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[InfiniteCombo]

I've done pretty well in my dating life. Attractive, smart women, blah blah blah. But ultimately they all had some sort fatal flaw that was a major deal breaker, which is why I'm still not married.

Anyway when browsing through dating apps and going through the dozens of lame profiles, there are some criteria I use to personally filter some women out very quickly:

- Obviously if they aren't attractive to me. They don't have to be runway models but there are some basics -- no whales, no busted ass faces, etc. All that bullshit about "oh it's only the beauty on the inside that counts"... Anyone deluding themselves with that is in for a rough awakening
- If I see pictures of them doing performative protest stuff (which apparently is popular in my city)
- If I see certain words or phrases:
"Social justice" (this is an immediate, "don't even bother looking at the rest of the profile" disqualifier)
"Patriarchy"
"Feminist"
... and any words or phrases of that ilk
- If every picture is a giant group picture where I can't even tell who the hell the one chick is, because they all look like generic pharmacy blondes
- Obviously fake profiles -- usually plastic/almost anime looking Asian chicks. Have no idea why that's even a thing, but it's prominent in a couple of apps

There are some other minor annoying things (like the prominent use of the word "adulting") but they're not deal breakers.

For those of you who use dating apps - what things make you immediately disqualify a candidate?

EDIT: to state the obvious -- mods, if this topic is inappropriate for discussion, feel free to shut the thread down.

 

[p_xavier]

I reject automatically -
Terms in profile: marxist, activist (any communist types)
Hair : hair colour
Age : I don't date younger
Height : I prefer taller guys so no under 6' (I'm that height)
Penis : uncut

What gets my attention -
Hair : love bald guys
Weight : I prefer stocky guys
Height : 6'4"+
Penis : 8"+

 

[InfiniteCombo]

I reject automatically -
Terms in profile: marxist, activist (any communist types)
Hair : hair colour
Age : I don't date younger
Height : I prefer taller guys so no under 6' (I'm that height)
Penis : uncut

What gets my attention -
Hair : love bald guys
Weight : I prefer stocky guys
Height : 6'4"+
Penis : 8"+

So with those criteria, do you have to eliminate a lot of guys from your potential pool? Or it's not that bad?

Some of my criteria eliminate a good 70% of chicks in my city

 

[M1chl]

I reject automatically -
Terms in profile: marxist, activist (any communist types)
Hair : hair colour
Age : I don't date younger
Height : I prefer taller guys so no under 6' (I'm that height)
Penis : uncut

What gets my attention -
Hair : love bald guys
Weight : I prefer stocky guys
Height : 6'4"+
Penis : 8"+

Wonder what is amount of your right swipes.

 

[StreetsofBeige]

- Under 35 or over 48
- Too tall
- Too fat
- Too ugly
- Materialistic vibe
- Dumb ass surgery (giant lips, ass, cheek bones etc....)
- Anything to do with face piercings, tattoos, nose rings, pink/green hair
- Anyone with blatant filters/photoshop
- Weed/drug users
- Smokers unless she is ultra hot

 

[p_xavier]

Wonder what is amount of your right swipes.

About 2-3 a day. I don't like compromises thus I'd never be able to be enamoured with someone if there's an aspect I don't like. People judge me as harshly so I don't take it personal.

 

[InfiniteCombo]

- Under 35 or over 48
- Too tall
- Too fat
- Too ugly
- Materialistic vibe
- Dumb ass surgery (giant lips, ass, cheek bones etc....)
- Anything to do with face piercings, tattoos, nose rings, pink/green hair
- Anyone with blatant filters/photoshop
- Weed/drug users
- Smokers unless she is ultra hot

Oh yeah I forgot about the pink/green hair thing. I used to be more OK with that kind of thing, but these days it's not just a hair color, it comes across with a certain mentality that I don't align with.

 

[StreetsofBeige]

Oh yeah I forgot about the pink/green hair thing. I used to be more OK with that kind of thing, but these days it's not just a hair color, it comes across with a certain mentality that I don't align with.

Anything to do with the hard liberal look I avoid. Also that relates to another hair issue I avoid. Women with really short hair/shaved heads. I like my women with shoulder length hair at minimum.

Not saying someone with short hair cant be good looking, but for me she's got to be very hot to pull off short hair and be in the same league as an attractive woman who has long hair.

 

[Zeroing]

Penis : uncut

this is why our love cannot go on

Anyway now being seriously
Big no!
- anyone who writes “ethical polygamy” lol that for me means my bf knows what I’m doing please trust me!!!

- Anyone who gives an extensive description of what they are looking on someone! yeah good look with your impossible to meet high standards/fantasy

 

[M1chl]

About 2-3 a day. I don't like compromises thus I'd never be able to be enamoured with someone if there's an aspect I don't like. People judge me as harshly so I don't take it personal.

Nah just question about statistic, not shaming preferences : )

 

[chromhound]

Materialistic
full of surgeries
Got way too many followers on social media
Only date a certain height
Being in that woke bullshit (i don't have time for that crap but i don't have nothing against it)
Too many kids

 

[chromhound]

I reject automatically -
Terms in profile: marxist, activist (any communist types)
Hair : hair colour
Age : I don't date younger
Height : I prefer taller guys so no under 6' (I'm that height)
Penis : uncut

What gets my attention -
Hair : love bald guys
Weight : I prefer stocky guys
Height : 6'4"+
Penis : 8"+

What wrong with an Uncut penis -__-

 

[p_xavier]

What wrong with an Uncut penis -__-

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[Kev Kev]

any activist or political shit in the bio

making that stuff part of your identity is beyond potato brain levels of dumb

 

[InfiniteCombo]

Materialistic
full of surgeries
Got way too many followers on social media
Only date a certain height
Being in that woke bullshit (i don't have time for that crap but i don't have nothing against it)
Too many kids

Wait... "Too many kids?" What's the cutoff?

 

[DeepEnigma]

any activist or political shit in the bio

making that stuff part of your identity is beyond potato brain levels of dumb

Followed up with:

Danger hair. That litmus works 99% of the time.

 

[Zeroing]

Are circumcised penises more attractive to females than uncircumcised penises?

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I lived on USA for some months and although not women but guys do like uncut cocks and foreign accents !

As long as it’s big and you know what you are doing it with it, I never had complains!

 

[p_xavier]

So with those criteria, do you have to eliminate a lot of guys from your potential pool? Or it's not that bad?

Some of my criteria eliminate a good 70% of chicks in my city

Not that bad. Living in a rural area, I found more guys I like in a small town. In a big city you have the LGBTBBQ types which I can't stand. I'd rather have the redneck closet cases. I do have sex with guys that aren't my type, but I don't see dating potential in those.

 

[chromhound]

Wait... "Too many kids?" What's the cutoff?

Probably because i don't have kids on my own yet and i would prefer to be with someone who doesn't have kids too
if she got one kid , i don't mind. But 2 and 3 kids ehhhh...

 

[p_xavier]

Probably because i don't have kids on my own yet and i would prefer to be with someone who doesn't have kids too
if she got one kid , i don't mind. But 2 and 3 kids ehhhh...

I dated someone for 5 years with a kid and it was just horrible. At my age, even if they have kids, they're mostly adults.

 

[chromhound]

Not that bad. Living in a rural area, I found more guys I like in a small town. In a big city you have the LGBTBBQ types which I can't stand. I'd rather have the redneck closet cases. I do have sex with guys that aren't my type, but I don't see dating potential in those.

i prefer dating people from other cities and kinda far. i know that people from my circle didn't sleep with that person lol

 

[Zeroing]

i prefer dating people from other cities and kinda far. i know that people from my circle didn't sleep with that person lol

Oh I also do that! Everyone slept with each other and talk crap about each other and I’m always on the middle. Now imagine the nightmare when I moved to a small island! Ahah it’s impossible to not get caught in people feuds etc.

 

[nush]

- If every picture is a giant group picture where I can't even tell who the hell the one chick is,

It's always the least attractive one.

I remember some things from when I used the apps that made me nope out. If she has a set of pictures and she looks good in some and terrible in others, I'm not taking the risk the uggo version girl will be the one that arrives at the date.

If they ask how much you earn, no matter how subtle they think they are being asking I'm out.

If they want you to talk on another platform because "I'm not on here much", they are just looking to boost social media followers.

If they ask too many questions about my divorce, it's like I feel they are trying to work out how the divorce must have been your fault or that you're lying. That level of mistrust isn't going to get any better if you end up in a relationship with them, so blocked.

If she's unemployed.

If she's only responsive to messaging 9-5 Mon-Fri, means you're just there to entertain her when she's bored at work.

 

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[InfiniteCombo]

It's always the least attractive one.

LMAO... So true.

I remember some things from when I used the apps that made me nope out. If she has a set of pictures and she looks good in some and terrible in others, I'm not taking the risk the uggo version girl will be the one that arrives at the date.

YES. Unless for some reason the chick isn't photogenic, her BEST picture online is the best she's ever gonna look

If they ask how much you earn, no matter how subtle they think they are being asking I'm out.

If they want you to talk on another platform because "I'm not on here much", they are just looking to boost social media followers.

If they ask too many questions about my divorce, it's like I feel they are trying to work out how the divorce must have been your fault or that you're lying. That level of mistrust isn't going to get any better if you end up in a relationship with them, so blocked.

If she's unemployed.

If she's only responsive to messaging 9-5 Mon-Fri, means you're just there to entertain her when she's bored at work.

All good reasons...

 

[Mistake]

Single moms, too political, potheads, bbw/curvy/plus sized (fat). That’s about it. Doesn’t help they let a bunch of freaks call themselves women which you also need to swipe through. Not worth the trouble, so I quit

 

[FCKAFD]

Basically everything that is a hint for borderline or narcisstic women. I learned my lesson the hard way try avoid these disordered people yes you can have the moments that you wont forget and learn a lot about yourself but in the end its not worth the drama and and losing faith in humanity which will happen eventually be it after a month or after a year

here is what you have to look for: Different appearence on every picture (different or unnatural hair colors, gotten fatter over time which is a hint of psycho medication or eating disorder), drugs, very active on social media, photo filters, getting sexual very quickly / kissing on the first date, unsure in sexual identity, tattoos / piercings, oversharing private information on the first chat, talking bad about previous partners like its all their fault (guess whos next), hints at love at the first sight or soul partnership, overly sexual clothing / pictures, feminist, weird fetishes, probably pseudo left wing / slut culture / social justice ideology, self harm / cutting, meeting on the first day (hint for impulsivity), constantly using words like always or never, everything, nothing, talking about symbiosis, weird stare / black eyes, crying, making a mountain out of a molehill drama because of nothing etc. When it comes to the first date when you have the feeling of knowing this person for weeks dont tell them where you live dont meet with them ever gain its too good to be true. Dont fall for the love bombing and acting innocent and helpless. With this knowledge you can dodge a bullet.

 

[belmarduk]

Not that bad. Living in a rural area, I found more guys I like in a small town. In a big city you have the LGBTBBQ types which I can't stand. I'd rather have the redneck closet cases. I do have sex with guys that aren't my type, but I don't see dating potential in those.

Why would you rather have closet cases? I'd rather go out and do things in public with my partner.

 

[Whitecrow]

Condition to nope out a girl:
-Be a girl

I stay safe this way.

 

[p_xavier]

Why would you rather have closet cases? I'd rather go out and do things in public with my partner.

Why would I want that? I don't care about "public" stuff.

 

[thefool]

Unattractive, fat or "university of life". Everything else goes.

 

[PumpkinPie]

Those ridiculous Groucho Marx eyebrows, or huge lips.

 

[InfiniteCombo]

Those ridiculous Groucho Marx eyebrows, or huge lips.

Wait... This is a REAL picture? Of a real person?

 

[JCK75]

I remember using Match like 20 years ago and it was awesome, rich with interesting people..
now that I'm 47 it's a depressing hellscape.

What I hate is "Spiritual but not religious"
Like be Athiest, be Agnostic, be Religious.. but fuck that spirtual shit.

 

[haxan7]

Trump supporters
Climate denialists
Crypto bros
Republicans
Religious
Capitalist pigs
Cishets
Elon Musk fans
Ever watched Fox News non ironically
Hasn’t read White Fragility
Monogamous
Isn’t outraged by the concept of marriage

 

[p_xavier]

Trump supporters
Climate denialists
Crypto bros
Republicans
Religious
Capitalist pigs
Cishets

Wrong forum.

 

[Go_Ly_Dow]

-Pronouns
-Aethist
-Under 27
-Overweight / Obese
-Potheads
-Boozers / Party animals
-Too much makeup
-Overly naracassitic photos / info

 

[haxan7]

Wrong forum.

I wasn’t even done yet

 

[AJUMP23]

I have never used a dating app.

 

[InfiniteCombo]

I have never used a dating app.

Consider yourself lucky. It's a cesspool.

But it's also the most reliable way to meet women in the year of our Lord 2022

 

[DeepEnigma]

Trump supporters
Climate denialists
Crypto bros
Republicans
Religious
Capitalist pigs
Cishets
Elon Musk fans
Ever watched Fox News non ironically
Hasn’t read White Fragility
Monogamous
Isn’t outraged by the concept of marriage

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[KyoZz]

A girl who has her insta on her description. It's automatically nope.

 

[Artoris]

Not that bad. Living in a rural area, I found more guys I like in a small town. In a big city you have the LGBTBBQ types which I can't stand. I'd rather have the redneck closet cases. I do have sex with guys that aren't my type, but I don't see dating potential in those.

redneck closet case

 

[Mistake]

Capitalist pigs

I never understood this, are you looking for a broke ass on welfare?

Cishets

This is an English forum

 

[belmarduk]

Why would I want that? I don't care about "public" stuff.

Its pretty normal to want to do things in public with your partner.

 

[nush]

Trump supporters

I dunno, I could make an exception,

 

[InfiniteCombo]

I dunno, I could make an exception,

Yeahhhhhh.... Is that the obnoxious pro-gun chick? She's kind of hot.

(I don't think her being pro-gun is the obnoxious part, I'm just saying she comes across as obnoxious about it.)

 

[InfiniteCombo]

I dunno, I could make an exception,

Yup. A quick Google-Fu told me this is Kaitlin Bennett, who seems like a right-wing nut job. But, well...

... Yeah, she'd get it

 

[chromhound]

A girl who has her insta on her description. It's automatically nope.

she'll let you clap if you have 5k + followers

 

[Ash Sparrow]

LOL matched up with my two of my sisters best friends.