Banjo-Kazooie
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I'm currently talking and hanging out with three girls myself. It's a big time commitment but I'm having fun learning more about them and just embracing single life dating in all its glory
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.I'm currently talking and hanging out with three girls myself. It's a big time commitment but I'm having fun learning more about them and just embracing single life dating in all its glory
I have a hard time! I'm super loyal so it feels like I'm not being faithful even when there's no commitment of any kind. But I guess it'll be nice to step outside my comfort zone in this way.
ZackieChan
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I'm currently talking and hanging out with three girls myself. It's a big time commitment but I'm having fun learning more about them and just embracing single life dating in all its glory
That was my experience a few months back. It was exhausting, but amazing.
Dylan Sexbang
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My female friend worried she might be the type that gets attached quickly and stuck easily. She invited me over again when I get off work. This going too fast and too unusual for my dumbass. I'm used to even friendships going slow. Took me a year to hangout with my old coworkers.
EchoChamber
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If you go to her house just insert the tip
Dylan Sexbang
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I'll just start quoting NSP lyrics and see where that gets me.
But seriously. Ain't too worried about the age, and ain't thirsty enough to risk- wait in Colorado she's legal. 17 is the age. Just googled it. What do I got to lose now?
My friend and his future wife have been together since he was 18 and she was 15, 5 years later. They're slaying the whole relationship thing. But I have no idea what I want.
But seriously. Ain't too worried about the age, and ain't thirsty enough to risk- wait in Colorado she's legal. 17 is the age. Just googled it. What do I got to lose now?
My friend and his future wife have been together since he was 18 and she was 15, 5 years later. They're slaying the whole relationship thing. But I have no idea what I want.
Dylan Sexbang
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I ain't that dumb just yet. And she's moving as soon In a couple weeks. But, I'm a cheeseball prude. Definitely won't be banging now. But would be willing to see if this is cool or if I need to back out. I can keep it in my pants.
Banjo-Kazooie
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Believe me I'm right there with you. Even though I shouldn't I always have a part of me that feels bad or "guilty". However I've also been trying to broaden my horizons and do things I normally wouldn't so I figure why not. I've made it very clear that I'm single and just going with the flow, so each girl knows where I'm at so it shouldn't come as a shock if we ever stop moving forward.
Ya I'm really having a good time. Just kinda dreading the eventual letdown if I choose to be with just one down the line. But it's happened to me plenty of times on the other end so
Just trying to have fun while continuing to work on myself and experience life. I'm 26 so this is the time to do it!
ZackieChan
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Age of consent isn't always absolute - there could be a range where it's OK, but older is not. Don't know the law there.
However, statutory rape IS absolute (strict liability, to be precise).
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BladeoftheImmortal
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Look up age of consent laws where u live.
A guy named Mr. Sexbang is a prude? lol
ZackieChan
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Yeah, been scratching my head about that one.
Honestly, sometimes it's easier to get to know people you want to sleep with than when making friends.
War Peaceman
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So he's a prude by necessity, not by choice.
Krauser Kat
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This killed me at work this morning.
Dont go see the 17 yr old in person. It will lead to bad things.
Messofanego
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Need some quick advice. I went out with a girl on Sunday morning, texted her on Sunday night, and never got a reply since then. Is it worth shooting her another text to see what's up or should I just delete her number and move on? I feel like I've been ghosted although I do it to girls as well so it's fair game.
Nothing wrong with sending another text just to see how things go. I'd just straight up ask her out again, no reason to beat around the bush. If she doesn't reply within a day or two, move on.
Was the text a question or just a it was nice meeting you statement? If it was something she really didn't need to respond to, no harm in trying again.
Banjo-Kazooie
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I think you know the answer
. It takes less than a minute to read a text and reply if you truly want to, and like you said you know the game 
peanutbutterlatte
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To hell with him, greedy bastard!
Krauser Kat
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im going to ask her out for drinks or dinner tonight. I hope this works. It would be nice to meet someone and date from real life for a change. it usually ends up better.
I did meet a really awesome gamer chick yesterday though and the date was awesome and her good night kiss was great but her texts are slow today so i assume her work is just crazy busy (school social worker).
Im feeling good. my 30th is next week and all my dating options are looking up.
I did meet a really awesome gamer chick yesterday though and the date was awesome and her good night kiss was great but her texts are slow today so i assume her work is just crazy busy (school social worker).
Im feeling good. my 30th is next week and all my dating options are looking up.
Hello, I'd like some advice.
Yesterday I finally managed to talk the girl I was into, we even went for lunch together, I thought it was going well, we were going to sat in the grass and eat...when her friends showed up and started talking... it just makes me uncomfortable talking to someone I'm interested in when there's other people around like that, especially when there's a guy...
So is there a good way to deal with that kind of situation? I think I'm starting to get comfortable enough to talk to someone alone, but around other people? I'm not quite there yet...
edit; I didnt have a bad time to be clear, I managed to have a nice conversation with them I think, just that it wasn't necessarily the kind of conversation I wanted...
Yesterday I finally managed to talk the girl I was into, we even went for lunch together, I thought it was going well, we were going to sat in the grass and eat...when her friends showed up and started talking... it just makes me uncomfortable talking to someone I'm interested in when there's other people around like that, especially when there's a guy...
So is there a good way to deal with that kind of situation? I think I'm starting to get comfortable enough to talk to someone alone, but around other people? I'm not quite there yet...
edit; I didnt have a bad time to be clear, I managed to have a nice conversation with them I think, just that it wasn't necessarily the kind of conversation I wanted...
Eh, just ask new people questions about themselves. Everyone likes talking about themselves and it makes you seem friendly.
Well that's what I did ^^
Well then I'm sure you came across just fine to her friends, even if internally it felt uncomfortable for you. Fake it till you make it, and all that.
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Jpop
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So the girl I have been talking to for a few weeks really dropped a bomb on me last Friday.
I asked how class went, and I find out someone died who was a brother to her. She's been devastated since then.
I told her I am her if she needs anything and also, "People who we are close to help temper our mind, hearts, and bodies so when they are gone we are left as a living legacy of who they were."
I feel like there is something I should do, I know I can't do anything though, but be there if she needs someone to talk to or keep her mind focused. So every day or so I ask her how she is doing.
I can't remember the last time I felt so helpless.
I asked how class went, and I find out someone died who was a brother to her. She's been devastated since then.
I told her I am her if she needs anything and also, "People who we are close to help temper our mind, hearts, and bodies so when they are gone we are left as a living legacy of who they were."
I feel like there is something I should do, I know I can't do anything though, but be there if she needs someone to talk to or keep her mind focused. So every day or so I ask her how she is doing.
I can't remember the last time I felt so helpless.
nintendork666
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You rephrased this a bit more casually I presume, right?
Cringe. Also, you shouldn't be asking her how she's doing every day, after someone's she's close to has died. You're more than likely just reminding her about it everyday when she's trying to keep her mind off it and move on. Tell her you're sorry for her loss, and if she needs someone to talk to you're there for her, and drop it.
Is this someone you are "talking" with online?
If so, to be blunt, she's being with her real friends right now, not online chat buddies.
You already made it clear that you will be there for her, chill out with the messages/texts for a while.
And, again, to be blunt, if this is someone you are just interacting with online/text, you are way too invested. It's good to feel empathy for people, but you should not be depressed over someone that you don't know dying affecting someone you haven't met in real life.
If so, to be blunt, she's being with her real friends right now, not online chat buddies.
You already made it clear that you will be there for her, chill out with the messages/texts for a while.
And, again, to be blunt, if this is someone you are just interacting with online/text, you are way too invested. It's good to feel empathy for people, but you should not be depressed over someone that you don't know dying affecting someone you haven't met in real life.
SmellyHoundRedux
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So has anyone ever been blacklisted from okcupid?
2 weeks ago, I was getting a lot of spam "see my cam" emails. They were the same exact emails, just different profiles, that would get deleted after a few hours. So I got one of these and cut and pasted what was sent to me about 20 times over and over to this spam profile, then I reported them.
During this time I was having a real conversation with a woman who just stopped responding. She even asked me a few days later if she said something to upset me, which I responded to, she never responded back. It was weird but people on the internet are weird.
Over the next 2 weeks I noticed that no one was viewing my profile. Like no one, again, not the best looking guy but whatever. Last night, I made a fake profile and tried to search for my profile, nothing. I live in a fairly small town and am a bit older than the average okcupider, but still couldn't find it. So I took my real profile, found the fake one and emailed it. Never got it. It shows up in my real profile's sent, but not in my fake profile.
They basically blacklisted that profile (the spam one is still there) and never told me. I could see this happening if I never logged out, but I did, several times, even disabled my profile. Those assholes basically just ruined a conversation/potential date with a woman because I spammed a spammer. I haven't made a new profile yet (finals week) but I don't even know if I can/or should.
2 weeks ago, I was getting a lot of spam "see my cam" emails. They were the same exact emails, just different profiles, that would get deleted after a few hours. So I got one of these and cut and pasted what was sent to me about 20 times over and over to this spam profile, then I reported them.
During this time I was having a real conversation with a woman who just stopped responding. She even asked me a few days later if she said something to upset me, which I responded to, she never responded back. It was weird but people on the internet are weird.
Over the next 2 weeks I noticed that no one was viewing my profile. Like no one, again, not the best looking guy but whatever. Last night, I made a fake profile and tried to search for my profile, nothing. I live in a fairly small town and am a bit older than the average okcupider, but still couldn't find it. So I took my real profile, found the fake one and emailed it. Never got it. It shows up in my real profile's sent, but not in my fake profile.
They basically blacklisted that profile (the spam one is still there) and never told me. I could see this happening if I never logged out, but I did, several times, even disabled my profile. Those assholes basically just ruined a conversation/potential date with a woman because I spammed a spammer. I haven't made a new profile yet (finals week) but I don't even know if I can/or should.
Krauser Kat
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me and the cute girl at drawing totally hit it off last night again.
She had to leave early and i didnt want to bail on my drawing. She seemed interested in going to see civil war if a group was going. I might get another chance to ask her before next thursday. -crosses fingers-
She had to leave early and i didnt want to bail on my drawing. She seemed interested in going to see civil war if a group was going. I might get another chance to ask her before next thursday. -crosses fingers-
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Have people had success with coffee meets bagel? The terrible suggestions and how few they give you per day seem pointless. Seems like it's impossible to match with how stingy they are with likes and matching.
ZackieChan
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I have met some great girls, and some not so great ones. I think each match is supposed to be a more momentous occasion than a tinder match.
Lone_Prodigy
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Email support?
Need more details. Did you stop messaging her, or did she? If someone disappeared for a month and wanted to re-establish contact I would ignore them as I've already moved on.
If you had a legitimate excuse (finals, work, but you should never be too busy to send off a quick message) then it's worth a shot, but don't expect anything.
It's supposed to be more "picky" in that they curate a daily match for you. That said, I ran out of matches in a few weeks (was getting girls outside my age range). I matched with two people and met both. One of them I'm dating. So I'd say it works.
Been studying plus depression. tbh I don't even know if I should be trying to date if I'm depressed.
So I went on take 2 of that first date from last week. (The one where I was 2 min late for, so she bounced.) It went incredibly well! We get along nicely, she laughs at my silliness and seems genuinely pleased and enthused about me. The only problem is on me: I don't find her particularly attractive (a little heavier than I thought she would be).
It's tough to find someone who is that ideal combination of looks and personality. I'm attracted to her personality and genuinely enjoy communicating with her. I've encountered a similar situation last year but there was enough of a mismatch to just pass but this time seems to be a little more difficult to parse. I'm not asking what to do -- I'm just gonna ride this out and see where it goes in the short term -- but I wouldn't mind some comments on this predicament.
It's tough to find someone who is that ideal combination of looks and personality. I'm attracted to her personality and genuinely enjoy communicating with her. I've encountered a similar situation last year but there was enough of a mismatch to just pass but this time seems to be a little more difficult to parse. I'm not asking what to do -- I'm just gonna ride this out and see where it goes in the short term -- but I wouldn't mind some comments on this predicament.
I don't see the harm in doing so but don't get your hopes up in expecting a reply. Been thinking of doing the same myself in another week or two with a girl who fell off with me since she got super busy with school.
I just downloaded the app the other day and have been chatting with a nerdy Hispanic girl who lives in my area for the past 2 days. Closing in on a date with her. Got matched with another girl too. I agree that it's really stingy wigh the bagels/using points to unlock matches. Otherwise, it's solid. I never really gave it a chance in the past. With Bumble, you're pretty much swiping right forever to get matches and even then, girls tend to fall off with replying.
It seems that I've got a gauntlet of dates lined up next week but my wallet is still recovering from the money I spent in Boston what with trying to sell stuff. Pray for my wallet guys. Trying to keep it at 2 dates a week and cheap.
n64coder
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If you enjoy her company, then continue to go out and have fun. If you're not attractive to her because of her weight, then there's nothing you can do about it.
Keep in mind that people can lose/gain weight. There's nothing to prevent someone from packing on the pounds as time goes on. Witness my brother-in-law who was a gym nut and super strong guy and 15 years later, he's got a massive potbelly that disgusts my sister-in-law.
Advocatus Diaboli
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All true. But don't date her hoping that she'll lose weight. That's her choice to make, and she could be very happy with how she looks. You're attracted to whomever you're attracted to.
If you don't want to date an overweight person, then don't -- it's really okay, and you can't force attraction that doesn't exist.
If it's serious depression, not really. Dating someone isn't going to make it magically go away, and it's selfish to think so or to use someone (even unconsciously) as your therapist/crutch/support system. You couldn't even be bothered to message someone back; how would you make a relationship (even a casual one) work?
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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I don't know, the people it's matching me to were just really weird so I get 6 matches and none of them are even close to what I'm looking for. So maybe the matches are more meaningful but I've had it for 4 days and the ones they give you suck and their pricing system is so out of whack that it's not even conceivable to do the discovery thing.
Lone_Prodigy
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I think they do try to get you to pay. I remember my daily matches were nice, but "average" girls, while the discovery options were more attractive and successful. The girl I'm dating now was one of the discovery ones.
There's also the possibility that your area is too small or your details and interests are too ambiguous.
peanutbutterlatte
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Hahaahaha literally every girl I'm talking to goes silent once I ask to meet up
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I hate my life
I hate when that happens. It's very frustrating, especially if you've been talking a while.
How exactly are you asking them to meet up? Are you being specific? In my experience I have much more success when I ask "Do you want to meet on Tuesday at 6pm in front of Local Coffee Shop?" instead of "Would you like to meet up sometime?"
Even with that though, some girls will just vanish once asked.
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