That kind of makes my point. If she likes you, then it isn't going to matter. I've had the same thing happen to me on several occasions. I just see too many guys overthinking small things like this that really don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Either she likes you or she doesn't, and there's very little that you're going to be able to do to change her mind if she doesn't.
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That kind of makes my point. If she likes you, then it isn't going to matter. I've had the same thing happen to me on several occasions. I just see too many guys overthinking small things like this that really don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Either she likes you or she doesn't, and there's very little that you're going to be able to do to change her mind if she doesn't.
Gotdatmoney
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A date is just spending time with someone and getting to know them. Why is your mind wandering? Just be yourself. You aren't trying to sell yourself, you're just trying to see if you enjoy talking and spending time with that person.
I dunno why people assume "I have a date" means "I gotta impress the shit outta this person". It means, "let's try and have a good time". just like, focus on fun and enjoyment.
radioactivez0r
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A lot of the women you meet are just as neurotic, insecure, and lacking in confidence as you; they just hide it better. They aren't sitting in their inlaid throne fending off suitors lined up out the door. They have goals and hopes and dreams and the most you can hope for is that some of those line up with yours. So go in knowing that nobody is perfect, that she probably picks her nose once in a while when nobody is looking, she isn't always graceful and sometimes in the morning she isn't the most beautiful thing in the world, and enjoy her company as a person who you find interesting.
I don't know where this came from. I've been with the same girl for a year as of last Saturday and I can't imagine life without her now. She's crazy in all the right ways and makes me so happy.
Gotdatmoney
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If only people knew how true this was. Yes the dating field is slanted in the woman's favor BUT if you have ever interacted with a girl in your life you should already be aware that they are just as nervous and self conscious as men because they are still people (gasp)
This is why I love the app Jodel that is getting more and more popular in Sweden. It's an anonymous message board where you see messages within 10 km (with only one sub board) where you can up and down-vote reddit style. People regularly sign with whether they're male or female, and let me tell you, there are just as many girls woeing over why that guy isn't texting back or if they're fat or if this guy likes them or how they should approach that hot guy or... Well you get the picture. Many, if not all, of the questions I've seen in this thread have appeared on that app in some shape or form. That's why I love the app - you get a perspective of girls you don't get through blogs or instagram or whatever, where everything is filtered. The app is completely unfiltered as it's anonymous.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Do you want to know how I know women so well? I think of a man, and I take away reason, and accountability.
If this is actually how you view women then I got bad news for you.
EDIT: Alright. I hope you don't pull those references on dates lol
Jason's Ultimatum
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Go dehumanize elsewhere, please.
Guys, I'm kidding. Watch the YT clip. Jesus. I don't pull the DENNIS system on women, either.
Since we've agreed to a second date, we've been continued with being playful via texting. I'm joking about how I'm going to up my game for how I'll dress. She asked how she should dress.Me being serious, I told her dress however you want since you seem to dress nice anyway. She said well maybe she should wear a dress. I told told her that I'd like to see.
She replied back, "Well, you can
". I told her good, can't wait.I'm beginning to realize I'm using online dating as a replacement for actually meeting someone in person since I rarely go out to bars and such unless it's with a particular friend of mine, a woman I can't tell if she wants me or not. We would've had sex if I had a condom but I didn't (I've learned my lesson and always carry at least one condom with me wherever I go).
I was at a bar the other night and was talking with these two girls. Not that I was only talking with them to hook up with either of them, but they we had a quite interesting conversation and I felt we could've talked more if this one college bro didn't show up out of nowhere and scare one girl away.
I'm not someone to go up and talk with someone unless we're doing the same activity or happen to be in close quarters. Though, again, I will admit I do like the idea of meeting someone in person and having a natural conversation with them and being naturally interested in them as opposed to thinking I should be trying to get this girl's number because gender roles.
ON THE CURRENT TOPIC ABOUT WOMEN: IMO, women have to deal with far many assholes in the dating game than men do. The shit guys to do to women is ridiculous.
I was at a bar the other night and was talking with these two girls. Not that I was only talking with them to hook up with either of them, but they we had a quite interesting conversation and I felt we could've talked more if this one college bro didn't show up out of nowhere and scare one girl away.
I'm not someone to go up and talk with someone unless we're doing the same activity or happen to be in close quarters. Though, again, I will admit I do like the idea of meeting someone in person and having a natural conversation with them and being naturally interested in them as opposed to thinking I should be trying to get this girl's number because gender roles.
ON THE CURRENT TOPIC ABOUT WOMEN: IMO, women have to deal with far many assholes in the dating game than men do. The shit guys to do to women is ridiculous.
Sorry guy, but it came off poorly. e.g. If you made that line link to the YT clip, it would have come off less as a save-face attempt after you said something that can get misconstrued without the direct reference.
Jason's Ultimatum
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My bad, the wall. I really wasn't being serious. You've helped me out with a lot of advice, and I'll continue to read your advice among others here.
No problem. I appreciate being able to be in here too and the feedback. Nothing personal. I just read that line and, well, you know my initial response. XD
I'd message again. I have no qualms with messaging girls on tinder twice. More often then not, the girls I message twice go on dates with me. And if they don't respond? Who cares. Just some random girl on the Internet.
I've had good and bad experiences messaging twice when an interested girl on tinder stops responding. Sometimes they get busy and just forget. Expressing and showing interest doesn't hurt at all.
With real life people/interactions it's different. With online dating there is nothing to lose. A lot of people in this thread may disagree with me.
It also, of course, depends on the messages you send and how you come off. Perception means a lot. Don't be creepy or pushy. I have a laid back attitude and I make sure it shows via words.
BladeoftheImmortal
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How long were you with this Emily?
BladeoftheImmortal
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But you have a guy on here that wants what you wanted...I don't think you actually have made peace with it otherwise you wouldn't be interested in dating gaf.I already said--I have zero expectations and have made my peace with the fact that I will never have a partner.
But that's obviously not what you want, so
Why don't you and mikedip PM each other. It's not like it's going to hurt either of you if nothing comes of it.
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She postponed our date, likely until next week when she's home from being out of the country, because she picked up a bug at work. She doesn't want to pass it on, because my family is susceptible.
You should go bowling anyways!
Deserted Maniac Island
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I want your advice.
So, I recently started college, and I don't know a lot people. And theres a party near valentines day, with like a meet your "love" thing, I'm not sure if I should go, would going alone be weird?
So, I recently started college, and I don't know a lot people. And theres a party near valentines day, with like a meet your "love" thing, I'm not sure if I should go, would going alone be weird?
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I should, to practice. However, I'm not one to go out much and wouldn't want to go alone.
She apologized, but I understand and there's no hard feelings.
BladeoftheImmortal
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It is if you try. Won't hurt either of you to chat will it?That's not how it works mate
ZackieChan
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That's not how it works mate
How does it work, then?
Sounds like it's the kind of thing you're supposed to be going to alone. Do you have any friends at school yet?
3 dates. Third one involved her male roommate showing up unexpectedly and bailing her out. If Emily is who I'm thinking of.
That was my first thought as well, you wouldn't be here if you had truly made peace with it. You might be able to accept it and lead your life, but if you're posting in this thread some part of you still wants more.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Yup about a month we dated.
I got way too clingy. She felt uncomfortable especially when she asked my intentions for the night. I think I PM'd you the story, blade.
2nd date Sunday with a girl I got along with really well. Going to go see a movie as she's coming off of work and does not want to do anything high energy. Hopefully date goes well, however it is in danger of being cancelled due to London tube strikes :/.
On the last page you guys were talking about kissing and I've gotten feed back in the last that I'm a boring kisser.
I'm essentially really conservative with kissing I try not to use tounge at all as when I was a teenager a crush told me I'm a terrible kisser ever since then I mainly do little kisses on the lips. Now is this the right approach? What makes a good kiss? This is really bothering me as maybe I'm lacking passion or something
On the last page you guys were talking about kissing and I've gotten feed back in the last that I'm a boring kisser.
I'm essentially really conservative with kissing I try not to use tounge at all as when I was a teenager a crush told me I'm a terrible kisser ever since then I mainly do little kisses on the lips. Now is this the right approach? What makes a good kiss? This is really bothering me as maybe I'm lacking passion or something
Jason's Ultimatum
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Practice on your hand. Or your dog if you have one.
Kurt Angle
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I'm suck on their lips
Depends on what you and your partner like. Wouldn't say there is a wrong way or right way. Do what feels good. I like biting lips and sucking on tongues and shit like that, definitely not everyone does. Just work with your partner in all things physical. Do what makes you both feel good.
ZackieChan
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I find it hot when a girl wants me to teach her to kiss. I wonder if girls feel the same about guys like OP. Watch some American movies with kissing, OP. See how it's done. I try to keep the closed mouth to open mouth ratio at about 5:3.
That's not how it works mate
Wait is there a try at a GAF relationship thing going on now? Don't date GAFFers, they're all crazy
And what if you two break up and one takes the other's information to Detective GAF
The horror
I'm joking but I doubt anything's gonna come of this anyway
I've been out on a date with this girl three times. The second and third times I went to her house and we had sex both times. What I found interesting was that each time she didn't let me stay. Before we went to her house she said if I would be ok staying only for a couple of hours and I said yes.
Yesterday I asked her to spend a valentines weekend on a winery and she said she can't stay overnight but is happy to spend Valentine's Day with me at a winery. I found that a bit strange and this got me wondering what are her feelings for me.
I'm seeing her on Friday and I would like to ask what are her feelings towards me but I don't know if that's a good idea and if I should just keep it casual . I imagine most girls who've slept twice with a guy would have some kind of feelings towards him.
I've only known her for ten days for now. I have feelings towards her and want to ask her if we should see each other only and if that's too early to stay it.
Yesterday I asked her to spend a valentines weekend on a winery and she said she can't stay overnight but is happy to spend Valentine's Day with me at a winery. I found that a bit strange and this got me wondering what are her feelings for me.
I'm seeing her on Friday and I would like to ask what are her feelings towards me but I don't know if that's a good idea and if I should just keep it casual . I imagine most girls who've slept twice with a guy would have some kind of feelings towards him.
I've only known her for ten days for now. I have feelings towards her and want to ask her if we should see each other only and if that's too early to stay it.
Deserted Maniac Island
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... Not yet, or at least not close enough to go to a part with. The thing that I'm afraid of is going there being alone, while everyone else knows each other, but I'm not if they actually do.
ZackieChan
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Slow down there, buddy.
Maybe she has a husband at home or something?
Did school just start or something? Why don't you know anyone yet? If so, there's gotta be others. And even if everyone else knows each other, you gotta put yourself out there or nothing will happen.
I spoke to so many beautiful women today. Best was a computer science student from waterloo. Working as a cashier and studying cs is awesome
Get numbers at all? CS has lots of hot women?
Never thought of a ratio while kissing. I would say mine is 13:7.
Just go.
College is a time for you to get out your comfort zone.
Last thing you want is when you finish college and regretting things because you didn't do them.
Deserted Maniac Island
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I started in the winter semester, which was about 4 weeks ago, plus I don't live in the dorms. I'll definitely try to be more proactive about this stuff.
ZackieChan
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Science, yo. Too much tongue is gross. Kiss a little, then open up. Kiss a little, then open up, then bite a lip and retreat. Move to the neck for a bit. etc, etc.
Nope she is single.
Anyone here ever dated a girl with a kid? I matched with a really good looking girl, but she has a preschool aged kid. She mentioned that she is free every other weekend, so I take it the father is in the picture.
I'm gonna go on a date with a mom. Never thought that would happen in my 20's.
If it sucks you can just leave, so why not?
I'm gonna go on a date with a mom. Never thought that would happen in my 20's.
If it sucks you can just leave, so why not?
Your Entertainer
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As someone else in his 20s, Absolutely wouldn't date a single mom. Have heard lots of bad stories from friends.
Why is there biting involved
Yeah I totally get that. I imagine it requires a strong appreciation of boundaries from both sides.
I think the only reason I decided to pursue it is because one of my best friends knows her, and he said she was cool.
Wasn't the case in my Computer Science major. There were all of 10 women in the entire program. Every CS major knew the name of every girl they had a CS class with.
Did once. The kid wasn't the issue...he just impacted when she'd be available for dates. The big problem was the reason why she was a single mother. Having your husband cheat on you while you're pregnant with a kid gives you trust issues.
Because biting is awesome.
Recently, but I didn't know she was a mom until after the fact.
I was having a kind of bad day, didn't realize I was starting to feel anxious. I have been texting someone for a little bit that seemed to be interested in me. I felt we had a good back-and-forth. We had decided on meeting but we're waiting a few days to decide on the specifics because he was busy with something else.
I had coffee and around the same time, he texted me and I had a panic attack and text bombed him about something personal because I had become comfortable talking with him (about why I am hard on myself and push myself to over achieve). Our conversations and his way towards me actually made me smile. I immediately apologized, said I didn't know what came over me at the end of the text bomb, and that I understood if he wouldn't want to stay in touch, etc.
He went silent after the text bomb obviously, and I don't know if it's because he's busy or never wants to interact with me again (since we've been talking, we have always had a good back and forth until this).
I could be over thinking or I may have mucked this up. It's too bad if so- I felt like there was definitely potential to develop a friendship and we both liked talking to one another.
/sigh
I had coffee and around the same time, he texted me and I had a panic attack and text bombed him about something personal because I had become comfortable talking with him (about why I am hard on myself and push myself to over achieve). Our conversations and his way towards me actually made me smile. I immediately apologized, said I didn't know what came over me at the end of the text bomb, and that I understood if he wouldn't want to stay in touch, etc.
He went silent after the text bomb obviously, and I don't know if it's because he's busy or never wants to interact with me again (since we've been talking, we have always had a good back and forth until this).
I could be over thinking or I may have mucked this up. It's too bad if so- I felt like there was definitely potential to develop a friendship and we both liked talking to one another.
/sigh
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