My GF called me bitch 3x then came into BR and when I wasnt ready said "Fuck You"

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That's a dangerous story you're telling yourself. Don't ever assume that's a model for how others should live.

I never assumed anything nor is it a "dangerous story I'm telling myself" I just don't live in the land of rainbows and sunshine that you guys think relationships are. Everyone is different and relationships are complex.

I'll turn this around and say she's too old to be drinking so much that this kind of bad behavior comes out. She should grow up.

I 100% agree

You need to re-read the OP. She's following him around a party being shitty, then calls him a bitch cause he won't fuck. That's specifically a comment on his masculinity. Him standing up for himself is healthy and anyone who would allow that would definitely be the "bitch." I know for a fact I would lose teeth and a nut if I disparaged my partner, and it's never come up in conversation. Nor will it unless we're through.

lol I read it, and she acted like a dick, i never denied that, but people act like dicks when drunk and he said prior to this she was incredible, sorry I don't tell people to break up instantly instead of waiting until they're both sober to talk about it like any rational person would. You, on the other hand, shouldn't be listened to at all because you aren't rational, telling someone you don't know to leave my relationship that you don't know a thing about. At least the OP said she was incredible prior to this so we have a general idea of their relationship, you just like to be outraged and tell people that you know more about everything than them.
 
Well James, you want to post shit about me on the internet? Well how about I post about how you can't get your dick hard when I demand that you fuck me.

Although I guess I'm not saying anything you didn't already admit to.

We're through. Dumping your shit out onto the sidewalk.

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Is this real?

Well , OP single , and gaf has a single girl to hit on. 😂

Damnit it's fake!
 
Well James, you want to post shit about me on the internet? Well how about I post about how you can't get your dick hard when I demand that you fuck me.

Although I guess I'm not saying anything you didn't already admit to.

We're through. Dumping your shit out onto the sidewalk.

oh shiiiiiiiiittt
 
I never assumed anything nor is it a "dangerous story I'm telling myself" I just don't live in the land of rainbows and sunshine that you guys think relationships are. Everyone is different and relationships are complex.
You think a non abusive relationship is "rainbows and sunshine." Good luck with that.
 
Honestly, i'd sleep on it. When you wake up and both you and your GF are sober then talk about the incident and explain to her how you are not okay with how she acted. What happens after that is up to you.
 
Sounds to me like you two need to just sit down when sober and discuss how you behave to each other when you're drunk. If she has a problem controlling herself when she's drunk then she needs to start controlling the amount that she drinks.

But you should have fucked her for goodness sake man.
 
You ignore my posts and over-react to everything, good luck with that.
You keep acting like calling folks names you love is a normal thing you should accept. I'm saying that you shouldn't or you're playing yourself. Don't have to be a Flanders to not be a shit head.
 
I never assumed anything nor is it a "dangerous story I'm telling myself" I just don't live in the land of rainbows and sunshine that you guys think relationships are. Everyone is different and relationships are complex.
If you're trying to tell folks that everyone is different and relationships are complex, then why are you shitting on the OP for not wanting to approach relationships the way you do? Maybe he's different than you and has different boundaries that shouldn't be dismissed as being over-dramatic? Maybe you should make room for relationships that don't involve personal insults, even when drunk. Those certainly exist and are rather common from what I've experienced. So maybe it's okay to want that kind of relationship without being dismissed as a drama queen or something.
 
Sounds like she gets silly when she's drunk. She might not even realize she's coming across mean when in her head she's being silly and fun. See how she responds to this incident when she's sober.

Alternatively maybe she's just an awful person who is tired of hiding it.

Alt-Alternatively maybe you are just an awful person and she is finally realizing it and is trying to make you gtfo.
 
You keep acting like calling folks names you love is a normal thing you should accept. I'm saying that you shouldn't or you're playing yourself. Don't have to be a Flanders to not be a shit head.

So you are just going to ignore my reply I wrote higher up on this page?

If you're trying to tell folks that everyone is different and relationships are complex, then why are you shitting on the OP for not wanting to approach relationships the way you do? Maybe he's different than you and has different boundaries that shouldn't be dismissed as being over-dramatic? Maybe you should make room for relationships that don't involve personal insults, even when drunk. Those certainly exist and are rather common from what I've experienced. So maybe it's okay to want that kind of relationship without being dismissed as a drama queen or something.

But I haven't been trying to tell anyone that at all, I have been trying to say that people do dumb stuff while drunk and to tell OP to break up with her before they've even sobered up and talked about it is stupid, that's all I have tried to say.
 
Well James, you want to post shit about me on the internet? Well how about I post about how you can't get your dick hard when I demand that you fuck me.

Although I guess I'm not saying anything you didn't already admit to.

We're through. Dumping your shit out onto the sidewalk.

So I take it your single now?

*Hovers hand above shoulder.*

Want to see my killer Pog collection? Afterwards my Mom can drive us to the Mall for fruit smoothies.
 
What was wrong with the bolded? Hanging kind of loose because of the intoxication understandably prevented it, but come now.

The problem is that, as stated by the OP, it doesn't sound like she was offering bathroom sex as an apology. It sounds like she was demanding bathroom sex for her own satisfaction. And then she berated him when he refused.

It's seriously not okay behavior (y'know, that whole 'no means no' thing), and to act like he should've taken it as an olive branch is pretty terrible.
 
That is a powerful word for a women you are in a relationship with to use to cut you down as a man. My girlfriend has thrown stuff at me and once accidentally pushed me down a flight of stairs which sort of hurt me but she has never called me a bitch. I would really be offended if she did as to me that would be a clear sign she did not respect my manhood.
 
I knew a girl who was really nice to me when we were friends, and was a total asshole to me when we were actually attracted to each other. I wasn't having any of that.

I don't really care if that what gets you hot. Shit ain't fun.
 
I couldn't make heads or tails of the title. My mind decided that this was meant for gaming side and that you and your girlfriend were playing a Battle Royale and she kept calling you a bitch and eventually just rage quit.
 
Oh wow. MSG? Is that what we're calling me? Is this because I'm Asian American?

I was just trying to give a good natured razzing and you have to go and make it a racial thing. Way to take it to a dark place...

I was thinking metal gear solid but yeah monosodium glutamate is an unfortunate similar acronym.

(I wasn't sure how you would react to being called shafty)

edit: and then your edit takes it to a really dark place...
 
That is a powerful word for a women you are in a relationship with to use to cut you down as a man. My girlfriend has thrown stuff at me and once accidentally pushed me down a flight of stairs which sort of hurt me but she has never called me a bitch. I would really be offended if she did as to me that would be a clear sign she did not respect my manhood.

wat

"Yo she "accidentally" threw me down the stairs once and threw shit at me, but calling me a bitch? Lines would be crossed!!!"

Jesus man I'd probably bail (depends on what I did, heh :p) at the throwing stuff much less pushing you down the fucking stairs o_O
 
That is a powerful word for a women you are in a relationship with to use to cut you down as a man. My girlfriend has thrown stuff at me and once accidentally pushed me down a flight of stairs which sort of hurt me but she has never called me a bitch. I would really be offended if she did as to me that would be a clear sign she did not respect my manhood.

Oh lord. How is being called bitch any different than being called a fucker or piece of shit? Thinking that it is an attack on your 'manhood' is just laughable.

The throwing and pushing is a much bigger deal.
 
lol I read it, and she acted like a dick, i never denied that, but people act like dicks when drunk and he said prior to this she was incredible, sorry I don't tell people to break up instantly instead of waiting until they're both sober to talk about it like any rational person would. You, on the other hand, shouldn't be listened to at all because you aren't rational, telling someone you don't know to leave my relationship that you don't know a thing about. At least the OP said she was incredible prior to this so we have a general idea of their relationship, you just like to be outraged and tell people that you know more about everything than them.
Sorry, if being drunk was an excuse, Mel Gibson would be making blockbusters right now. The op is 28 years old and obviously knows what he wants in a relationship or this thread wouldn't exist. I told him to do what he needs to do. If someone shows you their true selves, believe them. It sounds like a short relationship, so OP has no skin in staying cause someone wanted to show out while drunk. Again, if you're in a relationship where you're disparaging the others character, it's already over, it's just a matter of when. Some are cool with sticking around for that, others don't have the time or patience to tolerate foolishness. Good luck on yours.
 
Oh lord. How is being called bitch any different than being called a fucker or piece of shit? Thinking that it is an attack on your 'manhood' is just laughable.

The throwing and pushing is a much bigger deal.

I just love how he can be pushed down stairs but bitch is the final straw

Sorry, if being drunk was an excuse, Mel Gibson would be making blockbusters right now. The op is 28 years old and obviously knows what he wants in a relationship or this thread wouldn't exist. I told him to do what he needs to do. If someone shows you their true selves, believe them. It sounds like a short relationship, so OP has no skin in staying cause someone wanted to show out while drunk. Again, if you're in a relationship where you're disparaging the others character, it's already over, it's just a matter of when. Some are cool with sticking around for that, others don't have the time or patience to tolerate foolishness. Good luck on yours.


Good luck with your terrible personality and close-mindedness, I'm sure it will serve you well in the long run
 
But I haven't been trying to tell anyone that at all, I have been trying to say that people do dumb stuff while drunk and to tell OP to break up with her before they've even sobered up and talked about it is stupid, that's all I have tried to say.
Oh, I think I latched onto when you said, "hahahaha people have different relationships, you having mental illness doesn't give anything you say more authority on the situation..." so it seemed weird to me that you're going off about "Ned Flanders" relationships when those standards should be just as valid as yours if you believe that people have different relationships.

I DO, however, agree with you that most people in this thread are being too black and white about it. I personally have a similar standard as the OP in terms of what's acceptable / not acceptable, and thankfully am in a relationship where that kind of thing just doesn't happen, but relationships like yours can work too as long as folks are willing to work it out afterwards.
 
I think some women react poorly to being denied sex when you offer/demand it because it's just something that doesn't happen generally. Maybe she took it as an ego hit.

That shit generally has implied acceptance written all over it.
 
that shit aint cool OP. if yall havent been dating long, dump her. you gonna worry everytime shes drinks, moreso if youre not around her. thats not a good feeling to live with. she obviously has no filter when drinking, sounds like the type to start random fights by talking shit. i got a buddy like that. dont hang out with him much if liquors involved.

i guarantee she was talking shit about you to everyone too. fuck that drama, unless youre into feeling immasculated in front of your friends
 
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