LookAtMeGo
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You know its guna end up in the next OT title. Its forever engraved in our minds. Id actually be OK if Mega caught a perm for that.
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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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EchoChamber
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I can't wait for the next episode of mega relationship but i feel nothing can't top mama bird 
always crazy bacon
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I can't wait for the next episode of mega relationship but i feel nothing can't top mama bird
Look, I told him.
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=238048101&postcount=12848
And yet here we are.
Silent_Ocarina
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I've been in only two relationships during my short life. Both of them turned into LDR because of school. They both fell apart within 3 months. It's not for me, but there are plenty of success stories when it comes to LDR.
Subpar Scrub
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If there is a clause in the OP of OT7 stipulating not to overshare, that'd be swell.
Valkerionseven
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So... what's you guys advice for contacting random/slightly randoms after a long time of not talking to them. Nothing really happened ever but talked, got each others info, then never really did anything with it.
Just bored looking through my phone contacts lol.
Just bored looking through my phone contacts lol.
artsi
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IRL contacts, Tinder matches or..?
Well doesn't really matter, I'd forget them and get some fresh material.
Most likely they have other things going on already and have forgot about you.
always crazy bacon
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"Who are you?" It's basically a cold start from a stranger and you'd come off as weird.
LookAtMeGo
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New phone, who dis?
Megalosaro
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You guys just hate us because you ain't us
Gonna keep this as brief as possible.
Met a girl at a house party about six weeks ago. Got on well etc, got her number. She was a bit drunk at the time so was talking about her bf and about what's being going on there. We've been texting since then. Not short messages, but REALLY long ones. Really long. Mostly every day with the odd exception ... apart from this week. The last time I texted her (Thursday) she replied on Saturday; I replied then and she hasn't replied as of yet. That last time she replied the morning after but now hasn't. I'm wondering if she's just getting bored now and ignoring me (tho her last messages was as long as ever, i.e. really long). Essentially don't know how to play this. She's gone from being super active on WhatsApp when abroad to now not being v active.
Maybe it's also worth pointing out that in her last messages she mentioned how she hasn't got much on after she gets back from where she currently is. Given her BF situation I didn't straight-up ask her to meet but just said 'Atm next week I'm doing A and B ...'. She also mentioned a couple of places she was going and I said when I'd been there before what I'd done.
FWIW my friend who is good friends with her said she can be really bad at texting back.
Met a girl at a house party about six weeks ago. Got on well etc, got her number. She was a bit drunk at the time so was talking about her bf and about what's being going on there. We've been texting since then. Not short messages, but REALLY long ones. Really long. Mostly every day with the odd exception ... apart from this week. The last time I texted her (Thursday) she replied on Saturday; I replied then and she hasn't replied as of yet. That last time she replied the morning after but now hasn't. I'm wondering if she's just getting bored now and ignoring me (tho her last messages was as long as ever, i.e. really long). Essentially don't know how to play this. She's gone from being super active on WhatsApp when abroad to now not being v active.
Maybe it's also worth pointing out that in her last messages she mentioned how she hasn't got much on after she gets back from where she currently is. Given her BF situation I didn't straight-up ask her to meet but just said 'Atm next week I'm doing A and B ...'. She also mentioned a couple of places she was going and I said when I'd been there before what I'd done.
FWIW my friend who is good friends with her said she can be really bad at texting back.
Megalosaro
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What are your intentions? It sounds like she is in a relationship already. Are you looking to help her cheat?
The problem is I don't know for sure what's going on in her life so it's difficult. And to answer your second question - no! All my friends have said 'Just keep it chill', and I have.
So....
I have been seeing a person now over about 3-4 years with breaks due to travelling and the odd argument. We see each other everyday, play sports/gym together, head out at the weekends, go on trips and holidays, support each other and are in touch everyday by phone and text. However - it has never been classed as a relationship or even that we are exclusive.
Anytime I have tried to discuss our status it is hastily shot down or the conversation is avoided altogether.
I have no reason to believe that there are any other people or that there's even a desire for another person, but the lack of formality on the status is beginning to really grate on me.
Thoughts?
I have been seeing a person now over about 3-4 years with breaks due to travelling and the odd argument. We see each other everyday, play sports/gym together, head out at the weekends, go on trips and holidays, support each other and are in touch everyday by phone and text. However - it has never been classed as a relationship or even that we are exclusive.
Anytime I have tried to discuss our status it is hastily shot down or the conversation is avoided altogether.
I have no reason to believe that there are any other people or that there's even a desire for another person, but the lack of formality on the status is beginning to really grate on me.
Thoughts?
always crazy bacon
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So in all these really long everyday texts you've not asked about her life? What are you even talking about then? To be honest she's in a relationship and you are already way over invested hence your post asking why she's not texting you back now. Maybe the boyfriend saw the texts. Maybe you actually made a pass at her and she's ghosting you now.
She has a boyfriend. It's not you. So stop trying to weasel into a relationship with her.
always crazy bacon
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Seeing a person as in intimately or just hanging out? Your post is as ambiguous as your relationship status.
Valkerionseven
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Right lol. Probably never would just curious how others went about it if they tried.
The real one is what do you say to the girl you talked to for 10 seconds, danced/had fun crazy party mode at two different parties last night, and got her info... Dont even know her name lol just went for it cause im clearly out of my damn mind
Physical contact is not intimacy. Is there sex happening, in any form?
always crazy bacon
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Read this
http://lifehacker.com/when-to-define-your-relationship-and-exit-dating-purgat-1796823422
Summary, it's ultimatum time. "We're either a couple or not." She's can't have the benefits of a relationship AND the benefits of being single. She's not meeting your emotional needs and if she won't discuss that, because you can be sure she knows what she's doing and does not want to be called out on it. You've got to be prepared to let her go. Don't accept "I'm not ready", "Maybe in the future" or any other reason that keeps you in her pocket with a carrot of a stick of a potential relationship down the line.
always crazy bacon
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I didn't want to be as blunt in asking if they were having sex TBH. My reply was based on the assumption they were having sex.
We both talk about basically anything: hobbies, where we're travelling, general life. Literally anything you can think of. The house party, lol.
She texted back anyway. And what's the alternative, not to text her?
Cow Mengde
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Besides, if she does this to her current BF, no telling if she'll do the same to you if you do end up together. Abort!!!
always crazy bacon
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Anything except her relationship then? So you don't know the status of her relationship.
The alternative is not to text girls that are in relationships. It's shitty homewrecker behavior.
WhateverItTakes
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I mean you're asking this in the dating thread dude, beat around the bush all you want but you're doing the bolded.
"physical contact on a regular basis" is insanely vague. Could mean anything from a lover's embrace to he holds her feet down for crunches at the gym.
If there's intimacy, it sounds like she's stringing him along. If there isn't, he's delusional and needs to move on to another lady.
Well, yeah?
Ask yourself if you're truly okay with being just a friend...a friend who'll never get with her, who'll get to listen to her complain about the guys she is getting with...if you aren't, stop texting her. If you are, text away.
Yeah exactly. She keeps joking about me going to the town where she lives when the football is on, and about house parties that I'm having ... Tbh it is weird and I've said to my friends as much.
Spoiled Milk
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Chick messaged me and she's a camgirl
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Chick messaged me and she's a camgirl
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We have a 96% match on OKC
always crazy bacon
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No YOU are in the wrong here. She might just think you're a texting buddy your trying to get a relationship out of it.
I wasn't saying I wasn't in the wrong. I'm talking about the whole convo in general.
Sorry there is regular sexual contact and intimacy.
always crazy bacon
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Well, why don't you start your own topic about this then? because we are not going to assist or enable you to cheat with this girl here in Dating Age.
Spoiled Milk
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always crazy truthbombs
Cow Mengde
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Cam together and split the profits.
Messofanego
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What is with people coming here recently expecting tips on cheating? Is it cheating season or something? lol
Subpar Scrub
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The way you're typing is so cold and clinical it hurts me. Dunno why.
ZackieChan
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Try as you might, none of these new posters will beat that dude who had the 9 year online girlfriend he never met. What a disaster.
Even Mama Bird.
Even Mama Bird.
Subpar Scrub
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I must have joined dating age too late for that... I think I found this thread around page 200. Anyway, sounds like it was a travesty lmao.
always crazy bacon
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For years I've seen annual trends in dating, I think there is a rough yearly cycle of when people get together break up or start looking for partners and associated behaviors with those times.
July to August rather quiet in this topic, everybody's out on vacation not much to write here there are out there having a good time.
September, Oh boy here's the fallout from the summer.
Oct to Dec, if you've got into a new relationship at this point people will stick with it through the winter. Not so enjoyable going out dating in the potential bad weather and shorter days. A lot of people don't want to be single at Christmas so you'll get more luck in the run-up to the 25th.
January to Feb, winter is over it's breakup time
March - May, everyone feeling frisky, weather warmer, self improvement and looking to start dating.
June, Bitter red pill/MRA guys that didn't get with anyone in the spring come out of the woodwork with their misogynistic conspiracy theory's.
This is in general, not a specific couples relationship cycle.
Seeing as roughly a quarter of men and women cheat at some point in their life, it isn't that weird.
Subpar Scrub
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That's a depressing stat, but I had my first serious-ish girlfriend allegedly cheat on me, so I'd believe it.
always crazy bacon
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I live in China and the amount of people that come here that I've worked with (both genders) that have cheated during business trips is a lot. That's even excluding the locals.
Or maybe I didn't and don't have intentions of cheating and just wanted honest opinions on the conversation at this point and was unsure of what to do?
Lol. Fuck her or drop her. That's where you're at.
Just know, she sounds like a cheater and not someone you should really seriously consider getting with. The fact you've been texting this girl is just an all around dumb situation. But either follow through with whatever it is you want to do or move on.
This is amazing XD
Mr Solo Dolo
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What's there to be unsure of? You're having conversations, but it's clear you want more. So stop pursuing someone that's in a relationship. It's as simple as that.
I'm not having a go at you dude but it really annoys me how some people can't/don't respect other people's relationships.
Yeah, I've noticed the same.
Messofanego
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Is it wrong for me to anticipate the redpill dudes? Their overly technical self-hatred is beautiful to read. That dude who wanted to have surgery to literally cut off his chin was amazing.
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