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[Psychoward]

People of all ages get drunk and say stupid shit. Not an excuse, its just the way it is.

I know but I was just replying to that comment. I just had an ex that would become bitchy when drunk and it was hell on earth and she would constantly use the excuse that she was drunk the next morning. I'd get fed up with that and it wasn't even as bad as OP's situation. Eventually you have to learn to take responsibility for your actions, especially when they're hurting the one you love. Meh.

 

[SanguineShark]

Wow you are way too old to be taking it to heart this much, fights happen and people say dumb shit especially when drunk.

Yeah, I wonder if you would be saying this with the genders reversed.

That's some blatant disrespect. Being drunk does not make it okay.

 

[GifGafIsTheBestGaf]

Um yeah, Im not ashamed to admit three hours of alcohol fucks me up. Why is this a thing?

nah just asking, i kinda feel your pain then, shits sucks getting old.

 

[InfiniteBento]

Wonder why they call you bitch?

Daaamn son

 

[Maddocks]

Damn, party with 20 people and they heard her call you bitch all night? and all you did was say,"stooooop" After bitch number 3 you walk away and tell the host you had a great time thanks for the hospitality and leave.

 

[ScatheZombie]

Your reaction makes me think she might be right though.

 

[Hoho for breakfast]

How about some context? Why did she call you a bitch multiple times? And why didn't you fuck her anyway?

I mean I dont know. My gf used to hit me when I was like 17. Finally I was just like wtf if you ever touch me again we're done...and she never did it again. And now we've been married for over a decade. So...I don't know.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

If OP was a girl and a guy was saying and doing those things, I feel some of you would be piping a different tune.

 

[the-pi-guy]

I'd just wait to see what she is like tomorrow.

Sounds like it's unusual for her, and probably just drunk.

I would just talk to her about it tomorrow, or whenever she is in her right mind.

Otherwise, I guess you probably just want to let stuff out. Sorry.

 

[StriKeVillain]

That sucks. I don't take disrespect well in my relationships, so I wouldn't tolerate it.

Just remember: In vino, veritas.

 

[Jon Carter]

If she was incredible up to this point, maybe give her more chances? Everybody makes mistakes when they're drunk.

 

[LiveFromKyoto]

Wow you are way too old to be taking it to heart this much, fights happen and people say dumb shit especially when drunk.

There is no age at which your woman disrespecting you like in front of others starts to feel fine. If a woman I was dating did this to me I would totally have it out with her. That bullshit's never cool from either party, whether you're 15 or 50.

 

[atr0cious]

You're old enough to know what you want in a relationship, and no that shit isn't cool. If you've been together a long time and want to stick through it, talk to them. If it's still a relatively short relationship, sever now.

 

[SanguineShark]

If OP was a girl and a guy was saying and doing those things, I feel some of you would be piping a different tune.

Yup, what I just said. No way they would. Op shouldn't have to put up with it.

 

[wanderingprostheyltite]

If you can't handle fem Jesse I'll take her off your hands op

But seriously that girl might be cray, just watch out for repeated behavior and if she keeps pulling this shit and won't stop after having a discussion (!) about it, move on.

 

[ExVicis]

She's also way too old to get away with the "I'm drunk" excuse. If it's a fight and she's sorry about it later then they can work it out I guess but being drunk doesn't give you the right to shit on your SO.

My girlfriend is 28, sweetest girl ever but goddamn when she's drunk she's...not abusive, just almost a different person after a bit. Most put-together person ever but post-drinking she'll be the first to want more drink and go for straight liquor while tripping all over the place and all number of embarrassing things I shouldn't go into. Yet somber? Quiet, rarely says anything, always worries about saying the wrong thing or not being sociable enough, completely responsible that she'll be upset if she's late by literally a minute to anything including meet a friend somewhere. Being drunk isn't an excuse...but it's just honestly the way some things are.

If OP was a girl and a guy was saying and doing those things, I feel some of you would be piping a different tune.

I try very hard to be neutral in all matters so I wouldn't know but it's possible.

 

[nhlducks35]

If OP was a girl and a guy was saying and doing those things, I feel some of you would be piping a different tune.

Of course, everyone would be saying "dump his ass"

 

[InfiniteBento]

Just talk to her when she is sober OP.

It's not okay what so ever but drinking fucks people up in different ways and some of those ways are definitely not pleasant.

 

[GhostWriter24]

Wonder why they call you bitch?

Yup, what I just said. No way they would. Op shouldn't have to put up with it.

She was fine the whole night, we hugged. We kissed. She came into the bathroom when I wanted to pee and immediately called me out within seconds. I was blindsided.

I mean, Idk what's normal but fuck all I wanted to do was go.

 

[j0hnnix]

Well... As long as she didn't slap you and pull your hair........ You can wait and talk with her in the morning about it. If she doesn't care move on. You're young.

 

[GhostWriter24]

You can wait and talk with her in the morning about it. If she doesn't care move on. You're young.

I'm done.

 

[shira]

Thought BR would be Baskin Robbins, leaving disappointed.

^

 

[newtypepilot]

woah just wait a minute here.... you turned down sex in the bathroom??

 

[NormalFish]

I will never understand why people are so willing to give folks a pass for doing mean shit when they're drunk. Unless they've never gotten hammered, they have a responsibility to drink less if they're an aggressive drunk.

 

[StriKeVillain]

She was fine the whole night, we hugged. We kissed. She came into the bathroom when I wanted to pee and immediately called me out within seconds. I was blindsided.

I mean, Idk what's normal but fuck all I wanted to do was go.

Hmm... interesting.

I guess the real question here is: Well, are you?

 

[David Incorporated Esq.]

Yeah that'll be a fun talk you two have tomorrow.

 

[Stoze]

She was fine the whole night, we hugged. We kissed. She came into the bathroom when I wanted to pee and immediately called me out within seconds. I was blindsided.

I mean, Idk what's normal but fuck all I wanted to do was go.

I mean if this is the first time she's done something like this, just talk to her about it when she's sober and tell her how disrespectful she was being.

 

[BeforeU]

lol that was random as hell OP.

first she calls you bitch multiple time, then asks you to fuck her.

alright.

 

[j0hnnix]

I'm done.

Ah. Well that's that. I agree with it not being fair to you.

 

[ExVicis]

I'm done.

You did say you were drinking and this clearly sounds like a decision you should come to sober. It will honestly not hurt anything to sleep on it.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

Never seen an angry drunk, guess they do exist.

 

[OniBarubary]

I'll ask again, how long have you been going out? Has anything like this happened before? Does she have a history of abuse or illness or anything?

These are important questions and dropping someone you really like at the drop of a hat over an unexplained incident seems incredibly knee-jerk and shortsighted.

If you've been going out for like 3 weeks then yeah, maybe it's not fucking worth it but if we're talking any decent length of time and this is the first time something like this is happening you're taking it way too hard when you don't have any idea WHY it happened.

 

[SuperStiltzkin]

Your reaction makes me think she might be right though.

If she was a guy talking shit to his girlfriend, you'd be calling her an asshole. The whole mentality of "guys should be tougher emotionally than women because they are physically bigger" is what let's people think they can get away with emotional abuse of their partners.

I'm not saying she is emotionally abusing him. But the fact that the initial reaction is to say that the OP is doing something wrong for not "manning up" is some serious bullshit. There's no sufficient evidence either way.

 

[arts&crafts]

lol that was random as hell OP.

first she calls you bitch multiple time, then asks you to fuck her.

alright.

 

[j0hnnix]

lol that was random as hell OP.

first she calls you bitch multiple time, then asks you to fuck her.

alright.

You know.. My ex when she was a little "tipsy" she liked it rough. So... Maybe shes that way?

 

[Beefy]

So many posters just taking the piss out of the OP.

 

[jaekeem]

Talk to her sober.

If she's anything less than completely and unequivocally apologetic my advice is to dump her on the spot and to tell her to go fuck herself.

 

[Kinitari]

Nah, even if she's drunk, she's a grown ass woman. I would not expect to be forgiven for acting like that toward my SO, it would have been insane for me to act like that. Don't coddle her, and you're allowed to feel extremely upset with this.

Edit: like, it's at a party, in front of friends, and she's showing you so much disrespect. Can you guys imagine how your SO would feel if you treated them like that in front of friends?

 

[zeemumu]

Ready for what?

Transformation central.

 

[Brazil]

That sounds rough, OP.

Wonder why they call you bitch?

This sounds rougher.

 

[whatsinaname]

I've always thought "drunk people do stupid things"/"drunk people are not themselves" is such a lame excuse. Does being drunk make them a completely different person? Is that aspect still not a part of them?

 

[ishibear]

If OP was a girl and a guy was saying and doing those things, I feel some of you would be piping a different tune.

This.

That's terrible OP. You definitely don't deserve that. Drunk or not, that's despicable behavior and there's no excuse for it. You should wipe your hands of her.

 

[jaekeem]

Damn, party with 20 people and they heard her call you bitch all night? and all you did was say,"stooooop" After bitch number 3 you walk away and tell the host you had a great time thanks for the hospitality and leave.

Imagine if the genders were reversed, and it was an angry/drunk man berating his girlfriend with derogatory insults. Even once is too fucking far to excuse or look past. I would take her home to sleep it off, or just flat-out leave the party if she refused.

 

[ExVicis]

So many posters just taking the piss out of the OP.

To be fair, it's not enough to go on beyond "she's drunk and I've 'been drinking' she said some things I found hurtful, demanded sex and now I'm done". In all honesty this sounds not major at all and sounds like a sleep on it, morning after discussion, upon which at that point OP can say "I'm willing to give this another shot because you're not normally like this" OR OP can say "I didn't appreciate that and I'm not willing to give a second chance! I'm done with you and the relationship!"

Edit: like, it's at a party, in front of friends, and she's showing you so much disrespect. Can you guys imagine how your SO would feel if you treated them like that in front of friends?

Eh. But then again I wouldn't expect it because my SO is far too timid to even call me a bitch once, let alone multiple times. That's just not the way our relationship works though.

 

[Stoze]

I'm done.

Your choice, but if everything was going swimmingly up until this point, I don't see why you would let a few hours of your SO being an awful drunk for the first time ruin the entire relationship.

You had a shitty night. Just sleep on it, give a serious talk to her in the morning. edit: Assuming that's what you mean by "I'm done." Like the rest of what you posted, there's not really enough information to provide a meaningful contribution to the problem.

 

[MRrogermoore]

How old are you?

This "how old are you" comments are incredibly annoying.

 

[ScatheZombie]

If she was a guy talking shit to his girlfriend, you'd be calling her an asshole. The whole mentality of "guys should be tougher emotionally than women because they are physically bigger" is what let's people think they can get away with emotional abuse of their partners.

I'm not saying she is emotionally abusing him. But the fact that the initial reaction is to say that the OP is doing something wrong for not "manning up" is some serious bullshit. There's no sufficient evidence either way.

LOL. She's drunk. He's drunk. Up until this moment she's been 'incredible'. OP is super passive aggressive, spewing his one-sided relationship nonsense on Neogaf to get people to support his knee-jerk decision to dump his SO after seemingly one major fight.

Flipping the genders doesn't change any of that.

 

[cr_blah_blah]

I've always thought "drunk people do stupid things"/"drunk people are not themselves" is such a lame excuse. Does being drunk make them a completely different person? Is that aspect still not a part of them?

If anything, your drunken state is the purest version of yourself.

 

[GhostWriter24]

So many posters just taking the piss out of the OP.

It's fine, I ignore the bullshit. Also, my GF was fucked up. I drank but I'm at least capable of reading and understanding GAF posts.

 

[psynergylover]

~Nyoooooooooo!!! She wasn't ready!!!!