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[Veelk]

Don't even have that in your mind.

Go with the pure intentions of just being friends now. If you try to be more than that to "convince" her then it will probably end up pushing her away as a friend even.

She made it clear, almost practically said "you are friendzoned" to you, so now it's either accept that or move on. Don't try to sell yourself, it will only work against you more.

(sorry to sound negative, but it will hurt a lot more if you keep trying and then she bails out of friendship entirely or something)

Well, that is what I meant. I am not going to keep going after her or anything like that, I'm just gonna try to show her a good time and hopefully that will change her mind. And if it doesn't, then oh well. I like this girl, I'm not in love with her. Her rejection sucks, but I'm already mostly over it. By morning, I won't even care.

I meant make out with her friend. She's setting you two up.

Eh, no, we've known each other since childhood and have a brother-sister relationship more than anything. It's weird even considering her as an option.

 

[stormer]

On a first date should you compliment a girl she is beautiful or great personality etc?

How does one go about this without sounding awkward?

thanks

 

[maxxpower]

On a first date should you compliment a girl she is beautiful or great personality etc?

How does one go about this without sounding awkward?

thanks

You already asked her out on a date, I'm pretty sure she already knows you think she's good looking.

 

[stormer]

You already asked her out on a date, I'm pretty sure she already knows you think she's good looking.

what if its like a blind date thing? where people are trying to set you up but you don't really know each other.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

You already asked her out on a date, I'm pretty sure she already knows you think she's good looking.

You know, sometimes I feel like chicks are a bit more forgiving sometimes, as far as looks go, if you like...are able to show you're a decent dude, are funny, and not a sleaze. So I mean, whether it's a blind-date or not, just be cool about it, cause chances are, if she's already sitting down, she's willing to at least give you a shot.

 

[Mikey Jr.]

Asked a girl out to a movie, she seemed enthusiastic about it, happy to go....then she asked if her friend could come.

"Uh, I was think that'd I'd just be you and me."
"Why?"
"Well, I'm asking you out, if that wasn't clear."
"Why a date? Lets just be friends"
"If you want. Your missing out though. I'm pretty awesome"

*sigh*

A straight no would have been better than getting my hopes up. I think I played it off well and it's not that big a deal, but still kinda sucks. We're still going as friends though, so there's that.

This is what i dont get. Are some girls really this naive? Good on you though man.

 

[Loona]

Hmm, I wouldn't suggest a movie for a first date any way unless you're doing something afterwards as well. There's no opportunity for interaction since you're sitting in a dark place where it's impolite to talk.

I'm familiar with the notion, but still, in a recent exchange at OKcupid with this girl I hadn't traded messages with in a while but were recently resumed, I made a passing mention of maybe going to the movies soon and she replied to that specifically asking for suggestions with a couple of "" in the message, so I tossed in my suggestions, illustrating them with what I thought was interesting about them (for example, mentioning Wreck-it Ralph but how it wasn't actually _about_ games like how Tron wasn't actually about computers, but had more to do with religion, in a way), which could trigger more conversation further down the line.
I ended up sending her my phone number if she was up to go watch something, but the ball's on her court if she feels like going for a movie or do something else, we'll see how it goes...

 

[natethegreat409]

Dating a divorced woman is not easy.... Sheesh, they're extra crazy, moody, and emotionally unstable.

 

[RedNalgene]

On a first date should you compliment a girl she is beautiful or great personality etc?

How does one go about this without sounding awkward?

thanks

You should definitely throw out compliments, but if you use generic ones it's going to sound planned. Don't say "you look very pretty tonight" but rather "hey I really like how those earrings compliment your eyes" or something like that. Doing stuff like that ends up being conversation material. She may respond with "oh thanks, my grandmother gave these to me on my 16th birthday and they always remind me of her" and off you go on a topic. You have to actually take note of the situation and try to make it unique. If she's talking about something she's very passionate about, compliment her on her passion and say you like that about her. It's really situational and I don't think can be planned much beyond knowing that you should compliment her.

Also, it's possible to over-compliment. Don't do that.

And don't stress about it. If you forget to compliment her it isn't a deal breaker. Just have fun and try to act like yourself as much as you can, even though you'll probably be a little nervous.

 

[hawkshockey11]

There is a girl that I went to High School with but never really talked to. We started talking somehow on facebook recently and I like her style. Would it be weird to ask her out despite never meeting in person before?

 

[Smash88]

Rebound.

Maybe. We'll see.

 

[Omegasquash]

Dating a divorced woman is not easy.... Sheesh, they're extra crazy, moody, and emotionally unstable.

If they're extra crazy, moody and emotionally unstable, ask yourself how long you want to tolerate it. Because you can't fix it. Just my two cents.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

The Best Advice a Man Can get.

 

[PflargBlarg]

I'm familiar with the notion, but still, in a recent exchange at OKcupid with this girl I hadn't traded messages with in a while but were recently resumed, I made a passing mention of maybe going to the movies soon and she replied to that specifically asking for suggestions with a couple of "" in the message, so I tossed in my suggestions, illustrating them with what I thought was interesting about them (for example, mentioning Wreck-it Ralph but how it wasn't actually _about_ games like how Tron wasn't actually about computers, but had more to do with religion, in a way), which could trigger more conversation further down the line.
I ended up sending her my phone number if she was up to go watch something, but the ball's on her court if she feels like going for a movie or do something else, we'll see how it goes...

Yeah you know it's all situational, it can work.
My second date was in fact going to see Wreck It Ralph, but I already know her quite well and we still went to walk down by the pier afterwards. I guess just keep it interesting.

 

[windz]

If they're extra crazy, moody and emotionally unstable, ask yourself how long you want to tolerate it. Because you can't fix it. Just my two cents.

And therein you find why they got divorced

 

[windz]

There is a girl that I went to High School with but never really talked to. We started talking somehow on facebook recently and I like her style. Would it be weird to ask her out despite never meeting in person before?

No it wouldn't be weird if you guys are hitting it off and enjoy talking to each other. Suggest meeting face to face, coffee, dinner, a hobby you both enjoy and say you want to hang out.

Agh double post.

 

[Pinko Marx]

So I was in a relationship for about 2 years that ended a few months ago. Since then I've been trying to get her back but I've finally just realized that its not going to work. Even after she got another boyfriend I was still trying. I mean, I was pretty caught up on this girl.
I've finally started on the path towards trying to get over her, but of course its hard. I mean, I was thinking about marrying this chick.
Anyway, so now I'm trying to get back into the game but I feel like all the mojo I had to get my last girl is just gone. My self-confidence is shot, my swag is non-existent. I gots nothing.
I need halp.

 

[luckyboyceo]

So I was in a relationship for about 2 years that ended a few months ago. Since then I've been trying to get her back but I've finally just realized that its not going to work. Even after she got another boyfriend I was still trying. I mean, I was pretty caught up on this girl.
I've finally started on the path towards trying to get over her, but of course its hard. I mean, I was thinking about marrying this chick.
Anyway, so now I'm trying to get back into the game but I feel like all the mojo I had to get my last girl is just gone. My self-confidence is shot, my swag is non-existent. I gots nothing.
I need halp.

First, I'm sorry about your loss. Break ups are never easy, especially after being with someone for as long as you were. Good on you for realizing trying to win her back just wasn't the way to go, that's not an easy thing to admit, but it was the right one.

As for your question, honestly, it might just be too early for you to "get back in the game." Everyone copes differently, but two months after a two year relationship seems like a pretty short amount of time, all things considered. There's no harm in just taking some time away from women and focusing on other areas in your life like yourself and your friends. I know that probably doesn't sound appealing right now, but I think the primary reason you're looking for another girl is to fill the emotional void that you were left with after your break up, and while that may fix it short term, it won't fix it long term (trust me, I've tried). I think the best thing for your right now is to continue to surround yourself with a good support system, whether that be friends, family, GAF, whatever, and put women on the back burner, at least for a bit. Let your wound fully heal before you're willing to open yourself up again. Once you have (or at least, gotten closer), I think you'll find that your mojo will come back to you. It's only natural to be rusty at first, just power through it and preferably have some good wingmen by your side, that always makes things easier.

Best of luck, my friend!

 

[hawkshockey11]

No it wouldn't be weird if you guys are hitting it off and enjoy talking to each other. Suggest meeting face to face, coffee, dinner, a hobby you both enjoy and say you want to hang out.

Agh double post.

Actually we were going to meet at a concert that we both separately wanted to go to and that was how we started talking. She had to stay and celebrate her grandfathers birthday though. I think I need a little more before asking.

 

[Minamu]

Did anyone have a good time this thursday and friday night?

 

[reallyfull]

Did anyone have a good time this thursday and friday night?

Thursday night I went out for a second time with the girl I took bowling. I took her to dinner and then we went out for drinks. At the end of the first date it was just a hug, after this one we kissed for a bit. We have a date set up for next Friday and I plan to take her ice skating.

She seemed a little bummed that we have to wait all the way until next Friday to see each other. But our work schedules are pretty crazy and that is the next time they line up. I mentioned that I could do something during the week, but it's kind of hard because I work nights and I'm not off till Fri/Sat/Sun this coming week.

 

[Minamu]

Remember, affection grows the strongest when you're not around.

 

[WriterGK]

I finally went out yesterday since almost 2 weeks or so. I first went to a party of a Movie Festival that I worked as volunteer for last weekend. That wasn't really satisfying there was one woman who I talked to that has a six year old son. And the reason I came in the first place was for a girl who worked at the festival and whose number I got last week. Anyway she mentioned during our conversation yesterday that she has a boyfriend. So I asked her why she gave me her number when she has a boyfriend. Because I specifically asked to get a coffee sometimes. She thought I meant it as friend and it was totally her fault.

Anyway after I left there I went out with my cousin and a good friend. When I was going near the wardrobe in the club there was this girl that I met over a month ago during going out in Antwerpen. She asked do you remember me'' I said yes you're name is Nienke and you''re a doctor and she didn't remember my name but did remember that I am a student. So this time I did number close on her. I said to her we met now 2 times by chance I want us to meet for the third time when we decide to so whats your number and she gave it.

And later she saw me dancing a bit and talking to a other girl who I also now met for the second time. She was in the same club as yesterday also like a month ago. I got her number now as well and also her facebook. And earlier last night I was grabbing a pizza and was waiting there in the pizza parlor for it to be done. There was a girl who I connected with and he said I look familliar to her and we started talking. Turns out she is running a company called Annimal Nanny. She takes care of animals/pets for people when they are on vacation and stuff. I said I remember the name of her company and I found her website and turns out girls I know from Highschool are great friends of her. Hell a girl who was in my class is on a couple of her facebook photo's of the girl I met yesterday. Her number is on the website of her business but I thought that is creepy so I added her on faecbook because we have like 10 friends in common.


Anyway who should I go for? I am thinking about dating both girls from the club yesterday and both I already met before. But its not a bad thing right if a girl seeks you talking to other girl as well? And as long as I am not having sex or kissing with either of them I can meet up with both right?

 

[Minamu]

So I asked her why she gave me her number when she has a boyfriend. Because I specifically asked to get a coffee sometimes. She thought I meant it as friend and it was totally her fault.

Anyway who should I go for? I am thinking about dating both girls from the club yesterday and both I already met before. But its not a bad thing right if a girl seeks you talking to other girl as well? And as long as I am not having sex or kissing with either of them I can meet up with both right?

Don't ask why she gave you her number, that usually reeks of butthurtness and it's not relevant anyway. As for others girls, there's no reason why you couldn't try them all out, right? And no, if one girl sees you talking to another, that's not a problem, and if it is, it's hers. And there's no reason why you couldn't kiss or have sex with all of them, you can still go on dates with others, as long as you're honest and not in a serious relationship. If someone has a problem with you dating others when you haven't had sex or kissed, then that person is just weird. you can do whatever you want.

 

[Nyphestus]

So what's everyones take on girls who are in a relationship but take numbers from guys still?

Went to the mall today and had a good conversation with a girl who worked in one of the stores. At first she was seeing if my friends and I needed help, but then she came over again and made a comment about having to throw us out if we didn't buy anything, she was joking of course. After her comment, her and I really hit it off and just chatted for a good ten minutes or so about similar interests. I made a comment about her having a boyfriend, which she confirmed, but stated he was a douchebag, so I gave her my number anyway, and she seemed happy to put it in her phone.

Now I am not in the least expecting to hear from her, and I'm actively hitting up girls all the time. But I am curious as to why a girl would still take my number, even when she has a boyfriend.

 

[Meatfist]

Gah, this is like the third time I've chat up a girl in class or at work to find out later on she's 4/5/6 years older than me. I mean in the grand scheme of things it's no big deal but it definitely weirds me out a little

 

[mj1108]

So what's everyones take on girls who are in a relationship but take numbers from guys still?

Run away. If she's taking numbers from guys when she's with him, you wouldn't like her taking numbers if she's with you.

 

[maxxpower]

Is it too weird if I go to the downtown bars/clubs by myself? I don't have that many friends and honestly I just want to talk to girls and hopefully get some numbers.

 

[stn]

I made a comment about her having a boyfriend, which she confirmed, but stated he was a douchebag, so I gave her my number anyway, and she seemed happy to put it in her phone.

She would because she likes attention and has no character. There are a few things I infer from what she said:

1. She's talking smack about her boyfriend (there's no way to frame this in a positive light).
2. Assuming her boyfriend IS a jerk, why is she still with him?

Sounds like a drama queen to me. Stay away.

Is it too weird if I go to the downtown bars/clubs by myself? I don't have that many friends and honestly I just want to talk to girls and hopefully get some numbers.

I'll be honest with you: I think most people would perceive someone going alone to clubs as weird. I would say you should better make friends at your school, work place, or at some club that represents an interest of yours. The friends you make there could be the ones who end up going to clubs and bars with you. Then again, I just cannot fathom doing things like that alone; I can't even force myself to go to the movies alone.

 

[Minamu]

So what's everyones take on girls who are in a relationship but take numbers from guys still?

This happened to me tonight. I've been texting on and off with a girl I met in line to the club about a month back and as soon as I mentioned getting together, the conversation died, so I knew something was up. And tonight I met her at the same club and she was as flirty as usual but also just as reserved (no kissing allowed). I even get to meet, sort of, the boyfriend xD That was kinda awkward and she told me that it's almost certainly heading for disaster. I don't care though, I gain nothing by judging her. I agree with the quote below though, why is she still with him etc? They can't be trusted after such a thing either, usually. Might be fun as a fling though I suspect. My girl openly admitted that she had really liked the attention she got from me, because she didn't get it from her boyfriend and I'm fine with that to be honest. Her friend really insisted that I join them at an after party but I had to draw the line there because of the awkwardness.

She would because she likes attention and has no character. There are a few things I infer from what she said:

1. She's talking smack about her boyfriend (there's no way to frame this in a positive light).
2. Assuming her boyfriend IS a jerk, why is she still with him?

Sounds like a drama queen to me. Stay away.


I'll be honest with you: I think most people would perceive someone going alone to clubs as weird. I would say you should better make friends at your school, work place, or at some club that represents an interest of yours. The friends you make there could be the ones who end up going to clubs and bars with you. Then again, I just cannot fathom doing things like that alone; I can't even force myself to go to the movies alone.

Going out alone is incredibly powerful. Not many people have the guts for it. I agree that some find it weird but if you own it and present it as the most natural thing in the world, things will go a lot smoother. Not having someone to fall back on is great for your confidence. Just do it for the right reasons.

 

[Wazzim]

So what's everyones take on girls who are in a relationship but take numbers from guys still?

Went to the mall today and had a good conversation with a girl who worked in one of the stores. At first she was seeing if my friends and I needed help, but then she came over again and made a comment about having to throw us out if we didn't buy anything, she was joking of course. After her comment, her and I really hit it off and just chatted for a good ten minutes or so about similar interests. I made a comment about her having a boyfriend, which she confirmed, but stated he was a douchebag, so I gave her my number anyway, and she seemed happy to put it in her phone.

Now I am not in the least expecting to hear from her, and I'm actively hitting up girls all the time. But I am curious as to why a girl would still take my number, even when she has a boyfriend.

Would you still take girls' numbers even though you had a girlfriend? Exactly.

There's nothing to lose for her, she's just expanding her social network this way.

 

[WriterGK]

This happened to me tonight. I've been texting on and off with a girl I met in line to the club about a month back and as soon as I mentioned getting together, the conversation died, so I knew something was up. And tonight I met her at the same club and she was as flirty as usual but also just as reserved (no kissing allowed). I even get to meet, sort of, the boyfriend xD That was kinda awkward and she told me that it's almost certainly heading for disaster. I don't care though, I gain nothing by judging her. I agree with the quote below though, why is she still with him etc? They can't be trusted after such a thing either, usually. Might be fun as a fling though I suspect. My girl openly admitted that she had really liked the attention she got from me, because she didn't get it from her boyfriend and I'm fine with that to be honest. Her friend really insisted that I join them at an after party but I had to draw the line there because of the awkwardness.

Going out alone is incredibly powerful. Not many people have the guts for it. I agree that some find it weird but if you own it and present it as the most natural thing in the world, things will go a lot smoother. Not having someone to fall back on is great for your confidence. Just do it for the right reasons.

Yeah I know what you mean. I have the guts for it I have done it quite often but I don't prefer it tough. But if there is really no one available I won't let that hold me back. So I texted one of the two girls whose number I got Friday evening. She said thanks for the offer but I decline to go out for drinks next week in Amsterdam. I am confused I respect her choice but if she says no why give her number.

 

[Darklord]

What's the best way to deal with a long distance relationship? I really like her and she really likes me too. We skype, we chat every day, send video recordings and photos, just constant contact. The problem is she's too far away to see on any kind of regular basis. We've been like this for like...3 months? I think? She's mentioned moving closer and asked about what the rent is like, how my area is for living, all of that stuff but at other times says it would be hard to be that far away from all her family and friends. I'd be willing to move from where I am now(I want to anyway) but where she is is kinda shit.

What would be the best course of action? Just let it ride a while longer and see where it goes? I just don't want it to turn into getting comfortable never/rarely seeing each other in person, that would just suck.

 

[Aika'svyse]

The Best Advice a Man Can get.

So true. women seem to enjoy a bit of challenge and unexpected.

 

[Emily Chu]

anyone realized that you are free to say and do whatever the hell you want to get women ?

(even if it means lying, sabotage, manipulation, etc)

it will be painful at first, very painful but the more you try it the less fucks you give and the more fucks you'll get.....

think about this, GAF we have an entire thread about this, but honestly there are no rules

the world is one big glorified joke and it's up to us to make the punchlines.

now go GAF...

 

[sphinx]

What's the best way to deal with a long distance relationship? I really like her and she really likes me too. We skype, we chat every day, send video recordings and photos, just constant contact. The problem is she's too far away to see on any kind of regular basis. We've been like this for like...3 months? I think? She's mentioned moving closer and asked about what the rent is like, how my area is for living, all of that stuff but at other times says it would be hard to be that far away from all her family and friends. I'd be willing to move from where I am now(I want to anyway) but where she is is kinda shit.

What would be the best course of action? Just let it ride a while longer and see where it goes? I just don't want it to turn into getting comfortable never/rarely seeing each other in person, that would just suck.

have you two seen each other live or is this an internet relationship?

spending a week together will probably tell you if it's worth it to pursue a relationship, long-distance or not.

 

[Addi]

Is it too weird if I go to the downtown bars/clubs by myself? I don't have that many friends and honestly I just want to talk to girls and hopefully get some numbers.

Go for it

I'll be honest with you: I think most people would perceive someone going alone to clubs as weird. I would say you should better make friends at your school, work place, or at some club that represents an interest of yours. The friends you make there could be the ones who end up going to clubs and bars with you. Then again, I just cannot fathom doing things like that alone; I can't even force myself to go to the movies alone.

It isn't weird. If he shows up at club when it's crowded nobody will notice that he is alone and if they do they wouldn't care. I mean, even when going out with friends there are moments where you end up by yourself. Getting new friends to be able to go out to chat with new girls sounds like a detour. I've gone out alone a couple of times. If I have a saturday with no plans I would rather go out alone and meet new people, than just sitting at home.

EDIT: and even if someone would think you are weird, why should you care?

 

[stn]

It isn't weird. If he shows up at club when it's crowded nobody will notice that he is alone and if they do they wouldn't care. I mean, even when going out with friends there are moments where you end up by yourself. Getting new friends to be able to go out to chat with new girls sounds like a detour. I've gone out alone a couple of times. If I have a saturday with no plans I would rather go out alone and meet new people, than just sitting at home.

EDIT: and even if someone would think you are weird, why should you care?

I'm looking at it from the perspective of some girls I know. They have in the past thought that guys who go alone are predators and possibly anti-social. I'm not saying that's what I think, but I'm sure women are on their guard at clubs. You'll have a much easier time meeting girls if they see that you have friends, since it will make you appear less threatening.

He doesn't have to care about this at all, sure. Power to him if it doesn't sway him in his quest. However, he asked me and I gave my personal insight on the matter. But for the record, I don't personally mind it at all. I could sympathize if a person goes alone, but I still stand by what I say: Make more friends!

 

[MisterNegative]

Yeah, going to clubs alone is a big no no. Live with a couple girls who say the same thing. It just brings about the question "why is he alone ?, where are his friends ?" To girls the only conclusion is "Omg he must be a creep/weirdo/loner etc etc"

The best thing you can do is walk into a bar/club with a mixed group i.e boys and girls Apparently.

 

[Sub_Level]

Did anyone have a good time this thursday and friday night?

On Friday night I asked a coworker out (usually not a good idea but it's just a plain old restaurant job and I'm changing jobs in a few weeks anyways). Just told her that some friends and I were probably gonna go bowling on Sun/Mon and gave her my number.

She hasn't gotten back to me so she probably wasn't into me (it was hard to gauge her for the last few weeks I've worked with her, sometimes she seemed enthusiastic other times she seemed dismissive, and who knows how I came off lol) I'm glad I asked her though, it was one of those things where I was thinking about it and almost dreading asking her all shift so asking was a huge relief.

 

[MisterNegative]

On Friday night I asked a coworker out (usually not a good idea but it's just a plain old restaurant job and I'm changing jobs in a few weeks anyways). Just told her that some friends and I were probably gonna go bowling on Sun/Mon and gave her my number.

She hasn't gotten back to me so she probably wasn't into me (it was hard to gauge her for the last few weeks I've worked with her, sometimes she seemed enthusiastic other times she seemed dismissive, and who knows how I came off lol) I'm glad I asked her though, it was one of those things where I was thinking about it and almost dreading asking her all shift so asking was a huge relief.

Did you exchange numbers or just give her yours ? You probably should of given her a text to see if she was still interested in going.

 

[Messypandas]

Yeah, going to clubs alone is a big no no. Live with a couple girls who say the same thing. It just brings about the question "why is he alone ?, where are his friends ?" To girls the only conclusion is "Omg he must be a creep/weirdo/loner etc etc"

The best thing you can do is walk into a bar/club with a mixed group i.e boys and girls Apparently.

Depends on the club. If you stand in the corner sipping on a beer through a straw people are gonna assume you're a creepy loner. If you're getting jiggy on the dancefloor if anything being alone will make you seem more approachable. I've hung back in clubs after my friends bailed for this very reason.

 

[Sub_Level]

Did you exchange numbers or just give her yours ?

I just gave her mine. It was a really brief convo. Last girl I gave out my number too immediately texted me to make sure I didn't give her a fake one, so yeah guessing this girl isn't too interested. I dunno if she's taken or not. It's all good though

 

[Addi]

I'm looking at it from the perspective of some girls I know. They have in the past thought that guys who go alone are predators and possibly anti-social. I'm not saying that's what I think, but I'm sure women are on their guard at clubs. You'll have a much easier time meeting girls if they see that you have friends, since it will make you appear less threatening.

I see your point, and I agree to some extent, but I think it is all about the mindset. If you go out and it is obvious that you are looking for girls, you will get that image of predator/loner/creep etc. But if you go out to have fun, talk to new people (guys and girls), dance (for fun, and not solely to approach girls on the dance floor) you will not come across as a creep. It's all about confidence.

One thing that I have noticed, is that most people in clubs/bars want to talk to new people, they want someone to talk to. Everybody is in the same position (well, not hot girls, they will automatically think you are hitting on them). There have been several times where I have just talked with some random guys, and the next time I have met them in a club, they have all been high-fiving me and whatnot. It's an environment with mostly strangers, so when a person sees someone they know (even though it was just sharing a cigarette once), they will exaggerate how well they know each other. I mean, last week I had this guy walk up to me and ask me how I was doing, I didn't remember him and he told me he was the guy who had installed the internet router at my place a couple of weeks earlier. Kind of creepy, haha, but he was with his friends, he didn't need to talk to me. Even with friends, one want to talk to other people and also show that you know other people. Point being, if you go out to same place a couple of times (alone or with friends) you will begin to meet some of the same people, at that point, there is no problem going out alone because you know there always will be someone to talk to there.

Also, most of the times I have hooked up with girls from clubs, was when I was alone or after my friends had left (one could argue that the girls had seen me with my friends earlier though). I like better going after girls alone (when I'm out with friends it's mostly to have fun together) and I don't like that wingman crap. I don't do any of that PUA crap either. If I get good eye contact with a girl, it's difficult to screw it up from there, both she and I know what it means when I walk up to her. No need for tactics or techniques, just small talk, smiling and looking in each other's eyes. People should try going out alone sometimes, not as a rule, but sometimes. It builds character and confidence when done right.

 

[Minamu]

anyone realized that you are free to say and do whatever the hell you want to get women ?

(even if it means lying, sabotage, manipulation, etc)

it will be painful at first, very painful but the more you try it the less fucks you give and the more fucks you'll get.....

think about this, GAF we have an entire thread about this, but honestly there are no rules

the world is one big glorified joke and it's up to us to make the punchlines.

now go GAF...

What happened to you? xD

Go for it

It isn't weird. If he shows up at club when it's crowded nobody will notice that he is alone and if they do they wouldn't care. I mean, even when going out with friends there are moments where you end up by yourself. Getting new friends to be able to go out to chat with new girls sounds like a detour. I've gone out alone a couple of times. If I have a saturday with no plans I would rather go out alone and meet new people, than just sitting at home.

EDIT: and even if someone would think you are weird, why should you care?

This is the perfect mindset. You'll do fine in here, I think

Yeah, going to clubs alone is a big no no. Live with a couple girls who say the same thing. It just brings about the question "why is he alone ?, where are his friends ?" To girls the only conclusion is "Omg he must be a creep/weirdo/loner etc etc"

The best thing you can do is walk into a bar/club with a mixed group i.e boys and girls Apparently.

Name quote.

On Friday night I asked a coworker out (usually not a good idea but it's just a plain old restaurant job and I'm changing jobs in a few weeks anyways). Just told her that some friends and I were probably gonna go bowling on Sun/Mon and gave her my number.

She hasn't gotten back to me so she probably wasn't into me (it was hard to gauge her for the last few weeks I've worked with her, sometimes she seemed enthusiastic other times she seemed dismissive, and who knows how I came off lol) I'm glad I asked her though, it was one of those things where I was thinking about it and almost dreading asking her all shift so asking was a huge relief.

Sounds borderline pursuing but seems fairly harmless too. Well done on the overall mindset.

Did you exchange numbers or just give her yours ? You probably should of given her a text to see if she was still interested in going.

No, he shouldn't really care, just like he isn't doing. He is going bowling either way, no need to worry about this girl.

I just gave her mine. It was a really brief convo. Last girl I gave out my number too immediately texted me to make sure I didn't give her a fake one, so yeah guessing this girl isn't too interested. I dunno if she's taken or not. It's all good though

Just keep doing it Good for you.

 

[Vermillion]

I'm starting to notice a couple of things - my type doesn't exist and I'm really bad with this.

The girls I get interested in usually don't drink and the ones that drink aren't who I get interested in. Save for one, but I can see the interest is not mutual.

Oy vey.

 

[Minamu]

You really need to change your story. You are manifesting this reality!

 

[JohnDoe]

I'm starting to notice a couple of things - my type doesn't exist and I'm really bad with this.

The girls I get interested in usually don't drink and the ones that drink aren't who I get interested in. Save for one, but I can see the interest is not mutual.

Oy vey.

Is this drinking stuff that important?

 

[Necrovex]

Is this drinking stuff that important?

Beer tasting is a wonderful hobby. Plus drinking is a major social activity.

Also, if you and your SO are hanging out with friends, who have a fondness for alcohol, it would be fairly awkward to get drunk with your buddy if your SO doesn't drink at all. For some people, that would be a concern, for others, not so much (I'm in the latter camp).

Those are my wild theories.

 

[DominoKid]

I'm starting to notice a couple of things - my type doesn't exist and I'm really bad with this.

The girls I get interested in usually don't drink and the ones that drink aren't who I get interested in. Save for one, but I can see the interest is not mutual.

Oy vey.

Maybe you're not actually into girls that drink?