Yes, they practice Islam. They pray the Salah in the morning and shoot children in the evening. How do you deal with such people? Taliban cannot be reasoned with. They are fascists. We don't need any more reasons to counter them. We just need more Malalas. Out of this tragedy, if 100 more Malalas rise up, that will do more damage to them than 100 drone strikes. They are twisted psychopaths that fear educated Muslims and especially educated Muslim girls. They are smart enough to understand that in order to change a society for the better, you need female education. They don't want a better society. They do not care at all if there are potholes on the road or if the courts do not have qualified judges. They only care about exercising power to the fullest, policing the streets, torturing prisoners and suppressing dissent.
I whole heartily agree with your assessment. I would love to only follow the non-violent path of dealing with them (education, address poverty, strengthen government to legitimize tribal power). But we all know that isn't going to happen- military intervention either local or part of a coalition is required. For that we need to understand them to obtain intelligence in an effort to reduce innocent causalities.
The emotion pleas to bomb them back into the stone-age is a good stress relief, but is a childish strategy. They need their finances cut off, they need to be imprisoned or killed (when necessary). Their methods of recruitment need to stopped. Good soldiers and police need be put in place (not one's who are going to accept bribes or run at the slightest hint of danger). People need make these guys outcasts while at the same time offer redemption to those want to get out in exchange for information.