Completely justified in bizarro world maybe. He sniffed some air from above the food. He didn't fucking dip his balls in the stuff. Goddamn you people are weird.
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Coworker sniffed my lunch. I made him buy a new one. Am I being unfair?
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Completely justified in bizarro world maybe. He sniffed some air from above the food. He didn't fucking dip his balls in the stuff. Goddamn you people are weird.
DizzyCaffeine
Member
He wants to be told that he did the right thing even though he knows he didn't.
Jeff Albertson
Member
I love the fact that according to the title you 'made him' buy you lunch but in reality he just said fuck that and then you bought another.
Yeah it's werid smelling food but your reaction isn't normal to me.
Yeah it's werid smelling food but your reaction isn't normal to me.
Astral Dog
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Just Let It Go
Jason's Ultimatum
Member
Unless he eyeball fucked your chicken, you'll be fine.
This sounds like a situation like Larry David would get into.
And like most episodes of Curb, Larry's often in the right, but he's also often a huge asshole about it.
The dude was out of line and sounds like the typical office weirdo that's way too personal and clingy. Which is annoying, but not harmful generally. You overreacted.
Apologize but set up some boundaries with him. Tell him you don't like the massages and close talking and touching your food.
And like most episodes of Curb, Larry's often in the right, but he's also often a huge asshole about it.
The dude was out of line and sounds like the typical office weirdo that's way too personal and clingy. Which is annoying, but not harmful generally. You overreacted.
Apologize but set up some boundaries with him. Tell him you don't like the massages and close talking and touching your food.
theignoramus
Member
Yeah thats some real passive aggressive shit.Arnold should keep his hands off people's food and OP needs to not go 0 to 100 over a minor agitation.
1) It's definitely odd to pick up someone else's food to smell it, especially since the odor was filling the office enough for him to already smell it (more on that in a sec)
2) You clearly over-reacted, as others have said.
3) I actually think it's a bit rude to bring strong smelling food into the office, since it basically makes the entire area smell what you are eating. Office logistics etc. may make this more passable, but at least where I work we try not to do that. One person with a strong smelling lunch can fill the entire corner of the office building; not everyone wants to know what you eating for lunch.
2) You clearly over-reacted, as others have said.
3) I actually think it's a bit rude to bring strong smelling food into the office, since it basically makes the entire area smell what you are eating. Office logistics etc. may make this more passable, but at least where I work we try not to do that. One person with a strong smelling lunch can fill the entire corner of the office building; not everyone wants to know what you eating for lunch.
Typical GAF advice thread. OP, you overreacted. Apologize to him and buy him lunch.
supernormal
Member
The only time this would have been slightly acceptable is if it was a repeated offense. He obviously didn't know you were like this about your food so I would have mentioned it in more friendly manner, and only resorted to what you did if they did it once more after I talked about it.
BigBeauford
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I guess this guy thought he could consider you someone he could pal around with. I am sure he won't make that mistake again.
Mineshaft_Gap
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Way to create a tense work environment now and forever over fucking nothing.
GG m8
GG m8
NegroNinja
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Good to know you're fine with people randomly picking up your food and smelling it. Lol NeoGaf sure is something.
echoshifting
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This is a really good point.
diablos991
Can’t stump the diablos
The social skills are strong with this one.
Trojita
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It's like this.
I don't think most people are mad at you being upset and not eating the food, but was the sum of the meal worth it to cause strife? Do you expect him to actually pay for it? You realize this shit is going to be awkward as fuck because the guy isn't going to know if he should pay for it or you are still expecting him to.
Are you full vocal aggressive about a lot of things? I'd generally expect this from someone being an asshole or "Alpha Bro". Then again some people would say throwing away the food and silently getting more would be "Beta", so who knows.
I don't think most people are mad at you being upset and not eating the food, but was the sum of the meal worth it to cause strife? Do you expect him to actually pay for it? You realize this shit is going to be awkward as fuck because the guy isn't going to know if he should pay for it or you are still expecting him to.
Are you full vocal aggressive about a lot of things? I'd generally expect this from someone being an asshole or "Alpha Bro". Then again some people would say throwing away the food and silently getting more would be "Beta", so who knows.
OrbitalBeard
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I wouldn't be fine with it and I'd let the person know.
He still overreacted. Big time.
David H Wong
Banned
I like how the OP found the single post that agreed with him, then quoted it and responded to it like, "Yeah I knew you guys would agree with me!!!" Particularly when the entire point of the thread was supposedly to get feedback about if he was being unreasonable.
Wolfe
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It was in a to go container, it's not a big deal. People acting like food their food some untainted gift that was created in a replicator and came nowhere close to being interacted with by other humans before they receive it is more weird.
So you pictured someone sniffing food in your head and it somehow became worse than when you had just read about it (and apparently not formed a picture of it in your head while reading it?), naw it's still not a big. Telling someone off for sniffing their food jesus christ.
Great job selectively finding one of the few posts that agree with what you did when 95% of the rest of the thread is calling you out for being extremely rude.
"People expect the story teller to be the absolute worst"... dude did you read your OP? Guy sniffed your food and you MADE HIM BUY YOU A NEW LUNCH.
Get off your high horse and take the lose, you dun fucked up.
Edit: and to clarify, no there is nothing wrong with being upset that someone sniffed your food and there is nothing wrong with expressing that to the person in a normal manner. Insisting that they buy you a new lunch to the point of creating awkwardness around the office? Bit too far.
Edit2: "I'm very particular about my food, I would hope most people are" why? Why should I be particular about my food? Is there some issue going on with people regularly preparing food in an unacceptable manner?
I mean I get not wanting to eat "nose hair boogers etc" (rollin my eyes here) but that's not something that happens regularly if really at all with any frequency outside of random instances or specific cases. Anything else my immune system will take care of so no, I am not very particular about my food and I hope you can understand why as I can clearly understand why you are.
i get it, but society would not. certain things are valued, group dynamics are one of them, and his sniffing of your food got trumped by your bitching him out in front of his co-workers. So...now you kind of look bad.
But I get it. I would just say quietly, "dude, boundaries." and explain to him. And give him his lunch. And get another one. I'd also probably convince him to buy me another sometime, but in a friendly way. Like next week we go and he covers me since he owes me, and he understands, and we didn't have a big scene.
especially if you're the new guy, and he's an old guy, and well liked, and you'll be gone soon and he won't be.
But I get it. I would just say quietly, "dude, boundaries." and explain to him. And give him his lunch. And get another one. I'd also probably convince him to buy me another sometime, but in a friendly way. Like next week we go and he covers me since he owes me, and he understands, and we didn't have a big scene.
especially if you're the new guy, and he's an old guy, and well liked, and you'll be gone soon and he won't be.
Affeinvasion
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You obviously should have just eaten the food and then about two hours later just straight up farted in his face and asked if he still thought it smelled good. That's clearly the only reasonable course of action no matter what GAF tells you.
dc3k
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Holy shit. This is why nobody you work with likes you btw; you're a complete douchebag.
Mister_Bubbles
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Chie Satonaka
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I agree, which is why I said I wouldn't have used that particular wording.
The offending party seems to have problems respecting boundaries and personal space. If OP has germ issues, it shouldn't be his responsibility to pussyfoot around the offender to make them feel comfortable when they're in the wrong.
Again, I don't know any world where this is acceptable. If something like that happened in my place of business, the person would, at the very least, be having a not nice conversation with a superior. Don't touch other people's food. Ever! It's not hard to figure out.
If the guy was just being (overly) friendly as a co-worker and interested in my meal, then i'd consider it a bit strange if he'd actually go and smell my food. I'd probably comment on it with a joke like that he shouldn't put his entire nose into it or something and leave it at that.
Coworker laughs, you laugh, you eat your fucking lunch and you actually don't antagonise half your coworkers by making a big scene about it. Interacting with other people must be like pulling teeth for germaphobes.
storybook77
Member
A simple "Please don't do that" would have sufficed.
WeAreStarStuff
Member
Buy him a nice meal. Hell, you probably hurt his feelings. The guy sounds harmless; just a little socially awkward (which could be a culture thing.)
I'm curious as to how many of the people who are saying OP overreacted will go on to post/have posted nasty ass hygiene threads. OP you were absolutely not overreacting. He picked up your food, brought it up to his face and sniffed it? Fuck no. And to all the people saying "well someone else was closer", well "someone else" had regulations about how clean they have to be to prepare that food.
You people are just cementing me on never going to a GAF meetup.
You people are just cementing me on never going to a GAF meetup.
BronsonLee
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Hug me you fuck!
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Deleted member 1235
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I'd never talk to you again if you were just some guy from the office. I'd guess something is wrong with you.
That's not the problem. Most people is not thrilled about it of course, but deciding to act over it in a kind of passive-aggressive manner... means you have an easy trigger. That is what OP's other college considers unprofessional and can bring him problems.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
If I were you, I'd be mad..unless the co-worker that did it was Coolio.
Sounds like Arnold is the kind of guy that comes from a place where closeness isn't so much of an issue as it is for you. You could have explained to him that he crossed a couple of social norms and he should be more aware, even learned something about him and why he is like that so that you know what to expect from him. But nope. You had to take it to another level with demands and leave it on his desk as some sort of passive aggressive statement. Well done on handling that one like an adult.
IdreamofHIME
Member
The twist in the story is that the 2nd lunch you got was sneezed in by the guy who prepared it.
Alligatorjandro
Banned
I would be pissed if a stranger put their face in my food
BluePigGanon
Member
Was going to basically post this.
You have to buy me a new lunch first.
Affeinvasion
Member
If you had made out first, none of this would be a problem.
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