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[Black Chamber]

What a fucking hypocrit considering he used the wrong pronouns all the time on Black Chamber

Yup.

I'm "He/Him" and Kyuuji [and others] referred to me constantly as "They".

I don't honestly give a shit - but if the pronoun police are on the beat, then everyone should be held to the same standard.

Kyuuji should have been banned a long time ago for repeated violations of the TOS.

 

[Yui's Empire]

For how much ResetEra folks hate the police, they sure enjoy acting like the Internet version of the very same bad apples they point at when generalizing every country's every cop ever. Between forcing users to explain "controversial" opinions, policing pronouns, telling people on their Discords what they can talk about and so on, it's pretty dumb all in all.

 

[Guileless]

For most ppl who think like her, history started in the 1500s, before that, humans never existed. They're just as bad as evolution deniers.

Most left wing progressives are de facto evolution deniers but they are too self-absorbed to even realize it.

 

[SNPlayen]

Living alone

Does anyone else on here live alone? For reference, I am 24 years old. I am engaged, but my fiancé is in grad school in a different city about 1.5 hours for me. She is busy a lot of the time, so I end up feeling alone. Living alone, eapecially this year, has been really difficult. I feel super...

www.resetera.com

This explains some things. (about Taysan)

 

[ManofOne]

So if a person doesn't identify as a him or her, that person is a they. So what the hell is xey then?

 

[panzer kunst]

User was banned and mocked for saying maybe someone wasn't murdered because of racism.

Turns out it wasn't because of racism.

 

[teezzy]

Living alone

Does anyone else on here live alone? For reference, I am 24 years old. I am engaged, but my fiancé is in grad school in a different city about 1.5 hours for me. She is busy a lot of the time, so I end up feeling alone. Living alone, eapecially this year, has been really difficult. I feel super...

www.resetera.com

This explains some things. (about Taysan)

IIIRC, pretty sure TaySan has like 11k in the bank or something. He lives rent free and has some weird liquor delivery job. His expenses must be gas alone. His plan was to live with his parents and take care of them as they aged. He's hoping to meet a significant other who wants to live with him and his parents.

Sounds insane to me, but I have a friend my age who lives alongside her husband at her mom and step dad's house. They're almost 30. At the very least they're saving up for a house. TaySan could realistically secure a home loan at this point if his credit was decent. He just has no drive whatsoever. It's gross.

 

[Forsythia]

So if a person doesn't identify as a him or her, that person is a they. So what the hell is xey then?

Retarded.

 

[EviLore]

IIIRC, pretty sure TaySan has like 11k in the bank or something. He lives rent free and has some weird liquor delivery job. His expenses must be gas alone. His plan was to live with his parents and take care of them as they aged. He's hoping to meet a significant other who wants to live with him and his parents.

Sounds insane to me, but I have a friend my age who lives alongside her husband at her mom and step dad's house. They're almost 30. At the very least they're saving up for a house. TaySan could realistically secure a home loan at this point if his credit was decent. He just has no drive whatsoever. It's gross.

No shortage of losers in the world. They serve an important function of making you look good when you breeze past them on the way to achieving your goals.

 

[Papa]

Damn I wish I had 11k. I could afford like a hundred big macs.

 

[SNPlayen]

No shortage of losers in the world. They serve an important function of making you look good when you breeze past them on the way to achieving your goals.

Except when you work with or manage them, then they are hinderance....

 

[#Phonepunk#]

Lol Tay lives with his parents and brother and sister? this explains every thing

He sounds like a 10th grader because he is one!

 

[ipukespiders]

Taysan is a waste of oxygen and government benefits. His parents would do him a favour by kicking him out on his own.

 

[TransTrender]

Finally.. we are almost to Exhausted Walrus Breakdown #456

Living alone

Does anyone else on here live alone? For reference, I am 24 years old. I am engaged, but my fiancé is in grad school in a different city about 1.5 hours for me. She is busy a lot of the time, so I end up feeling alone. Living alone, eapecially this year, has been really difficult. I feel super...

www.resetera.com

Ah, yes, thank you.
One of my favorite characters.

 

[nush]

TaySan could realistically secure a home loan at this point if his credit was decent. He just has no drive whatsoever. It's gross.

There's a lot of people living with their parents because "Property is too expensive" when the reality is they don't even try. They don't want to experience any hardship or a step down from where they are living. I witnessed this for example with my youngest brother instead of saving money to stand on his own two feet it was all the latest Apple mac gear, branded clothing, new car and long weekend holidays with his friends. I had him living with me for a while, super low rent like £50 a week and 50% of the bills. I assumed I was helping him out and he'd save, but nope..

Eventually he lucked out and became this toyboy for an older female banker. She was textbook bitter old woman who had focused on her career and even though they were a couple she was not going to let him move in to her big house until he earned a comparable amount to her, he was a graphic designer so that was never going to happen. I forced her hand by kicking him out, tough love. So she had to let him move in and now he has a new mummy looking after him. DINK life of course because, circling back around to the avoidance of any hardships.

 

[teezzy]

There's a lot of people living with their parents because "Property is too expensive" when the reality is they don't even try. They don't want to experience any hardship or a step down from where they are living. I witnessed this for example with my youngest brother instead of saving money to stand on his own two feet it was all the latest Apple mac gear, branded clothing, new car and long weekend holidays with his friends. I had him living with me for a while, super low rent like £50 a week and 50% of the bills. I assumed I was helping him out and he'd save, but nope..

Eventually he lucked out and became this toyboy for an older female banker. She was textbook bitter old woman who had focused on her career and even though they were a couple she was not going to let him move in to her big house until he earned a comparable amount to her, he was a graphic designer so that was never going to happen. I forced her hand by kicking him out, tough love. So she had to let him move in and now he has a new mummy looking after him. DINK life of course because, circling back around to the avoidance of any hardships.

Yeah I really don't get it. I moved out with my first paycheck; crummy basement apartment as my first pad, but it counts. Since then I've always found one way or another to make ends meet, even if it meant I wasn't entirely sure where my next meal was coming from at times in between jobs. Some people really don't value their independence in the same light, I guess. I feel blessed I've been able to secure a family home to rent for the last five years or so. I'm making moves to ensure I can take it over formally when shit comes to shove (anxious for it, as morbid as that may be). I'm content with my life. At least I've earned it. I know people who work trash jobs and somehow go out and buy like $50 t-shirts and smart watches and the like... I don't get it either.

 

[nush]

I wasn't entirely sure where my next meal was coming from at times in between jobs.

Ah, I know it well. Those were my shoplifting lunches days.

 

[Ymir]

There's a lot of people living with their parents because "Property is too expensive" when the reality is they don't even try. They don't want to experience any hardship or a step down from where they are living. I witnessed this for example with my youngest brother instead of saving money to stand on his own two feet it was all the latest Apple mac gear, branded clothing, new car and long weekend holidays with his friends. I had him living with me for a while, super low rent like £50 a week and 50% of the bills. I assumed I was helping him out and he'd save, but nope..

Eventually he lucked out and became this toyboy for an older female banker. She was textbook bitter old woman who had focused on her career and even though they were a couple she was not going to let him move in to her big house until he earned a comparable amount to her, he was a graphic designer so that was never going to happen. I forced her hand by kicking him out, tough love. So she had to let him move in and now he has a new mummy looking after him. DINK life of course because, circling back around to the avoidance of any hardships.

They don't try because they'd rather be woke and complain than actually do something. If you accept and keep telling yourself that life will always be unfair then you don't need to take charge of your life. You want to pay to live in a worse neighborhood or you're not in the main part of the city? That's not fair, I should be able to live wherever I want. That's the biggest thing I hate with the woke movement, things are only unfair them so why bother being involved in a "rigged" system. They'd rather whine and get sympathy since clearly no one else has ever experienced hardships but them.

 

[RoyalLaFlame]

Yeah I really don't get it. I moved out with my first paycheck; crummy basement apartment as my first pad, but it counts. Since then I've always found one way or another to make ends meet, even if it meant I wasn't entirely sure where my next meal was coming from at times in between jobs. Some people really don't value their independence in the same light, I guess. I feel blessed I've been able to secure a family home to rent for the last five years or so. I'm making moves to ensure I can take it over formally when shit comes to shove (anxious for it, as morbid as that may be). I'm content with my life. At least I've earned it. I know people who work trash jobs and somehow go out and buy like $50 t-shirts and smart watches and the like... I don't get it either.

Yeah, that irks me as well. I have a lot of friends like that, always complaining on how housing is expensive so they just stay with their parents.

The moment I went to university I started living on my own - rent a room until I finish uni and then rent a full house. Now I moved to China, earning my money, trying to incorporate into society (which is so fucking hard), and managed to rent a small apartment in a hotel together with my gf. I feel good about it, because it means I am going somewhere, I'm becoming someone.

Excuses don't cut it for me anymore. I'm living an uncomfortable life but I know that in a few years I can be way better than I am now.

 

[nush]

trying to incorporate into society (which is so fucking hard)

Not really, but if your not white it probably is.

 

[RoyalLaFlame]

Not really, but if your not white it probably is.

I am white, but not knowing the language makes it way harder (I'm still learning). I'm not living in a big city like Shanghai or Beijing where english can be easily used.

 

[nush]

I am white, but not knowing the language makes it way harder (I'm still learning). I'm not living in a big city like Shanghai or Beijing where english can be easily used.

As long as you are trying to speak another language people always appreciate the effort and will accommodate you. I'm in a small town and people are much more friendly here compared to the big cities, there's more of a community feeling. My Chinese isnt great but having a Chinese girlfriend that didn't speak English was a fast track to improving. Remember Wechat has a translation function so that helps.

 

[RoyalLaFlame]

As long as you are trying to speak another language people always appreciate the effort and will accommodate you. I'm in a small town and people are much more friendly here compared to the big cities, there's more of a community feeling. My Chinese isnt great but having a Chinese girlfriend that didn't speak English was a fast track to improving. Remember Wechat has a translation function so that helps.

Yeah, thankfully my gf speaks English. I try to use chinese as best as I can but I've only been one year here, so it's not that great. Listening is getting better, but speaking is still a pain in the ass.

 

[nush]

Yeah, thankfully my gf speaks English. I try to use chinese as best as I can but I've only been one year here, so it's not that great. Listening is getting better, but speaking is still a pain in the ass.

Time to tell her to only speak Chinese with you. It works, but I agree tones are difficult. You'll be swearing like a local in no time! Fuck your mothers pussy, fuck it, fuck you, stupid cunt.

 

[RoyalLaFlame]

Time to tell her to only speak Chinese with you. It works, but I agree tones are difficult. You'll be swearing like a local in no time! Fuck your mothers pussy, fuck it, fuck you, stupid cunt.

Wo cao, maybe I'll tell her to do that.

 

[nush]

Wo cao, maybe I'll tell her to do that.

Do it, live through my pain and my former flatmates pain and come out better on the other side.

 

[nush]

Back on topic

 

[SNPlayen]

Was playing scrabble with sister in law a week or so ago and at the end she used Ze as in the pronoun to win. Then I realised do you know how many 2-3 letter words you can use now? Scrabble is now ruined.

 

[ConanTheKing]

It's the stubble.

It's possible to pull off being bald but you need to go for that Dwayne Johnson, Vin Diesel, Jason Statham, Bruce Willis masculinity. They all bulk up at least a little, put on a hard man act and often sport some stubble.

I know someone though who is bald, can't grow facial hair and can't grow muscle. He just looks meek.

 

[bender]

Yeah I really don't get it. I moved out with my first paycheck; crummy basement apartment as my first pad, but it counts. Since then I've always found one way or another to make ends meet, even if it meant I wasn't entirely sure where my next meal was coming from at times in between jobs. Some people really don't value their independence in the same light, I guess. I feel blessed I've been able to secure a family home to rent for the last five years or so. I'm making moves to ensure I can take it over formally when shit comes to shove (anxious for it, as morbid as that may be). I'm content with my life. At least I've earned it. I know people who work trash jobs and somehow go out and buy like $50 t-shirts and smart watches and the like... I don't get it either.

No shortage of losers in the world. They serve an important function of making you look good when you breeze past them on the way to achieving your goals.

This is more of a tangent than defending TaySan as I couldn't stand him.

I've always admired how family units functioned in Korea. It's not uncommon for multiple generations of families to live within the same household. Functionally, it's kind of brilliant. As young coupes have children, you have the grandparent available to help educate them on the does and don'ts of parenthood, not to mentioned the extra pairs of hands to help out. As the older generation get closer to the long night, they have their children and grandchildren as caregivers. Granted there are some external factors that help necessitate this. Korea is a fairly small country and mountainous so land is incredibly expensive. The cultural divide is also vastly different with Koreans having much more reverence for age and respecting the wisdom that comes with that. Economically it just makes a ton of sense as you'd save so much money on baby sitters and senior care. I guess this tangent is to try and remove the stigma that children need to break free of their parents. It's very wasteful and harmful towards our family units.

edit: I need to proof read more. haha

 

[EviLore]

This is more o a tangent than defending TaySan as I couldn't stand him.

I've always admired how family units functioned in Korea. It's not uncommon for multiple generations of families to live within the same household. Functionally, it's kind of brilliant. As young coupes have children, you have the grandparent on hand to help educate on the does and don'ts have parenthood not to mentioned the extra pairs of hands to help out. As the older generation get closer to the long night, they have their children and grandchildren as caregivers. Granted there are some external factors that help necessitate this. Korea is a fairly small country and mountainous so land is incredibly expensive. The cultural divide is also vastly different with Koreans having much more reverence for age and respecting the wisdom that comes with that. Economically it just makes a ton of sense as you'd save so much money on baby sitters and senior care. I guess this tangent is to try and remove the stigma that children need to break free of their parents. It's very wasteful and harmful towards our family units.

Tighter family bonds are better than weaker ones, absolutely. In America you're meant to strike out on your own and make something for yourself, though. If that leads back to involving your parents when you start a family, or taking care of them or your grandparents down the road, that's wonderful, but not for a single young man who hasn't done anything meaningful with his life.

 

[bender]

Tighter family bonds are better than weaker ones, absolutely. In America you're meant to strike out on your own and make something for yourself, though. If that leads back to involving your parents when you start a family, or taking care of them or your grandparents down the road, that's wonderful, but not for a single young man who hasn't done anything meaningful with his life.

It's a weird a mix for sure. I get frustrated with my nephew who is in his early 20s and still lives at home, but he's completely unmotivated. I'm sure part of that frustration is culturally based on the fact that he needs to be a man and strike out on his own, but it's probably more to do with him being spoiled and not knowing what personal responsibility is all about. On the plus side, he loves his parents which is 180 degrees from my siblings and I that bounced out as soon as we could. I just look at my friends around me who are starting families or have elderly parents and think of all the wasted money in having family units that aren't separated geographically. Nannies, daycare, assisted living, multiple family homes, cars, etc. Family bounds are more tenuous than ever and our consumption model is broken. There has to be a better way.

 

[teezzy]

bender

 

[bender]

bender

 

[Torrent of Pork]

Everytime I imagine myself bald I just seeing my nutsack with a white beard........weird.

You either have a very wrinkly scalp, or a very taut nutsack.

 

[bender]

You either have a very wrinkly scalp, or a very taut nutsack.

 

[nush]

This is more of a tangent than defending TaySan as I couldn't stand him.

I've always admired how family units functioned in Korea. It's not uncommon for multiple generations of families to live within the same household. Functionally, it's kind of brilliant. As young coupes have children, you have the grandparent available to help educate them on the does and don'ts of parenthood, not to mentioned the extra pairs of hands to help out. As the older generation get closer to the long night, they have their children and grandchildren as caregivers. Granted there are some external factors that help necessitate this. Korea is a fairly small country and mountainous so land is incredibly expensive. The cultural divide is also vastly different with Koreans having much more reverence for age and respecting the wisdom that comes with that. Economically it just makes a ton of sense as you'd save so much money on baby sitters and senior care. I guess this tangent is to try and remove the stigma that children need to break free of their parents. It's very wasteful and harmful towards our family units.

edit: I need to proof read more. haha

Same here in China, the system works but it's understood it's a two way street. Grandparents look after the grandchildren while the parents go out on focus on their careers. Thus giving a better life for the Grandparents. Nothing wrong with living with your parents if your using that as a platform to better yourself.

 

[MrFunSocks]

Advice Wanted: GF broke up with me after coming home from basic and we still live together

My girlfriend broke up with me but we still live together. But it's kind of a unique situation and I could use advice. I'm just gonna give the story in bullets to (try to) make it quick. Met this girl (let's call her J)about a year and half ago. We became roommates and over time became...

www.resetera.com

Every time I see one of these overly long essays explaining every minute detail of months/years worth of non-events as backstory for some pathetic little "situation" just makes me think they're all made up. How was any of that massive post relevant to the question at hand? How can anyone even help with this most likely made up situation? The post could have been this:

"my "girlfriend" broke up with me but we have to live together for one more week. How can I stop crying?"

 

[nush]

Advice Wanted: GF broke up with me after coming home from basic and we still live together

My girlfriend broke up with me but we still live together. But it's kind of a unique situation and I could use advice. I'm just gonna give the story in bullets to (try to) make it quick. Met this girl (let's call her J)about a year and half ago. We became roommates and over time became...

www.resetera.com

Every time I see one of these overly long essays explaining every minute detail of months/years worth of non-events as backstory for some pathetic little "situation" just makes me think they're all made up. How was any of that massive post relevant to the question at hand? How can anyone even help with this most likely made up situation? The post could have been this:

"my "girlfriend" broke up with me but we have to live together for one more week. How can I stop crying?"

She obviously found new military dick and traded up from this 29YO soyboy she's only been dating for a year or less.

meanwhile on Resetera...

 

[Ionian]

Advice Wanted: GF broke up with me after coming home from basic and we still live together

My girlfriend broke up with me but we still live together. But it's kind of a unique situation and I could use advice. I'm just gonna give the story in bullets to (try to) make it quick. Met this girl (let's call her J)about a year and half ago. We became roommates and over time became...

www.resetera.com

Every time I see one of these overly long essays explaining every minute detail of months/years worth of non-events as backstory for some pathetic little "situation" just makes me think they're all made up. How was any of that massive post relevant to the question at hand? How can anyone even help with this most likely made up situation? The post could have been this:

"my "girlfriend" broke up with me but we have to live together for one more week. How can I stop crying?"

That's either fake or the dude is a loser. 1.5 years but she was away, after being a friend. Good luck with that!

Don't worry though, Taysan has some advice;

 

[Yui's Empire]

 

[SLoWMoTIoN]

There's a lot of people living with their parents because "Property is too expensive" when the reality is they don't even try. They don't want to experience any hardship or a step down from where they are living. I witnessed this for example with my youngest brother instead of saving money to stand on his own two feet it was all the latest Apple mac gear, branded clothing, new car and long weekend holidays with his friends. I had him living with me for a while, super low rent like £50 a week and 50% of the bills. I assumed I was helping him out and he'd save, but nope..

Eventually he lucked out and became this toyboy for an older female banker. She was textbook bitter old woman who had focused on her career and even though they were a couple she was not going to let him move in to her big house until he earned a comparable amount to her, he was a graphic designer so that was never going to happen. I forced her hand by kicking him out, tough love. So she had to let him move in and now he has a new mummy looking after him. DINK life of course because, circling back around to the avoidance of any hardships.

Bro...

 

[nush]

Bro...

Come at me bro...

 

[JORMBO]

IIIRC, pretty sure TaySan has like 11k in the bank or something. He lives rent free and has some weird liquor delivery job. His expenses must be gas alone. His plan was to live with his parents and take care of them as they aged. He's hoping to meet a significant other who wants to live with him and his parents.

Sounds insane to me, but I have a friend my age who lives alongside her husband at her mom and step dad's house. They're almost 30. At the very least they're saving up for a house. TaySan could realistically secure a home loan at this point if his credit was decent. He just has no drive whatsoever. It's gross.

He also regularly complained about not being able to work due to covid shut downs. Meanwhile he dipped into his savings to buy every new console and a pile of games.

 

[nush]

Meanwhile he dipped into his savings to buy every new console and a pile of games.

and Nevada hookers.

 

[Torrent of Pork]

I moved back in with my grandparents when I got a local trucking job, but it was to take over the bills and mortgage so they could finally retire. I'm not going to pretend that I'm not inheriting the house, but that will hopefully be quite some time from now.

I made a promise a long time ago that they won't go in a nursing home, regardless of the cost.

 

[Maiden Voyage]

That's either fake or the dude is a loser. 1.5 years but she was away, after being a friend. Good luck with that!

Don't worry though, Taysan has some advice;

Has Tay even ever had a relationship?

 

[Ionian]

Has Tay even ever had a relationship?

I never seen him mention one. He might have, someone else probably knows better.

Also his job isn't delivering booze, it's stock-taking booze. Here anyway that means just counting the stock. Might be different in America.

 

[Ahti]

Ugh, I hate how TaySan's mere existence into the convo automatically colours the conversation in question unfavorably lol

But yes, as someone who is Asian myself; I always find the conversation around nuclear families v extended families fascinating. I guess I'm lucky in a way to have best of both worlds in my individual case; but having said that a lot of the parent-living-basement drags online didn't read/process for me (and I critically failed to understand them when I was younger) until a bit later.

To be honest I still have a hard time taking a shot at someone who lives w/ their parents, simply because it is so common/mundane (hell, people get married AND move to their parents lol, could not be me). With that said, I don't fully agree with the "property is sooo expensive now" argument since that implies a perpetual doom situation, which can't really be functionally "opposed".

I always view living with parents as someone building up a base/using the money saved as a paddleboard to jump off of eventually, at least the modern sensibilities of it. I notice perceptions of this vary harshly across countries, cultures and especially age wise, as well.

 

[Captain Europe]

User was banned and mocked for saying maybe someone wasn't murdered because of racism.

Turns out it wasn't because of racism.

They can't handle any discussion around Islam, imagine saying Islam needs to get its act together with terrorism and homophobia over there, instant rage mode.