Miles Quaritch
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Now hold on, she might take the not eating popcorn as a sign that he won't eat the booty later on.
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hydrophilic attack
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Seems not to be. Real talk: Every time I come into this thread I see you obsessing over someone. If the girls pick up on it too, you're in trouble
My first post in this thread!
I wouldn't worry about missing kissing opportunities, a lot of my friends who are teachers have issues with marking school work in the evenings so her being busy and tired isn't too surprising.
I'd say you're doing ok and go for something simple like a nice meal for Valentine's day, just buy her some chocolates or flowers (not too much, this'll only be your fourth date!) and let the night take you to wherever it leads.
I wouldn't worry about missing kissing opportunities, a lot of my friends who are teachers have issues with marking school work in the evenings so her being busy and tired isn't too surprising.
I'd say you're doing ok and go for something simple like a nice meal for Valentine's day, just buy her some chocolates or flowers (not too much, this'll only be your fourth date!) and let the night take you to wherever it leads.
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I honestly don't disagree at all. I know I've said I love movie dates in the past, but this one was awkward because we went to the movies, and did so first. Coffee was suggested but I left it up to her.
I asked her if she wanted to drive to a coffee shop, but she figured Burger King was fine since it was ten feet away.
I'm overthinking again. I'll admit, I did worry about this during the movie.
Haha
I don't really want to eat any booty. That's kind of gross. I've never even done oral as it scares me.
ZackieChan
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Breh
oh lawd
Bruce Springsteen
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You're right. She's a former runway model, she quit to become a successful illustrator. Personality fits like a glove, I think I will be legit heart broken if I get friend zoned, date 2 on Wednesday, let's see if I can land a non cheek kiss
ZackieChan
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Give her what OCDChewie has been denying her
Gotdatmoney
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Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Sort of reminds me of an ex who wouldn't french kiss because she thought it was gross. Always wondered what she was ever going to do if she started looking for a serious relationship.
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I've never really had much of a chance, though. I mean, I've only had sex a few times and it never came up.
do u even foreplay bro?
n64coder
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Just go for a kiss instead of a hug at the end of the date. I never had an issue getting a kiss unless the chemistry just wasn't there.
There are plenty of stuff you can do for a date. Just have to be creative.
What about ice skating, snow shoeing, x-c skiing, downhill skiing, snow tubing, art museum, pool hall, etc. You might have a weekend entertainment type paper that might lists the stuff that is happening at clubs/music halls that might be of interest to you.
When you're cuddling on the couch next time, pull her closer to you, look in her eyes, and give a kiss. If she doesn't react positively to it, then you have your answer. You can move on. It's better to know your status sooner than later.
Oh my god. You are missing a seriously amazing experience my man. Oral that is.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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...it's supposed to come up.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Or come out....the poop that is.
Eating booty? Nah.. You're not missing much.
Go down on her the good old way. So many women enjoy it, don't be nervous on your first time, and tell them you haven't done it.
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It just scares the hell out of me OCD-wise and taste wise.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Well she won't be ready by 8. I knew this would happen. She said she's sorry. I told her we push it to Friday and do something else tonight like grab a drink. She said she thinks she's good on drinking aleady. I asked her what about a walk? She said well she's hungry and she still has to stop by the bank.
I told her I didn't eat dinner either and we can grab a bite someplace. We'd have a good time, but it's up to you.
I feel like I'm being pushy. I'm gonna stop if she just feels like not doing anything with me. I'll reconfirm for Friday again if she doesn't want to do anything tonight.
I told her I didn't eat dinner either and we can grab a bite someplace. We'd have a good time, but it's up to you.
I feel like I'm being pushy. I'm gonna stop if she just feels like not doing anything with me. I'll reconfirm for Friday again if she doesn't want to do anything tonight.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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If she's not offering counter-suggestions and meet times, why are you bothering?
Jason's Ultimatum
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Yeah, this was suppose to be our second meet up. Last Monday when I told her I'd take her dinner, and it's be a surprise, she was excited. The next day she said she had a surprise for me. I made a joke and she said she found a case of CDs from the 90s/early 2000s. We both shared. Common interest in that era of music.
She as willing to go out this past Friday still I eat, but I told her by the time she's ready and we get there we won't have much time.
I told her I'd love to see her in a dress when she asked how she should dress. She said well I can.
We generally text each other throughout the day, but now I'm thinking I should stop. :-/
I really hate these conflicting signs.
Yeah you should've done one suggestion and then let her reply and then nothing more. If she felt a need she would've continued the conversation.
Sounds like she's not too interested man. Sorry 😔
Jason's Ultimatum
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This sucks. I've been on quite a few dates since Emily, and I finally meet someone cool and share a lot of the same interests, and now it's looking to go downhill again.
thoseAREmySHOES
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Thanks for the responses so far, guys.
Yeah, the bolded is one of my fears here. Maybe just dinner/bowling could work fine, but I also don't want to bore her. But I'm probably just over-thinking it.
I was thinking of just a small bouquet. The last thing I want to do after she's made it clear she doesn't like big, stereotypical romantic gestures is to show up with a big box of chocolates and a huge overpriced bouquet of flowers, haha.
This was my plan on Friday, but I just got cold feet. And then I planned to leave with a kiss instead of a hug in the morning, but it just didn't feel right with her having just woken up a few minutes prior.
Oh well, I'll give it a shot on the next date.
Yeah, the bolded is one of my fears here. Maybe just dinner/bowling could work fine, but I also don't want to bore her. But I'm probably just over-thinking it.
I was thinking of just a small bouquet. The last thing I want to do after she's made it clear she doesn't like big, stereotypical romantic gestures is to show up with a big box of chocolates and a huge overpriced bouquet of flowers, haha.
This was my plan on Friday, but I just got cold feet. And then I planned to leave with a kiss instead of a hug in the morning, but it just didn't feel right with her having just woken up a few minutes prior.
Oh well, I'll give it a shot on the next date.
wanderingprostheyltite
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Try not to be hard on yourself man, it happens. Had a similar experience recently, connected with a gal on just one date and had one of the best mental and physical connections I'd had with someone in years (for a first meet anyway), next day it was kind of obvious she wasn't as into it as I was. Once you pick up that scent best to move on and not let it bother you, a lot better for you mentally.
Jason's Ultimatum
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It just hurts. Like I said awhile ago, I'm going to be 34 in June. I've been in the dating scene again, and I sucks to connect with someone and it fizzles away. I'm not saying any girl I connect with will be my future wife or planning shit in my head, I'm getting old. I don't want to wait too long before I'm one of those 60 year old dads who's kids just graduated from high school. This never bothered me when i was in my 20s.
I feel lethargic and depressed now. I knew she was going to flake on me.
Don't count on her but don't count her out. Maybe wait until Wednesday and see if she texts you.
davidwhangchoi
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nah man, feel good about yourself! 34 is young for a guy, you got plenty of time =)
wanderingprostheyltite
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Seriously, there's plenty of legit middle aged peeps out there looking too, the age thing shouldn't be a reason to be down on yourself.
Jason's Ultimatum
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If she doesn't reply back about grabbing a bite someplace else then why bother? She'd be ignoring my suggestion.
Lone_Prodigy
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Reading Jason's posts is exhausting me.
PflargBlarg
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Can we just review the rules again or something?
1. If a girl doesn't make time for you, she's not interested.
2. If she doesn't suggest backup times she's not interested.
3. Being 'busy' is almost never a legitimate reason. She's not interested.
1. If a girl doesn't make time for you, she's not interested.
2. If she doesn't suggest backup times she's not interested.
3. Being 'busy' is almost never a legitimate reason. She's not interested.
Dunno about you guys, but I'm quite enjoying seeing Jason constantly spazzing out. He's a pretty good looking guy, so if he's having trouble with the womenfolk, it makes me feel a lot better in regards to my own problems.
Also, lay off OCDChewie. Eating ass if fucking disgusting.
Also, lay off OCDChewie. Eating ass if fucking disgusting.
Your Entertainer
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Pretty much. At the very least, you're almost certain to waste way, way less of your time and effort if you follow the above.
I thought the same thing for a while. I'm a new convert.
This should be in the op.
Honestly, this used to bother the hell out of me, but then I realized I do the exact same thing to someone I'm not interested in, and now I don't feel so bad anymore.
Fun fact, I hate saliva very, very much so I don't french kiss my boyfriend that much. Like saliva legit grosses me out.
I make up for it in other ways.
There are solutions to minor problems if the two of you can work around it, or y'all talk about it.
However, Chewie being afraid of all types of oral is a little... much. Don't knock it until you at least tried it bro! Or use your hands or something. I dunno.
*Disclaimer - I'm not of the booty eating fan club.
neurosisxeno
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The headline for that list should just be; "When people are interested, they make time for you."
User 479360
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I used to shower for an hour every time I touched bodily fluids. I've gotten that down to about 30 minutes or less, but it's still something that bugs me. I'll try to push past it.
Thank you
It's like people don't know what comes out of there.
Thank you
It's like people don't know what comes out of there.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Well we met up. She said she got out and headed to the bank. I told we can still grab a bite, and it'd be fun. She asked where to go and joked and said it better be good to eat lol. She suggested sushi. Soho sushi which was the place I was going to take her.
She's a picky eater apparently. I dunno if we're still meeting up later
She's a picky eater apparently. I dunno if we're still meeting up later
In this case, would you say a little bit of chase and attention could change her mind or should we just walk away from such a situation?
Advocatus Diaboli
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You are being pushy. There's something to be said for giving people breathing space and allowing things to develop naturally. Why does it matter when she's ready? The right move was to tell her it's totally all right, that you understand work -- adulting's hard, man -- and you're happy to see her. Then, act like it's not a big deal, because it's not a big deal. Also, none of those rapid-fire suggestions.
I don't see conflicting signs. She's agreeing to go out with you. That is a single sign. Also, you shouldn't text so much throughout the day. Texting is, quite frankly, your downfall; I counsel you to simply be an infrequent texter, as it's going to save you a lot of headaches and heartaches. I think I lost something in your autocorrect, but: you told her by the time she's ready and you all get there, you won't have much time for what? Were you waiting on a show? There's plenty of things for you to do if your dinner's abbreviated. You could, for instance, go for that walk you mentioned; or you could leave it for next time.
So, basically, you were worried about nothing. Or wait, I'm confused. You both are texting about where she's going to eat tonight, but you're not actually meeting up? Just give it a rest for now.
I feel like he lives up to his username with the women he's dating.
4. Put down the damn cell phone. Go distract yourself with something else while you're waiting for a response.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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That's true, I shouldn't assume more since it could just be that one thing that grosses someone out. She didn't really have much experience so didn't really make up for it so to speak.
wanderingprostheyltite
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I'd say it works for some, but if a girl isn't making time or trying to make it happen in the present give it a buffer of 1-2 weeks and try hitting them up then. If no dice then it's dead.
ZackieChan
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Jason, maybe you should be more flexible? Sounds like all of this trouble was surrounding the fact that you were dead set on going to this particular sushi restaurant. You had built it up with the surprise talk, and all that. Had you not done any of that, and chilled the fuck out for your second date, all stress would have been avoided.
"Text me when you get off work and we will meet up"
Done. No micromanagement of schedules, etc. Just go with the flow.
Again, the fact that you have 20 posts ITT about this particular date should tell you something. Get a grip, son!
"Text me when you get off work and we will meet up"
Done. No micromanagement of schedules, etc. Just go with the flow.
Again, the fact that you have 20 posts ITT about this particular date should tell you something. Get a grip, son!
The irony.
Haha probably for the better, men's butts are gross.
In other news, finally got a date for tomorrow with a super cutie on OKC. It's funny how I wrote her like last week and she checked me out days before she wrote me today. I figured she wouldn't write back.
Maybe one day I will. I am only 5 months out of my long relationship so still dealing with all those feelings. We still hangout and text a lot. IDK, we have a lot of fun when we hang out and really enjoy being around each other. I think the reasons she broke up with me are bullshit. I have told her my feelings, but school is trying to murder her right now so I doubt she has time to think about it.
In the mean time I will continue to enjoy dating, but I think I would get turned off if/when things start to get serious with another girl.
Jason's Ultimatum
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Yeah I know.
I don't know. It's funny because I'm glad we met tonight, but it's hard to gauge her interest, especially when she's talking about getting her life on track and back on the dating scene.
After we leave and walk to her car, we hug, kinda stand their awkward. I then ask her if she ever figured out my eye color. Should've told her to look closer with a smile, and go for the kiss.
Anyway we hugged again and a quick kiss on the lips.
So I dunno. When I'm playful face to face with her, for example her bringing up my sign and me saying how were compatible, and we have that going on for us, she kinda gives a little smile but not in a playful or teasing way if you get what I'm trying to say.
So I dunno.
I don't know. It's funny because I'm glad we met tonight, but it's hard to gauge her interest, especially when she's talking about getting her life on track and back on the dating scene.
After we leave and walk to her car, we hug, kinda stand their awkward. I then ask her if she ever figured out my eye color. Should've told her to look closer with a smile, and go for the kiss.
Anyway we hugged again and a quick kiss on the lips.
So I dunno. When I'm playful face to face with her, for example her bringing up my sign and me saying how were compatible, and we have that going on for us, she kinda gives a little smile but not in a playful or teasing way if you get what I'm trying to say.
So I dunno.
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