So on Wednesday, which is my 24th birthday, my adviser at school, is taking my to a Japanese restaurant. I decided to ask a friend (who I have small thing for) to come along. She said yes. Which means I made my adviser a third wheel(?) anyway, I wanted her to come because y'know why not? I mean I teased her when I left campus to get some food anyway.
Is this some good practice? Because I basically asked her out to lunch.
Very good or very bad idea depending on how you want to play this. Since you invited her as third wheel, you are going to have to give attention to both. I know you meant the adviser to be third wheel, but here the third wheel is the girl.
Depending on whether the adviser is a guy or a girl things will take different turns: if it's a guy prepare to see her give more attention to him (especially if she is into you, she'll do this), if it's a girl who invited you to be alone with you and you were oblivious to it, then the date will be really problematic.
Especially if you invited the other girl without checking with your adviser first.
I have a date today. It will be my first date since... 2010, maybe? And like the fifth date in my life.
I don't know what to expect because I have almost no experience and all of those experiences I do have went poorly.
I know almost nothing about the girl. I met her on OKC, we exchanged a few messages, then planned the date.
I wasn't expecting this to happen. I mean I've sent out like 800 messages on OKC over the last couple years with no luck so I'd pretty much given up.
What do, GAF? How do I do dating?
Don't offer things you don't offer to friends: if you don't buy things for your friends (coffee, lunch, beer or whatever) don't buy things for her. At least nothing expensive.
Keep self deprecating humour to a minimum. It works like a charm if you are an extrovert because it's balanced by the outgoing personality, but it works against you if you don't speak much. Make a mental note: at three self deprecating jokes, no more self deprecating jokes.
Make her talk more. Wait, I'll rephrase: let her speak XD She is probably going to ask open ended questions but always keep a mental check to not talk too much about your troubles or worries. The attention may push you to monopolize the conversation for half-hour and tell her your life story.
Tell her a joke. Tell her she can't laugh though. Ask her to tell a joke herself.
If you ask an opinion about something, DO NOT hijack her: say you ask her what she thinks about Inside Out, for example. Whatever she says, only give her your opinion if she asks it first, otherwise it will look like you just wanted to speak up yours.
HIGH FIVES.
Ask her for something. I mean, something meaningless like a pen (to draw something or whatever) or an handkerchief because you forgot yours, or a gum/candy.
OKC is pretty extensive on pre-dating info, so don't be afraid about her not liking you for something you say. She knows how you look, she knows who you are (or some version of it) at this point is just about spending some fun/relaxing time together.
