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you two are a co-dependency research paper in the making
ZackieChan
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The amount of people who haven't seen clerks is sadder than the number of people eating food macerated by another person ITT
Y'all getting snowballed by life
Y'all getting snowballed by life
Spoiled Milk
Banned
Mega, you're unbelievable.
One thing I don't understand with Tinder is. Let's say I have the age between 24-30 and it says "No new person in the area". I then change the age to 24-33 and suddenly it pops up many new people, but they are in between 24-30 and wasn't showing up before even if they were in the age-range. Is it some bug or just Tinder being Tinder?
LookAtMeGo
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I think its just Tinder being Tinder. You can do the same thing with adjusting the distance just a few miles or kilometers and searchin again.
artsi
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It happens. They probably have some kind of cache that can be forced to clear when you change your age or distance range.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
I wish I had realized this. Like I said in my post, I wish I hadn't reacted the way I did. Probably would have someone to practice my Chinese with now.
Subpar Scrub
Banned
I don't really get the point of gold. Knowing that someone swiped right on me isn't really going to change whether I swipe right on them or not, so what's the point?
always crazy bacon
Banned
to make more money for Tinder.
Subpar Scrub
Banned
Well yeah, obviously. I guess I just don't get the appeal of gold over plus. I get the appeal of unlimited swipes or re-dos, that makes sense.
I bought 1 month to try it out. I re-matched with two girls of 200 something. So yeah...But i think you get Plus with gold also. Would be nice if Gold give you some extra boosts or so. But nah, I think you just get that "Someone swiped right on yaa"-thing. That's what I've seen at least.
If I delete the account and wanna start from scratch. Does that also delete the gold-thing? Or is that connected to my Facebook-account in some way?
Mr Solo Dolo
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Girls asks if I want to go for a drink last Friday. Thursday comes around she cancels. We still talk and she again asks if I want to go for a drink on Saturday (yesterday). I hear nothing from her all day so I text her asking what's happening. She replies two hours later saying she just woken up and is feeling hungover so can we reschedule for today.
I reply back basically saying yeah but she hasn't opened the message (Whatsapp) and I doubt I'll hear from her at all today. Number deleted. Next.
Honestly in this situation I'd rather be ghosted than messed around with. If you don't wanna go out just say it or leave it, don't continue suggesting dates If you have no intention of going through with it.
I reply back basically saying yeah but she hasn't opened the message (Whatsapp) and I doubt I'll hear from her at all today. Number deleted. Next.
Honestly in this situation I'd rather be ghosted than messed around with. If you don't wanna go out just say it or leave it, don't continue suggesting dates If you have no intention of going through with it.
Subpar Scrub
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You have to unsubscribe but I don't know what the process is for each device type
always crazy bacon
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You were just the backup date, she meant it at the time and would have gone on the date if she hadn't got any other offers. Deleting the number and moving on is the right course of action.
Mr Solo Dolo
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Yeah no doubt, I just think suggesting dates, cancelling and then rearranging is a shitty thing to do if you have no plans to go through with it. Yeah ghosting sucks but at least it doesn't (or shouldn't) leave the other person hanging on.
She's actually text me to say she's sorry but she forgot she had other plans today. Like come on, seriously?
navii
My fantasy is that my girlfriend was actually a young high school girl.
yah, you gotta take the exit yourself sometimes.
I had a girl that would take a week or two to reply to a message, but when she did she was always sorry about this or that and was so keen to arrange a date. Her last message basically said how busy she has been with work (fast food jobs) and also busy preparing to leave this country (she was on a working holiday visa). I thought in my head, right, so your fast food 'career' is more important than me, but anyway you are going to quit it because you are leaving the country at which point you will likely never see me again or the shitty job, yet i'm still way down on your list of priorities. I stopped replying at that point. When a girl is keen she will do a lot to get to see you, its not hard.
I like to see sometimes how far the stupidity goes, but even at some point I gotta say enough is enough.
always crazy bacon
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Just apply the Brad Pitt rule when setting up dates. Would she say or do these things if she had a date with Brad Pitt? No. That's your answer and it goes for both genders. If people are genuinely interested they will make the effort. Sometimes life gets in the way but it's how they behave after something out of their control to respect your time that will show you they are worth being patient with. A string of "sorry because" repeated more than once saves you a lot of wasted time when you just block and delete them.
Mobile Suit Gooch
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Reading the thread over last few pages got me like.
Went out to dinner with a bunch of friends last night when someone brought up that out of the 13 people there, I was the only single person...
I don't really mind considering half of the people there are in relationships where they fight constantly and I've been too swamped with assignments and work to date, but it stung a little.
That is kinda crappy for that person to have singled you out like that (the puns write themselves, sorry). Next time, rub it in their face rather than self-pitying yourself. "Oh man, it's great. I'm free to do anything I want anytime, don't have to argue all the time, don't have to compromise. It's so liberating, you guys should try it sometime."
always crazy bacon
Banned
and you fuckers can't have a threesome with your sister.
Subpar Scrub
Banned
I did haha, I hid the fact that it stung. It's always been a common thing for my friends to be in relationships while I've been either single or only dating for a month or two at a time. If I said I didn't appreciate the freedom to do whatever I want whenever I have free time without having to consider what someone else wants to do, I'd be a huge liar.
Also, I can play Persona 5 for 7 hours in a day (like today) and not have someone think I'm sub-human garbage lmao. That's mostly just because I've finished my studies for a few weeks and have been putting this game on the backburner though.
I might try to squeeze in a date or two while I have a couple weeks off from classes.
When you first joined Gaf, did you ever think you'd have to type those words? What a magical place.
always crazy bacon
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nor that I'd read them as a suggestion.
Subpar Scrub
Banned
I'll change lighting and contrast if the image is weirdly blown out or dark in spots, but only to make the image more clear. I don't alter tilt, shift or any of that sort of stuff.
always crazy bacon
Banned
A well composited shot will beat any filter to distract and hide behind what you really look like. You need confidence in dating and to show your best side, that includes pictures.
LookAtMeGo
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I was thinking that since so many girls have said I look douchey in my main pic, maybe I should just change it. I think I look handsome in it dammit! But I have like no cool pics of me. There are none floating around. I dont want all my pics to be selfies. I do have one of me and a few buds at the bar and one of me on a horse. Makes me look sophisticated.
Maybe I should do a dating profile photo shoot
I had one LDR when I was younger. We had lots of phone sex and ICQ sexting. I dont think I could do one today. I need physical contact.
Maybe I should do a dating profile photo shoot
I had one LDR when I was younger. We had lots of phone sex and ICQ sexting. I dont think I could do one today. I need physical contact.
Megalosaro
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Ok for short term. Otherwise it becomes out of sight out of mind. Worst case scenario, it's a fake relationship
Yeahhh I think they'd all laugh in your face if you said this
So the most recent Tinder date I had, I found her to be dramatically different looking than her profile pictures. I mean, her face was the same obviously. Long story short, I wasn't attracted to her, aside from that it was an OK date, nothing amazing, I did most of the talking and I found she is way more into me than I am into her.
Now, would most of you just get over that and give it a shot regardless? I don't want to be as ruthless as some girls have been to me, but I don't know what to do? DO I just ghost her which seems to be the nicest thing I can do, aside from continue going out on dates to make myself like her more? How would I let her down gently?
Now, would most of you just get over that and give it a shot regardless? I don't want to be as ruthless as some girls have been to me, but I don't know what to do? DO I just ghost her which seems to be the nicest thing I can do, aside from continue going out on dates to make myself like her more? How would I let her down gently?
Living the Dream
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Looking for some feedback on my Bumble profile.
"I love to try new venues, restaurants, live music, art shows, outdoor activities, read, and a ton more! Dog dad. House owner. Nashville native. No games. Love my line of work. Not religious, but I believe in being the best person I can and treating others with complete respect. Let's go on a date!"
"I love to try new venues, restaurants, live music, art shows, outdoor activities, read, and a ton more! Dog dad. House owner. Nashville native. No games. Love my line of work. Not religious, but I believe in being the best person I can and treating others with complete respect. Let's go on a date!"
Advocatus Diaboli
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Change literally every single word of that.
LookAtMeGo
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Lol
Mine just says "I like eating pizza and watching movies. If its nice out then you can cash me outsah!"
I appreciate ya'll for the comments.
I've got more closure than I got with the American girl (the one who gave me mono...), so I'm thankful for that at least. I also know for this reason I'll get over her quicker.
Also it may seem like I want to settle, but I honestly don't and I unexpectedly caught feelings for her. In some ways I feel closer to her age, especially since I've only really been dating properly for the past couple of years thanks to my anxiety.
It's for this reason I just need to have fun for a bit and not let myself catch feelings for a while. I just wish I was getting matches on Tinder...
I don't think my profile is bad, but maybe it just takes a while since I reset it?
Everytime I think about writing more than a quippy sentence on my Tinder/Bumble profile I just regret it immediately. I'll save even the light details for the OkCupid profile where I know more girls might have a passing interest in that sort of thing, and I can elaborate more smoothly.
I suck at doing my own profiles, but I'll give my opinion:
I love to try new venues, restaurants, live music, art shows, outdoor activities, read, and a ton more! - That seems fine, maybe cut one or two, new venues and restaurants, and live musics and art shows could be new venues and live shows. But it's nitpicking.
Dog dad. - It's fine but not bulletproof, could be off-putting to women who don't like men treating their pet as their child. Dog lover could be better?
House owner. - Why? To me it seems like a weird thing to put.
Nashville native. - Fine.
No games. - A bit unnecessary.
Love my line of work. - Fine.
Not religious, but I believe in being the best person I can and treating others with complete respect. - Maybe it's just because I'm a cynic, but it looks like you are trying too hard.
😂
I agree though.
Just make sure you have good photos (most important part of the profile!) and one or maximum 2 short sentences (be funny, not lame like what you wrote before) so they know you aren't a bot or a weirdo.
If you are a dog dad show a photo of you and your dog. If you like nice restaurants or concerts show a photo from those places. If having a home is important show a pic in front of your McMansion.
I think people miss the point of these description parts on profiles. It's not so you can literally describe yourself, but more about showing some personality.
In other words, show, don't tell.
PixelatedBookake
Junior Member
I'll make sure my skin isn't too washed out (I'm pale enough without making it worse) and make sure I don't have my double chin looking too pronounced (I've had a chubby face even near my lower weights, thanks genetics), but usually I go without filters.
No to the first and yes to the second
Page 400/200. I'll let you do the math.
LookAtMeGo
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256 posts. I think. I no do good at the maths.
No wait. 251.. i think
.... 300?
No wait. 251.. i think
.... 300?
Tree fiddy, actually
LookAtMeGo
Member
20,000 - 19,700 = 256
always crazy bacon
Banned
countdown to erasing the memory of mama birding.
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