Autocorrect can be a bitch on some phones and default to exactly what you DON'T want grammatically if you text pretty fast and don't catch it running amok. Just a thought.
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Autocorrect can be a bitch on some phones and default to exactly what you DON'T want grammatically if you text pretty fast and don't catch it running amok. Just a thought.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Sucks for you and I went through that already.
But it varies really. If a girl likes to text back a lot, laughs, and enjoys your conversation, then fucking continue on. If she hardly texts back, but have made plans already, then lay off the texting and wait for the date.
But it varies really. If a girl likes to text back a lot, laughs, and enjoys your conversation, then fucking continue on. If she hardly texts back, but have made plans already, then lay off the texting and wait for the date.
Jason's Ultimatum
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So I'm texting with the girl, her boss made her work Saturday, plus stay an extra 30 minutes. She said i will be up for a drink.
I said, with who? I told her I was joking and I'd be down.
Edit-now she said she may do the 90s party with her girls that she originally planned for yesterday.
Oh well. Guess there's our second date for Monday.
I said, with who? I told her I was joking and I'd be down.
Edit-now she said she may do the 90s party with her girls that she originally planned for yesterday.
Oh well. Guess there's our second date for Monday.
I guess. I didn't get that vibe, but can be hard to tell over text.
1) Someone's texting style can misrepresent them as a person. One of my friends is incredibly smart and a doctor, but she still texts like teenager lol
2) If you're willing/somewhat interested, just ask her out simply but directly. Don't beat around the bush. That's how you gain experience - DOING. Not overanalyzing things in your head.
Yeah, for sure. She probably just got used to the back and forth.
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1) Someone's texting style can misrepresent them as a person. One of my friends is incredibly smart and a doctor, but she still texts like teenager lol
2) If you're willing/somewhat interested, just ask her out simply but directly. Don't beat around the bush. That's how you gain experience - DOING. Not overanalyzing things in your head.
But...but...overanalyzing is my best talent.
(I will do that, though. It will possibly depend on tomorrow, though.)
Jason's Ultimatum
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So we were going to go out tonight, but when she got home she felt like crashing and popping in a movie. She sent me a pic of her lying down in her work pants.
So I said, "are those your work pants?"
She replied with "Hi" followed by "yup" "they're blue scrubs"
I texted "hi?"
She said "autocorrect".
Trying to figure out what was autocorrected to hi, or I'm just being paranoid. She still wants to see me Monday.
So I said, "are those your work pants?"
She replied with "Hi" followed by "yup" "they're blue scrubs"
I texted "hi?"
She said "autocorrect".
Trying to figure out what was autocorrected to hi, or I'm just being paranoid. She still wants to see me Monday.
BladeoftheImmortal
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Because you should have said, sexy
Reply with "lol! What was autocorrected? 😏😉🙈👯👯👯"
Then send her a follow up like this "I don't want no scrubs. A scrub is a girl that can't get no love from me. So take them off and try again 😋"
The emojis are the most important part.
That's an interesting definition of friend-zone I've never heard before, much less anyone use in that way.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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Yep, I've never heard that definition in my life.
Why do I feel as though that was the original definition, before it changed or took on new meaning over the years?
ZackieChan
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Never heard it
I always say go as cheap as possible when starting out. Take a walk. Easy and free. If you like her and don't wanna be seen as cheap then stop in for coffee while you walk. No dinners or anything else expensive the first few times you meet.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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Nah, it came from the Ladder Theory, which suggests women have two ladders: dates and friends, and once you're a friend, you're likely stuck there.
In my opinion, it's a sexist way to rationalize why a woman just doesn't like a dude by blaming her for not choosing him.
I first heard of the friend zone from Friends way in the early seasons before they hooked up
Ross wanted to date Rachel and Rachel wanted to date Ross but due to them being in the same circle Rachel being Monica (Rosses sister) best friend made things too awkward for them to date.
its comparable to dating a friends ex, even if you both like eachover it would just make things socially awkward with that friend.
This is the original friend zone, not this she only sees me as a friend stuff.
I've never heard this. Think I'll bow out of this now, as I can see I have always had a flawed understanding of this concept.
BladeoftheImmortal
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Yea, go for walks or stick to coffee on first dates. I also like to have the girl pay for at least one activity. So if you are saying dinner and a movie. Then I'd pay for dinner, she'd pay the movie.
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I wish this girl wanted to go for a walk, but the movies and Burger King next door it is.
Jason's Ultimatum
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I stole it from you, lol. Sorry. I told her I came up with something clever but it was too late. Posted what you said. Hour and a half later she replies with:
Hmm 🙃🙉
And you gotta a picture without scrubs right?
Lots of great cheap dates. Picnics and parks are fun.
Advocatus Diaboli
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For me? About $50, I'd say, if it's going well. That's two rounds of drinks each, along with some food -- maybe some gelato? -- on the backend.
ZackieChan
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Baller status.
Advocatus Diaboli
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Expensive city, mostly. What about you?
BladeoftheImmortal
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Ask her to pay for the BK or the movie.
User 479360
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She's broke. Said she'd pay half next time.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Nope lol. She got mad when I told I'm trying to DENNIS her before we met.
BladeoftheImmortal
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Why would you do that? I can't take you seriously, bro.
ZackieChan
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Now I'm in Oaxaca, Mexico. It's cheap as hell here, but I don't speak enough Spanish to strike up convos with ladies. And Tinder, etc. is almost nonexistent. Oh well.
I try to keep stage 1 of a date under $5-10. If things are escalating, I'll spend more. I usually live in cheap places, though!
Smh. You self-destructive bastard
Isn't this your first date with this girl? Did you suggest movies or did she? Movies are terrible early date ideas. Get to spend ~$14 minimum to sit next to someone, without getting to know them at all.
Jason's Ultimatum
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OCD didnt you create a thread about using coupons to a movie date?
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Are you a joke poster?
Jason's Ultimatum
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Calm down. We're really playful with each other, and she initially laughed when I posted the pic. Before we were about to meet, I joked about which side shed see of me, because she mentioned about geminis having two different sides.
I guess more context should've been added. I've done a pretty good job so far with this girl when it comes texting and being in damage control due to sending stupid messages.
Advocatus Diaboli
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Yeah, that's impossible to do here. Cocktails are anywhere from $7-10, basically. I can cut and run after one drink, obviously, but if it's two, then it's expensive. Now, when I pick up the tab, 75% of the time the girl picks up the next round or picks up Phase II. It's just how DC is, I suspect.
However, you seriously don't want to be talking about how you're going to split the check prior to the date itself, especially when we're talking, you know, something as inexpensive as fast food.
Still the best thing about dating in China for me. Take a girl on the back of my moped/scooter thing. It's fun to ride plus she has to sit close, has to lean in to my ear, wrap her arms around me, etc. Also it means can't venture too far away from my home in case things do go well it's easy to head that way. Also can take her to see the river, a park, etc. I recommend everyone buy a moped.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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OK
You said she got mad in response to you saying the DENNIS system but you're all just really playful? People don't actually get angry if it's a playful comment but sure, you didn't explain it well enough.
Met a girl last week and we hit it off. Hung out a few times and she stayed over a couple nights. Then she went cold on Thursday. Not sure what happened, and she doesn't seem interested in talking about it.
I think it's fucked.
I think it's fucked.
ZackieChan
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Sorry to hear it. Luckily you're a fancy attorney. Harvey Spector-like.
Wish I could drive a moped. I just meet at the mall and eat a $10 meal with them or $5 coffee/tea. Bangkok is cool for dating.
So you split one coffee at Starbucks? Dem outrageous prices.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Well we were being playful. I guess she didn't like it after the second time.
Anyway that was two weeks ago, and pointiess to continue arguing. Yeah might've been stupid in hindsight. But she's obviously excited to see me again for Monday, even saying now I get to see her in a dress.
ZackieChan
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Only suckers go to Starbucks.
Wait someone posed the question of splitting the bill at Burger King? On a date!?!
Where do you live?!
Had a second date with Heather Graham's doppelgänger. Honesty it's crazy/uncanny
Went to:
Little Pine in Silver Lake. It's a vegan spot run by Moby and is wonderful. We had great conversation and okay chemistry.
Went to UCB Sunset and saw a funny show about sex stories. Lots of sex talk, touching, etc.
Had a nightcap at The Know Where (used to live on the same block). Made out, good convo. She got affectionate. Ended the night making out.
Taking it slow and steady. So far so good.
Where do you live?!
Had a second date with Heather Graham's doppelgänger. Honesty it's crazy/uncanny
Went to:
Little Pine in Silver Lake. It's a vegan spot run by Moby and is wonderful. We had great conversation and okay chemistry.
Went to UCB Sunset and saw a funny show about sex stories. Lots of sex talk, touching, etc.
Had a nightcap at The Know Where (used to live on the same block). Made out, good convo. She got affectionate. Ended the night making out.
Taking it slow and steady. So far so good.
Follow up, saw her today and she kissed me after I walked her to her car. While walking she wrapped her arm around mine too. She was flirting through text afterwards.
And I've concluded that I'm just really not into her at all. :/ Didn't feel right. I guess I gotta worry about letting her down easy now.
SneakersSO
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So, for the last few years, getting into really heavy social settings just hasn't been all too frequent, due to a variety of factors. However, most recently, many of those have been eased up, which culminated in today, which was a pretty fun day overall. I went out with two friends, and our goal was to pretty much talk to/meet some girls. Now, about a decade ago, my social skills when it came to meeting new girls was immaculate. Since I really haven't been active out in the field in many, many years, I decided that I need to sharpen up my game, especially after today.
So, let's go with two of the noteworthy interactions today. I'd really like some ideas as to how to just get out of my own head and find a way to talk to these girls. Also, i'd like to see if I was even reading the situation correctly; again, i've been out of it for awhile, so who knows if I know what i'm even talking about anymore.
Notable Encounter 1: So, I wind up at this party/bar in the early afternoon today, for an event going on in my local city. Me & my friends show up and we grab a few drinks and walk out in this larger area. We're just kinda talking, making comments about the event and the music being played, etc. So, I get the feeling someone is looking at me from the corner of my eye. I look right, and I see a girl looking me dead in the eye. Once I catch her eye, a smile starts creeping across her face, which causes me to start smiling, then we both look away. I catch her looking at me a few more times, all with the same result. Now, in my mind, I know that its a given that I should find a way to talk to this girl.
She's super cute, and seems very approachable. She had a female friend with her, so I figured the coast was clear. And yet, I couldn't. I found myself in the endless thought cycle of 'how would I even approach her? What would I say? How do I even physically approach her? Directly? Wouldn't that come off as too confrontational?" Before I knew it, 30 mins had passed, and out the door this girl & her friend go. Actually, I feel like once she realized I was probably not going to come over there, she started looking less & less at me.
Notable Encounter 2: At the end of the night, I had out to a bar that a few acquaintances of mine would be playing at tonight (they're in a cover band). I was by myself, and was only there to show support to the group. Its a nice, fancy bar/restaurant, and there are plenty of people there, but its all just people eating, no one really 'mingling'. I had zero intent to look for anyone really, as drinking during the day had really taken its toll on me at this point in the night. So, as the band starts playing, and everyone is focusing up front at the band, I once again feel like someone is looking at me. I look left, and there is a really cute girl that is a food/drink runner, and she is looking me dead in the eyes. Once again, the same cycle of I catch her looking, a smile starts creeping across her face, which causes me to smile. And again, this repeated about 3 more times in the course of 10 minutes, until she got pulled over to do her job.
Now, in my mind, I was already remembering the missed opportunity from earlier, and was already prepared to chastise myself if I let this one slip away too. And yet again, I froze up. Same endless thought cycle of "How do I approach her? I don't want to embarrass her at work. What would I even say?" I actually ended up having to leave, but I was relieved I left before this girl made the mental note that I was probably too chicken-shit to act on the attraction.
So, what could I have done in these situations? And am I even reading them correctly?
So, let's go with two of the noteworthy interactions today. I'd really like some ideas as to how to just get out of my own head and find a way to talk to these girls. Also, i'd like to see if I was even reading the situation correctly; again, i've been out of it for awhile, so who knows if I know what i'm even talking about anymore.
Notable Encounter 1: So, I wind up at this party/bar in the early afternoon today, for an event going on in my local city. Me & my friends show up and we grab a few drinks and walk out in this larger area. We're just kinda talking, making comments about the event and the music being played, etc. So, I get the feeling someone is looking at me from the corner of my eye. I look right, and I see a girl looking me dead in the eye. Once I catch her eye, a smile starts creeping across her face, which causes me to start smiling, then we both look away. I catch her looking at me a few more times, all with the same result. Now, in my mind, I know that its a given that I should find a way to talk to this girl.
She's super cute, and seems very approachable. She had a female friend with her, so I figured the coast was clear. And yet, I couldn't. I found myself in the endless thought cycle of 'how would I even approach her? What would I say? How do I even physically approach her? Directly? Wouldn't that come off as too confrontational?" Before I knew it, 30 mins had passed, and out the door this girl & her friend go. Actually, I feel like once she realized I was probably not going to come over there, she started looking less & less at me.
Notable Encounter 2: At the end of the night, I had out to a bar that a few acquaintances of mine would be playing at tonight (they're in a cover band). I was by myself, and was only there to show support to the group. Its a nice, fancy bar/restaurant, and there are plenty of people there, but its all just people eating, no one really 'mingling'. I had zero intent to look for anyone really, as drinking during the day had really taken its toll on me at this point in the night. So, as the band starts playing, and everyone is focusing up front at the band, I once again feel like someone is looking at me. I look left, and there is a really cute girl that is a food/drink runner, and she is looking me dead in the eyes. Once again, the same cycle of I catch her looking, a smile starts creeping across her face, which causes me to smile. And again, this repeated about 3 more times in the course of 10 minutes, until she got pulled over to do her job.
Now, in my mind, I was already remembering the missed opportunity from earlier, and was already prepared to chastise myself if I let this one slip away too. And yet again, I froze up. Same endless thought cycle of "How do I approach her? I don't want to embarrass her at work. What would I even say?" I actually ended up having to leave, but I was relieved I left before this girl made the mental note that I was probably too chicken-shit to act on the attraction.
So, what could I have done in these situations? And am I even reading them correctly?
User 479360
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She did, not I
I asked her what she wanted to do, and her ideas were dinner, coffee or a movie, and she decided on going to see Pride, Prejudice and Zombies. She doesn't like the idea of the guy paying, so she wants to pay half next time, but is broke now.
I don't really mind. I'm just cheap and don't have much of an income right now so it bugs me to spend. I've spent a lot as of late.
It'll be $9.99/person, then whatever we get a Burger King.
Yeah. I actually have some coupons for free movies which I was hoarding. I don't know if I'll use them today or not, because they're good for the more expensive AVX shows.
Re: SneakersSO (on mobile and snipping that long post is annoying)
Assuming that story is being told as is and those two women were both staring at you and into you, in response to you asking what you could have done? Talk to them. Theres not much we can do to physically make you talk to people- if you think you have a chance, go for it.
Your worst case scenario is they reject you or say they aren't interested in talking to you, which puts you at the same place as if you never went up to them.
Hence, the clear choice is to say hi and see where it goes :3
Assuming that story is being told as is and those two women were both staring at you and into you, in response to you asking what you could have done? Talk to them. Theres not much we can do to physically make you talk to people- if you think you have a chance, go for it.
Your worst case scenario is they reject you or say they aren't interested in talking to you, which puts you at the same place as if you never went up to them.
Hence, the clear choice is to say hi and see where it goes :3
EraldoCoil
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I never post in here but figured I'd share my story.
I started talking to an awesome girl online over a month or two ago. Super cool, pretty, and sweet. We've been on about 9 or 10 dates now and everything is going great. We have superbowl party tomorrow, and a concert on Thursday, probably will squeeze in a dinner Monday after work too. She invites me places, meeting her friends,she's met some of mine and I'm just really happy I met her...holding hands down the street or her wrapping her arms around me and walking always makes me smile.
We never had a "talk" but we're just letting things flow and in no rush to put labels on things even though we aren't seeing other people.
I guess the point of this is just to let everyone know not to give up....you'll probably go through a ton of bad dates until you find that one person you click with...just takes time but I know all of you can find that one special person in time.
I started talking to an awesome girl online over a month or two ago. Super cool, pretty, and sweet. We've been on about 9 or 10 dates now and everything is going great. We have superbowl party tomorrow, and a concert on Thursday, probably will squeeze in a dinner Monday after work too. She invites me places, meeting her friends,she's met some of mine and I'm just really happy I met her...holding hands down the street or her wrapping her arms around me and walking always makes me smile.
We never had a "talk" but we're just letting things flow and in no rush to put labels on things even though we aren't seeing other people.
I guess the point of this is just to let everyone know not to give up....you'll probably go through a ton of bad dates until you find that one person you click with...just takes time but I know all of you can find that one special person in time.
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