So I asked her out.

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UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!

Alright all you naysayers; well you know what. Eat your heart out about the whole she's only into me for the tips. Well, guess what. She came out with us last weekend and she had a great time. She was chatting me up and shit. We were flirting the whole night.

Well, that's that. Now, what next? Do I just float and keep chilling or do I ask her out again? I don't know man. But I'm lost with her as she's all over the place.

Ask her if she has a boyfriend (still). If she says yes ask her if he treats her well, when she says yes, respond with "I wouldn't".

Also hit on other chicks in her presence if possible. You said you were with a group? Engage the other girls. And if she were over you all night and was so "into-you" as you're implying, you should escalate before you let this drag on any longer.

Just my two cents.
 

MThanded

I Was There! Official L Receiver 2/12/2016
I wonder how much money she's raked in from him.
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Socreges

Banned
See, you were right all along. Keep it up.

Next move: Bring her flowers. Girls LOVE flowers. And make sure it's a public display. She'll want everyone to be impressed that she's got an admirer.

Let us know how it goes.
 
you really showed us

Well, Read the thread. They were all saying how I have no chance because she's just being nice because of tips or whatever. Tips this, tips that. But at least, even with me asking her out already, she still came out with us and I'm part of that "us".

And lets see how it goes, I'll keep this thread updated whether it completely backfires or it goes smooth when I actually do the transition.

And I'll even post a picture of her and me.

I don't really know your situation, but from EVERYTHING you've said, it seems like the two of you are on completely different wavelengths.


i did read the thread. Either she really has a boyfriend and is just out to have some fun/fill time/make new friends (shocker I know).

Or she doesn't have a boyfriend, but said that to not hurt your feelings. It could be that she was also put on the spot and came up with this boyfriend excuse.

Either way, straight up ask her out or torture yourself for a longer period of time with no real payout. Your choice.


You know how you can find out if she really has a boyfriend?! How about asking about him, his name, how long they've been together. If she keeps the charade going, she has a boyfriend and you need to let go.

I honestly think she's in it to simply be friends which I'm completely cool with (she drinks, smokes etc...). No issues with that but I'm not blowing the off-chance that it could work after a couple of hangout sessions. I do plan to ask her out depending on how I feel her and vice-versa outside of her work meets. And there is no torture because I'm not keeping myself confined to her, I flirt with other girls and have other friends that keep me occupied etc...

I actually want to ask her about her boyfriend as you stated with all those questions and stuff but meh, I'll find out sooner or later.

Didn't you hear him earlier? He's totally over her, and he's not thinking about her anymore.

But maaaan she totally came with us on a group date and talked to him and stuff she's totally into him now

Yeah, before was "didn't you hear, just because she chats with him / drinks with him / chills with him after work means she's totally into him" or "she's doing it for the tips"

Whatever happened to that? Oh man.
 

Az987

all good things
I heard this in a song once in the mid 90s and I think it applies here.

I gotta man

Whats ya man got to do wit me

I gotta man

But ya man aint me
 

MThanded

I Was There! Official L Receiver 2/12/2016
Well, Read the thread. They were all saying how I have no chance because she's just being nice because of tips or whatever. Tips this, tips that. But at least, even with me asking her out already, she still came out with us and I'm part of that "us".

And lets see how it goes, I'll keep this thread updated whether it completely backfires or it goes smooth when I actually do the transition.

And I'll even post a picture of her and me.
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bjb

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You updated a thread where you didn't accomplish anything.

This is turning into stalker territory. Please let her go - move on with your life.
 

Radec

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Don't ask her out again, but stay with the flirting.

Make her so into you without giving in or asking her out.

If all goes well, eventually she'll be the one who'll do the move. Either she'll be more aggressive on the flirting or she'll say something about her and her bf not working out lately or something.

But never ever ask her out again if she's still with her BF. That would be dumb.
 
Hah. Awesome thread.

She wants to bang/is banging one of your friends.

Probably. :/ And I like I said, I'd laugh it off. They are my good friends so good on them if she likes one of them.

Damn, too bad I don't have any videos of the Leafs in the playoffs for the last 8 years.

That's because we don't want to play 82 games, get out in the 1st and and get a low draft pick.

The leafs organization = Genius.

I'm loving these hockey beaks! Even on GAF people hate the Leafs haha

Oh he's just a bitter old Montreal canandians fan hat can't tolerate the love leafs get.

Don't ask her out again, but stay with the flirting.

Make her so into you without giving in or asking her out.

If all goes well, eventually she'll be the one who'll do the move. Either she'll be more aggressive on the flirting or she'll say something about her and her bf not working out lately or something.

But never ever ask her out again if she's still with her BF. That would be dumb.

Thank you. I'm just going to go with the flow and see how it goes. I'm going to play this to my advantage and no, I'm not going to ask her out anytime soon. She's the aggressive type so I'm pretty sure she'd make the move if she wants too as well.
 

UFRA

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She works there. She has to talk to you. Don't read into it.

Bingo. Combine this with the fact that some girls are just flirts. No matter how much you over think the situation, she probably isn't into you and is just a flirty personality.

I've fallen for this trap a few times as well, only it messed up the friendships I had with the girls, so consider yourself fortunate you still talk as if it didn't happen.
 
Yeah, before was "didn't you hear, just because she chats with him / drinks with him / chills with him after work means she's totally into him" or "she's doing it for the tips"

Whatever happened to that? Oh man.

Oh shit, you a real balla now. I bet she touched your arm and everything. Eye contact and shit. You'll be in those panties in no time at this rate.
 
Bingo. Combine this with the fact that some girls are just flirts. No matter how much you over think the situation, she probably isn't into you and is just a flirty personality.

I've fallen for this trap a few times as well, only it messed up the friendships I had with the girls, so consider yourself fortunate you still talk as if it didn't happen.

Be sure to check out the update.

He sure showed us!
 

Mr. Fix

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UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!

Alright all you naysayers; well you know what. Eat your heart out about the whole she's only into me for the tips. Well, guess what. She came out with us last weekend and she had a great time. She was chatting me up and shit. We were flirting the whole night.

Well, that's that. Now, what next? Do I just float and keep chilling or do I ask her out again? I don't know man. But I'm lost with her as she's all over the place.

Wait, so it wasn't just the two of you this time? Ask her out again, if she says no or reiterates the bf thing, then it's done. If you're reluctant to ask her out again, then deep down you know she doesn't want you and you're trying to play it safe while thinking "you won".
 

lethial

Reeeeeeee
UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!

Alright all you naysayers; well you know what. Eat your heart out about the whole she's only into me for the tips. Well, guess what. She came out with us last weekend and she had a great time. She was chatting me up and shit. We were flirting the whole night.

Well, that's that. Now, what next? Do I just float and keep chilling or do I ask her out again? I don't know man. But I'm lost with her as she's all over the place.

Friend zoned, fuck yah!
 

alphaNoid

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If the answer isn't Yes, its always No. This is a little secret older, experienced men try to tell younger guys all the time. Alas, younger guys will fail, trip fall and eventually have to learn on their own. The secret to getting women isn't getting them at all, its making them come to you. Thats all there is to it.

edit. Sounds like the OP thinks this girl likes him when she already told him No, I have a boyfriend. Hanging out like friends and giggling isn't the same as getting a tuggy or in the least a real date or making out. She isn't into you, slhe already made that crystal clear when she turned you down. Now ... even if she doesn't have a boyfriend my guess is she wants to get with one of your friends.

Beware of red flags.
 
If the answer isn't Yes, its always No. This is a little secret older, experienced men try to tell younger guys all the time. Alas, younger guys will fail, trip fall and eventually have to learn on their own. The secret to getting women isn't getting them at all, its making them come to you. Thats all there is to it.

So much this.

If you guys would accept this, life would be better.
 

Cyan

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See, you were right all along. Keep it up.

Next move: Bring her flowers. Girls LOVE flowers. And make sure it's a public display. She'll want everyone to be impressed that she's got an admirer.

Let us know how it goes.

Crown of sonnets.

Let's make it happen.
 

YoungHav

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Fortunate Son, how old are you? What you should have done was talk to one of the other girls during the hangout. Waitress would be in your room as you type, but you fell for it again.
 
If the answer isn't Yes, its always No. This is a little secret older, experienced men try to tell younger guys all the time. Alas, younger guys will fail, trip fall and eventually have to learn on their own. The secret to getting women isn't getting them at all, its making them come to you. Thats all there is to it.

Probably the only good thing an old friend of mine passed on to me years ago: YOU are the man. YOU are the prize.

This grabbing at bread crumbs shit aint a good look, but hey, when you're desperate...
 
You updated a thread where you didn't accomplish anything.

This is turning into stalker territory. Please let her go - move on with your life.

Bwahahaa.

OP. PLEASE.PLEASE! Listen to GAF on this. It's going to only end in heartache. Massive painful heartache.
 
She's already turned you down OP. Even if you perceive her to have been flirting with you on the group outing, she has already told you she's not interested. Leave her alone, she clearly just wants to be friends.
 

TwiztidElf

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From the OP:
But she said "no, I have a boyfriend".
I hate this. I realise this is usually a nice way to say "Not interested", but seriously, I'd rather hear a polite "No, I'm not interested" than this.
Because when I heard* "I have a boyfriend", all I heard was "My boyfriend is better than you."
*married.
 
From the OP:

I hate this. I realise this is usually a nice way to say "Not interested", but seriously, I'd rather hear a polite "No, I'm not interested" than this.
Because when I heard* "I have a boyfriend", all I heard was "My boyfriend is better than you."
*married.

Then your hearing is off, since that's not the intent of the phrase at all. Saying "I'm not interested" is more abrupt and rude than "I'm already seeing someone", which is probably why a lot of people prefer to use the latter - even if ultimately they have the same meaning.
 
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