Amen. I'm so going through this right now, but it's slightly different. Basically I found a good friend after a breakup, my ex's friend to be more exact. I was a mess and she reached out to just be there for me. I sure as hell didn't ask for it, but she did it anyways. After some time, I slowly started getting over my ex and realized how good of a friend this girl was. So, I decided to get to know her better, and we're really good fucking friends. Like, we have a tons of similar interests, we think alike on most things, you know, something you'd expect when you feel like you connect with someone that's date potential. But I never went for it because honestly I didn't think about her like that at all.
For starters, she's young, and has no idea how relationships work. She still has baggage from other parts of her life and obviously so do I. One night, we get a little drunk and she gets a bit daring and we kiss. Completely caught me off guard, but I enjoyed it and left it at that, but man could we not get our hands off each other. Nothing else happened because I respect her. When we sobered up we kinda talked about it, made sure we weren't too drunk to be unaware of it and acknowledge that it happened. Well, later on we got drunk again and did it again, but took it up a notch, but still didn't do anything because I did not want to cross that line. I wanted to be a major tease.
Once we sober up we really hash it out and really talk about it. But we reach the same conclusion, it's not going to work right now and we'll just treat it as fun. What's killing me though is that doing that really made me think about it for some reason, the potential but I'm honestly not ready. I'm still working on moving on from my ex, and she knows that. She has stuff she needs to seriously work on and she feels like she can't commit right now.
Days later we're talking like normal and we're obviously joking about what happened and we still have this weird chemistry, but we can't get together for the above reasons. It kinda sucks but I've made up my mind about it, I want to stay friends and keep it that way until I get my shit together.
Has anyone had a similar experience and how did it go?
I know I had something somewhat similar when I was in my teens with my old best friend, unrequited love, but now that I'm older I'm very well aware of what that was back then. Totally sucked but I moved past it and only time apart helped me move on. Except for that situation, I had some major strong feelings, feelings that I couldn't understand and didn't know how to control. Now things are different and I don't have strong feelings for this girl, more like it just gave me a thought and I decided to put it away from now on.
