At this point I'm really thinking of starting over as I'm not enjoying my choice of weapon. Perhaps it can be fixed? Most people seem to say go a pyromancer on first run through?
Naah, no reason to start over, though you can perhaps introduce some basic sorcery into your character's strategies if you have 12 INT. You get a pyromancy in the area right after Capra.
Capra is just a no go for me, really frustrates me - also can you plunge attack with a spear? Doesn't seem to work. At all.
You can but I don't think it has a special animation like for Taurus
I don't seem to able to kite or circle strafe as fast as other people and my gear seems really underpowered. My stamina also doesn't seem to last long and every attack with a little weight behind it seems to make me stagger. I can't find a better shield though. I'm trying to take the stone knights down at the moment, but I can't get the upper hand. I'll get past one then fight the other but because the fights always go to the wire, sometimes the AI just gets the last hit off before me.
Your knight shield is actually quite decent, even if the kite shields Andre sells would be marginally better and lighter too, letting you pack heavier armor while still keeping the same movement and roll speed.
Your playstyle seems to be the thing requiring most fixing, as you seem to have issues with stamina management, patience and distance, and potentially rolling.
With your speed, the only times stone knights should be catching up with you is after they've used the spell that drastically hinders your movement speed and disables rolling. Backing away without attacking should always keep you out of reach.
You should also let go of your block button when it's safe, because your stamina recovers way quicker when your shield's not up. When attacking, do not use up
all your stamina, leave a sliver to use for an emergency dodge
Last but not least, heavy attacks consume a lot of stamina to block and stone knights' attacks are especially heavy at that point in the game. Try not to "tank" them with your shield, but use your less stamina-consuming medium speed dodgeroll more often.
I'm quite a defensive player which is why I thought spear would suit me.......maybe DEX build completely wrong for me?
Maybe but not sure. Dexterity builds tend to have a tougher time against stone knights in melee because only blunt weapons deal decent damage. However, you could also go to the merchant in Undead Burg and buy a whole lot of Firebombs for 50 souls a pop. Having a handful of those on you should give you an edge this early in the game.
Edit: I haven't really used or found any sort of items like gold resin, dung, poison etc. I have a few things that seem to cure poison but that's about it. No idea how I would use the objects above either.
Resins are really good temporary buffs for non-elemental weapons. When they're still expensive and rare, use against bosses or tougher normal enemies, when they get cheap enough for you, use liberally.