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Annoyed by Loud Chewing? The Problem Is You

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There really is a condition for everything.
 

Lunar15

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Nah, close your damn mouth. It's rude regardless of whether or not the person near you just happens to be extra affected by it.

It annoys me to no end, and I know that I'm unusually annoyed by it, but there's nothing I can really do about that whereas you can close your mouth.
 

Burt

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I can't wait until I can buy a pill that can treat my misophonia!

Next on the list, the pill that treats how annoyed I get when people text during a conversation with them!
 

Paskil

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I've told various people (friends, family, friendly coworkers) conversationally that their noise bothers me but that it's my fault, not theirs. Most of the time, they're already doing everything they need to do and there is no way they could be any quieter, even if they tried. Now open mouth chewers on the other hand... Fuck those people.
 

Gutek

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I've told various people (friends, family, friendly coworkers) conversationally that their noise bothers me but that it's my fault, not theirs. Most of the time, they're already doing everything they need to do and there is no way they could be any quieter, even if they tried. Now open mouth chewers on the other hand... Fuck those people.

Why even bring it up? You're just making their life harder.
 

Squalor

Junior Member
But what if I get excited? I can't help it.
That's a specialized scenario. It doesn't count. For instance, if someone was trying to catch his or her breath after being active, it makes sense one would breathe heavily.

I'm talking about loud nose-breathing as a standard.
 
That's a specialized scenario. It doesn't count. For instance, if someone was trying to catch his or her breath after being active, it makes sense one would breathe heavily.

I'm talking about loud nose-breathing as a standard.

Ok then.

My nostrils are huge though, had to wear special rings on fingers to prevent going in to far when picking.

But that's a story for another thread
 

Hoo-doo

Banned
'Normal' nose breathing is fine.

It's the infamous 'nose-wheezer' or whistlers that are annoying. Same as the people who just prefer to snort while inhaling every 6 seconds instead of just blowing their nose on a tissue.
 

Zaphod

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Why even bring it up? You're just making their life harder.

Because they are making his life harder. It's obvious you don't have misphonia, but it can be a truly tortuous experience. The worst thing is that if someone tries to bring it up, people just say to get over it and shut the fuck up, neither of those are really on option for those that suffer with this.
 

Gutek

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Because they are making his life harder. It's obvious you don't have misphonia, but it can be a truly tortuous experience. The worst thing is that if someone tries to bring it up, people just say to get over it and shut the fuck up, neither of those are really on option for those that suffer with this.

You can always get up and leave the room.
 

Impotaku

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Brohan

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I can't eat a bowl of cereals while sitting next to my gf without being accused of torture.

Apparently the sound i make when I swallow is easily audible and she can't stand it.

Tried changing the way i swallow but it's an impossible task so she is out of luck. :p
 

Kieli

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I suppose it's a good thing that loud breathing and lip-smacking eating don't bother me?

Half the time, I don't even notice those kind of sounds. My brain just tunes them out.
 

tearsofash

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I have misophonia and also Intermittent Explosive Disorder. One time I asked a friend to stop smacking his gum and he did it more. I blacked out and punched him and made his lips bleed. I couldn't help it and it just happened all of a sudden. When you suffer from misophonia the worst thing that can happen is for someone to ask a stranger to stop.

The article uses the word "annoyed" a lot, which is patently false. We get tangible feelings of anxiety from each sound we hear. The longer we're exposed to it, the worse it gets. It can lead to depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, explosions, and homicidal ideation as well. It's much much much more than just being "annoyed."

Thankfully, I've calmed down over the years and my misophonia doesn't have nearly as much control over my life. The general food noises, popcorn, and slurping coffee doesn't bother me as much. Finger sucking and gum popping make me dissociate still, though.

A lot of people in this thread may want to consult with their family physician.

Most family physicians have not heard of it or will not take you seriously enough to refer you to a neurologist (who also has not heard of it or has nothing productive to tell you)
 

Demoskinos

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Its a cultural thing... Honestly I don't see the problem. We are "taught" that chewing with your mouth open is rude but I don't see why. In fact in some cultures its considered rude if you aren't slurping ect when eating your food because its perceived that you are not enjoying your meal.
 
I see a lot of really defensive people in this thread. No one likes to be told that they're the problem.

I have misophonia and also Intermittent Explosive Disorder. One time I asked a friend to stop smacking his gum and he did it more. I blacked out and punched him and made his lips bleed. I couldn't help it and it just happened all of a sudden. When you suffer from misophonia the worst thing that can happen is for someone to ask a stranger to stop.

The article uses the word "annoyed" a lot, which is patently false. We get tangible feelings of anxiety from each sound we hear. The longer we're exposed to it, the worse it gets. It can lead to depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, explosions, and homicidal ideation as well. It's much much much more than just being "annoyed."

Thankfully, I've calmed down over the years and my misophonia doesn't have nearly as much control over my life. The general food noises, popcorn, and slurping coffee doesn't bother me as much. Finger sucking and gum popping make me dissociate still, though.

Look, someone who's able to admit it. Good for you. It sucks that you have this adverse a reaction to something as simple as chewing. I hope you're able to continue improving your situation.

I don't really have this problem with the exception being slobbery people on the radio. I assume they have their mike too close to their mouth or something, but whenever you hear someone talk and every word has a bit of a smack to it because of saliva, it makes me feel physically ill.
 
I've considered this from both perspectives and take this medical opinion on board and have decided that the human race is disgusting. The earth needs to be sterilised by space radiation.
 

tearsofash

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Honestly, my main issue is that I have a very hard time with jobs because of this. It's not like I can just leave the room or wear headphones all day while I'm at work. I've lost almost all my jobs due to misophonia related outbursts.
 

Nickle

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Close your god damn mouth and at least try to chew like a human should.
 

Sai-kun

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Weirdly enough, it only bothers me when I myself am not eating as well. I definitely get overly bothered by people loudly chewing gum though, which I'm trying to get over, or at least be nicer about :( sorry @ my gf for getting snappy at u about gum
 

tearsofash

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Weirdly enough, it only bothers me when I myself am not eating as well. I definitely get overly bothered by people loudly chewing gum though, which I'm trying to get over, or at least be nicer about :( sorry @ my gf for getting snappy at u about gum

Echolalia. If you're mimicking the motions that are bothering you, it will bother you less. It's a common trait for people in the autism spectrum, but also for misophoniacs since there is some similar sensory issues.
 
Talk to me while chewing a and swallowing and watch me walk away in disgust. I can't stand loud mouth noises. At all. My moms is so killer. She eats grits and I find myself furious for the whole session smh.
 
I'm... honestly a little taken aback by how much this seems to annoy people. Am I out of touch? I'm genuinely asking.

Like I assume this is in context of you sitting with someone while eating and that person chews loudly. But like... aren't you and the person/people eating with like... talking? Do you guys eat in silence????

That's so alien to me.

I can't imagine having a meal with someone and not talking before, during, and after every time I stuff my face (I cover my mouth with my hand if I'm talking with my mouth full and only in a casual context).

I have misophonia. It's hard to describe how irrationally angry loud mouth noises (chewing, lip smacking, etc) can make me. I try and leave the room whenever I can, on other sounds, but it's difficult. I'm not an angry person in general, but this does it for me.

I cringe during movies when they have characters eat and talk (happens more than you think) and it's a quick way to get me to root for a character's death ;)
 
Nice to know there's a disphonia community of GAF. I can verify it's not fun, but luckily as I get older coping has gotten easier. But as visiting home over the holidays taught me, I still have it...

Unluckily for me, my dad is a walking disphonia nightmare. He eats a ridiculous amount of food at all times of day (endurance athlete), eats slowly, his jaw clicks at every bite, and his nose whistles just in case he's not eating at any given moment.

I remember one dinner I was carefully trying to time eating at the same time as him (so it wouldn't bother me as much), and I swear to god he somehow took 20 minutes to sit down at the table. Oh, he needs to microwave something, get some wine, use the bathroom, microwave it again because it got cold while he was gone, reheat something else, all while I'm trying to eat as slowly as humanly possible so I'm not sitting there in sweaty, murderous silence when he finally gets there. Torture. Absolute torture.

Unless you're in prison or invited over for dinner at Kim Jung-Un's, it should be possible in 99% of cases.

Sounds like you need to do more cultural research on hoomans. Bailing on people seemingly randomly is super weird in most situations.
 

televator

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I'm a loud chewer. I don't chew with my mouth open, I'm not a god damn savage.

There's nothing I can do about it. Deal with it.
 
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