Devolution
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The problem with a lot of these dating-age issues is over thinking it. Just talk to these women. If they don't want to or are playing hard to get, move the fuck on, they are wasting the time you have to figure out compatibility.
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The problem with a lot of these dating-age issues is over thinking it. Just talk to these women. If they don't want to or are playing hard to get, move the fuck on, they are wasting the time you have to figure out compatibility.
Life is such a cruel tease, don't need advice since nothing will ever come of it, but I've been talking to this Brazilian girl on facebook that is my ideal woman. She's gorgeous, even by high Brazilian standards, brown skin, jet black hair, just flawless looking, she's very sweet and intelligent since her English runs laps around my Portuguese as well. It's a shame that nothing will ever come from this though.
At least I have a new friend.
At least I have a new friend.
Etrian Oddity
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...lol, those nights when a random girl you don't recognize rolls by in a Corvette and screams out your name while waving at you. Gonna miss this college.
SlipperySlope
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It's Saturday now... And I have nothing to do. And then there's tomorrow....
I'm cracking... I want to call her
I'm cracking... I want to call her
ClovingWestbrook
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Bro. Move on. How long were you even with her?It's Saturday now... And I have nothing to do. And then there's tomorrow....
I'm cracking... I want to call her
SlipperySlope
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2 months.
Nerds with Guns
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Why won't something ever happen?
Is it a legit reason like she lives too far away/ different continent? Or are you just afraid to make a move?
It's Saturday now... And I have nothing to do. And then there's tomorrow....
I'm cracking... I want to call her
Man 2 months is like an eon. Yes, call her. Beg her forgiveness. Tell her how desperately you want to be back with her...how much it killed you to be without her. This will make you appear sensitive and in no way pathetic or desperate. I think it will turn out well for you.
Or, you can see through my sarcasm and just not call and come to grips that it is over. Move on. Get into therapy, because clearly you need it and grow as a person. There are plenty of fish in the sea, you just need to buy a fishing boat and a bit of netting.
I live in NY, she lives in Brazil.
Not sure how she found me on Facebook, but we've been talking non-stop ever since.
ClovingWestbrook
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Why did she break up with you
Nerds with Guns
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Advice for the ages. Drunken Facebook messages suck.
That happened to me yesterday when I was on a date (although it wasn't a Corvette). I still have no idea who the fuck she was, went by too fast.
It is horrible, sheer random event and now Im talking to a woman that lives 3000 miles away that is pretty much perfect for me, but also not attainable.
I'll send you a picture of her just so you can get the true nature of how much it sucks.
How do you know it's not just a dude lying?
I've seen her on cam, seen baby pics of her, her entire family is on facebook and she has a couple hundred friends. Unless this is the master of deception at work, I don't think I have much to worry about.
I had commented on a couple of posts about Brazil on there and learning Portuguese, I'm guessing that's how she found me.
I've seen her on cam, seen baby pics of her, her entire family is on facebook and she has a couple hundred friends. Unless this is the master of deception at work, I don't think I have much to worry about.
I had commented on a couple of posts about Brazil on there, I'm guessing that's how she found me.
You ever see Catfish?
...but seriously, you didn't say all that, so I didn't know. I don't know how beautiful she is, but sometimes thinks like this just can't work. Is it really that bad? Is she really just that good-looking, or do you like her personality as well?
LOL, Catfish, I'll start to worry when her little sister starts sending me paintings.
Her personality is great, and she's really that good looking, it's a double whammy which is why it sucks that nothing could ever come of it. I have no intentions of pursuing anything, we may like each other but Im not delusional, we'll just be friends. She's helping me with my Portuguese too.
I'm sure she's fairly pretty, but there's no reason getting heartbroken or upset about when she's in Brazil, and you're that far away.
I'm not at all heartbroken or upset, I have a new friend regardless, I just said it sucks.
Indeed, hopefully it'll all go well! Oh and don't worry about it that much, but thanks for remembering!
Also there is definitely something about pubs/bars/clubs which turns me off approaching anyone.
I noticed a girl looking over at me tonight, and I could tell she was eyeing me up (I'm 99% sure she was), but I really didn't have the confidence to do anything.
I've really got to break that barrier.
Darren870
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SlipperySlope
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Hmm... This is a tricky one, women are hard to read. I think it was for two reasons. One, I was moving too fast. Two, she thinks I'm insensitive.
Bucket-o-roadkill
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For about the 6th time this year I am experiencing the cold shoulder after meeting up with a girl from a dating site. It's so annoying, the dates always go great, whoever I meet up with is laughing, smiling, there's never ANY awkward silences or anything like that, just good chat and conversation. It's not that I'm being 'friend-zoned' because they disappear pretty much. I met a girl Friday night and today, for the first time since getting talking to her, we have had no contact at all. I messaged her with no reply back. I'm damned if I'm sending another one, I'm not risking coming over all weird and desperate, so whatever. Ironically, on the date she was actually moaning about guys who this very thing - disappearing after meeting. so anyway, all I can really think it must be is my looks. I'm incredibly paranoid about my appearance being crap. I'm not fat or have anything particularly weird going on, I'm just not naturally good looking. I look like an extra from a zombie set half the time, like a generally unwell vibe going on, its horrible. I've had it all my life, but now I'm in my late 20's, I obviously don't have that natural youthfulness to overcome it.
So here's my question, what is the best strategy when it comes to ugly blokes and dating site pics. Do I carry on with my current method which is use my very best photos, to attract attention in the first place, but then appear to be a bit on the ugly side when we actually meet up.. OR should I use just average pics were I look a bit rough, which would lower my already low chances of getting chatting to girls but at least when we meet it shouldn't put them off that I don't look as good as my pics..?
So here's my question, what is the best strategy when it comes to ugly blokes and dating site pics. Do I carry on with my current method which is use my very best photos, to attract attention in the first place, but then appear to be a bit on the ugly side when we actually meet up.. OR should I use just average pics were I look a bit rough, which would lower my already low chances of getting chatting to girls but at least when we meet it shouldn't put them off that I don't look as good as my pics..?
Vermillion
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They can feel
Fuck.
ClovingWestbrook
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So if you call her wouldnt that convey that you are clingy/move too fast? It doesnt seem as though shes interested in having a relationship with you so dont focus on her. I realize its easier said than done but move on.
SlipperySlope
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I'm trying to wait as long as I can, but eventually I'm pretty sure I'm going to break....
Vermillion
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I'm seconding the "don't call, move on," brah.
Just go for the next one, for your own sake.
scotcheggz
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Just delete her number dude. I did that once, it worked wonders. As soon as you know the possibility isn't there, it becomes much easier to face facts and deal.
He didn't say nothing about the size of his penis.
Bucket-o-roadkill
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Ha why didn't I think of that! That's the problem with these dating sites, not enough people with impaired sight
You gotta know where to look.
Vermillion
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Lmao. If the first few episodes of Covert Affairs have taught me anything, it's this
Girls think blind guys aren't judging them for their looks, because they can't see them. But they can still tell by the way guys react to them and act around them.
In this case I'm just going to assume it works the same way if you flip the genders. Also, they may be more focused on things like your tone of voice rather than the fake smile of confidence you put on.
tl;dr: You still need to fix yourself before dating a blind chick.
Girls think blind guys aren't judging them for their looks, because they can't see them. But they can still tell by the way guys react to them and act around them.
In this case I'm just going to assume it works the same way if you flip the genders. Also, they may be more focused on things like your tone of voice rather than the fake smile of confidence you put on.
tl;dr: You still need to fix yourself before dating a blind chick.
scotcheggz
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lol
Anyway, are you really sure you're the monstrosity you think you are, or is it just a lack of confidence in your looks? I mean, what makes you so sure, you described yourself with quite a lot of care, that threw up some flags to me, like maybe you have a lack of confidence and are overly harsh on yourself? I dunno, I'm not speaking with real knowledge of anything here, just the kind of feel your post gave me at the time.
Bucket-o-roadkill
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Probably a bit of both. It's easy for people to just say to me 'dust yourself off and try again', but this is like 6 times now, not just once or twice. It's becoming a pattern, which would be enough to knock anyone's confidence. Doing the same thing and expecting different results is verging on insanity so I need to improve my chances by changing something, whether its my pictures or something else.. Just not sure how to go about it.
I loathe dating sites in general purely because how easy it is for girls just to find someone 'better'. Pressure is completely on the guys, most girls on these things get dozens of messages every time they sign in. It's nearly impossible to keep anyone's attention.
SlipperySlope
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Lol. My coworker, who interviewed me, told me that he wished he could have recorded my interview, saying he could have used it as a "What not to do" video.
Wasn't the first time I've been told I give a bad interview. My first real programming job, they told me that I was the worst interview they ever had.
Edit - and those were two jobs I got! Imagine the ones I didn't...
Bucket-o-roadkill
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Yeah, been through that too. Job I ended up getting came about with the boss ringing ME up.
Funnily enough these dating profiles do feel like strange CV's, maybe I need to wait for a girl to message me first!............. Ha! Yeah right!
Vermillion
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Yeah, been through that too. Job I ended up getting came about with the boss ringing ME up.
Funnily enough these dating profiles do feel like strange CV's, maybe I need to wait for a girl to message me first!............. Ha! Yeah right!
I might suggest that you don't exclusively use online.
scotcheggz
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Right, I think it's best to take a really relaxed approach to online dating, I have a whole grande theory as to why you shouldn't invest too much into it, but I'll save you all from that lol.
SlipperySlope
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My sister has a lot of hot friends. I asked her if she could play a game of matchmaker for me, and she replied:
"Ha, I can't even do that for myself!"
I met Robin through a meetup.com junction, so I'll likely have to avoid those...
I have no friends that like to go on the dating scene. I have only two friends, one lives in Missisippi, the other I think is asexual or something. He has no interest in dating.
I'm not comfortable going to bars or clubs alone...
"Ha, I can't even do that for myself!"
I met Robin through a meetup.com junction, so I'll likely have to avoid those...
I have no friends that like to go on the dating scene. I have only two friends, one lives in Missisippi, the other I think is asexual or something. He has no interest in dating.
I'm not comfortable going to bars or clubs alone...
Vermillion
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Take one friend with you when you go. I suggest the asexual one. At least you know he won't cockblock (on purpose).
Bucket-o-roadkill
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I am also not a fan of going to clubs and bars alone. I recently changed job so social options are still developing really, my best mates have moved out of town for a course. I'll spare you the details but I agree that online dating shouldn't be done exclusively. Infact, I'd rather not be on there at all because I feel like it's nothing but a waste of time.. But as a last resort, it's better than nothing (... only just lol).
Bam Bam Baklava
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Who is? I wish I had more friends.
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