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Annoyed by Loud Chewing? The Problem Is You

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Iorv3th

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I mildly have it. Just depends on whats being eaten. Something like raw pasta drives me nuts. It also doesn't bother me much if there is other noises going on, if it's quiet though and there are 2 or 3 things I hear and one is the chewing........

If you chew with your mouth open, you're an inconsiderate, ill-mannered prick and should burn in hell, you mother fucker.

Also this.
 

Sesha

Member
I had no idea this was an actual thing. Or at least, never considered it.

Makes a lot of sense when I think about it. I'm constantly annoying by my father's chewing and grunting sounds when eating, by random but very particular lip-smacking (watching the RLM Max Landis interview was painful at times due to Max' loud lip-smacking), by crackling sounds made by paper and bags in certain contexts, and especially by people turning their page or by typing keys on their PCs in silent reading halls. Any kind of sounds when people break the silence in that manner. I can still remember during exams and tests hearing classmates chew on hard candy or chips and it absolutely killed me. The absolute worst is people typing keys fast on their computer. It's one of the things I hate the most. I could never ever get any work done in computer labs and every time I felt like I was going mad.

On top of that I have tinnitus. No wonder I love loud sound walls and dissonant, atonal music. Anyway, I never say anything to anyone about it, so it's not like I act rude to people just because I'm annoyed at times.
 
How in the world can science prove that one person ought to change or another? Read up on your Hume, guys. You can't derive an ought from an is. This article is so damn frustrating.

And even if science COULD do that... this just seems so callous and unwilling to help people you love with something they don't control. "You have a condition that science now has a proper noun for and this makes you ill and badwrong. Anyone who tries to make you more comfortable are enablers."
Fuck that noise, I have a boyfriend with a diagnosed sensory disorder and you know what I do? I treat him as I would want him to treat me if listening to super loud music caused me a headache that lasted all day. I treat him like everyone would treat him if his sensitivites were the norm rather than the exception. I bought a super nice pair of headphones for gaming and media consumption, am sensitive about playing podcasts out loud while walking around the apartment, do my best not to raise my voice, don't complain when he needs an hour to kinda just decompress after work because it's a sensory hell to him, etc. The rules of politeness are not suspended because the person asking for consideration is weird. The point of them is to live harmoniously and inflict a minimum of pain on the people around you, and I apply those principles whatevre sensory issues they may have.

Articles and attitudes like this make my boyfriend's life harder. Cut that shit out.

I have never been so tempted to start a good old fashioned SJ twitter mob.
 

NastyBook

Member
My homeboy has this Logitech headset that picks up everything his mouth does. It pisses me off completely. It's at its worst when he eats. The smacking makes me want to drive down to Florida and punch him right in his fucking face. He even rubs salt in the wound by nursing his meals. Like, this fucker eats for 40 minutes. JUST SMACKING. FOR FOURTY FUCKING MINUTES. And the way he sips from a straw... I swear this dude is a friend, but when he eats or drinks (or bites his nails and spits them out) over that microphone, it makes me hate his fucking guts.

Also, FUCK Logitech headsets.

EDIT: LOL fuck this article.
 
I always found it funny.

Specially after watching the Simpsons family on tv chewing like crazy while having dinner since I was a kid.

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Yeah.
 
hahahaha, this thread is funny.

chomp chomp chomp, only my brother used to annoy me bc he would stare at me when doing it =D

i used to munch on Doritos over xbox live on purpose for trash talk.
 
Unpopular opinion here but if things like loud chewing, and pen clicking are more than a minor inconvenience to you then you're gonna go through life having a really hard time.
 

Baraka in the White House

2-Terms of Kombat
My wife has severe misophonia and yeah, as the non-afflicted partner it really sucks.

But I love her and I know she can't help it so it's not like I want to try and aggravate her condition.
 

Servbot24

Banned
Fuck that.

People who chew loudly, mouth-breath, or loudly breathe through their noses are just gross.

This isn't about loud chewers. Normal, closed mouth chewing can still cause extreme anxiety if you have this condition real bad (which I do, though it's gotten better).

And yeah I know it's my problem, thanks a lot article.
 

Acerac

Banned
Unpopular opinion here but if things like loud chewing, and pen clicking are more than a minor inconvenience to you then you're gonna go through life having a really hard time.

That's true. If somebody gets frustrated by inconsiderate assholes they're going to be annoyed a lot in life.
 

injurai

Banned
I find most people eat louder than they think, but eating together drowns out the noise. I've seen people snap at others eating loudly, only to sound like a garbage disposal when they eat alone.
 

Izuna

Banned
I would like to agree with this article to some extent. Eating with ones mouth open is bad manners regardless, but as a child I would get distressed when hearing other people eat food. It lead to me always wanted to eat on my own or trying to hide the sound of my own chewing.

I think it's very similar to something else that popped up on GAF a while back, about someone who refused to shake people's hands or something. The general idea that other humans are gross is not a normal thing and it goes away when you spend more time with other people.
 
Unpopular opinion here but if things like loud chewing, and pen clicking are more than a minor inconvenience to you then you're gonna go through life having a really hard time.

Yes, you're absolutely correct. People with misophonia or other sensory disorders do tend to have a harder time than people who are otherwise "normal." Perhaps you ought to work on making their lives suck slightly less?
 

Dalek

Member
Yes, you're absolutely correct. People with misophonia or other sensory disorders do tend to have a harder time than people who are otherwise "normal." Perhaps you ought to work on making their lives suck slightly less?

Typical. This is exactly the opposite of what the article recommends. Otherwise you're enabling these people.
 
I totally suffer from this. I just recently had to tell the person in the car with me to stop eating chips because it was like nails on a chalkboard
 
Yes, you're absolutely correct. People with misophonia or other sensory disorders do tend to have a harder time than people who are otherwise "normal." Perhaps you ought to work on making their lives suck slightly less?

Or, inversely, if somebody has an issue that makes them incompatible with being around normal behavior that a large or vast majority of humans find unobjectionable, it is not the responsibility of anybody other than those who choose a close relationship with that person to accommodate their particularity.
 
Yes, you're absolutely correct. People with misophonia or other sensory disorders do tend to have a harder time than people who are otherwise "normal." Perhaps you ought to work on making their lives suck slightly less?

I'm usually not the source of any discomfort to others. But like I said in the post above, if anything makes you easily frustrated to the point where it's a hassle to perform everyday activities in uncontrolled environments then you should seek help for your situation.
 

MIMIC

Banned
What about drinking?

When I drink, my throat makes a very obvious gulping noise and it annoys the shit out of my brother (or maybe he's just teasing me about it because I make fun of some of his eating habits).

People probably make similar sounds, but I don't really pay attention to it.
 

Aeana

Member
I'm usually not the source of any discomfort to others. But like I said in the post above, if anything makes you easily frustrated to the point where it's a hassle to perform everyday activities in uncontrolled environments then you should seek help for your situation.

As has been discussed several times in the thread already, there isn't really any help. Mental health professionals have not been very successful in treating or moderating misophonia. It's not even formally recognized as a disorder at this point. It does not appear that misophonics respond well or at all to exposure therapy, though, which makes it pretty hard to take many people's non-advice to "get over it."

It's a tough situation. I don't expect people to accommodate me by any means, but that doesn't make it any easier to read some of the insensitive posts in this thread.
 
I tell my partner that it's not her fault and that's its my weird pet peve that I have. The problem is that she get upset if I hold my ears or do other things to drown out the sound. I fully admit its an issue that I have, but don't get upset or offended loud eaters if I leave the room or cover my ears when you eat.

I also take big issues with workplace eaters. You have a lunch break, use it. I shouldn't be forced to sit next to you and listen to you stuff your face during working hours. We are not even supposed to have food in the room I work in because of equipment, but the woman who sits next to me all the time eats candy, skittles, starburst, beef jerkey, you name it nonstop my entire shift AND talks while food is on her mouth. Fuck you, that is not acceptable.
 

oneils

Member
I had a friend that would tell me not to talk to her when she's eating. Angrily. It was because she couldn't respond and chew at the same time.

People are hilarious.

I think instead I just laughed at her until she was done eating.

I encountered something that is maybe the opposite (or inverse?) with an ex. She insisted on carrying on elaborate conversations while eating dinner and then would get on my case because I was chewing with my mouth open and talking at the same time.

Look, if you wanna have this conversation while we eat you are just gonna have to deal. We didn't last long.
 

Pau

Member
Does not sound like a fun thing to have. My ability to hear another person's loud chewing seems proportionate to how annoyed I am already with the person.

More often I worry that people can hear me and that it bothers them.
 

Paskil

Member
Why even bring it up? You're just making their life harder.

Because these are people with whom I converse on a daily basis. They know my ticks, I know theirs. We joke about all of it and have elaborate conversations about seating arrangements and how it should be a question on interview panels. If you can't make fun of the little stupid things, life isn't any fun. Anyway, they all know that if something like that bugs me, I can just put in my headphones. Again, my problem, not theirs.
 

Loki

Count of Concision
My ex-GF was one of these. She'd always say "stop smacking your gums" when I was chewing - I'd be like "my mouth is shut - I can't chew any differently."
 
My father was the worst. Everyone in the family would have to turn and glare at him because he'd chew so loudly with his mouth open that it was impossible to hear the television or other peoples conversations at dinner. So no, it definitely wasn't our fault.
 
Fuck that.

People who chew loudly, mouth-breath, or loudly breathe through their noses are just gross.

Yo hold on, I breathe with my mouth probably a third of the time. It's just how I breathe, it doesn't come easy through my nose.

The two thirds are when I know I'm being watched and force myself to breathe through my nose.
 

GorillaJu

Member
Does not sound like a fun thing to have. My ability to hear another person's loud chewing seems proportionate to how annoyed I am already with the person.

More often I worry that people can hear me and that it bothers them.

I have found that I will feel annoyed and resentful to someone who is chewing loudly and sometimes don't even realize I'm getting so frustrated until the eating is finished.

Went out with a girl I was crazy into, and she was eating pizza so loudly that I thought to myself "no way is this gonna work, man this girl annoys the shit out of me." The funny thing is it took me like 10 minutes of internal conversation to realize it was the chewing that bothered me and went right back to fawning over her when we finished.

I have learned to adapt to a degree. She also started chewing with her mouth closed... Something that she got harassed for ("you eat like a foreigner") when she went back to Korea.
 
the problem is me if others chew with their mouths open and loudly? no. now being annoyed by people just chewing in general though i understand how that is being picky
yes the problem is you.

even though you dont like it and that is understanddable it has to do with you learning not to like it that caused it.

here in china is smack, slurp world and i dont see them getting annoyed at each other for it either.

The issue with this or most ideas people have all boil down to our psychological make up and learning. I realize it makes every idea sort of boring to equate it to reps and acting it out what you have learned but that is what we are.
 

Acerac

Banned
yes the problem is you.

even though you dont like it and that is understanddable it has to do with you learning not to like it that caused it.

here in china is smack, slurp world and i dont see them getting annoyed at each other for it either.

The issue with this or most ideas people have all boil down to our psychological make up and learning. I realize it makes every idea sort of boring to equate it to reps and acting it out what you have learned but that is what we are.

If you have a problem with people chewing with their mouth open, the problem is you.

If you have a problem with people texting while talking with you, the problem is you.

If you have a problem with people looking at their phones while driving, the problem is with you.

Like that person who quoted me earlier said, if you can ignore others being ignorant the world is a much more pleasant place.
 

MattKeil

BIGTIME TV MOGUL #2
Look at everyone instantly assuming the article is talking about people chewing with their mouth open or smacking their lips. It's not. Read the OP.
 

GorillaJu

Member
Look at everyone instantly assuming the article is talking about people chewing with their mouth open or smacking their lips. It's not. Read the OP.

It doesn't make a difference to me if it's open or closed. You can eat quietly with your mouth open and eat loudly while it's closed.
 

Eppy Thatcher

God's had his chance.
There is this episode of quick recipe stuff Alton Brown does on youtube where he's doing home-made peanut butter and his "shtick" for the episode is that he takes huge mother fucking spoonfulls of peanut butter and then talks to the camera with his mouth full and smacking and guuuhhuhuh FUCK MAN WHY

Was one of the few times in my life where the youtube comments made me sleep easier at night.. knowing that the rest of the godamned internet was on my side calling out that bullshit.

But normally nah i don't care.
 

Bad_Boy

time to take my meds
Annoys me too. I dont know whats worse for me, loud eaters or people who pull their cell phone out at the movie theater. But ive learned to deal with it.

Ive just learned i could never have any serious relationship with anyone who smacks while eating or whos attatched to their cell phone.

Ignorance is bliss i guess.
 

Acerac

Banned
Look at everyone instantly assuming the article is talking about people chewing with their mouth open or smacking their lips. It's not. Read the OP.
"If you can’t stand the sound of someone’s chewing, does that person need to close his or her mouth? Or do you?"

You're right, reading the OP is hard.
 
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