MutantCyborg
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Well, I'm in college so money is tight, my roommate sucks, and there are other issues preventing it right now.
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Well, I'm in college so money is tight, my roommate sucks, and there are other issues preventing it right now.
I actually went back to be together with my girlfriend yesterday again after talking on Skype.
BUT, today I finally broke up for good. I told her we could be friends, but instead she's blaming me for everything and wants a war. I blocked her from Skype, Yahoo, Facebook etc.
She says she want me to erase our sex video or else she will report it to the police. She's in Netherlands now, but will report it to the Danish police when she comes to Denmark on April 6 she says. I told her I have already erased the video and all the naked pictures, but she don't believe me.
Now she says she have told my mother (which she have a really bad relationship with anyway, in fact my mother despise her), that the police will turn up on April 6, just so she won't be surprised yada yada.
But because I don't have the video on my computers, she will be the one in trouble, for giving the police a false report.
I knew she would react this way, and I'm happy I'm outta this hell, and can now focus on my projects again.
BUT, today I finally broke up for good. I told her we could be friends, but instead she's blaming me for everything and wants a war. I blocked her from Skype, Yahoo, Facebook etc.
She says she want me to erase our sex video or else she will report it to the police. She's in Netherlands now, but will report it to the Danish police when she comes to Denmark on April 6 she says. I told her I have already erased the video and all the naked pictures, but she don't believe me.
Now she says she have told my mother (which she have a really bad relationship with anyway, in fact my mother despise her), that the police will turn up on April 6, just so she won't be surprised yada yada.
But because I don't have the video on my computers, she will be the one in trouble, for giving the police a false report.
I knew she would react this way, and I'm happy I'm outta this hell, and can now focus on my projects again.
Do you also only like sex in the missionary position for the sake of procreation?
She want to ask the police to check my computers and hard drives for the video. She want to report that I have a sex video with her, but she herself accepted I have that video. I can't imagine the police would use ressources on something like then. But if they turn up and find there's no video here, then she's the one in trouble.
She's 24.
And if anyone here knows how to erase it from iPhoto (or where iphoto stores pics and videos) then let me know, so I can erase it.
Baconsaurus Rex
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I'm scared now that there is a psycho on the loose here in The Netherlands. You did the right thing, this will all blow over and you can carry on with your life.
Yea, but now her friend (which is also my friend) want me to talk with her tonight. So I said only if she can talk nicely to me, and I will end the call as soon as she starts attacking again. But I am not going to be her boyfriend.
I'm just worried about the whole police turning up at my place thing. Even though I have nothing to worry about.
I'm just worried about the whole police turning up at my place thing. Even though I have nothing to worry about.
Baconsaurus Rex
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You really shouldn't worry. I even doubt the police will show up at all.
Yea me too, would be weird if she goes asking them to check my computers for a sex video, and then they spend ressources on that. But they're welcome anytime. She said she have told my mother that the police is coming by - it's gonna be interesting if my mother have received any messages or calls from her, I'll ask when she comes home.
Oh wow, the friend I talked to on Facebook, was apparently my now Ex. She have the password of the friends FB, so she pretended to be the friend. A new low.
And now my father's friend who let her sleep there for one night, found out, that she lied to them as well last week.
And now my father's friend who let her sleep there for one night, found out, that she lied to them as well last week.
tell her to dealwithit.gif
Baconsaurus Rex
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Cut all contact, stay away from crazies.
First of all, stop talking this obviously insane person. Seriously. She's coming to Denmark on April 6 and she honestly thinks the police will accompany her to your place the very same day over a supposed sex tape of two consenting adults? It's not gonna happen. Ever. It almost sounds like she made an appointment with them, and that's laughable. They are NEVER going to search your computer without consent and with a legal warrant. And you having a sextape is not a crime in and of itself. She's obviously a bit stupid too if she actually TELLS YOU of this ahead of time so you can delete all potential evidence a month in advance :lol It's not hard installing a new hard drive if it comes to that
Either way, it'll be her word against yours, and burden of proof is 99/100 times on her since she's making the claim.They won't do anything at all, don't worry. Even if you have pictures, they're taken with permission and are yours to keep most likely. And it's not like the cops will hold you at gun point to delete them on site.
They'll only come if they sense that laws are being broken. She's crazy and deluded. And stop talking to her
Don't make deals like that, just say no!They have better things to do than search for a private sex tape that might not even exist. Stop talking to her. She's trying to keep her claws in you and you are letting her. Knock it off
See? She's not normal! Stop talking to her.
This is borderline Stockholm Syndrome. Nothing tells me she has ever loved you in a normal fashion. Stop talking to her. She is obviously not worth a second more of your time and thought.Anastacio said:
Atramental
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No. I have a germ phobia and I don't like the idea of sticking a part of myself up some girl's poop chute.
Also, that germ phobia contributes to my fear of sexual contact in general.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Oh God. This is gonna take some extensive work.
hawkshockey11
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So I guess no giving or receiving oral for you ever...
Altramental, this thread will do nothing for you. You've admitted to a phobia, which a great step. Now you can seek help to cope with your phobia.
Okay, maybe it's actually good, I left her. =/
I actually unblocked her from Skype just 30 minutes ago so she could speak her mind. But all she says is that she will go back to her ex boyfriend who actually loves her, and that she have a friend here in Denmark who will help her at the police station. She plans to show them the message I sent her, where I said I wouldn't erase the video. But since then I told her that I DID erase it.
I'm not guilty at all, and it was okay with her, that I have that sex video, but only now she changed her mind after I broke up with her. But I don't want the police coming knocking on my door, when my two old parents live here as well - don't want them to be shocked.
Btw, I blocked her for good now.
I actually unblocked her from Skype just 30 minutes ago so she could speak her mind. But all she says is that she will go back to her ex boyfriend who actually loves her, and that she have a friend here in Denmark who will help her at the police station. She plans to show them the message I sent her, where I said I wouldn't erase the video. But since then I told her that I DID erase it.
I'm not guilty at all, and it was okay with her, that I have that sex video, but only now she changed her mind after I broke up with her. But I don't want the police coming knocking on my door, when my two old parents live here as well - don't want them to be shocked.
Btw, I blocked her for good now.
Atramental
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It's not a crippling phobia but I do wash my hands frequently and shower 2 times a day.
And I could potentially have vaginal and oral sex but I would have to take a shower shortly afterwards.
I may try and go to things like this to extend my friend roster out a bit:
http://www.meetup.com/londongraduates/
Maybe it'll aid in me finding more friends.
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Luckily I doubt my OCD will cause many issues when it comes to contact with women, but other areas in a relationship it could potentially.
http://www.meetup.com/londongraduates/
Maybe it'll aid in me finding more friends.
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Sounds like good hygiene to me man.
Luckily I doubt my OCD will cause many issues when it comes to contact with women, but other areas in a relationship it could potentially.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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That's not germophobia, that's good hygiene :/
So you don't want a relationship you want a friend.
Also your eyelashes have little tons of germs on them too.
Do something about your germ phobia.
Atramental
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I guess it's more of a disgust for other people's bodily fluids than it is of germs.
Both a friend and someone to have a relationship with would be nice but I'm leaving South Carolina in two years (hopefully) so I'm not going waste my time on that.
Now my friend is talking with me and her separately, and she says, that she will not create trouble on one condition, that I show her that the video is erased. Wtf, why do I even have to negotiate anything. I don't wanna block my friend, but I also do not want to talk about my ex... Christ.
Baconsaurus Rex
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How can she even be sure that youve erased it? Show her an empty folder on your computer? I dont understand. Seriously just let it all slide. Tell your friend that you dont want to talk and move on.
But maybe my friend will get angry at me then, cause she is more friends with my ex I think.
Edit: So I gave 30 seconds and she want to see with Screen Sharing, that I am erasing ALL of our pictures. I said those are my properties and blocked her again. I'm done, I don't want any more of this shit. I wanna watch Paranormal Activity 3 tonight.
Edit: So I gave 30 seconds and she want to see with Screen Sharing, that I am erasing ALL of our pictures. I said those are my properties and blocked her again. I'm done, I don't want any more of this shit. I wanna watch Paranormal Activity 3 tonight.
Baconsaurus Rex
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You havent done anything wrong. You are oveethinking all this. Say that youre done talking with her, its over.
Edit: finally. Have fun
May the powers of GAF guide you to victory. Really though, this page has just been sad. Anastacio you did the right thing, and whatever you do, don't cave and talk to the crazies. Completely ignoring is your only safe bet here.
Enjoy PA3
She crazy. For one thing, I don't see what the problem is and why Police would ever want to get involved if there is nothing illegal happening. Sounds like she just wants it gone, and they're all empty threats.
Secondly, how can she make you delete it? Even if you did, in what world does that ever prove you don't have backups? I mean, what if you have Time Machine running? Hell, delete in iPhoto, Time Machine will actually run IN iPhoto to restore it exactly back!
Lastly, the incident itself made me recall a situation when I was at uni once. You know how iTunes has that feature whereby it searches the network for other iTunes libraries so you can share music? Awesome for Uni networks, cause there are LOADS of connections.
Guess what. That same thing happens with iPhoto. I do believe, however, that is OFF be default (can't be sure though). So one day, I was using iPhoto on my uni network, and up pops a shared library. Doesn't happen often, and as a keen photographer, I thought, "hey, someone's sharing some probably sweet photos!". I click connect. Nope nothing special. But part of it was their....um.... private photos.
Dear god, people. Please learn a little about the devices and products you use.
Can I ask seriously here. Why would the police care that you have a legitimately created sex video of you two? The only reasons the police should care are if A) she was underage or B) it was rape. And obviously it is neither. It's a normal sex tape between two people who were in a relationship. There are MILLIONS of those out there. Most of them are on the internet. There's no reason at all that the police could do anything at all to you unless the laws where you are are a lot different. Is it illegal where you are or something? If I were you I'd have uploaded that video the day you broke up with her to one of the many porn sites out there, and put all the photos on 4chan or something out of anger. (Let's see her try and get something removed from the internet.) She can't do anything to you. She's exploiting your fear and niceness to get her way because she knows you will do it for her. I'd have told that bitch (Sorry) to shut up and get over it. I know you already got it all deleted, but still. She can't do a damn thing to you and you have absolutely no obligation to comply to what she asked. Especially the screen sharing thing. If she didn't want the sex tape to get out, she should have never agreed to be in it. Same with the photos. These are all normal parts of many relationships. And her trying to scare you into destroying the evidence is a normal part of a break-up.
Tell her to fuck off, you don't owe her anything and break off all contact forever.
Personally, I wish I had actually made videos and taken pictures when I was with my ex. Would have made me much more satisfied when we broke up. But oh well.
See, we were together for about 13 months. And it was a mutual break-up. We decided to try the "remain friends" thing, but that didn't last too long before things got bad and she eventually removed all commenting privileges on FaceBook. After a few months of me asking her to come pick up her shit she blocked me before I could block her and thankfully I haven't heard anything of her since. I don't care anymore and for all I know she could have won the lottery or died in a boaking accident. Most of the time it's better if you break off all contact. Even easier if she lives far enough away that you'll never accidentally run into each other.
I did have one regret though and that was the way we broke up. The last time I saw her in person was 2 days before we broke up. It all happened over the phone. We discussed how things were going and realized we needed to stop. If I could change one thing I would have told her to meet me in person at the Waffle House or something to discuss it in person instead of over the phone. But it doesn't matter anymore. I also would have done away with the bullshit "remain friends" part. There was no reason to do that. This isn't a sitcom. I'm not Ted and she's not Robin.
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Power Glove
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Anyone ever talked to dudes posing as girls on okcupid? I'm afraid this person I was talking to last night is TGTBT. I asked her if she had a webcam so we could chat through skype and she responded "I don't have a laptop and I'm not going to spend $1200 on a macbook."
As soon as I said " Just get a $20 webcam and hook it up via usb." She signed off.
She did come back on ~30 minutes later but I had gone to bed. How should I approach the subject again tonight?
As soon as I said " Just get a $20 webcam and hook it up via usb." She signed off.
She did come back on ~30 minutes later but I had gone to bed. How should I approach the subject again tonight?
I agree, don't do that, even if she is a complete nutcase, that's a really unfair thing to do.
Are you trying to say the people who don't like anal sex are boring?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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"Hey dude, are you a dude?"
My date got cancelled
I know it was a legitimate reason. She said she'll know her work schedule for the week on sunday and she'd let me know. I feel like I should just call maybe monday is she never says anything. I can't stand setting up things over texts.
Don't talk to her for a while. Hit up other girls, etc.. and wait for her to ask you out on a date.
Fine. But don't say it wouldn't make you feel better. Even if it was just in the heat of the moment. The heat of anger.
The point still stands, he doesn't have to delete them because there's nothing his ex can do to him. She's just trying to scare him into NOT putting them on the internet because really, she's trying to scare him because she is afraid he will show the videos and photos to other people. I say keep them because who knows, one day she might be running for office. They could be good blackmail fodder.
Also, I'm not a bad person actually, which is why I would have uploaded them just to try and break myself free from the "nice guy" bonds I'd been caught up in. I would have uploaded them to make myself the opposite of what I actually am. I may have regretted it later, but at the time it would have felt good.
faceless007
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I will say that. I wouldn't.
That's despicable.The point still stands, he doesn't have to delete them because there's nothing his ex can do to him. She's just trying to scare him into NOT putting them on the internet because really, she's trying to scare him because she is afraid he will show the videos and photos to other people. I say keep them because who knows, one day she might be running for office. They could be good blackmail fodder.
This is so fucked up. What the fuck is wrong with you?
I pop back in here from time, and it seems like people in this thread are more in need for therapy than a girlfriend. Christ on a cracker!
Devolution
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Fine. But don't say it wouldn't make you feel better. Even if it was just in the heat of the moment. The heat of anger.
The point still stands, he doesn't have to delete them because there's nothing his ex can do to him. She's just trying to scare him into NOT putting them on the internet because really, she's trying to scare him because she is afraid he will show the videos and photos to other people. I say keep them because who knows, one day she might be running for office. They could be good blackmail fodder.
Also, I'm not a bad person actually, which is why I would have uploaded them just to try and break myself free from the "nice guy" bonds I'd been caught up in. I would have uploaded them to make myself the opposite of what I actually am. I may have regretted it later, but at the time it would have felt good.
You're a despicable fucking person who doesn't deserve anyone's trust ever.
Jackben
bitch I'm taking calls.
It's better to delete things like that immediately if you can. Some people get so caught up in emotions after a break-up that they make mistakes.
I don't think that makes them a despicable fucking person that shouldn't ever be trusted.
But no matter what, it's always a scummy thing to do.
Don't do it.
I don't think that makes them a despicable fucking person that shouldn't ever be trusted.
But no matter what, it's always a scummy thing to do.
Don't do it.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Fine. But don't say it wouldn't make you feel better. Even if it was just in the heat of the moment. The heat of anger.
The point still stands, he doesn't have to delete them because there's nothing his ex can do to him. She's just trying to scare him into NOT putting them on the internet because really, she's trying to scare him because she is afraid he will show the videos and photos to other people. I say keep them because who knows, one day she might be running for office. They could be good blackmail fodder.
Also, I'm not a bad person actually, which is why I would have uploaded them just to try and break myself free from the "nice guy" bonds I'd been caught up in. I would have uploaded them to make myself the opposite of what I actually am. I may have regretted it later, but at the time it would have felt good.
You are retarded.
Khalifa Jayy
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You completely misinterpreted that post. Try again.
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