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[17 Seconds]

did you screencapped the convo? i hope you did

why does it matter?

 

[backflip10019]

Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.

I like how she tried to turn it around on you.

I'd just end it right now. Get it over with.

 

[Zukuu]

Tell her, "if you value our relationship come out and talk, otherwise I will go and not come back".

 

[mjc]

It's hard to keep your mouth shut, try to deal with it as calmly as possible.

 

[Whales]

Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.

inb4 she deletes the convo history and acts like there's nothing there..

 

[Hylian7]

Because it's a difference if you think about buying a car and actually going into the store and buying a car. If it's just random online flirting, just packing things without even talking, seems excessive beyond belief. Like I said, he doesn't even want to talk about it, he doesn't even know if she knows that guy or if it's a random online dude she never saw in her life. Between "flirting" and "cheating" is a ridiculous huge difference. If a relationship means something to you, that's not how you tackle that problem. That's doesn't mean what she did is okay, but at least talk about it ffs before just running away (and yes, that's what he does - there is no bravery in that).


^Like seriously.

Okay, let me walk up to another girl when I'm on a date with my girlfriend and try to hookup with her, but then when my girlfriend goes "wtf are you doing? we are done" I just say "I was just flirting bro, I wasn't going to do anything!"

If the relationship means something to you, you wouldn't be flirting by sexting and sending/receiving dick pics in the first place. That's a pretty clear sign the relationship means nothing to her, or she isn't right in the head, or a little of both.

 

[OCD Guy]

did you screencapped the convo? i hope you did

Yeah I screenshotted it and then emailed it to myself from her icloud (and deleted it from her sent items)

I'll just bring up the email on my phone and give her the phone.....

 

[aBarreras]

why does it matter?

she went to the bathroom with ipad in hand, is obvious she is going to delete everything

 

[Aselith]

Is the dick bigger than yours?

 

[SturokBGD]

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

Worst opening salvo ever.

Good luck though!

 

[HardRojo]

Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.

Welp, final boss battle has begun now and you fucking blew right past the point of no return without saving. Just don't go crazy, don't raise your voice or anything, at least you somewhat planned what you wanted to say and do I think.

 

[The Beard]

did you screencapped the convo? i hope you did

He did.

 

[Snaku]

I like how she tried to turn it around on you.

Cheaters always do this when they know you have them dead to rights.

 

[OnPoint]

Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.

Nothing to do now but stay the course. Don't back down. Don't listen to lies. Don't entertain her bargaining. You saw what you saw and no amount of her backtracking can change that.

I honestly might sleep at a friend's for the night, or get a hotel room.

 

[catmincer]

I hope you took screenshots cause she is totally gonna delete it and pretend nothing was there.

 

[Fahzgoolin]

this seems so outta the blue... i wonder how long it's been going on? =(

 

[Kill Your Masters]

Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.

I just wanted to write up a post how silly the "adults talk" crowd sounds considering we do not know you or your still GF in real life.

Tell her experts on a gaming forum told you "but Sarah, adults talk to each other".

She handled it how a guilty person. Time for you or her to GTFO out of that mess man. Talking wont fix shit.

 

[ChaosZeroX]

Because it's a difference if you think about buying a car and actually going into the store and buying a car. If it's just random online flirting, just packing things without even talking, seems excessive beyond belief. Like I said, he doesn't even want to talk about it, he doesn't even know if she knows that guy or if it's a random online dude she never saw in her life. Between "flirting" and "cheating" is a ridiculous huge difference. If a relationship means something to you, that's not how you tackle that problem. That's doesn't mean what she did is okay, but at least talk about it ffs before just running away (and yes, that's what he does - there is no bravery in that).


^Like seriously.

Oh I agree that he should of spoke to her about it as soon as she got home. Flirting is one thing. Everyone flirts. There isn't anything we can do about that. It instinctively happens.

The problem is OP's GF took it beyond flirting from what he said about her describing what shes want to do sexually with dick pic dude.

 

[SgtCobra]

Yeah I screenshotted it and then emailed it to myself from her icloud (and deleted it from her sent items)

I'll just bring up the email on my phone and give her the phone.....

Very good, keep ya head up.

 

[The Blackrose]

Yeah I screenshotted it and then emailed it to myself from her icloud (and deleted it from her sent items)

I'll just bring up the email on my phone and give her the phone.....

Nope.

Nope nope nope.

Bad idea. Danger Will Robinson.

If she has a thing for breaking your shit, you better be ready to buy a new phone at the minimum.

 

[17 Seconds]

she went to the bathroom with ipad in hand, is obvious she is going to delete everything

i don't understand why people keep bringing this up. why does he need proof? they aren't getting a divorce, he doesn't need evidence for anything.

 

[AbortedWalrusFetus]

Yeah I screenshotted it and then emailed it to myself from her icloud (and deleted it from her sent items)

I'll just bring up the email on my phone and give her the phone.....

Don't give her the phone. She'll hold on to it as a means to get you to say. Just email it to her.

 

[bathsalts]

You blew it OP. Print the dick pic and slide it under the bathroom door.

 

[GreatestHits]

You shouldn't let crazy control you though. If he's seriously scared about her breaking all his shit, that's basically a domestic issue and the dude needs to get out even quicker.

I am a very strong person mentally. I used to be very gifted at chess when I was younger. It takes all of that strategic thinking and more to mitigate what a manipulative crazy person can do to you in 5 minutes. The minute you invite them into your home and your life, you are screwed, already controlled to a certain extent. The type of fear OCD exhibits is that of someone he can't control, which screams BPD or some other manipulative disorder. There's people out there that have survived on milking all kinds of mental categories and will make what is supposed to be your help, (like police) your nightmare. They capitalize on everyone's weaknesses as a simple means of day-to-day survival.

Nothing in this thread makes me think she is this bad, but when you've found yourself living with one of the all-too common seemingly stable yet mentally deranged people prowling the earth, no amount of strength, cunning, or management skills is going to save you sometimes. I totally understand OP's hesitation

 

[FunkyPajamas]

Ok my plan went out the window.

Best laid plans of mice and men and all that.

Best of luck OP.

 

[Spoiled Milk]

Damn lol. You should record the coversation and then post it on GAF.

 

[BibiMaghoo]

Good luck OP, Time to go all in. I wish you the best. Remember you are not the one at fault.

 

[Ashhong]

Dude this is easy now. Since she's hiding in there, just say "Ok, bye" and start to leave.

 

[Gravy Boat]

i don't understand why people keep bringing this up. why does he need proof? they aren't getting a divorce, he doesn't need evidence for anything.

When she goes around to her friends and family calling him a liar, saying he made up random accusations, it's be nice to have that in his back pocket.

 

[17 Seconds]

I hope you took screenshots cause she is totally gonna delete it and pretend nothing was there.

so? do you think she's going to trick him into thinking he imagined it or something?

 

[PrivateWHudson]

I hope you took screenshots cause she is totally gonna delete it and pretend nothing was there.

Who cares? This isn't going to involve lawyers and custody battles, he doesn't need "proof" of shit.

 

[Mikeside]

best thing you can do now is wait for her to come out of the bathroom and just say "look, you do what you have to do, but this isn't the relationship I signed up for when we started dating. This is over, so the only conversations we need to have from now on are about what we do with this house and making sure we divide our stuff up fairly"


You're not going to get any better closure, but if you take the high road, you'll at least be able to look back and be proud of how you handled it

 

[kmax]

lol, she went in with the ipad?

She's destroying the evidence as we speak. Good thing that you're already one step ahead of her.

 

[Lights and Waves]

Can we see the pic tbh?

 

[ChaosZeroX]

why does it matter?

So he has proof it happened.

Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.

I like how she tried to play victim. Typical

 

[BlueTsunami]

The increasingly poor decisions of Todd Margarett. Choose your next steps carefully OP. Just realize this is essentially your exit interview.

 

[FaintDeftone]

Shit is about to get real, OP. Good luck man.

 

[keltickennedy]

Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.

OP, NOW IS YOUR CHANCE!

Slide an autographed picture of your dick under the bathroom door and leave to stay with some family or friends.

 

[Mikeside]

lol, she went in with the ipad?

She's destroying the evidence as we speak. Good thing that you're already one step ahead of her.

if it's whatsapp web, she doesn't need the ipad, she just needs her phone to destroy any evidence

 

[FunkyPajamas]

Welp, final boss battle has begun now and you fucking blew right past the point of no return without saving.

I... I love you.

 

[Matticers]

Hope you got some kind of evidence of what you saw because she's probably deleting everything right now. Not that you need evidence in order to give her the boot from your life but still.

Also, I find it kind of funny how almost everyone wanted him to talk to her tonight in order to "talk it out like adults" but as soon as he brings up what he knows, she's the one who runs off in a really immature way. It takes two to have an adult conversation. I don't think many people considered the fact that maybe she won't even want to give him "closure." She'll probably want to make him out to be the bad guy when this ends.

 

[Brazil]

Ok my plan went out the window.

That was awful. Fuck.

Although

"Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

Is hilarious, considering the British accent I'm imagining.

Best of luck, OP.

 

[nekkid]

Goddamn OP, I really feel for your predicament but all I can now hear in my head is "shit just got real" - I can't wait to hear more.

 

[SpaceWolf]

Get to the Chopper, OP.

 

[17 Seconds]

So he has proof it happened.

proof for who? i'm pretty sure he's not going to forget that he saw it.

 

[nortonff]

Just stay calm, OP. Don't fall for her angry/victim bs.

 

[Vic]

FINALLY!

 

[Kill Your Masters]

So he has proof it happened.



I like how she tried to play victim. Typical

Yup. Not surprised about the reaction.

Typically, whats up next is guilt tripping OP.

 

[dealer-]

Fuck, she's probably talking to the guy now in the bathroom. This must be super frustrating OP, try to keep a level head though.

 

[Cormano]

Good luck OP, keep us posted.