So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....

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WTF man. What a plot twist. This doesn't sound good though. Do you really think she's going to sign the papers for you so you can keep the apartment for yourself?

At least you have the dong up your sleeve. Use that shit if you need to. You're not the bad guy here.
 
theaface said:
I would at least warn your ex that if she bad mouths you and lies about you to any of your friends or family from this point forward, you'll publish her little chat for all to see. That way you're not doing it just out of spite, but protecting your reputation as you deserve to.
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I would say nothing until after she is legally if the lease
 
Man, this girl and her friend look like complete assholes.

Why make all this drama? Does she think that your parents would suddenly jump to her side?

She could had just told that you decided to break up, take her things and GTFO.

It's incredible how some people choose to always make things worse.

Edit: The only problem i see in this outcome is that she and the thug life friend will know where OCD lives and can still cause some trouble. At least OP has the screenshots that he can use as a way to keep them far away.
 
OCD Guy said:
Ok so things didn't go the way I thought they would. A very brief summary.

I didn't have anything packed as I was waiting for parents to turn up, once they did, they were asking me how I was etc, and if I was sure I wanted to do this, while we're sitting down talking my ex turned up with her friend in tears.

My mum (or mom for you guys) is quite understanding, so she starts conversating with her to try and find out what's wrong.

She turned up after work and I locked her out last night so she had nowhere to go, I didn't tell her why I locked her out, I've been really distant with her and it's because I've been seeing people behind her back and I've not been nice to her at all, she just can't deal with it anymore, so she want's to grab her stuff and leave.

I'm listening to all this in disbelief, how she can talk this much crap with a straight face, let alone doing it with fake ass tears rolling down her face is something else. Her friend with her arm round her being quiet as a mouse is the icing on the cake.

The conversation moves onto the flat, and obviously the tenancy agreement, so while everyone's in the same room a call is made to the estate agents (or letting agents) to see the best way forward. After speaking to the landlord they're able to do an assignment, this is where they can basically assign the tenancy to me, all that's needed is a deed of assignment which my ex would need to sign, and obviously permission from the landlord.

Long story short but as there's not too long on the agreement my mum will cover the half that my ex was paying, and I'll be staying here for now.

There's obviously paperwork that needs to be done, and I'm hoping that my ex will still be co-operative once things are in motion.

She's grabbed her clothes and the dog and gone to her friends house. I didn't make any objections about the dog, as I didn't want to start something, when this might actually be the smoothest outcome for now. We paid half for the dog, but she always viewed her as more her's. Carrying him in a bag etc.
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Yeah this brings back memories, i remember my ex telling my mum and dad i hit her while in the park, my mum and dad looked at me in shock. Thankfully my gran had been behind us on the way through the park to my house to visit and told them the truth, she flew at me n an angry rage and i dodged out the way and she fell on the ground face first. Always playing the victim... sigh.
 
Good Christ. I'm a pretty calm dude, but I would not have been able to listen to that bullshit.

Reminds me of a shitty roommate I had who tried to steal money from me. When I confronted her about it, she made up a story to her parents about how I threatened her in an email with a pic of me holding a gun. Obviously the email never existed, but she was desperate to make me look bad.
 
The reason I didn't say anything is because it wouldn't have changed anything, maybe it might have given me some sort of satisfaction briefly, but I didn't want to cause a scene.

Especially when they were already playing the victim, so me screaming and shouting and throwing a picture of a dick in the middle of the room wouldn't have achieved much.

Also I've not gone into detail with my parents, just simply told them that I found a conversation she's been having behind my back.

Obviously while sitting there and hearing her pull all that shit I was getting irritatable, but it's more the fact that she's actually switched things round.

I was honestly expecting her to maybe try talking to me, apologising while the waterworks are out, asking for one more chance, but nothing at all. So she's obviously made her mind up.

My only concern at this stage is that she's only round the corner, and they know where I am. No one would ever turn up at my parents house, and to be fair she won't turn up here by herself to start an argument.

Anyway for now that's it.
 
Lashley said:
Comforting

My mum would've probably paid half the rent to help ME out though, not her,

Which is why OP's mum has done it too
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Really? Even if she knew the truth she would have comforted her as she lied to her face? I could never do that. Maybe it's a UK thing.

OCD Guy said:
The reason I didn't say anything is because it wouldn't have changed anything, maybe it might have given me some sort of satisfaction briefly, but I didn't want to cause a scene.

Especially when they were already playing the victim, so me screaming and shouting and throwing a picture of a dick in the middle of the room wouldn't have achieved much.

Also I've not gone into detail with my parents, just simply told them that I found a conversation she's been having behind my back.

Obviously while sitting there and hearing her pull all that shit I was getting irritatable, but it's more the fact that she's actually switched things round.

I was honestly expecting her to maybe try talking to me, apologising while the waterworks are out, asking for one more chance, but nothing at all. So she's obviously made her mind up.

My only concern at this stage is that she's only round the corner, and they know where I am. No one would ever turn up at my parents house, and to be fair she won't turn up here by herself to start an argument.

Anyway for now that's it.
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Don't you think that if people knew the truth, it would solve a lot of problems? YOu wouldn't be getting irritated, you wouldn't be concerned that people know where you are, etc. There wouldn't even be an argument to be had. I commend you for taking the high road and all, but sometime's you have to do what you have to do to protect yourself.
 
OCD Guy said:
Ok so things didn't go the way I thought they would. A very brief summary.

I didn't have anything packed as I was waiting for parents to turn up, once they did, they were asking me how I was etc, and if I was sure I wanted to do this, while we're sitting down talking my ex turned up with her friend in tears.

My mum (or mom for you guys) is quite understanding, so she starts conversating with her to try and find out what's wrong.

She turned up after work and I locked her out last night so she had nowhere to go, I didn't tell her why I locked her out, I've been really distant with her and it's because I've been seeing people behind her back and I've not been nice to her at all, she just can't deal with it anymore, so she want's to grab her stuff and leave.

I'm listening to all this in disbelief, how she can talk this much crap with a straight face, let alone doing it with fake ass tears rolling down her face is something else. Her friend with her arm round her being quiet as a mouse is the icing on the cake.

The conversation moves onto the flat, and obviously the tenancy agreement, so while everyone's in the same room a call is made to the estate agents (or letting agents) to see the best way forward. After speaking to the landlord they're able to do an assignment, this is where they can basically assign the tenancy to me, all that's needed is a deed of assignment which my ex would need to sign, and obviously permission from the landlord.

Long story short but as there's not too long on the agreement my mum will cover the half that my ex was paying, and I'll be staying here for now.

There's obviously paperwork that needs to be done, and I'm hoping that my ex will still be co-operative once things are in motion.

She's grabbed her clothes and the dog and gone to her friends house. I didn't make any objections about the dog, as I didn't want to start something, when this might actually be the smoothest outcome for now. We paid half for the dog, but she always viewed her as more her's. Carrying him in a bag etc.
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Wow, what a cunt. She doesn't know that you saved the information obviously. If she starts spreading this information to every single person she can, I would wait it out and then share all this info so everyone can see her for what she is. You should have 0 sympathy or remorse of doing this by the way, but if she starts spreading the rumors everywhere. Otherwise, just keep that info and don't bother with her anymore. Forget her.

It was hilarious listening to the awful cuck advice of a few gaffers to make peace with her in here though. You really get a roller coaster of answers here, from great, to solid to absolutely awful.
 
My mom is the sweetest, most considerate person I know, who sacrifices a lot for the people in her life, and has cared deeply about any of the girls I've brought home.

If she found out any of those girls had done to me what this girl has done to the OP, I would have to restrain her because she would beat the shit out of that girl. It's why I didn't tell her about exactly why me and my ex broke up.
 
Wipe your asshole on some of the sheets while shes packing up stuff, hand them to her and say you think they might belong to the friend with the spray tan.
 
Ashhong said:
Really? Even if she knew the truth she would have comforted her as she lied to her face? I could never do that. Maybe it's a UK thing.
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Calms the situation down, and clearly the ex isn't in a good place

I've no sympathy for her at all, but mothers will be motherly
 
Op from experience I'ma be honest I admire your chivalry here BUT show just a wee bit more aggression here. I've had her type before spinning the blame on you would just be the beginning
 
OP, you're a saint. Goddamn.

I know if I was in your position, my Italian hot-bloodedness would have escaped right out and thrown multiple copies of that dick pic out on the table, and I probably wouldn't be able to control my volume LOL.

Good on you. seriously.
 
OCD Guy said:
The reason I didn't say anything is because it wouldn't have changed anything, maybe it might have given me some sort of satisfaction briefly, but I didn't want to cause a scene.

Especially when they were already playing the victim, so me screaming and shouting and throwing a picture of a dick in the middle of the room wouldn't have achieved much.

Also I've not gone into detail with my parents, just simply told them that I found a conversation she's been having behind my back.

Obviously while sitting there and hearing her pull all that shit I was getting irritatable, but it's more the fact that she's actually switched things round.

I was honestly expecting her to maybe try talking to me, apologising while the waterworks are out, asking for one more chance, but nothing at all. So she's obviously made her mind up.

My only concern at this stage is that she's only round the corner, and they know where I am. No one would ever turn up at my parents house, and to be fair she won't turn up here by herself to start an argument.

Anyway for now that's it.
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Man you are a lengend but how did your parents take the news when she was telling her story?
 
Loudninja said:
People he has the leverage so relax.
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No, he hasn't. Because he runs away from conflicts/issues (because it wouldn't change anything). So he will never use it. So that's that. She can say whatever bullshit she wants.

But if he's OK like this, it doesn't matter.
 
OCD Guy said:
She turned up after work and I locked her out last night so she had nowhere to go, I didn't tell her why I locked her out, I've been really distant with her and it's because I've been seeing people behind her back and I've not been nice to her at all, she just can't deal with it anymore, so she want's to grab her stuff and leave.

I'm listening to all this in disbelief, how she can talk this much crap with a straight face, let alone doing it with fake ass tears rolling down her face is something else. Her friend with her arm round her being quiet as a mouse is the icing on the cake.
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Unbelievable.
 
OCD Guy said:
Ok so things didn't go the way I thought they would. A very brief summary.

I didn't have anything packed as I was waiting for parents to turn up, once they did, they were asking me how I was etc, and if I was sure I wanted to do this, while we're sitting down talking my ex turned up with her friend in tears.

My mum (or mom for you guys) is quite understanding, so she starts conversating with her to try and find out what's wrong.

She turned up after work and I locked her out last night so she had nowhere to go, I didn't tell her why I locked her out, I've been really distant with her and it's because I've been seeing people behind her back and I've not been nice to her at all, she just can't deal with it anymore, so she want's to grab her stuff and leave.

I'm listening to all this in disbelief, how she can talk this much crap with a straight face, let alone doing it with fake ass tears rolling down her face is something else. Her friend with her arm round her being quiet as a mouse is the icing on the cake.

The conversation moves onto the flat, and obviously the tenancy agreement, so while everyone's in the same room a call is made to the estate agents (or letting agents) to see the best way forward. After speaking to the landlord they're able to do an assignment, this is where they can basically assign the tenancy to me, all that's needed is a deed of assignment which my ex would need to sign, and obviously permission from the landlord.

Long story short but as there's not too long on the agreement my mum will cover the half that my ex was paying, and I'll be staying here for now.

There's obviously paperwork that needs to be done, and I'm hoping that my ex will still be co-operative once things are in motion.

She's grabbed her clothes and the dog and gone to her friends house. I didn't make any objections about the dog, as I didn't want to start something, when this might actually be the smoothest outcome for now. We paid half for the dog, but she always viewed her as more her's. Carrying him in a bag etc.
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Yurikerr said:
Man, this girl and her friend look like complete assholes.

Why make all this drama? Does she think that your parents would suddenly jump to her side?

She could had just told that you decided to break up, take her things and GTFO.

It's incredible how some people choose to always make things worse.
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She needed to have the upper hand. She had him, plus the dick on the side so she was in control. Now she has to win the breakup too.
 
Be careful OP. She and her screeching cunt of a friend will poison your reputation to everyone you both know, just to save her own skin. Best be prepared in case people fall for it, and you especially don't want anyone coming round to "settle the score".

Make sure she doesn't have a key. Ideally, change the locks.
 
OCD Guy said:
The reason I didn't say anything is because it wouldn't have changed anything, maybe it might have given me some sort of satisfaction briefly, but I didn't want to cause a scene.

Especially when they were already playing the victim, so me screaming and shouting and throwing a picture of a dick in the middle of the room wouldn't have achieved much.

Also I've not gone into detail with my parents, just simply told them that I found a conversation she's been having behind my back.

Obviously while sitting there and hearing her pull all that shit I was getting irritatable, but it's more the fact that she's actually switched things round.

I was honestly expecting her to maybe try talking to me, apologising while the waterworks are out, asking for one more chance, but nothing at all. So she's obviously made her mind up.

My only concern at this stage is that she's only round the corner, and they know where I am. No one would ever turn up at my parents house, and to be fair she won't turn up here by herself to start an argument.

Anyway for now that's it.
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You handled it right. You can always explain the truth to them later. Better she gets in, gets her stuff, and gets out of your life entirely.
 
OCD Guy said:
My mum (or mom for you guys) is quite understanding, so she starts conversating with her to try and find out what's wrong.

She turned up after work and I locked her out last night so she had nowhere to go, I didn't tell her why I locked her out, I've been really distant with her and it's because I've been seeing people behind her back and I've not been nice to her at all, she just can't deal with it anymore, so she want's to grab her stuff and leave.

I'm listening to all this in disbelief, how she can talk this much crap with a straight face, let alone doing it with fake ass tears rolling down her face is something else. Her friend with her arm round her being quiet as a mouse is the icing on the cake.
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LET THIS BE A LESSON TO ALL OF YOU BREHS.

IF YOU FIND THE EVIDENCE, KEEP THE RECEIPTS. AT SOME POINT DOWN THE LINE YOU ARE ALWAYS GONNA NEED THAT SHIT TO CLEAR YOUR OWN NAME.
 
ferrasvansen said:
Yeah this brings back memories, i remember my ex telling my mum and dad i hit her while in the park, my mum and dad looked at me in shock. Thankfully my gran had been behind us on the way through the park to my house to visit and told them the truth, she flew at me n an angry rage and i dodged out the way and she fell on the ground face first. Always playing the victim... sigh.
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I've had someone who I turned down start pushing and shoving me. I put my hand on her shoulder to keep her at arms length. She sued me for assault with no injuries, just her word that I touched her.


She won because basically I was bigger and should have taken the hit according to judge.
 
Not cool, OP. This will haunt you now and for some time. You need to come out and do something about the pics you saved and toss them on her face and let it all out! Don't let it 'end' like this because that's what they want. They want to play the victims here, and you are letting them.
 
Camwi said:
WTF man. What a plot twist. This doesn't sound good though. Do you really think she's going to sign the papers for you so you can keep the apartment for yourself?

At least you have the dong up your sleeve. Use that shit if you need to. You're not the bad guy here.
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Bet you weren't expecting to say that today
 
OCD Guy said:
The reason I didn't say anything is because it wouldn't have changed anything, maybe it might have given me some sort of satisfaction briefly, but I didn't want to cause a scene.

Especially when they were already playing the victim, so me screaming and shouting and throwing a picture of a dick in the middle of the room wouldn't have achieved much.

Also I've not gone into detail with my parents, just simply told them that I found a conversation she's been having behind my back.

Obviously while sitting there and hearing her pull all that shit I was getting irritatable, but it's more the fact that she's actually switched things round.

I was honestly expecting her to maybe try talking to me, apologising while the waterworks are out, asking for one more chance, but nothing at all. So she's obviously made her mind up.

My only concern at this stage is that she's only round the corner, and they know where I am. No one would ever turn up at my parents house, and to be fair she won't turn up here by herself to start an argument.

Anyway for now that's it.
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Obviously good you didn't do that, but there comes a point where you should be defending yourself. Just my 2c.
 
OCD Guy said:
My only concern at this stage is that she's only round the corner, and they know where I am. No one would ever turn up at my parents house, and to be fair she won't turn up here by herself to start an argument.

Anyway for now that's it.
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Dont forget to change the locks as soon as shes off the lease.
 
Ardenyal said:
I've had someone who I turned down start pushing and shoving me. I put my hand on her shoulder to keep her at arms length. She sued me for assault with no injuries, just her word that I touched her.


She won because basically I was bigger and should have taken the hit according to judge.
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Shit, that is awful. Just a pity the judge was an asshole.
 
Kaiken said:
Hope you took her set of keys.
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Going off the stuff shes already done, it wouldn't be surprising if she made a copy before handing it over to OCD Guy.

It might seem a bit OTT, but get the locks changed. And don't leave the flat empty until they are, especially if she is staying just round the corner too
 
OCD Guy said:
The reason I didn't say anything is because it wouldn't have changed anything, maybe it might have given me some sort of satisfaction briefly, but I didn't want to cause a scene.

Especially when they were already playing the victim, so me screaming and shouting and throwing a picture of a dick in the middle of the room wouldn't have achieved much.

Also I've not gone into detail with my parents, just simply told them that I found a conversation she's been having behind my back.

Obviously while sitting there and hearing her pull all that shit I was getting irritatable, but it's more the fact that she's actually switched things round.

I was honestly expecting her to maybe try talking to me, apologising while the waterworks are out, asking for one more chance, but nothing at all. So she's obviously made her mind up.

My only concern at this stage is that she's only round the corner, and they know where I am. No one would ever turn up at my parents house, and to be fair she won't turn up here by herself to start an argument.

Anyway for now that's it.
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Sounds like you need assertiveness in your life.
Being that passive all the time is going to bite you in the ass
 
Man. Sorry to the OP. I can't imagine this is fun.

Its crazy to me that the relationship went from fine one morning to over, and you still never had an actual real conversation with her about it. Just "fancy some dicks" and her storming out. Like, you seem like you'd be happy to give her a minute to try and say... something non-insane. "Yeah it was a mistake. I'm sorry" or a Rick Perry "Ooops". I guess that's yet another sign its good you ended the thing.
 
The worst thing of all this is how people her give others a bad reputation.

Having a relationship is hard enough without having to be afraid of getting back-stabbed like this.

We already had people in this thread expressing how they felt like being single for the foreseeable future is the right choice.

Being with someone else is not always easy, but (thankfully) not everyone is like this girl and her friends.
 
Lionheart1827 said:
Dont forget to change the locks as soon as shes off the lease.
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She left her key, So she can't come back.

I just want to emphasise that I didn't react more out of respect for my parents, they are a bit prim and proper and they don't like all that sort of stuff.

It wasn't anything at all to do with my ex, or not wanting to upset her, or worried about her or her friends reaction.

We've got seperate circles, yeah we would do like couple nights, but the guys were acquaintances. Her friends might think I'm a cunt, but that won't matter. It's not as though their opinions will effect me.
 
You are oficially too passive now. Your attitude that it wouldnt make a difference is too much for your own good.

YES it would have made a difference. Stand up for yourself!
 
OP, you are just starting to learn who this person really is under the mask she wears daily. You have been caught by surprise twice now. Do not be fooled again, have your guard up. Change the locks, be prepared to defend who you are as a person, have your wits when you are out in public, etc. With a friend like hers, there is no telling what sort of lies she is spreading about you, and the repercussions that may follow.
 
I can't fathom standing silent as someone lied to my face about my actions, especially if I had proof that they were the piece of shit.
 
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