Omega Kirby
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I know its different for all people, but on average its on date 2 where the first kiss is supposed to happen?
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Mobile Suit Gooch
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Looks like being direct worked even though I still didn't get a date, but still.
Let me be blunt.
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I mean, if you're willing to completely ignore all these numerous glaring red flags just because she's cute or she gives you attention or whatever, then by all means go ahead. But at the end of the day, it is your time/money/mental health.
If I were to suggest an alternative, there may be other girls out there that do not come with a huge set of problems. Just my opinion. Good luck!
Bail out
You are her emotional crutch
You would be wrong. If she can get easy attention from you without having to commit, why wouldn't she?
This is supposed to be one of the most important people in her life and this is how she feels about him. She probably doesn't prioritize good communication in a relationship.
She also told the others that
So she knows exactly how much being cheated on hurts.
She's waiting for you to be her security/safety blanket. What a reason to be with a guy.
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I mean, if you're willing to completely ignore all these numerous glaring red flags just because she's cute or she gives you attention or whatever, then by all means go ahead. But at the end of the day, it is your time/money/mental health.
If I were to suggest an alternative, there may be other girls out there that do not come with a huge set of problems. Just my opinion. Good luck!
njean777
Member
You are not the only one who has told me this. I am coming to that conclusion tbh. It just sucks to realize it.
It can be date 1 or date 5 or whatever, the average doesn't matter. Do it when there's a right moment for it, or if it feels right to you. Don't force it at the end of the date just because, but also don't stall it too long because you're afraid of being turned down. Be confident when you do go for it.
You're being more direct, good! And don't worry about the outcome, practice makes perfect.
It's easy to be too invested into a relationship to look it objectively, which also makes it easy to get manipulated. I suggest taking a step back and just trying to analyze the situation from another perspective. What if a good friend would confide all that to you, what would your response be?
Also, don't put too weight in what she SAYS to her. Let her actions speak for themselves. Honestly (ignoring all the specifics of this situation), if I was going out with a girl I was interested in for 3 months, and that we had already been talking for 6 months, and she still wasn't ready to ponder commitment/exclusivity with me, I would have my answer that she isn't actually interested in a relationship.
It depends on the comfort level and how well you two seem to be hitting it off. I've been pretty lucky in that I've managed to get a kiss out of the first date, even when it's something casual like meeting for coffee. Of course, in most cases, we chat for a good while and feel really good around each other so it makes it easier.
Wait, how did it work then?
njean777
Member
Thanks for the advice I will def be pondering this.
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
What do you mean?
You said being direct worked, but you didn't get the date.
So how'd it work?
Mobile Suit Gooch
Grundle: The Awakening
Oh.
Well, I wasn't beating around the bush. It worked because it was out of my system. I could talk to others now. flirting is amazing btw.
Your Entertainer
Member
You're right. This case is special. It's the exception! Keep the hope.
Seriously man, this is a clueless thing to say. No matter how unique or "special" you think your situation is, it's not.
A little tough love here. This girl is outright a toxic person, and will only harm you by continuing to associate with her. The fact that this is obvious from what you've told us is telling. You come off as naive, and frankly incredibly desperate. You may not realize it, but you do. Borderline cringeworthy. I'm saying this to help you. She's fucking cheated on the dude three times and is telling you about it. What does that tell you about what kind of person she is? Do you really want to be involved with someone like that? She'll do it to you too. You have the luxury of being young. There are millions of other girls out there aren't just fucked-up in messes like this one is. Would you like it if your girlfriend did this with someone else? (Any answer other than "I wouldn't" is not true, and you know it). I honestly was wondering if you were trolling or being serious with your post. That's how outlandishly obvious it is that she is nothing but trouble.
Here's the best advice you're going to get. Leave this girl now. Do not continue to associate with her. You'll be much, much better off for it. Don't bother trying to "argue" with me; there's no argument to be had here, and I'm not going to comment further on this situation.
You can believe whatever you want about cheaters, I suppose. I really don't feel like arguing with you on that point, and others already have mostly what I've wanted to say on that. And I don't see how that second point helps your case.
But, as to the first part (ie, the part that wasn't a direct response to my post), if she wanted to be be with you, wouldn't she... I dunno, maybe break up with this boyfriend she hates so much?
I mean this without being rude--did he ask you for advice on this situation? If not, it's not really the best for you to butt into situations like this, it's something the two of them need to work out.
As for the situation itself, if she cannot understand that that amount of money is possible at this point, and they cannot get on the same page, then yeah, it's probably over. But that's something he's gonna have to work through and ultimately decide for himself.
I fell for a chick that was still dating someone out of state, it sucked. I don't know if i could ever trust her if we were in a relationship but it was one of the best F*** buddies I've ever had. On the other hand this sounds like a nightmare, and i think you deserve someone better that will fullfill you and not take away from what you have to offer. Don't let her play you man.
njean777
Member
Good to know, she is gone for a week on vacation so it will help me to not have the allure of her around and be able to think clearly. This is a shit show and I have repeatedly said it to myself.
Tbh I said to myself I would never get involved with somebody that has a BF, and now look at me
. It's not cool and it makes me feel like shit tbh.ZackieChan
Member
My theory about ridiculously long posts holds up. As someone else pointed out, the woman is toxic. She will do the same shit to you that she's done to other guys. Bail out asap.
That is a little dickish. Sorry to hear it. If she doesn't want to act like you are dating, maybe you should be looking for other people to date.
Breh, you can't even run Coffee Meets Bagel on your phone. You are an old man.
All of the stuff they said is right. Take a step back!
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Note: I am currently drunk.
Ok, so the girl who called me bae yesterday just bailed on me today. She said she's sick, and has no voice, and couldn't go to a haunted house nor hang out.
Fuck, never mind she's cool af and she's probably telling the truth. lol
false alarm I'm going to bed guys.
Ok, so the girl who called me bae yesterday just bailed on me today. She said she's sick, and has no voice, and couldn't go to a haunted house nor hang out.
Fuck, never mind she's cool af and she's probably telling the truth. lol
false alarm I'm going to bed guys.
I'm not a big dater (haven't been on a date since May 2014), and that's not by choice. But I met this girl last week with friends I rarely hang out with, and she's wow. Like being around makes me a lot happier than I'm usually and she's infinitely interesting and makes me want to know more about her. I went peoplewatching with her and friends tonight and it was amazing. She has no idea I'm interested in her that way (because we literally met less than a week ago), but I just know I need to keep hanging with her because I feel so much more euphoria just talking to her.
I feel happy
I feel happy
Went to a mass camping event thing on Friday and saw this cute girl sitting a few rows behind my friends and I. Was looking around a little while later and saw her looking at me. Rinse, repeat for a few hours.
Never figured out whether she was actually looking at me or she'd just noticed me the first time and was glancing at me because of that. I suppose I never will now XD
This weekend has been somewhat uncharacteristic in these regards. Guess this being the first big party weekend without my ex is showing through a bit.
Never figured out whether she was actually looking at me or she'd just noticed me the first time and was glancing at me because of that. I suppose I never will now XD
I met a pretty cool girl at a Halloween party last night. She was great and really friendly but I honestly I probably wouldn't be able to get over her interest in Chinese medicine and the fact that she gave up health science to pursue a career in acupuncture. Boy would I pursue an ultimately ill-fated fling with that girl if given the chance thoughI'm not a big dater (haven't been on a date since May 2014), and that's not by choice. But I met this girl last week with friends I rarely hang out with, and she's wow. Like being around makes me a lot happier than I'm usually and she's infinitely interesting and makes me want to know more about her. I went peoplewatching with her and friends tonight and it was amazing. She has no idea I'm interested in her that way (because we literally met less than a week ago), but I just know I need to keep hanging with her because I feel so much more euphoria just talking to her.
I feel happy
This weekend has been somewhat uncharacteristic in these regards. Guess this being the first big party weekend without my ex is showing through a bit.
ZackieChan
Member
I'm not a big dater (haven't been on a date since May 2014), and that's not by choice. But I met this girl last week with friends I rarely hang out with, and she's wow. Like being around makes me a lot happier than I'm usually and she's infinitely interesting and makes me want to know more about her. I went peoplewatching with her and friends tonight and it was amazing. She has no idea I'm interested in her that way (because we literally met less than a week ago), but I just know I need to keep hanging with her because I feel so much more euphoria just talking to her.
I feel happy
You must be new here.
You, my friend, are on a collision course with the friend zone, faster than the Armageddon meteor.
I think I'm gonna just stop drinking. I swear being drunk doesn't lower my inhibition for shit. It just makes me dance and work out. I still can't talk to people. I had a rough night last night. Went out with some friends but there were huge lines to get in anywhere. By the time we got in almost all my friends had gone home. I was just a fifth wheel in the small group I was in. I felt ignored. It really sucked. It was really crowded and I tried finding people to somehow talk to. In the end there may have been one girl that was just sitting down while her friends danced. I thought about asking her to dance but I didn't do it. Then I got a call from a friend telling me they were leaving so I said fuck it and left. I can't figure this shit out.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Drinking wont make you a better talker if you dont know how to talk. It will only make you more willing to talk if you are normally nervous to engage.
Generally you should drink just to have a good time. Not to make you talk to women.
Except it's not so fun anymore. Lately I haven't been able to have a good time but it might be because I'm frustrated with myself for not talking to people. I can talk to people just fine, I just can't initiate a conversation.
I meet this girl last night at a Halloween party and she really pissed me off. She finds me and starts dancing with me (I didn't initiate any of the contact at all), then wants me to friend her on Facebook using her phone. She tells me she's going to get some drinks then talks to this guy most of the night (who isn't her boyfriend), buys him a drink, and she then tells me 'she has a boyfriend' before I leave. She actually says "I would love to see you again sometime."
I wake up this morning and I find that she has de-friended me and I send her a message telling her what I think. I'm actually glad I'm not her boyfriend because that was some shitty behavior. I only went out last night to do Halloween karaoke.
I wake up this morning and I find that she has de-friended me and I send her a message telling her what I think. I'm actually glad I'm not her boyfriend because that was some shitty behavior. I only went out last night to do Halloween karaoke.
IISANDERII
Member
Phone call the next day after first sex encounter still a thing?
Today feels like the first big test in our 2/3 week relationship so far. My depression has surfaced for the first time which makes me push people away and I'm getting a bit paranoid (thought that's mostly because of said depression and my already super low self confidence). She's really "close" to a female friend of hers and she told me about how she slept with a friend who has feelings for her a few months ago. I shouldn't care about what she did before we started going out and part of me has pride that I'm the one lucky enough to be with her but my mind won't stop thinking about how I might be getting in the way or if I was a better person I would care less about her wanting to explore. I dunno, I don't think I'm in the right state of mind right now
ShemhazaiX
Member
Whelp. Getting coffee with a girl from tinder next Saturday. That took less time than expected.
I've missed the whole flirting game. Was in a six year relationship until last January and it's been difficult to get back into the dating scene as I don't really do many social things anymore. Getting back into the swing of things though, hopefully the coffee goes well.
I've missed the whole flirting game. Was in a six year relationship until last January and it's been difficult to get back into the dating scene as I don't really do many social things anymore. Getting back into the swing of things though, hopefully the coffee goes well.
Roberto Larcos
Member
I say text, but I'm Generation M, so it may vary.
Going to the North Florida Fair with my girl next Tuesday which I'm really excited for :] Things have been going pretty swell between us in spite of her having so much on her plate.
Oh, and her little sister's surgery was a success! Last I heard, she was still in the hospital so the doctors could make sure everything was ok (I don't really ask for updates too often for obvious reason) but she seems to be doing well. Good mood all around this weekend.
Oh, and her little sister's surgery was a success! Last I heard, she was still in the hospital so the doctors could make sure everything was ok (I don't really ask for updates too often for obvious reason) but she seems to be doing well. Good mood all around this weekend.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Quick question, but the girl I am currently dating won't take off her bra. We've had sex but she is not comfortable with showing her boobs ("I won't like them" apparently). Obviously I didn't make a big deal about it, but I was curious if anyone had any suggestions? It sounds like - speculating here - her mum gave her some self-esteem issues.
SmackDaddy
Member
Maybe she has turbo weird boobs man, I'd be scared!
But really, don't press the issue if you like this girl. She'll come around if you make her feel comfortable enough.
And if you aren't super sold on this girl, it sounds like she has self esteem issues which is fucking tiring in a relationship if you aren't completely enamored. Choose wisely!
Gray Matter
Member
Maybe she has stretch marks?
My friend once told me his ex-GF was self conscious about that.
What?? D: What do you mean?
You're interested in her as more as friends. You say yourself she has no idea you're interested in her in that way. If you keep "hanging out" with her without making your intentions clear, she will keep thinking you are her friend and will treat you accordingly. If you then, later on, break it to her that you have feelings, or simply that you see her as more than a friend, she will be confused. Because you were only her friend, remember? This is what people call the "friend zone". It's always self-inflicted.
Lesson: make your intentions clear and don't beat around the bush. Ask her out.
As you said, why should you worry about what she did before she was with you? Expecting for you to be their first is an increasingly unlikely prospect as you grow older. Someone's gonna have exes, someone's gonna have sex. It's just a matter of life you'll have to understand.
Besides, she chose you now, didn't she?
That seems sorta weird, but like someone said, if you like her don't push it, she'll probably come around eventually.
But isn't it kinda creepy just to ask someone out when you really barely know them? Like I know her from meeting with mutual friends and I've only talked to her like three times and I met her a week ago. I don't know, I just feel kinda weird if I asked her out now even though I want to.
(Age context: sophomore in college)
BladeoftheImmortal
Member
I was with a woman for a time just like that. She'd never let me see her boobs. Turns out she had surgery and had a big scar on one breast. Obviously I didn't care, but she still wouldn't let me see them that often. Might be something like that.
BladeoftheImmortal
Member
Well, that depends on how you tell them. Don't tell her you make me happier just by being there. That's creepy. They'll go away.
Something like
"Hey, I've had a great time with you when we all hang out together, I'd like to meet you for coffee without the others. What do you say?"
How do you think online dating works, as a relatively similar example? Do you find things like OKC and Tinder creepy as well?
Well, yeah, I wasn't going to say that, I'm not that inexperienced haha. Alright, next time I see her, I'll ask her if she wants to go out for coffee/smoothies at the library.
Eh, not really. But I haven't tried either because I already have low self-esteem, so dating websites don't seem like my thing. I just think it's weird considering where I met her to just ask her out immediately when I met her.
Once knew a woman like this, still do actually, and the cause of her acting like this was because she was embarrassed of having inverted nipples. Only way she came around was to just give a little space but be assured that how her boobs looked didn't really matter and that whatever issue was making her self conscious was only important to her.
small update from just a couple days ago.
I ended up getting ahold of an old high school buddy Friday night in the hopes to go out but he had a family thing going on. We planned for Saturday (Halloween) which gave me hope to make the best out of everything. Around 930 we end up going to this bar where my coworker was doing a DJ mix at until 1am but the place was dead. We ended up going to the store to get a beer because it was cheaper than the bar and ended up just going back for 10 minutes before deciding on doing something else.
he calls his cousin 45 minutes away at the uni and it's around 1130 when we ended up heading out. we show up to the bar/club and meet his cousin, cousins girlfriend and the 2 other roommates. there was one who was dressed as Britney Spears (hit me baby one more time) who was really cute. but my plan for the night wasn't to get laid, it was just to go out and enjoy a night with a friend that i don't get to see too often. fast forward like a hour or so in and we've all been dancing, I've been talking to all the roommates, trying to keep the good vibe going that I had. at one point we're all on the dance floor displaying our talents for everyone. I can't tell what's going on with Britney or anyone for that matter, i'm just hitting my sleep dance and having a good time.
soon after me, my friend and his cousin are outside smoking when his cousin starts to inform that his friend (Britney) has a thing for me. I'm a little drunk so I'm not really listening but I understood what he was saying after a while. we head back inside.
we're all again sitting at the table and talking. my drunk self asks the one other to dance because we were talking about something related to it and she points to Britney. she's been standing next to me for the most part, not paying much attention but we've been talking a little bit. i turn to her though at this point and ask her "would you want to dance" and her surprised reaction of "right now" with big eyes was worrying at first but she said yes. we go out on the dance floor for a couple songs but the DJ was pretty shitty so it ended abruptly but we laughed about it. she tells me about how she does ballet, she does a spin, I'm enjoying this. as we're dancing she asks what me and my friend were doing after the club and if if we're staying in town. her roommate (my friends cousins girlfriend) already offered to me that we can stay at their apartment for the night. so i tell Britney that actually we're coming back to the apartment with them and she smiles and says ok.
it's almost about 2am now i believe, we head out for a taxi. this is only about 20 minutes after the dancing has stopped fwiw. the cousin tried to have the girls go back all together in the first taxi (4 of them) but i don't listen. Britney gets in the taxi first and i get in next to her. i put my arm on the back behind her but i felt i was being intrusive so i put it down.
the roommates and me get back to the apartment and it's calming. one starts playing music through a bluetooth speaker and packs a bowl. right now i am absolutely loving life. it's the 2 girls, Britney and me at a round table. me and Britney sit across from each other the entire time everyone is awake at the table which happens to be until around 5am when everybody started going to bed.
about a hour or so before that though we move to the living room. she sits in the single chair for one person, i take a seat from the table and just sit it down facing everyone, not just her. we're all talking, people get up and leave to the bathroom, to smoke, whatever. me and her talk about traveling, how she went to the community college I attend right now, the idea of skyscrapers swaying in the wind. after this me and her got a little deeper in conversation so I turn my chair so I'm facing her. she has her legs on up the chair in front of her, i put my foot on the cushion and our feet touch. when she doesn't pull away or look at me i figure she may actually like my company. I'm telling her about the Swizz built Prada store in Japan which she thought was really interesting. i try to keep the conversation going. eventually it's time to go to bed for everyone. my buddy gets a pillow on the floor and a blanket, roommates go to their room, Britney heads to the bathroom that's connected to her room. I wait until she's out before i ask to use it again. i come out and she's in bed sitting up, i start a conversation with her as I'm standing but end up sitting on her little dresser. about 5 minutes later i laugh and apologize for sitting on her dresser and she says she never had anyone sit on it but i can sit anywhere i want to.
we laugh and i say ok thank you. i then ask if she wants to play rock paper scissors. it's 5am. she says yes, best 3 out of 5. i hop in the bed and sit in front of her. she whoops me 5 games in a row. we talk a little bit more and it's time for bed. i ask if i should leave her alone and she says yes I'm sorry in a quiet voice. there is no room to sleep on the floor out in the living room, she offers me a body pillow and a blanket. about 30 seconds go by before i ask her "X, would you mind if i came and slept in the other half" she says "yes of course". we're laying there. i could tell there was more so i decided on asking if i could come closer. she agrees. she mentions the fact that i was the only guy that asked if she wanted to dance tonight, everybody else just grabbed on assuming she wanted to. and how i asked before just getting in bed or assuming something. a few minutes later we're kissing. another few minutes go by and she looks at me and says "I have a rule. if i haven't gone to dinner with you yet, i don't really know you" and tries to apologize if i was expecting more. i reassure her no that i wasn't and that she did not have to be sorry for anything. "i respect that" i told her. she understood. we're laying down, still kissing a little bit and we cuddle together until we fall asleep.
the early morning comes, we both keep adjusting in our spots. her arm falls asleep because of how she lays sometimes so she woke up a few times. she puts her head on my chest and comes closer a little bit. the time is approaching when she has to leave for dance rehearsal. as were laying in bed she hands me her phone with an empty contact and tells me to put myself in there. so i do. about 15 minutes later she finally has to get up. it's about 12pm now and rehearsal starts at 12pm. as I'm sitting on the edge of the bed and she's getting ready i hand her my phone and ask if she would do the same thing, put her information in there. she gladly does. i finished getting dressed as did she. she walks toward me, i stand up off the bed and we kiss again as she says "it was nice meeting you" with a smile. I tell her that i thought so too and "can we do it again sometime" and she agrees. she then leaves out the door for rehearsal, me and my friend wait around the apartment with everyone for about a hour before heading out.
i feel bad for messing her bed up so i quickly made it before i left and left her a note on a price tag i had hanging on my costume all night. my buddy called me a buster for making the bed but whatever. it was good conversation at the very least all night. and all the note said was thank for the conversation and dancing, i had fun. signed it with "until next time".
i haven't texted her today and she hasn't texted me. I'm not even sure if i should tbh or when i should. she told me about how she's having a party next weekend with her friends from out of the city for her birthday (Oct 30 it was) but didn't know know if she was jus going to do it at the apartment or go out. didn't necessarily give me an invite either though.
I'm sorry gaf for the poorly written long wall of text, i just wanted to get it out. until next time.
I ended up getting ahold of an old high school buddy Friday night in the hopes to go out but he had a family thing going on. We planned for Saturday (Halloween) which gave me hope to make the best out of everything. Around 930 we end up going to this bar where my coworker was doing a DJ mix at until 1am but the place was dead. We ended up going to the store to get a beer because it was cheaper than the bar and ended up just going back for 10 minutes before deciding on doing something else.
he calls his cousin 45 minutes away at the uni and it's around 1130 when we ended up heading out. we show up to the bar/club and meet his cousin, cousins girlfriend and the 2 other roommates. there was one who was dressed as Britney Spears (hit me baby one more time) who was really cute. but my plan for the night wasn't to get laid, it was just to go out and enjoy a night with a friend that i don't get to see too often. fast forward like a hour or so in and we've all been dancing, I've been talking to all the roommates, trying to keep the good vibe going that I had. at one point we're all on the dance floor displaying our talents for everyone. I can't tell what's going on with Britney or anyone for that matter, i'm just hitting my sleep dance and having a good time.
soon after me, my friend and his cousin are outside smoking when his cousin starts to inform that his friend (Britney) has a thing for me. I'm a little drunk so I'm not really listening but I understood what he was saying after a while. we head back inside.
we're all again sitting at the table and talking. my drunk self asks the one other to dance because we were talking about something related to it and she points to Britney. she's been standing next to me for the most part, not paying much attention but we've been talking a little bit. i turn to her though at this point and ask her "would you want to dance" and her surprised reaction of "right now" with big eyes was worrying at first but she said yes. we go out on the dance floor for a couple songs but the DJ was pretty shitty so it ended abruptly but we laughed about it. she tells me about how she does ballet, she does a spin, I'm enjoying this. as we're dancing she asks what me and my friend were doing after the club and if if we're staying in town. her roommate (my friends cousins girlfriend) already offered to me that we can stay at their apartment for the night. so i tell Britney that actually we're coming back to the apartment with them and she smiles and says ok.
it's almost about 2am now i believe, we head out for a taxi. this is only about 20 minutes after the dancing has stopped fwiw. the cousin tried to have the girls go back all together in the first taxi (4 of them) but i don't listen. Britney gets in the taxi first and i get in next to her. i put my arm on the back behind her but i felt i was being intrusive so i put it down.
the roommates and me get back to the apartment and it's calming. one starts playing music through a bluetooth speaker and packs a bowl. right now i am absolutely loving life. it's the 2 girls, Britney and me at a round table. me and Britney sit across from each other the entire time everyone is awake at the table which happens to be until around 5am when everybody started going to bed.
about a hour or so before that though we move to the living room. she sits in the single chair for one person, i take a seat from the table and just sit it down facing everyone, not just her. we're all talking, people get up and leave to the bathroom, to smoke, whatever. me and her talk about traveling, how she went to the community college I attend right now, the idea of skyscrapers swaying in the wind. after this me and her got a little deeper in conversation so I turn my chair so I'm facing her. she has her legs on up the chair in front of her, i put my foot on the cushion and our feet touch. when she doesn't pull away or look at me i figure she may actually like my company. I'm telling her about the Swizz built Prada store in Japan which she thought was really interesting. i try to keep the conversation going. eventually it's time to go to bed for everyone. my buddy gets a pillow on the floor and a blanket, roommates go to their room, Britney heads to the bathroom that's connected to her room. I wait until she's out before i ask to use it again. i come out and she's in bed sitting up, i start a conversation with her as I'm standing but end up sitting on her little dresser. about 5 minutes later i laugh and apologize for sitting on her dresser and she says she never had anyone sit on it but i can sit anywhere i want to.
we laugh and i say ok thank you. i then ask if she wants to play rock paper scissors. it's 5am. she says yes, best 3 out of 5. i hop in the bed and sit in front of her. she whoops me 5 games in a row. we talk a little bit more and it's time for bed. i ask if i should leave her alone and she says yes I'm sorry in a quiet voice. there is no room to sleep on the floor out in the living room, she offers me a body pillow and a blanket. about 30 seconds go by before i ask her "X, would you mind if i came and slept in the other half" she says "yes of course". we're laying there. i could tell there was more so i decided on asking if i could come closer. she agrees. she mentions the fact that i was the only guy that asked if she wanted to dance tonight, everybody else just grabbed on assuming she wanted to. and how i asked before just getting in bed or assuming something. a few minutes later we're kissing. another few minutes go by and she looks at me and says "I have a rule. if i haven't gone to dinner with you yet, i don't really know you" and tries to apologize if i was expecting more. i reassure her no that i wasn't and that she did not have to be sorry for anything. "i respect that" i told her. she understood. we're laying down, still kissing a little bit and we cuddle together until we fall asleep.
the early morning comes, we both keep adjusting in our spots. her arm falls asleep because of how she lays sometimes so she woke up a few times. she puts her head on my chest and comes closer a little bit. the time is approaching when she has to leave for dance rehearsal. as were laying in bed she hands me her phone with an empty contact and tells me to put myself in there. so i do. about 15 minutes later she finally has to get up. it's about 12pm now and rehearsal starts at 12pm. as I'm sitting on the edge of the bed and she's getting ready i hand her my phone and ask if she would do the same thing, put her information in there. she gladly does. i finished getting dressed as did she. she walks toward me, i stand up off the bed and we kiss again as she says "it was nice meeting you" with a smile. I tell her that i thought so too and "can we do it again sometime" and she agrees. she then leaves out the door for rehearsal, me and my friend wait around the apartment with everyone for about a hour before heading out.
i feel bad for messing her bed up so i quickly made it before i left and left her a note on a price tag i had hanging on my costume all night. my buddy called me a buster for making the bed but whatever. it was good conversation at the very least all night. and all the note said was thank for the conversation and dancing, i had fun. signed it with "until next time".
i haven't texted her today and she hasn't texted me. I'm not even sure if i should tbh or when i should. she told me about how she's having a party next weekend with her friends from out of the city for her birthday (Oct 30 it was) but didn't know know if she was jus going to do it at the apartment or go out. didn't necessarily give me an invite either though.
I'm sorry gaf for the poorly written long wall of text, i just wanted to get it out. until next time.
Gray Matter
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So... Are you interested in persuing something? Seems like it was a good first impressions from both parties.
It definitely seemed like a more natural thing than with my ex IMO. The problem is that i just out of a relationship last week and this just came out of nowhere. i just went out with my buddy to get my mind off things and to drink.
I'd like to talk to her though just to see how she is because i feel like it'd be a waste not to or that if i ignore it then i'm stupid for doing so. i might just being thinking about the rebound here though without noticing it but she actually seemed really cool.
ZackieChan
Member
Holy fuck that is a long story
ZackieChan
Member
I'm sorry
How about the trick where you condense the story down to the details that are actually relevant? Like, who cares that it was a coworker's DJ set?
I understand that you want to get it all out there, but if you're asking for advice, you should respect the reader's time.
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