Tertullian
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Don't you dare abandon this thread OP, we need a blow-by-blow of your convo in the morning.
My GF called me bitch 3x then came into BR and when I wasnt ready said "Fuck You"
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GameAddict411
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Just because she is drunk doesn't give her an excuse to belittle her boyfriend. The fact that the OP and his GF are in their mid twenties says a lot about the whole situation. When a person hit's 25, a lot is expected of them. The first things is taking responsibility when they fuck up, and secondly... be a freakin adult and stop getting wasted? I mean it's really embarrassing to get that drunk at any age.
The OP should seriously talk to her when she sobers up and maybe put some thresholds to what is acceptable. If she is crosses that line again, maybe it's time to move on? That's what I would do.
The OP should seriously talk to her when she sobers up and maybe put some thresholds to what is acceptable. If she is crosses that line again, maybe it's time to move on? That's what I would do.
FinalStageBoss
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She sounds like a huge bitch, good luck with that OP
Common Knowledge
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As someone who's lurked around Neogaf long before joining, the difference in attitude of the replies to relationship treads about a guy doing something shitty vs. a girl doing something shitty is mind-boggling. Just three pages in and we got numerous jokes about the OP's ability to handle situations, numerous "she was just drunk" excuses, and even a not-so-sublte jab at his masculinity for not wanting to have sex with the girl!
Let's see what else we can check off the list.
Let's see what else we can check off the list.
Haha jesus christ, this is like /r/relationships don't tell me what to do with my girlfriend, we have a normal relationship, we fight occasionally, especially when she is drunk (like, once every 6 months) because I have anxiety and I hate the loss of control so I get annoyed, we call each other names then we apologise and are friends again, I don't need to post on GAF and say I am done after one argument where someone said "fuck you"
I'd like to contribute that while he's in here on Gaf she's out there trying to see which one of his friends will giver her the D?
OP, you're pissed, and you're drunk. Talk to her about it tomorrow, if you're still angry don't hold back, and go ahead and end it. She was acting outside of your bounds, and if that's the case, people have been dropped for a lot less.
Head of Vengarl
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This thread is a mistake.
Effigenius
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I dated a girl like that, gorgeous, a model, actually. I decided to not take it personally and have my fun for a while and then get out. That's my advice.
SuperStiltzkin
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Why can't you get hard all the time OP? I jerk off to porn three times a day! I've got mad stamina bro!
Mammoth Jones
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Sounds like she can't handle her alcohol. I don't associate with angry/aggressive drunks. Too old for that shit.
Personally unless you are really committed to spending the rest of your life with this person I'd tell em to go pound sand and move on.
Name calling and silly shit then blame it on the booze? Nah.
Personally unless you are really committed to spending the rest of your life with this person I'd tell em to go pound sand and move on.
Name calling and silly shit then blame it on the booze? Nah.
I fight with my live in partner of 4 years as well, and not once have we resorted to calling each other names, and she swears like a sailor. If you're being belittled and taking it, or the opposite, you've got issues, sorry. I say that as someone with ptsd and a host of other mental issues.
ScatheZombie
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Like 99% of GAF relationship threads end up with us learning 10 pages in that the OP is just as big of a <insert derogatory word> as their SO and is just grasping for unwarranted attention and pity.
Even if OP is in the 1%, he still needs to sober up and talk to SO instead of a bunch of 'professional relationship experts' on the internet; who are mostly either going to insult him or create an echo chamber of reinforcing whatever bad decision he's about to make.
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Common Knowledge
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*Nevermind, misread post*
Right? I just can't ever see myself being with someone who acts like this, drunk or not, unless there were some serious extenuating circumstances and the relationship was otherwise great. I know we don't have the whole story here, but i couldn't dream of belittling my boyfriend like that, especially in front of friends. Then she tops it off with demanding sex and getting pissed it doesn't happen.
I know people do and say stupid things drunk, but this raises some flags, especially if the relationship is young.
*shrug* I'm just trying to help you check off gaf boxes
that's a good one
Common Knowledge
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Yeah, I got that afterwards haha. I'm an idiot.
Morrigan Stark
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Oh well thank you doctor, I will be sure to come to you for further advice.. hahahaha people have different relationships, you having mental illness doesn't give anything you say more authority on the situation, I grew up around domestic abuse and violence and have a plethora of mental illness' myself, I know it when I see it, my girlfriend and I say dumb stuff while angry and we love each other unconditionally, we have lived together for 2 years, we are happier than most couple I know, heaven forbid we call each other names while angry and then make up later, shock horror, I know.
DizzyCaffeine
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OP, you don't deserve to be treated like that, even if she was drunk. This is a major red flag. You know what to do.
Yeah. No matter how angry or frustrated I got, I NEVER had it enter into my head to ever call my ex gf something like bitch. That's just wild to me. Especially not in public, jesus christ. And then demanding sex.
Like what the fuck? It's just such an abjectly fucked up level of disrespect; being drunk is not an excuse, and if inebriation leads to that kind of behavior on any level then that person needs to curtail their drinking for good.
If you're attacking the person you loves character, you have to wonder if they doubt you actually do love then.
You see OP, before you're 25 absolutely anything goes. But the moment her birthday arrived, things changed. Whereas once she called you pet names like "my little hamburglar" and "coq au vin", now she's just an abusive drunk whose pet names aren't nearly as affectionate. The same thing happened to a woman I know, and she is a Lieutenant Governor.
I guess what I'm saying is, let's see where this rollercoaster takes us.
I guess what I'm saying is, let's see where this rollercoaster takes us.
nah you brought up a good point, no worries ;P
and yeah I think that's part of the bottom line OP, when people get like this when they lose control, they usually don't do those things that put them in this kind of state. I know people who don't drink, and when they don't want to talk about it, I don't press them, because if someone says they have to guard themselves, they're probably not kidding. That she is like that and still puts herself close to the edge says something, and if that's not something you like in a person...well
but right now your feelings are hurt and you're shocked, so...handle it tomorrow, lets play some video games, dude.
OP specifically says before tonight he thought she was incredible
GAF = she got stupid drunk and acted like a bitch? but before that the relationship was great and she acts nothing like that when sober?
fuck talking to her OP ditch her hire a facebook delete the gym hit up the lawyer!
red flag? sure
no one deserves to be treated like that? sure
might she have a drinking problem she could be aware of and fucked up when in an altered state? also sure.
GAF = she got stupid drunk and acted like a bitch? but before that the relationship was great and she acts nothing like that when sober?
fuck talking to her OP ditch her hire a facebook delete the gym hit up the lawyer!
red flag? sure
no one deserves to be treated like that? sure
might she have a drinking problem she could be aware of and fucked up when in an altered state? also sure.
It depends. Some people are happy drunks, some people are angry drunks. It's not like everyone results to insulting their loved ones, but it's not like that really means anything either.
Are you saying that he is a bitch who should go fuck himself? Also drunk people lie all the time, what are you talking about.
Calling someone a bitch and saying Fuck You is not attacking their character, jesus christ you are overreacting, do you live in Ned Flanders world? The only fucked up thing was doing it in front of people and the sex bit but everything else is way too dramatic. You can try to act like every relationship is Ned and Maude Flanders but it isn't a realistic relationship has fights where dumb shit is said.
SuperStiltzkin
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People do have different relationships. Some people might not be used to having their SO curse them out and shrug it off. Having an argument where you call eachother "bitch, asshole, cunt, etc." doesn't have to be something they want to work through if they don't think the relationship is worth it. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with them or they're being immature.
Honestly, neither of us know what she said and in what context and I think it does matter what she said and how she said it. If she called him a "worthless little bitch" unprovoked simply because she was drunk, then that's kinda fucked up. But we don't know.
DizzyCaffeine
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We all have different boundaries. Clearly, she crossed a line with the OP. Why are you trying to dismiss his concerns by labeling them "dramatic?"
If you're an angry drunk, as an adult you stop getting drunk.
Yeah this is what I am not getting, OP has said she was incredible before this, it's one fight fueled by alcohol and now it's a terrible relationship and he needs to get out now, it is ludicrous, do people think this is how relationships really work? fights happen, you don't nope the fuck out after one fight before you even sober up and talk about it.
ScatheZombie
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You have no idea how much I wish this was true.
here's a story that GAF will love and totally not call me a misogynistic pig
was once with an ex at a party, we were kids like 18 or 19
we were all drunk, I was drunk, but one dude specially so
he spilled a drink all over my GF. I went to talk to him and he called her a fucking bitch
got in a fight with that dude, had to be taken away by the house owners cause me and a friend were roughing him up real bad
midst all that adrenaline my GF starts to give me an earfull about how I shouldnt have hit him. like im walking away from the party and she's screaming in my ear
so I turn around, still with the adrenaline high from the fight, and I slapped her
I never had such a fast transition to completely sobered up in a second after I did that
I felt like absolute shit
she cried
we recovered, and stayed in a relationship for like 3 years after that. I'd never before or since have layed a finger on a SO
meaning: shit happens, relationships are complicated, and it's never as cut and dry as it might seem by retelling.
was once with an ex at a party, we were kids like 18 or 19
we were all drunk, I was drunk, but one dude specially so
he spilled a drink all over my GF. I went to talk to him and he called her a fucking bitch
got in a fight with that dude, had to be taken away by the house owners cause me and a friend were roughing him up real bad
midst all that adrenaline my GF starts to give me an earfull about how I shouldnt have hit him. like im walking away from the party and she's screaming in my ear
so I turn around, still with the adrenaline high from the fight, and I slapped her
I never had such a fast transition to completely sobered up in a second after I did that
I felt like absolute shit
she cried
we recovered, and stayed in a relationship for like 3 years after that. I'd never before or since have layed a finger on a SO
meaning: shit happens, relationships are complicated, and it's never as cut and dry as it might seem by retelling.
DizzyCaffeine
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Amen. Being drunk is not an excuse for shitty behavior.
I know people have different relationships, that's why I got so pissed at that guy telling me to get out of mine because we have arguments. We know one guys side of the story (and a drunk guy at that) so I don't see why everyone is automatically saying leave her and not saying at the very least wait until they're both sober.
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