So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....

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Jonm1010 said:
Not to sound like a dick but you must have a really low bar for self respect in an agreed upon monogamous relationship.

A perfect 10 with a magnetic personality isn't enough to look past blatant betrayal and deception IMO.
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You aren't the dick, there's no justification for cheating
 
OP, do you have somewhere to go? Someone that can come over and help you pack your stuff? Do it man, sort out the dollar later, your deposit can wait.
 
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Zombie James said:
Why do people keep insisting the OP should leave? She's the one that needs to be leaving.
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Because it's going to get messy. And I mean messy. Not good. Bail now OP. Just bail. She's obviously setting up a false story. C'mon OP. Pack your bags, up and leave. It's that simple. No point sticking around just so she can set the blame on you for no reason.
 
At least she's making it much easier for you to move on by doing stuff like pushing you out of the way and telling you to leave her alone like you did something wrong. Be glad you're seeing what she's really like now and not years later.
 
mkenyon said:
You haven't done something to deserve secretive cheating.

There might be something going on that led her down that path, but that's still her fault for not bringing it up.

If (other than this) she has been absolutely worth fighting for, then you need to talk through it and figure out how to improve your relationship and communication, which leads to a better sex life.

If the above doesn't improve things, and she wants to sleep with other people just because she feels the urge, then you need to decide if you're okay with that, perhaps even involving yourself.

She hasn't stolen all your money. She hasn't taken away your kids. She hasn't ruined your life. It's sexting with someone.
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She cheated on him, if you believe you can cheat on someone without conducting it being physical. She may have actually also cheated him physically.

When confronted with this information, it seems like she's doing everything in her power to come out the victim.

There is no repairing cheating with polyamory. She had an opportunity to explain herself, to fight for him, and she ran away, embarrassed and angry.

There's nothing worth saving here, the OP is a human being who deserves to be respected in a relationship. After disrespect like this, I don't think he should stick it out. Before long you start to disrespect yourself.
 
OMG this thread has turned into something truely special! I'm going to give up on my own life, from no one I'm going to live through the experiences of Gaf members. LOL

OP what did you do? From all the bad advices itt, you chose to come up with your own thing...notlikethis.gif?!?!?!?! I guess it's to late now.

Listen to me, lure her out of the bathroom!!! Tell her that you made a sandwich for her, that she needs to eat and then you'll talk things through. Pls, listen to me, I'm the only sane person on Gaf as it seems!

Sandwich contains a secret ingredient: the sause of life
 
Yeah, she's been caught. There is nothing to talk about OP. She's a real piece of work. If I was to guess, she'll probably stay out of your way today, which is good. You have the place to yourself.

Don't talk to her and above all don't tolerate any of her attitude towards you. 0 tolerance OP. You did nothing wrong. If she was even remotely remorseful she would have broken down and cried, begging you to forgive her. She didn't do it. Remember you are the one that has control, not her.

Stay strong OP.
 
Zombie James said:
Why do people keep insisting the OP should leave? She's the one that needs to be leaving.
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Neither of them can afford the place, so they both have to leave. People are trying to get OP to be proactive so that his (self admitted) spiteful gf doesn't come back raging to steal or break his shit, or have her new bf steal and break his shit, or have her new bf just come by and start shit, or call the cops with some made up story about abuse. She's not handling this like an adult, he needs to protect himself if she's that type.

Get out, get your shit out, you can talk it over on the phone with your OLED in storage miles away.
 
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