I'm sorry. This what I said:
"Yeah, you did say you were getting a new phone, plus the TV? What do you mean by suffocating and confusing? "
"If you're referring to Matt dropping you off home instead of me, then I understand. I don't want to put pressure on you. I'm 33 and I don't have time to play games. I'm looking for something real."
"I'm a guy who takes the lead and is assertive with my decisions. We should try a new place to go out, down near Clearwater beach called Tropix. They have excellent rum runners!"
So I won't text her back until 2-3 days later. That's when I'll be more assertive and tell her we're going to go on "x" day and I'll pick her up whatever time. That's how she is.
I mean, I told you guys she was being serious about not being easy.
Jesus Christ, Jason, this is terrible.
I just want you to know, that you
had a chance to be with this girl, but you blew it. Let that sink in.
She wanted to sleep (yes, sleep, not have brunch) with you, as evident by her claim that she obviously doesn't want to be one of your Tinder girls. That means you are (or were) preselected in her eyes (a scientific term that basically says women are attracted to men other women are attracted to--this is common sense). However, the person you looked like and the person you were, were at odds. She gave you a chance, and you blew by not taking a hint and making a move. Also by placing too high an importance on long term relationship. I mean, you took a girl you met off Tinder (again, a HOOK-UP app) on a third couple's date with your married friends. Just, why? No wonder she needed her roommate to rescue her. That explains why she felt suffocated; this is something you do once you're exclusive.
You cannot salvage this. I'm sorry. You probably think I don't know what I'm talking about considering that I don't know you or her intimately, but I guarantee you this: she will NOT initiate contact with you. And if she does, it will be to take you up on whatever offer you threw at her. An offer, I bet, you will gladly pay for. Report back in a couple days, I would like to be wrong about this.
Not sure what it is but I've been way off my game since my last relationship.
I'll get a girls number, and things just die off and plans aren't ever made. I blame myself mainly because I'm terrible at texting, and just lack motivation to do so. I'd tell myself, "this girl is really attractive, but she lives 45mins away and with 2 jobs and college I wouldn't have the time" then pretty much give up. But I think it has a lot to do with my interest levels.
Recently, I transferred to a new work place for my 2nd job, and it's usually non stop busy. There's this girl, who's pretty young and very cute that I was instantly attracted to. She likes Star Wars and seems to have a great sense of humor, this is all I've been able to gather. The one time we had a convo was great, and we had a nice flirtatious back and forth thing going on. Had her with a smile on her face laughing the entire time. Anyway since then, we'll catch each other looking at one another. But it's always so fucking busy, so talking during work is difficult, and I can never seem to catch her alone. I even started to go to the break room instead of my car to try and catch her, not much luck.
Our last interaction at work was me saying "hey" and waving, and her looking up and smiling (she was with customers). She may just be really nice, but whatever, I've been wanting to ask her out for about a week. However, I'm not sure if I've gotten enough of her interest. If she says no, it's whatever, but I'd hate to sour my chances by asking too early. At this point I'm debating just going up to her and asking cause with this job we may never find another chance to chat since we're not even in the same department.
I'm not sure if one convo is enough to gauge her interest. One of my coworkers who has her on FB claims that she's always clamoring a relationship and has been single since last year, guess that tips the scale in my favor. Not sure how I should go about asking her out.
Just do it.
I know it's not that simple. The easiest way to go about this is this: make it sound you are inviting her to something fun you're doing
anyway. I usually recommend going direct and worry about what heppens later, later. But if you are worried about what she may say, then simply plan something fun to do during the weekend and simply invite her along. Example:
"Hey, I'm going rock climbing this weekend with X [optional]. There's this Groupon and I thought for $X 2 people; I figured you should come out if you're free."
Boom.
If you don't have a good friend that could go as good cover and stay out of your way as any good wingman, them simply say you were going by yourself anyway (after all, you are a fun, interesting guy that does stuff, alone or otherwise). The idea is to give her purpose in your (awesome) life, not her to add purpose to yours. Get it?
Besides, this method grants you with plausible deniability (ever so important on workplace relationship) in the event she says no. If she says no, simply respond with: "Ok, that's cool. I'll probably ask X, I think she/he might want to join. Alright see ya around." Try to be lively, and completely unaffected by her response. Another thing to look for is this: it's one thing if she says no because of something else to do; another entirely is if she say no and
doesn't offer to reschedule. A lot of guys get hung up on the "no", without realizing girls do have shit to do. If she offers up an alternative, then she's interested. You may reschedule accordingly.
I need some pros to answer this, at what age is it truly over and there is no point in finding a relationship? I'm 23 and haven't thought of getting a girl friend. Girls have flirted but I never do anything.
Why does it have to be a girlfriend? In your subsequent posts, you explain you're studying engineering. But why can't you simply date? Dating doesn't mean just sleeping with girls. Although that's a nice incentive.
It means getting to know someone, both psychically and emotionally over the course of weeks to determine their worthiness for exclusivity. That's really it. When you say "girlfriend", you are skipping a lot head my friend. Just have fun, you're young. You can date multiple girls at once, and make things exclusive with one when ready and if time allows. Or not!
Has noone here seen Sex and the City? Women (the attractive kind) do this all the time...
oh man I have that one used on me all the time for some reason
With that glorious beard, can't say I blame them.
Girl I'm seeing is stressed out going home over christmas tomorrow so she cancelled our date tonight. Told her I will miss her, got a single heart kiss-emoji back. Alright then... feelsbadman.jpg
To explain my situation more clearly: this is the girl I had FWB and then wanted to date yada yada. On Thursday we decided to meet today at daytime. Then on Thursday night she went out with her friends, and then late at night half-drunk she texted me and asked to come over. She came and spent the night, was a great time. Then on Saturday she changed our meet today to be at night and I was like okay. Then today she says she's too stressed out, and then the exchange above. Now she's going home for Christmas and New years, will be back a few days after that.
I'm just so not sure where we are, the problem being that I'm not sure if she only wants to have sex and cuddle or if she wants more like I do. I wanted to ask her when we met today where we stand, but now that opportunity is gone and I feel weird doing it over text.
How do I play this situation? Just chit chat bi-daily or something while she's gone, or less frequently? Or stay silent and wait for her to talk to me while she's gone? Am I thinking about this too much?
You are not going to like this, but as most thing related with women, this will sound completely counterproductive:
She has to make this relationship exclusive.
I have been in this situation a twice, where I've wanted to make a FWB situation an exclusive thing. One worked, the other didn't. What you must do is, give the level of attention that this relationship's classification demands. In other words, do NOT actively text, do NOT actively purse sexy times with her, do NOT listen to her problems if she comes to you. There's a good reason for this: she's getting the benefits of a friend (emotional support), the benefits of a boyfriend (sex, intimacy), with none of the sacrifices: monogamy.
What you must do, is deprive her of these benefits. After all, this is a NSA situation. You must have or at least show that other girls want you two have, too. She should either know or feel this is the case. She will only agree to being exclusive to you only you if she feels she can't lose you. Right now she doesn't feel that, because she knows this situation is as beneficial (if not more) to you as it is to her.
So if you walk a girl home, do you ask her to come inside or do you just wait for her to invite you?
You must be specific. Your home? Or hers? For the former, invite her home to do something non-sexual. Do not invite her for a drink; unless she's giving you indicators (such as making out in front of your apartment!), there's no need to be that direct. Instead use: "You should see my XX collection" or "I have an adorable puddle, would you like to meet him? If he likes you, I'll take you on a 2nd date.", then grab her hand and take her upstairs. Do not ask. Hopefully by this point in the date, you two are conformable with non-sexual touching (if you don't know what I mean by this, let me know and I'll explain).
If it's the latter, what I do is I say: "Do you mind if I come up for a glass of water? My throat is killing me." I go up, make small talk and point out anything interesting at her place. If she has photos of her family, even better; you'll get closer to her than you would on a 3rd date. 10-15 min later, when time is right, I initiate contact. If that's to risky for you, then try a variation of the above. Anchor it back to something you may have said on the date. So if she likes a particular band say: "Man, I still can't believe you like the same band XX. Do you have a collection of XX at home?" Easy.
It can be easier to find people while in college, but online dating helps to make up for the possible missing social aspect after you leave college.
And also, I feel that the clock is really ticking now, I don't really have the luxury of time to wait around not dating right now. 
