinner and ice cream on Friday to make up for it."

Bam. Crisis averted.

I hope you have learned a lesson from this. (Not trying to be snarky there, just legit)

I will admit it must suck with her being stubborn when mad, though.

 

[Relix]

Let me re-explain this .

9:30PM: Call her, tired, will sleep, raincheck for icecream? yes. We talk. We both go to sleep at about 9:50pm

10:30PM: Pal calls me. Insists. I go. I don't message her because I don't want to wake her up.
12AM: Get home. Sleep.
8AM: Try messaging/Calling. No go.
12PM: Call/Message. No go. All messages seen.

Yes she knew pal was in town but I hadn't been active in separating a time to go out with him. In fact, I didn't plan to

 

[NateDrake]

Let me re-explain this .

9:30PM: Call her, tired, will sleep, raincheck for icecream? yes. We talk. We both go to sleep at about 9:50pm

10:30PM: Pal calls me. Insists. I go. I don't message her because I don't want to wake her up.
12AM: Get home. Sleep.
8AM: Try messaging/Calling. No go.
12PM: Call/Message. No go. All messages seen.

Yes she knew pal was in town but I hadn't been active in separating a time to go out with him. In fact, I didn't plan to

How does she know you went out?

 

[Relix]

How does she know you went out?

I was gonna tell her morning but alas...

Facebook tagged pictures. The worst possible way.

 

[NateDrake]

I was gonna tell her morning but alas...

Facebook tagged pictures. The worst possible way.

Ah, gotcha. Yea, that is a shit situation. I get why she is mad, but all it would take is a 10min conversation to clear the air, gives her the chance to vent, you to explain, and then you two move on.

 

[gaiages]

Let me re-explain this .

9:30PM: Call her, tired, will sleep, raincheck for icecream? yes. We talk. We both go to sleep at about 9:50pm

10:30PM: Pal calls me. Insists. I go. I don't message her because I don't want to wake her up.
12AM: Get home. Sleep.
8AM: Try messaging/Calling. No go.
12PM: Call/Message. No go. All messages seen.

Yes she knew pal was in town but I hadn't been active in separating a time to go out with him. In fact, I didn't plan to

Okay, wait, how did she know you guys even went out then? I'm assuming you two don't live together. If she found out from some social media thing, that's probably far, far worse than you sending her a text at 10.30 explaining the situation and risk waking her up. And just because she knew he was in town doesn't mean she automatically knew you went with him, or that he insisted and you went only because he did (as opposed to accidentally double scheduling and ditching her).

EDIT: Oh whoops, took to long to respond.

Yeeeeah, that's a terrible way for her to find out. You have to understand why she's mad at this point, right?

 

[Relix]

Yeeeeah, that's a terrible way for her to find out. You have to understand why she's mad at this point, right?

Oh absolutely, but what really pisses me off is her attitude before allowing me to even explain or talk to her. Argh.

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

You getting angry as well doesn't help the situation at all. Give her some time to vent, and then explain things calmly.

 

[ZackieChan]

Oh absolutely, but what really pisses me off is her attitude before allowing me to even explain or talk to her. Argh.

I'd be pissed at you too, man.

For God's sake, make it so you have to approve tags in pics on FB.

 

[NeOak]

I was gonna make a thread but I'll just post in here instead.

I just asked this girl at work out but I think I've made a mistake. Two weeks ago I dropped off some stuff to be sterilized and did a goofy dance to some Spanish music on the radio. I looked at the chick working back in central sterile and told her with serious eyes "I am the best dancer ever." She laughs and tells me her favorite thing to do is dance.

Fast forward and we've flirted a bit since but a few minutes ago i saw her and something just snapped. I pulled her aside into my office and told her I was gonna take her out dancing this weekend. She smiled and said that sounded like a lot of fun and gave me her number.

Here is the problem. I am new to this city (Houston) and I literally have no idea how to dance. I am lanky and uncoordinated as fuck.

What the hell do I do now. There is no way for me to learn to dance in three days.

Also I broke the rule about not dating where you work. I've never done it, but every friend ive seen go down this path has... Stories, to put it mildly.

Nah man, don't worry about it. Most people here in Houston can't dance lol

Ask her to teach you like others said.

Also, I need to do another HoustonGAF meet up with more alcohol this time.

 

[Prologue]

Im 24, happy with my life and have a great girlfriend who I care for dearly. But my ex, who I dated almost 10 years ago, contacted me again for the 4th time today over the past 1-2 years. I never responded before because she treated me very badly. Should I just keep ignoring her? Or just give a clear response saying i'm not interested out of respect and to end the reaching out?

The whole situation is just weird and her timing is always incredibly odd. First time she messaged me, I just finished dental admission exam. The second time, was when I was dropping off my current gf for her cruise. And now I have my white coat ceremony tomorrow. Theres no way she would know any of these details.

 

[Johnny Cage In The Shower]

Oh absolutely, but what really pisses me off is her attitude before allowing me to even explain or talk to her. Argh.

Yeah dude, you see the core of your issues here right? You're being a little too careless and allowing something as trivial as social media get in way of your relationship in a very bad way, you should see this and prevent it from happening again in the future.

You should have more control over your (private) life and not let something as stupid as a tag on facebook lead to day long of headache, frustration and jeopardize your relationship with your gf.

Never be afraid of communicating too much with the person you care about, who cares if it is late, she's asleep, she's away, this or that.. if you care about her, you should priorities her in your life and keep your activities in sync with her, as in; even if she doesn't need to know and it annoys her to be bothered, still message her, and sometimes if its important, call her and do it before and not after the fact...

"Hey I am going to the store to pick up milk, need anything? no, ok ttyl."

"Hey I'm gonna go meet Bob at the pub for an hour, need anything done around here before I go or need anything on my way back?"

And for the love of God like Zackie said, turn off tagging and set your privacy settings high on Facebook, you got nothing to lose but a lot to gain by this, it's your fucking day to day, no one should know what you're up to tonight besides the people you want to know.

Having said all this, also try to be with a partner that is a bit more mature, confident and doesn't give you a cold shoulder for days on end, every time she has a slight suspicion that you may have betrayed her trust.

Yeeeeah, that's a terrible way for her to find out. You have to understand why she's mad at this point, right?

You getting angry as well doesn't help the situation at all. Give her some time to vent, and then explain things calmly.

I'd be pissed at you too, man.

For God's sake, make it so you have to approve tags in pics on FB.

 

[NateDrake]

Im 24, happy with my life and have a great girlfriend who I care for dearly. But my ex, who I dated almost 10 years ago, contacted me again for the 4th time today over the past 1-2 years. I never responded before because she treated me very badly. Should I just keep ignoring her? Or just give a clear response saying i'm not interested out of respect and to end the reaching out?

The whole situation is just weird and her timing is always incredibly odd. First time she messaged me, I just finished dental admission exam. The second time, was when I was dropping off my current gf for her cruise. And now I have my white coat ceremony tomorrow. Theres no way she would know any of these details.

Ignore her or block the number. You only get a text from her maybe twice a year, so it shouldn't be that challenging to ignore.

 

[ZackieChan]

Im 24, happy with my life and have a great girlfriend who I care for dearly. But my ex, who I dated almost 10 years ago, contacted me again for the 4th time today over the past 1-2 years. I never responded before because she treated me very badly. Should I just keep ignoring her? Or just give a clear response saying i'm not interested out of respect and to end the reaching out?

The whole situation is just weird and her timing is always incredibly odd. First time she messaged me, I just finished dental admission exam. The second time, was when I was dropping off my current gf for her cruise. And now I have my white coat ceremony tomorrow. Theres no way she would know any of these details.

Just a series of coincidences. Don't read too much into the timing.

Block her and don't look back. Good luck with the white cost ceremony and dental school! Went to my cousin's a couple years ago at Pitt.

 

[Thorgal]

It is done.

I gave this girl my number while askingher out for drinks.

Now all that's left is to pray to "insert deity of love of your preference here "that she says yes.

 

[Max]

It is done.

I gave this girl my number while askingher out for drinks.

Now all that's left is to pray to "insert deity of love of your preference here "that she says yes.

Why didn't you take her number? I hope you don't set huge expectations and wait too long for a text.

 

[Thorgal]

Why didn't you take her number? I hope you don't set huge expectations and wait too long for a text.

planned for that .
in case she doesn't text by tomorrow evening ill ask her directly out for drinks and ask for her number

 

[ZackieChan]

planned for that .
in case she doesn't text by tomorrow evening ill ask her directly out for drinks and ask for her number

Uh, if she wanted to go out, she would text you.

 

[NateDrake]

Uh, if she wanted to go out, she would text you.

lol I was just about to say this.

 

[gaiages]

Uh, if she wanted to go out, she would text you.

Yeah, doing it directly after already asking in another method is awkward, a little creepy, and mucho desperate looking.

 

[ZackieChan]

Yeah, doing it directly after already asking in another method is awkward, a little creepy, and mucho desperate looking.

Just move on and be pleasantly surprised if she calls. That's basically all you do at this point.