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Girlfriend broke it off last night. We've basically spent all of the past 2 months together, and I even spent Thanksgiving at her parents' place. I don't know why; I don't even think she knows why. Weirdly, everyone was pulling for us: her parents, her best friend, her roommates, her therapist, and even the other guy she was hooking up with (yeah, it was slightly poly, but way less poly than you think, and that wasn't even a factor in this, shockingly).

I'm apparently the kind of person she wants to end up with, but she's not sure she's ready for that now. I think she's just scared, really. It wasn't duplicitous or self-serving.

I put so much emotional energy into this relationship; I'm done for a good, long while.

Only downside is that I rented a B&B near Charlottesvile, VA for us for her Christmas present (28-30 December), and I have no idea what to do with the reservation since I can't cancel. Anyone want it?
 
Have you tried cancelling the reservation?

And things just went too fast and like you saw she got scared. You were only going out for a month and you were doing stuff committed long term couples do like meeting parents and spending holidays together. A trip together is another (especially one at a B&B, that's like stuff old married couples do).

It's always kinda awkward starting to date someone during the holidays but I get the sense maybe she was tired of everyone trying to push this "perfect" relationship on her which is probably why she was acting out in a way by banging someone else.
 
Advocatus Diaboli said:
Girlfriend broke it off last night. We've basically spent all of the past 2 months together, and I even spent Thanksgiving at her parents' place. I don't know why; I don't even think she knows why. Weirdly, everyone was pulling for us: her parents, her best friend, her roommates, her therapist, and even the other guy she was hooking up with (yeah, it was slightly poly, but way less poly than you think, and that wasn't even a factor in this, shockingly).
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GK86 said:
Why would you spend $500 on her when you two had only been together 2/3 months?

Rookie mistake.
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Because I wanted a couple days away for myself and it'd be nice to have someone along for the ride.

gwailo said:
Have you tried cancelling the reservation?

And things might have just gone too fast and like you saw she got scared. You were only going out for a month and you were doing stuff committed long term couples do like meeting parents and spending holidays together. It's always kinda awkward starting to date someone during the holidays.
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Our second date was a weekend trip together. "Going too fast" wasn't really an issue. We were both comfortable with the pace. It was non-standard, to be sure, but it worked for us. The pacing wasn't the problem. We'll see how it shakes out.

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Yeah. He and I actually went to a hockey game together last week.
 
Just feel like getting this off my chest, because it was great.

Met a girl on Tinder early last week, get her number, we planned to meet up on Friday for coffee. Texted a good bit through the week, she even called me one day on her way home from work. Real good buildup.

Friday rolls around, and I get a text from her saying that she had been in an accident, she went mudding with her cousin and they hit a tree, she tore some ligaments in her shoulder. She was told to rest, and she'd have to cancel, but she did want to see me. Fair enough, I believe her because who would make something like that up, and then we still keep texting after.

Today I get this text from her, saying that she just got the green light to drive again, and she's down to meet up if I am. I'm pleasantly surprised by this, and an hour or so later she comes by my place, and we go out for sushi. (Also the injury is legit, though I didn't really doubt it.)

It was awesome! Things go really well, we just talk up a storm and she's even cuter than her pictures had indicated. She's a rugby fan like I am, I had no idea prior, so that was nice. She's not a first date kisser, which is fine by me, but there's definitely going to be a second date after Christmas (I've got some travels this week).

Excited!
 
RedVladimir said:
As presumed, 2nd date was the one that got physical. Seems this was the date where you had an opening.

Why didn't you make the move? Usually what I do when this happens, which is rare by the way, as I always try to bring them to my place, is this: "What's an interesting thing you have at your place?" Or anchor it back to what went on in the date or previous date. For instance, if she said she loved a particular music genre, ask her: "So, do you have a XX collection?"

The idea is to go to their place under the pretenses you're doing something non-sexual. The implication, however, is clearly sexual.

Next morning, when her girl friends ask her how it went:
"Well, date was great. I showed him my classic rock collection, and one thing led to another..."

This "one thing led to another" is girl-talk for: "I reacted to his action." Women rarely make the move themselves, even if they want to. They certainly will bombard you with clues though, such as making out with you in front of their apartment. :P



Nooo!

This is much different than what I thought with the information I had. If she thinks she's somehow part of your repertoire of Tinder girls, then that explains the resistance to potentially being slut shamed. Basically, she doesn't want to be played by a player.

I think her issue is that you are not a player, as evident by your over-investment. The issue seems to be that you seem like pre-selected guy because you are clearly attractive, but your eager demeanor towards taking things slow and the statements you've made about seeking a "real" LTR with a Tinder girl, is all probably jarring to her.

It's like she wants to get really physical with the guy she's looking at, but the guy that's speaking to her seems to be placing an over-importance on taking things slow. In her mind, which is it? She's given plenty of chances for the former to make a move, but has since resigned and is now ignoring the latter...




Dude. There's no other way to say this: this girl wanted to fuck. How old is she?




You are making excuses for her again. Doesn't this girl work with phones all day? She has seen your texts, she has just decided to not respond. (How ironic.)

My advice, if you choose to accept it: Call her. Do it like this:

Send her a text, preferably when you know she'll be off work and chances of an excuse will be slim. Text: "I'll call you in a bit, pick up"

Then in 15 min. call her. Be calm, lower your voice, and try to be as unaffected as possible. Do NOT try to reason with her if the outcome is not what you want; she's a person and can very well have wanted to be with you but not any longer. This is not entirely up to you.

Regardless of the outcome, when you hit the Home button on your phone, Tinder better still be there...
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But don't you think it's a coincidence she chose the bar to go to, and her roommate shows up and says she'll get a ride with him? It was all planned.

I already probably shot myself in the foot, and I really didn't care. Yesterday at noon I sent these texts:

"So Jeff and his wife said they really liked you! They had a good time last night."

"And look, my intentions with you isn't to quickly get in your pants. Far from it. I didn't sign up for tinder to hook up with women. I'm looking for something real, and I hope you are too."

"And as far as the physical part between the two of us, I don't care if it takes. 5 or 10 more dates for that to happen. I respect you, and I really enjoy your company. The only question is, do you feel the same about me?"

So she hasn't replied back since then. Tomorrow I was going to text her and either be assertive and tell her I'm going to take her to a new place or ask her why she's ignoring me, let's talk like adults, and end it.
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
So she hasn't replied back since then. Tomorrow I was going to text her and either be assertive and tell her I'm going to take her to a new place or ask her why she's ignoring me, let's talk like adults, and end it.
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Don't send *another* text on top of all that. Ball's clearly in her court to respond now. If she doesn't, then you have your answer, no need to push for it.
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
But don't you think it's a coincidence she chose the bar to go to, and her roommate shows up and says she'll get a ride with him? It was all planned.

I already probably shot myself in the foot, and I really didn't care. Yesterday at noon I sent these texts:

"So Jeff and his wife said they really liked you! They had a good time last night."

"And look, my intentions with you isn't to quickly get in your pants. Far from it. I didn't sign up for tinder to hook up with women. I'm looking for something real, and I hope you are too."

"And as far as the physical part between the two of us, I don't care if it takes. 5 or 10 more dates for that to happen. I respect you, and I really enjoy your company. The only question is, do you feel the same about me?"

So she hasn't replied back since then. Tomorrow I was going to text her and either be assertive and tell her I'm going to take her to a new place or ask her why she's ignoring me, let's talk like adults, and end it.
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No, you did enough damage with those texts. Wait for her to respond or take it as it's over and move on. There's no need to "confront" her and it's just going to make it miserable for everyone.
 
So she texted me back. I did remember that she said she was getting a new phone during our couples dinner date, but she did say this, which I don't understand:

(1/2) I'm so sorry for the delay (i got my new phone and it screwed me up). Your friends were so nice... i will admit i felt a bit suffocated which is a bit co

(2/2) nfusing. .. but it was a blast as always

What does the suffocating and confusing mean? Does she mean with my friends or the issue about going over to her place and sleep with her?

She texted back almost two hours ago, and I just texted her what do you mean by suffocating and confusing? What should I say?
 
So I've been spending a month in an Asian country for work. I've been way busy with work and travelling, but decided to give Internet dating a shot in my last week, because why the hell not. In my own country, internet dating has been really rough. I guess my looks just don't stand out enough to be successful in that venue. But it's been way easier now that I've been abroad. My European looks probably makes me stand out more from the crowd. So it's been much easier to get responses, even to very lame "how are you doing" opening messages. Even had a few cases where they messaged first.

Anyway, I got started way too late, and basically was left with only one weekend before going home to get some dates in. Met one girl on Saturday and another on Sunday. The Saturday date was unremarkable. Very pretty and kind girl, but also pretty shy.there were basically no sparks at all. Shame, because we had good discussions online. Still, I realized after the date had already been set up that she was probably looking for something more long-term, and obviously that isn't anything I can do, with my temporary stay.

I had higher hopes for the date on Sunday. Most other girls here seemed to tune out once I told them that I'd be leaving soon, but this girl was ok with meeting even after I told her this. Anyway, we met at a live music bar very late in the evening. I noticed that she allowed, and encouraged, pretty aggressive touching on my part. Within 30 minutes I had her hand in my lap and was squeezing her thighs. After about an hour she said she was sick of the music (I thought it was pretty good myself) so we got out. I said let's get a taxi and go to my place and she agreed. So we started making out at my place. She was a few years older and seemed very experienced, and the kissing was great. Whenever I've gotten as far as kissing with women my own age, I often find it very underwhelming, and I'm not sure if it's my fault or theirs, or probably both. But this girl was really aggressive with the kisses. Lip biting, lip sucking, tounge sucking and switching it up constantly. I'd like to think we were both enjoying it. I was really turned on.

It didn't last long before she undid my pants. She was on her period so she could only do blowjob, boobjob and handjob. And she was great. I don't want to get too explicit, but she knew every trick in the book.

But here's the thing that made me feel a bit bad. It took forever for me to cum. I couldn't really do anything for her because of her period, and she was being absolutely amazing with me. And yet I couldn't come. She was doing sexy moaning and so on to make me happy but I know she was getting tired. And my penis started getting sore. In the end I had to finish myself off while we were playing with each other's nipples and kissing. In total it was probably two hours before I came in a huge explosion all over her. Then she stayed over the night, and we cuddled while sleeping.

So I had a great time. She was amazing and this will be a nice memory. But I really worry that my body's refusal to orgasm made her self-conscious. As someone very inexperienced, I was expecting the opposite problem of orgasming way too quickly. And I couldn't really do anything for her. She said she had a good time, and I really hope she actually did. Shame I probably won't get to meet her when she's not on her period
 
Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
Wait, I'm confused. You already texted her back but you're asking us what to say?
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I'm sorry. This what I said:

"Yeah, you did say you were getting a new phone, plus the TV? What do you mean by suffocating and confusing? "

"If you're referring to Matt dropping you off home instead of me, then I understand. I don't want to put pressure on you. I'm 33 and I don't have time to play games. I'm looking for something real."

"I'm a guy who takes the lead and is assertive with my decisions. We should try a new place to go out, down near Clearwater beach called Tropix. They have excellent rum runners!"

So I won't text her back until 2-3 days later. That's when I'll be more assertive and tell her we're going to go on "x" day and I'll pick her up whatever time. That's how she is.

I mean, I told you guys she was being serious about not being easy.
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
I'm sorry. This what I said:

"Yeah, you did say you were getting a new phone, plus the TV? What do you mean by suffocating and confusing? "

"If you're referring to Matt dropping you off home instead of me, then I understand. I don't want to put pressure on you. I'm 33 and I don't have time to play games. I'm looking for something real."

"I'm a guy who takes the lead and is assertive with my decisions. We should try a new place to go out, down near Clearwater beach called Tropix. They have excellent rum runners!"

So I won't text her back until 2-3 days later. That's when I'll be more assertive and tell her we're going to go on "x" day and I'll pick her up whatever time. That's how she is.

I mean, I told you guys she was being serious about not being easy.
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Wait, so you just recently texted that back to her without having her respond? I think giving overly long messages and over explaining yourself is going to cause issues if it hasn't already. That stuff is usually poison.
 
@Jason's Ultimatum

Dude, no. You keep shooting yourself in the foot. She wanted to get into your pants... maybe something more after that. You blew the pants part, now you're just making sure she ignores you for good.

You gotta play it cool in the early stages of meeting someone. That means not sweating lack of replies, not giving a shit about minor things. Not going into discussions where you need to explain yourself or re-enforce certain things (in this case, how you're looking for a serious relationship). How do you know she is looking for a serious relationship? Because she said so? No. Everybody will say that because the alternative is saying you just want to bang people. You should focus on her actions more.

Stop texting and explaining yourself immediately. Let a few days pass, see if she texts you. If yes, forget apologizing about your previous texts and go straight to heavy flirting. That may perhaps salvage the situation.
 
Chickys clothes come off and she has cuts on her arm as well as a bandage. Could NOT get turned on

Dipset, everyone?

The whole thing is so foreign to me, and by extension, crazy.
 
I'm sorry. If it's anything like the last three dates, she'll text me back a day later saying shed love to go to such and such place. I tell her where we're going, and wait until she replies back.

I seriously don't know how she continues to see me. It's not luck.
 
hydrophilic attack said:
So I've been spending a month in an Asian country for work. I've been way busy with work and travelling, but decided to give Internet dating a shot in my last week, because why the hell not. In my own country, internet dating has been really rough. I guess my looks just don't stand out enough to be successful in that venue. But it's been way easier now that I've been abroad. My European looks probably makes me stand out more from the crowd. So it's been much easier to get responses, even to very lame "how are you doing" opening messages. Even had a few cases where they messaged first.

Anyway, I got started way too late, and basically was left with only one weekend before going home to get some dates in. Met one girl on Saturday and another on Sunday. The Saturday date was unremarkable. Very pretty and kind girl, but also pretty shy.there were basically no sparks at all. Shame, because we had good discussions online. Still, I realized after the date had already been set up that she was probably looking for something more long-term, and obviously that isn't anything I can do, with my temporary stay.

I had higher hopes for the date on Sunday. Most other girls here seemed to tune out once I told them that I'd be leaving soon, but this girl was ok with meeting even after I told her this. Anyway, we met at a live music bar very late in the evening. I noticed that she allowed, and encouraged, pretty aggressive touching on my part. Within 30 minutes I had her hand in my lap and was squeezing her thighs. After about an hour she said she was sick of the music (I thought it was pretty good myself) so we got out. I said let's get a taxi and go to my place and she agreed. So we started making out at my place. She was a few years older and seemed very experienced, and the kissing was great. Whenever I've gotten as far as kissing with women my own age, I often find it very underwhelming, and I'm not sure if it's my fault or theirs, or probably both. But this girl was really aggressive with the kisses. Lip biting, lip sucking, tounge sucking and switching it up constantly. I'd like to think we were both enjoying it. I was really turned on.

It didn't last long before she undid my pants. She was on her period so she could only do blowjob, boobjob and handjob. And she was great. I don't want to get too explicit, but she knew every trick in the book.

But here's the thing that made me feel a bit bad. It took forever for me to cum. I couldn't really do anything for her because of her period, and she was being absolutely amazing with me. And yet I couldn't come. She was doing sexy moaning and so on to make me happy but I know she was getting tired. And my penis started getting sore. In the end I had to finish myself off while we were playing with each other's nipples and kissing. In total it was probably two hours before I came in a huge explosion all over her. Then she stayed over the night, and we cuddled while sleeping.

So I had a great time. She was amazing and this will be a nice memory. But I really worry that my body's refusal to orgasm made her self-conscious. As someone very inexperienced, I was expecting the opposite problem of orgasming way too quickly. And I couldn't really do anything for her. She said she had a good time, and I really hope she actually did. Shame I probably won't get to meet her when she's not on her period
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Lol good penthouse story, how old are you that girls your age can't kiss ?
 
You are over thinking everything to the tenth degree. Need to take a deep breathe. Listen to Stn's advice.
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
I'm sorry. If it's anything like the last three dates, she'll text me back a day later saying shed love to go to such and such place. I tell her where we're going, and wait until she replies back.

I seriously don't know how she continues to see me. It's not luck.
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Ok I guess? Stop trying to deflect by saying she still answered you the last time you did this and actually work on not doing it going forward.
 
I know I know I'll stop over analyzing everything I think I'm doing wrong with text messages. I'm going to listen to you all and the ball is in her court to want to go out again. She's obviously having a good time with me, and I don't want to eventually blow it, because my stupid text messages are bound to catch up with me.

She'll respond back tomorrow or the following day, and I'll play it cool and wait a day or two to text her back telling me her the time and place.
 
vern said:
Lol good penthouse story, how old are you that girls your age can't kiss ?
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There's some older people that can't. There's a lot of asian women who seem to have zero or near zero relationship experiences. Some of them are 30+ too... It's kind of jarring really.

Jason's Ultimatum said:
I know I know I'll stop over analyzing everything I think I'm doing wrong with text messages. I'm going to listen to you all and the ball is in her court to want to go out again. She's obviously having a good time with me, and I don't want to eventually blow it, because my stupid text messages are bound to catch up with me.

She'll respond back tomorrow or the following day, and I'll play it cool and wait a day or two to text her back telling me her the time and place.
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I think I've said it before but I think things like that are pointless and benefit no one. There's a difference between responding when you have time vs. immediately responding every time you receive a text and purposefully waiting DAYS to try and prove something to someone. I don't know, I feel like it should be more genuine that you're actually doing other things than waiting for her response since that's when you know things are probably going well rather than trying to stick to arbitrary timelines you made up out of thin air. Others are free to jump in though.
 
vern said:
Lol good penthouse story, how old are you that girls your age can't kiss ?
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Old enough where that really shouldn't be a problem, I would have thought. So my previous experiences with girls my age is probably due to small sample size rather than actually due to age. I also noticed that I am a much better kisser when I've had a few drinks
 
Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
There's some older people that can't. There's a lot of asian women who seem to have zero or near zero relationship experiences. Some of them are 30+ too... It's kind of jarring really.



I think I've said it before but I think things like that are pointless and benefit no one. There's a difference between responding when you have time vs. immediately responding every time you receive a text and purposefully waiting DAYS to try and prove something to someone. I don't know, I feel like it should be more genuine that you're actually doing other things than waiting for her response since that's when you know things are probably going well rather than trying to stick to arbitrary timelines you made up out of thin air. Others are free to jump in though.
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You're right. I won't wait by my phone every waking second to check and see if she replied back. I need to be more relaxed, go about with daily life, and let things happen naturally.

Sorry for being such an idiot. Like I said, I become a complete noob and an idiot when I meet an awesome girl beyond her physical looks. Last time I felt like this about a girl was back in 2011.
 
Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
There's some older people that can't. There's a lot of asian women who seem to have zero or near zero relationship experiences. Some of them are 30+ too... It's kind of jarring really.
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Age has nothing to do with it I think. Sex, like anything else in life, some people are better at than others. I've been with 18-19 year olds that are amazing and with 30+ that like you said have no clue. The more people you experience the more you'll find age makes little difference. Sexual experience also doesn't matter as much as you'd think. I've been with virgins who are amazing (at some things lol) and girls who've probably been with 100 dudes but still don't have a clue. People are skilled at different things.

Salamando said:
I'm 30 and I still meet girls that can't kiss. One girl seemed to think she was supposed to bite my tongue...
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This is fun though. Get on her level.
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
You're right. I won't wait by my phone every waking second to check and see if she replied back. I need to be more relaxed, go about with daily life, and let things happen naturally.

Sorry for being such an idiot. Like I said, I become a complete noob and an idiot when I meet an awesome girl beyond her physical looks. Last time I felt like this about a girl was back in 2011.
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That's fine and we're skill human and will still make mistakes over time. That's fine and completely normal but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try identify them, admit that we made them and actively prevent them as best we can. I skill make plenty of mistakes, get over invested in a girl, etc. What's important is to catch yourself and start recalibrating yourself to where you want to be.

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Age has nothing to do with it I think. Sex, like anything else in life, some people are better at than others. I've been with 18-19 year olds that are amazing and with 30+ that like you said have no clue. The more people you experience the more you'll find age makes little difference. Sexual experience also doesn't matter as much as you'd think. I've been with virgins who are amazing (at some things lol) and girls who've probably been with 100 dudes but still don't have a clue. People are skilled at different things.



This is fun though. Get on her level.
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Absolutely, I think I was mostly pointing out the age because there's people in the past here talking about becoming wizards and forever alone but then I met women who have had like a single relationship for 6 months have at best french kissed a guy and nothing else. It's just funny vs. what a lot of people's expectations are.
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I'm 30 and I still meet girls that can't kiss. One girl seemed to think she was supposed to bite my tongue...
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Kinky~
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
"So Jeff and his wife said they really liked you! They had a good time last night."

"And look, my intentions with you isn't to quickly get in your pants. Far from it. I didn't sign up for tinder to hook up with women. I'm looking for something real, and I hope you are too."

"And as far as the physical part between the two of us, I don't care if it takes. 5 or 10 more dates for that to happen. I respect you, and I really enjoy your company. The only question is, do you feel the same about me?"

So she hasn't replied back since then. Tomorrow I was going to text her and either be assertive and tell her I'm going to take her to a new place or ask her why she's ignoring me, let's talk like adults, and end it.
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Noooooooo. Look there's nothing wrong at all with wanting a relationship/taking things slow but the wording here is just weird and needy, especially for a girl that you've only met a few times. If that's the sort of relationship you want, you probably should have communicated it early on in your profile or something (and not use Tinder in the first place for this sort of thing, seriously why?)

You two clearly don't seem to be on the same page from what you've written, so I've no idea why someone would want to "salvage" a situation where each person's dating priorities are so different.
 
Jason, if you were a girl, I would stop talking to you after texts like that. Thirsty as hell. Play it cool!

I did the same thing recently and I'm not proud
 
Not sure what it is but I've been way off my game since my last relationship.

I'll get a girls number, and things just die off and plans aren't ever made. I blame myself mainly because I'm terrible at texting, and just lack motivation to do so. I'd tell myself, "this girl is really attractive, but she lives 45mins away and with 2 jobs and college I wouldn't have the time" then pretty much give up. But I think it has a lot to do with my interest levels.

Recently, I transferred to a new work place for my 2nd job, and it's usually non stop busy. There's this girl, who's pretty young and very cute that I was instantly attracted to. She likes Star Wars and seems to have a great sense of humor, this is all I've been able to gather. The one time we had a convo was great, and we had a nice flirtatious back and forth thing going on. Had her with a smile on her face laughing the entire time. Anyway since then, we'll catch each other looking at one another. But it's always so fucking busy, so talking during work is difficult, and I can never seem to catch her alone. I even started to go to the break room instead of my car to try and catch her, not much luck.

Our last interaction at work was me saying "hey" and waving, and her looking up and smiling (she was with customers). She may just be really nice, but whatever, I've been wanting to ask her out for about a week. However, I'm not sure if I've gotten enough of her interest. If she says no, it's whatever, but I'd hate to sour my chances by asking too early. At this point I'm debating just going up to her and asking cause with this job we may never find another chance to chat since we're not even in the same department.

I'm not sure if one convo is enough to guage her interest. One of my coworkers who has her on FB claims that she's always clamoring a relationship and has been single since last year, guess that tips the scale in my favor. Not sure how I should go about asking her out.
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
You're right. I won't wait by my phone every waking second to check and see if she replied back. I need to be more relaxed, go about with daily life, and let things happen naturally.

Sorry for being such an idiot. Like I said, I become a complete noob and an idiot when I meet an awesome girl beyond her physical looks. Last time I felt like this about a girl was back in 2011.
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Worst feeling bro.

Sometimes the best of guys lose to text anticipation. Some link it to insecurity, but I don't think it's that clear cut. It's more of a levels of interest thing. The more interested I am, the more impatient I am. Can't stand it.
 
Spinluck said:
Not sure what it is but I've been way off my game since my last relationship.

I'll get a girls number, and things just die off and plans aren't ever made. I blame myself mainly because I'm terrible at texting, and just lack motivation to do so. I'd tell myself, "this girl is really attractive, but she lives 45mins away and with 2 jobs and college I wouldn't have the time" then pretty much give up. But I think it has a lot to do with my interest levels.

Recently, I transferred to a new work place for my 2nd job, and it's usually non stop busy. There's this girl, who's pretty young and very cute that I was instantly attracted to. She likes Star Wars and seems to have a great sense of humor, this is all I've been able to gather. The one time we had a convo was great, and we had a nice flirtatious back and forth thing going on. Had her with a smile on her face laughing the entire time. Anyway since then, we'll catch each other looking at one another. But it's always so fucking busy, so talking during work is difficult, and I can never seem to catch her alone. I even started to go to the break room instead of my car to try and catch her, not much luck.

Our last interaction at work was me saying "hey" and waving, and her looking up and smiling (she was with customers). She may just be really nice, but whatever, I've been wanting to ask her out for about a week. However, I'm not sure if I've gotten enough of her interest. If she says no, it's whatever, but I'd hate to sour my chances by asking too early. At this point I'm debating just going up to her and asking cause with this job we may never find another chance to chat since we're not even in the same department.

I'm not sure if one convo is enough to guage her interest. One of my coworkers who has her on FB claims that she's always clamoring a relationship and has been single since last year, guess that tips the scale in my favor. Not sure how I should go about asking her out.
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Just go for it, dude! It'd be preferable if you got her alone, but if that's not possible, just ask her out when you get a chance.
 
Finally got the chance to ask my co-worker out and did so. We agreed for a coffee on Sunday, which was the best day considering Christmas and our work schedules. We'll see how it goes. In reality, we don't know much about each other, besides some joking around at work, so it's going to be even more interesting I guess.

She was really nervous and surprised when I talked to her. To the point where she thought it was some prank. lmao But yeah, just ask her out boys!!!
 
Reckoner said:
Finally got the chance to ask my co-worker out and did so. We agreed for a coffee on Sunday, which was the best day considering Christmas and our work schedules. We'll see how it goes. In reality, we don't know much about each other, besides some joking around at work, so it's going to be even more interesting I guess.

She was really nervous and surprised when I talked to her. To the point where she thought it was some prank. lmao But yeah, just ask her out boys!!!
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I couldn't advise against this enough

Dating coworkers is the worst
 
gaiages said:
Just go for it, dude! It'd be preferable if you got her alone, but if that's not possible, just ask her out when you get a chance.
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Yeah, I just wasn't sure if I could get the green light on this without at least taking to her more.

I think I'm just gonna go for it and hope for the best
 
Jason's Ultimatum said:
I'm sorry. This what I said:

"Yeah, you did say you were getting a new phone, plus the TV? What do you mean by suffocating and confusing? "

"If you're referring to Matt dropping you off home instead of me, then I understand. I don't want to put pressure on you. I'm 33 and I don't have time to play games. I'm looking for something real."

"I'm a guy who takes the lead and is assertive with my decisions. We should try a new place to go out, down near Clearwater beach called Tropix. They have excellent rum runners!"

So I won't text her back until 2-3 days later. That's when I'll be more assertive and tell her we're going to go on "x" day and I'll pick her up whatever time. That's how she is.

I mean, I told you guys she was being serious about not being easy.
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I'm not going to lie, most of what you sent to her in those texts was cringe-worthy as fuck. You sent her three texts (the latter two which were full of assumptions) without giving her a chance to even respond.
 
I'm 33 and I don't have time to play games. I'm looking for something real.
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You're acting like you're 13, not 33. Why don't you actually pick up the phone and talk? I'm honestly surprised she hasn't blocked your number by now.
 
gwailo said:
You're acting like you're 13, not 33. Why don't you actually pick up the phone and talk? I'm honestly surprised she hasn't blocked your number by now.
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Haha, I guess I skimmed last night because I don't remember it sounding this bad. The whole I'm 33 I need something real is such a turn off. I pretty much cut off when women do it.
 
i met up with a girl that i was tindering at a local bar. She had started day drinking at like noon and i met her at 3pm. 6pm rolled around and she was start to get really emotional with how shitty her life seems at the moment.

I was kind of glad i could give her some outside perspective on the whole thing. by 7pm we were properly fucked up and walked to go get ramen, Which is was conveniently across the street from her house.

She was still on her sad train but i gave her some good advice. She wanted me to come back to her place. She had a projector and arrested development already ready to go. It ended up being a really fun night.

I dont know if i want to deal with her being super sad again but she is cute and she is trying to get into the same work i do so i might help her along.
 
Krauser Kat said:
i met up with a girl that i was tindering at a local bar. She had started day drinking at like noon and i met her at 3pm. 6pm rolled around and she was start to get really emotional with how shitty her life seems at the moment.

I was kind of glad i could give her some outside perspective on the whole thing. by 7pm we were properly fucked up and walked to go get ramen, Which is was conveniently across the street from her house.

She was still on her sad train but i gave her some good advice. She wanted me to come back to her place. She had a projector and arrested development already ready to go. It ended up being a really fun night.

I dont know if i want to deal with her being super sad again but she is cute and she is trying to get into the same work i do so i might help her along.
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A projector and Arrested Development? MARRY HER
 
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