So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....

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Going by OP's silence I think there is a 36.73% probability for this to happen.
There should be no percentage, nothing happened, she stayed out, he stayed home
She was sexting with some dude sending dick picks
ODC may not have confidence or whatever on POF but who needs it when 9 and 10 girls will be stalking to be with him the rest of his life. I think we all agree dude is probably better looking than all of us in this thread. Let him get over this treachery and he will move on with his OLED and find a better love. End of story.
 
What if it was all a hoax devised by his girlfriend and her friend to see if he was snooping on her? What if she did it so he would break up with her or because she wanted to see how he would react?

Motorbike guy is his girlfriends friend and then she conveniently leaves the iPad laying around.

I just find it strange how she would leave the iPad out in the open like that AND leave the app open if she didn't really want him to find out. That's not someone trying their best to hide something.
 
What if it was all a hoax devised by his girlfriend and her friend to see if he was snooping on her? What if she did it so he would break up with her or because she wanted to see how he would react?

Motorbike guy is his girlfriends friend and then she conveniently leaves the iPad laying around.

I just find it strange how she would leave the iPad out in the open like that AND leave the app open if she didn't really want him to find out. That's not someone trying their best to hide something.

He said she knew he uses her ipad all the time. He wasn't snooping on her.
 
After reading what happened to the poor OP ( So sorry for what happened to you I feel really bad ) I'm more determine now than before that I made the right choice by staying single.
 
What if it was all a hoax devised by his girlfriend and her friend to see if he was snooping on her? What if she did it so he would break up with her or because she wanted to see how he would react?

Motorbike guy is his girlfriends friend and then she conveniently leaves the iPad laying around.

I just find it strange how she would leave the iPad out in the open like that AND leave the app open if she didn't really want him to find out. That's not someone trying their best to hide something.

Not strange at all. It's called "consciousness of guilt". People have been caught cheating in far stupider ways (e.g. Shane Warne sexting his wife and mother of his three kids instead of his lover).

Even if it was a hoax devised by the gf, she wouldn't run and lock herself in the bathroom, nor would her first reaction be denial, nor would she avoid further discussion of the matter.
 
What if it was all a hoax devised by his girlfriend and her friend to see if he was snooping on her? What if she did it so he would break up with her or because she wanted to see how he would react?

Motorbike guy is his girlfriends friend and then she conveniently leaves the iPad laying around.

I just find it strange how she would leave the iPad out in the open like that AND leave the app open if she didn't really want him to find out. That's not someone trying their best to hide something.

Nah man, we've been through that 40 pages ago.
"Stupidity" is a much more plausible explanation...same thing happens when
drug addicts, criminals, etc. get careless in their routine.
 
I've just logged in. Will give an update but reading through the pages, just watched that video lol. Got to laugh
I just wanted to say, OP, you're young, you'll be okay. A lot of this shit sorts itself out as you get older and everyone in your peer group gets a better handle on what they want out of life.

But yeah, get that OLED out of the apartment.
 
Nah man, we've been through that 40 pages ago.
"Stupidity" is a much more plausible explanation...same thing happens when
drug addicts, criminals, etc. get careless in their routine.

Not strange at all. It's called "consciousness of guilt". People have been caught cheating in far stupider ways (e.g. Shane Warne sexting his wife and mother of his three kids instead of his lover).

Even if it was a hoax devised by the gf, she wouldn't run and lock herself in the bathroom, nor would her first reaction be denial, nor would she avoid further discussion of the matter.

True true. And I guess her telling her friend that he was going through her stuff when she knows he uses her iPad fits in with it.

People be crazy.
 
Stalker got banned?

Yep, because he was responsible for this thread completely losing its innocence.
I mean...at the end of the day we're still dealing with a private affair in this thread, amirite?
No matter what gf did or what she is...she got exposed to a huge audience.
If she ever finds out about this thread, OP or at least OLED is dead.
 
So I didn't go to work today, I didn't go to bed unitl 4am so there was no chance I was getting up at 7am and able to do a full day at work.

Contacted my manager and explained the situation (not in detail obviously) and he was quite understanding.

Anyway my first point of call was to contact the estate agent, it turns out there is a break clause, so that's great right?

Well actually it's not because as I'm in a joint tenancy my ex would need to agree to it, but we've not spoken since last night when she was in the flat (I didn't reply to the text)

At around 11am I hear the door open and pull, the chain is still on the door so hence the loud noise, my stomach turns a bit, as I'm walking to the door I hear "Open the door you fucking cunt".

Oh good it's her friend. There's a lot of shouting, and I tell my ex that I don't want her friend in here, and if she want's me to remove the chain she'll have to be alone.

Understandably I didn't want to have to deal with a loud mouthy idiot shouting her mouth off at me.

My ex barely responds, all it is her friend shouting her mouth off. Saying things along the lines of "You can't lock her out, this ain't your flat" So there's not much I can do, as she's not the type that will calmly talk, and when I try to respond she just shouts all over me (you can imagine the type) so I just sit down in the front room until they give up. This must have lasted for about 30 minutes.

Once they go I close the door and put my key in the door, this way she can't even open the door, as putting a key through the other side won't work when there's a key already in the door.

I've not heard anything since that happened. What I've done my end is what most people end up doing, calling mummy and asking for help. So they're coming round in a few hours to start removing some of my stuff. They can't fit the furniture in their car, but I'm going to call a few removal guys, or possibly rent a van, need to see what's cheaper.

Obviously I can't lock her out of the flat, but I can take all the furniture out as I'm the one that paid for it. Literally paid for the essentials, the bed, sofa and then things like tv, pc etc are mine anyway (she has no interest in those things apart from the tv)

We have a dog (the chihuahua cross in my avatar before) which we paid half each for so not sure what we would do about that.

I'll feel more comfortable when my parents arrive, I know it makes me sound like a pussy but they won't mouth off, they're pretty fake and all polite around parents. They certainly won't shout and swear.

So that's where I'm at now.
 
And here it is. The Legend continues.

All this thread is missing is Lionel Mandrake.

OCD Guy, you have entered the halls of GAF Gold and have become legend. (Just sorry for you that it had to happen under such shitty circumstances).

If it's any consolation, you got a Zayn Malik thing going on from your photos and I'm sure you'll have no trouble finding women that might be interested in you once you start putting yourself out there again.

As a fellow Londoner I know housing costs/leases are shit. Good luck and all the best man.

man I can't believe this is 71+ pages already




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So they're coming round in a few hours to start removing some of my stuff. They can't fit the furniture in their car, but I'm going to call a few removal guys, or possibly rent a van, need to see what's cheaper.


Found a 50% off promo online thing for Big Yellow Self Storage for 8 weeks. Don't know if there is one in your area but hope it helps
 
OCD Guy, please take your dog if you have affection for it. She does not strike me as a terribly considerate person from what we know of her, and I get the sense she may not fight for the dog. Just a thought, please let me know if I'm misunderstanding her.
 
Appreciate the update OP. Seems like you're continuing to handle things in the absolute right way so good for you. Your parents are your parents - love and support in tough times are exactly what they're there for, so don't feel any shame about the help they're providing. Stay strong. It'll be shit for some days or weeks, but you'll be a damn sight better off for having her out of your life.
 
So I didn't go to work today, I didn't go to bed unitl 4am so there was no chance I was getting up at 7am and able to do a full day at work.

Contacted my manager and explained the situation (not in detail obviously) and he was quite understanding.

Anyway my first point of call was to contact the estate agent, it turns out there is a break clause, so that's great right?

Well actually it's not because as I'm in a joint tenancy my ex would need to agree to it, but we've not spoken since last night when she was in the flat (I didn't reply to the text)

At around 11am I hear the door open and pull, the chain is still on the door so hence the loud noise, my stomach turns a bit, as I'm walking to the door I hear "Open the door you fucking cunt".

Oh good it's her friend. There's a lot of shouting, and I tell my ex that I don't want her friend in here, and if she want's me to remove the chain she'll have to be alone.

Understandably I didn't want to have to deal with a loud mouthy idiot shouting her mouth off at me.

My ex barely responds, all it is her friend shouting her mouth off. Saying things along the lines of "You can't lock her out, this ain't your flat" So there's not much I can do, as she's not the type that will calmly talk, and when I try to respond she just shouts all over me (you can imagine the type) so I just sit down in the front room until they give up. This must have lasted for about 30 minutes.

Once they go I close the door and put my key in the door, this way she can't even open the door, as putting a key through the other side won't work when there's a key already in the door.

I've not heard anything since that happened. What I've done my end is what most people end up doing, calling mummy and asking for help. So they're coming round in a few hours to start removing some of my stuff. They can't fit the furniture in their car, but I'm going to call a few removal guys, or possibly rent a van, need to see what's cheaper.

Obviously I can't lock her out of the flat, but I can take all the furniture out as I'm the one that paid for it. Literally paid for the essentials, the bed, sofa and then things like tv, pc etc are mine anyway (she has no interest in those things apart from the tv)

We have a dog (the chihuahua cross in my avatar before) which we paid half each for so not sure what we would do about that.

I'll feel more comfortable when my parents arrive, I know it makes me sound like a pussy but they won't mouth off, they're pretty fake and all polite around parents. They certainly won't shout and swear.

So that's where I'm at now.

Can't wait to hear what her face looks like when she walks into an empty flat with just the pooch sat in the middle of the living room.
 
Nice update OP, stick with it. It's the right call. Good luck! Also asking the 'rents for help doesn't make you a pussy – that's what they're for!
 
I'll feel more comfortable when my parents arrive, I know it makes me sound like a pussy but they won't mouth off, they're pretty fake and all polite around parents. They certainly won't shout and swear.

So that's where I'm at now.

You don't sound like a pussy, dude. You're doing the right thing. Do what you gotta do to get yourself out of this shitty situation.
 
So I didn't go to work today, I didn't go to bed unitl 4am so there was no chance I was getting up at 7am and able to do a full day at work.

Contacted my manager and explained the situation (not in detail obviously) and he was quite understanding.

Anyway my first point of call was to contact the estate agent, it turns out there is a break clause, so that's great right?

Well actually it's not because as I'm in a joint tenancy my ex would need to agree to it, but we've not spoken since last night when she was in the flat (I didn't reply to the text)

At around 11am I hear the door open and pull, the chain is still on the door so hence the loud noise, my stomach turns a bit, as I'm walking to the door I hear "Open the door you fucking cunt".

Oh good it's her friend. There's a lot of shouting, and I tell my ex that I don't want her friend in here, and if she want's me to remove the chain she'll have to be alone.

Understandably I didn't want to have to deal with a loud mouthy idiot shouting her mouth off at me.

My ex barely responds, all it is her friend shouting her mouth off. Saying things along the lines of "You can't lock her out, this ain't your flat" So there's not much I can do, as she's not the type that will calmly talk, and when I try to respond she just shouts all over me (you can imagine the type) so I just sit down in the front room until they give up. This must have lasted for about 30 minutes.

Once they go I close the door and put my key in the door, this way she can't even open the door, as putting a key through the other side won't work when there's a key already in the door.

I've not heard anything since that happened. What I've done my end is what most people end up doing, calling mummy and asking for help. So they're coming round in a few hours to start removing some of my stuff. They can't fit the furniture in their car, but I'm going to call a few removal guys, or possibly rent a van, need to see what's cheaper.

Obviously I can't lock her out of the flat, but I can take all the furniture out as I'm the one that paid for it. Literally paid for the essentials, the bed, sofa and then things like tv, pc etc are mine anyway (she has no interest in those things apart from the tv)

We have a dog (the chihuahua cross in my avatar before) which we paid half each for so not sure what we would do about that.

I'll feel more comfortable when my parents arrive, I know it makes me sound like a pussy but they won't mouth off, they're pretty fake and all polite around parents. They certainly won't shout and swear.

So that's where I'm at now.

Take the dog.
 
OCD Guy, please take your dog if you have affection for it. She does not strike me as a terribly considerate person from what we know of her, and I get the sense she may not fight for the dog. Just a thought, please let me know if I'm misunderstanding her.

I've seen people fight for a dog they didn't care about just to spite the other person.
 
So I didn't go to work today, I didn't go to bed unitl 4am so there was no chance I was getting up at 7am and able to do a full day at work.

Contacted my manager and explained the situation (not in detail obviously) and he was quite understanding.

Anyway my first point of call was to contact the estate agent, it turns out there is a break clause, so that's great right?

Well actually it's not because as I'm in a joint tenancy my ex would need to agree to it, but we've not spoken since last night when she was in the flat (I didn't reply to the text)

At around 11am I hear the door open and pull, the chain is still on the door so hence the loud noise, my stomach turns a bit, as I'm walking to the door I hear "Open the door you fucking cunt".

Oh good it's her friend. There's a lot of shouting, and I tell my ex that I don't want her friend in here, and if she want's me to remove the chain she'll have to be alone.

Understandably I didn't want to have to deal with a loud mouthy idiot shouting her mouth off at me.

My ex barely responds, all it is her friend shouting her mouth off. Saying things along the lines of "You can't lock her out, this ain't your flat" So there's not much I can do, as she's not the type that will calmly talk, and when I try to respond she just shouts all over me (you can imagine the type) so I just sit down in the front room until they give up. This must have lasted for about 30 minutes.

Once they go I close the door and put my key in the door, this way she can't even open the door, as putting a key through the other side won't work when there's a key already in the door.

I've not heard anything since that happened. What I've done my end is what most people end up doing, calling mummy and asking for help. So they're coming round in a few hours to start removing some of my stuff. They can't fit the furniture in their car, but I'm going to call a few removal guys, or possibly rent a van, need to see what's cheaper.

Obviously I can't lock her out of the flat, but I can take all the furniture out as I'm the one that paid for it. Literally paid for the essentials, the bed, sofa and then things like tv, pc etc are mine anyway (she has no interest in those things apart from the tv)

We have a dog (the chihuahua cross in my avatar before) which we paid half each for so not sure what we would do about that.

I'll feel more comfortable when my parents arrive, I know it makes me sound like a pussy but they won't mouth off, they're pretty fake and all polite around parents. They certainly won't shout and swear.

So that's where I'm at now.


Good to hear your parents are coming, helps a lot in these circumstances as I well remember in 1994 when my mum and dad rescued me when I split with my ex and was stuck over 100 miles away and nowhere to go after falling out with them over her. Your making the right choices and it will be well worth it.
 
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