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Does anybody have much experience with these? If so, do you have any specific site recommendations or tips?

...yes, it's been a while since my last relationship and am feeling a few tings of desperation :)
 
lavalife.com for pay.

plentyoffish.com for free.

okcupid.com isn't exactly a traditional "dating" site. It has quizzes and personality tests and junk. So it's like a dating site and a time waster combined in one.

match.com, though I've never checked it out.
 
Never tried them myself, but you hear a LOT of people online saying that when your membership is about to run out a shill will contact you to keep you on. Basically make sure you aren't being taken for a ride by the site owners.

Plus general Internet bullshit: If they look to good to be true they probably are, don't go out without telling someone, always look both ways before crossing the road, etc. etc.
 
Lost Fragment said:
Does anybody have much experience with these? If so, do you have any specific site recommendations or tips?

...yes, it's been a while since my last relationship and am feeling a few tings of desperation :)
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Match.com to me is probably the most accessible with the most people where you can pretty easily contact a lot of girls and get a lot of dates. I know quite a few people who have done very well for themselves off there.
 
Lost Fragment said:
Well I may be seriously considering using a few dating sites, but I still do have standards :lol
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Some of the most attractive (not crazy) girls I know date guys they've met through myspace.
 
Myspace just feels a little off for some reason. Might have to do with the lack of control.
I've had success with yahoo personals, match.com and eharmony (not paying for eharmony though, and did eventually get banned for "hinting" at a way to contact me) and out of the lot I've only met one "crazy" girl who was über religious and that don't mix well with me.
The nice thing is with these sites I've met women that to meet otherwise would be up to pure chance, and I like stacking the odds in my favor.
 
Never used one myself, but browsing through MySpace is kind of fun. A buddy of mine had some success with Lavalife too.

No shame in internet dating IMO. It's like meeting someone at a bar, except you already know a bunch of stuff about them. No worse than a blind date or speed dating. If you don't have that much time to meet people then I think dating sites are fairly practical.
 
Reznor said:
Internet dating is a disaster waiting to happen.
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This is false. I am not going to say it can be good and it can be bad. Thing is however, if the two individuals are very open, honest, trustworthy, and above all realistic about future expectations, it can work.

I'll say this, but dating via the internet is no different that meeting a gal or guy around you've met around the block. No matter how you look at it, you're still meeting a stranger, but like I said however, you have to be open, honest, trustworthy and realistic about the potential relationship.

Now you if want to know why most internet relationship fail, its mainly because the individual(s) weren't truthful about themeselves or simpily there wasn't any realistic expectations. Make those expectations a reality and things can really work :)
 
Hmm, I've used a number in the past and have gone on lots of dates and even got some girlfriends from them.

Myspace - Met my last g/f off there, just added her as a friend, she commented me, so we exchanged comments back and forth, then emails, then we talked on AIM, met up one day and it went from there. Overall most of the girls on there seem kind of airheaded though, its truly the cesspool of the internet :P It's free though.

eHarmony - It's expensive and honestly I didn't really care much at all for any of the girls I met through it. They were all very dull and we hardly had anything in common... maybe I just fucked up in the long survey you have to take, or maybe I'm just a boring person myself ;)

Match - Pretty much the most basic matching site... I've met a number of girls off here, no relationships yet... The only problem is there are so many people and its hard to tell who has an account, who doesn't... like maybe 1 in 10 people will respond to your emails, that's not your fault, its just because most people will sign up, and forget they have an account. This might be a good choice... Seriously though, after the girl from Myspace broke up with me, I made an account, went on a "winking" spree (you can "wink" at girls to let them know you're interested, w/o emailing them... but most girls don't like this, because its lazy, and would prefer a thoughtful email) and within 3 days I already had a number of dates lined up. Had to actually make a database on my computer of all the girls, like their hometowns, their interests, and stuff, just so I wouldn't get all mixed up :lol

OKCupid - Its free and there's not too many people on here... but I've had more luck with girls who contact me first, than any other site. Actually the girl I'm interested in now emailed me from there because she liked my profile (we hung out quite a number of times, and I want to make a move before I go off to E3). Another one of my friends met a girl he really likes off there, and one of my ex's (who I'm still good friends with) met her current b/f off there.
 
I like MySpace becuase you can do a search for the top 20 sluts in within a 50 mile radius of where you live.
 
I have a friend who says he got laid so much on match.com, that he actually had to quit doing it :lol He also met his current fiance on there.
 
Cubsfan23 said:
I have a friend who says he got laid so much on match.com, that he actually had to quit doing it :lol He also met his current fiance on there.
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I just signed up there a couple weeks ago. Tips, please.
 
zesty said:
I just signed up there a couple weeks ago. Tips, please.
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As I mentioned in other thread about this last week, read the profiles of the women you are interested in carefully. Look for things that catch your eye, and then write them a personal e-mail that mentions things from their profile. Don't write a couple of messages and then just cut and paste them in. Actually take the time to write something to each woman on a personal level. It goes a long way.

Also, use spell check and proof read before you send it. There are tons of guys on these sites who can't spell or put together a co-herent sentence. It may not seem much to you and me, but to women, it makes a big deal. Plus, You'll stand out more from the crowd. :)
 
zesty said:
I just signed up there a couple weeks ago. Tips, please.
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He told me all he did was tell them to come over and he'll cook them dinner. Didn't seem like he got much resistance.

Predictably, his fiance was the only one that met him in a public place.
 
One of my co-workers is having a blast with Mate1.
Apparently this dating website is PACKED with women, as opposed to Myspace, Match.com Adultfriendfinder.com and eHarmony. He's tried them all and says he's been outrageously successful with this one.

He's been on it for about 6 weeks and has a girl that he sees often and several dates and casuals...
 
hi_im_j said:
One of my co-workers is having a blast with Mate1.
Apparently this dating website is PACKED with women, as opposed to Myspace, Match.com Adultfriendfinder.com and eHarmony. He's tried them all and says he's been outrageously successful with this one.

He's been on it for about 6 weeks and has a girl that he sees often and several dates and casuals...
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"Free for women"? What the fuck bullshit is that?
 
demon said:
"Free for women"? What the fuck bullshit is that?
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That bullshit is called discrimination. Sue 'em.

EDIT: It seems I can't get past stage 3 of the registration process, oh well, screw you, you damn fascist dating whore filled website. *sulks*
 
okcupid got me laid. but then she ended up being batshit crazy.

i've got a profile up on a few free sites, but i'm not actively looking. if someone wants to approach me, then that's cool.

i will say about the local cupid.com though, the few people who've sent me eye-contact... YIKES. scary scary shit there...
 
demon said:
"Free for women"? What the fuck bullshit is that?
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I guess that explains why it is packed with women... :p

At least when NeoGAF decides to open a dating website, they'll know what to do to get lots o' ladies. :lol
 
Keep in mind that anyone you find on a dating site is probably just as desperate/creepy/lame/awkward as you, and they're probably hiding just as many things about themselves as you are about yourself. As long as you're prepared to deal with that, you should be fine.
 
Liu Kang Baking A Pie said:
Keep in mind that anyone you find on a dating site is probably just as desperate/creepy/lame/awkward as you, and they're probably hiding just as many things about themselves as you are about yourself. As long as you're prepared to deal with that, you should be fine.
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Ignorance is bliss, isn't it? :D
 
Cubsfan23 said:
He told me all he did was tell them to come over and he'll cook them dinner. Didn't seem like he got much resistance.

Predictably, his fiance was the only one that met him in a public place.
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Women would say ok to going over to a strange man's house without ever meeting them?
 
I got talking to this girl from match.com, and she added me to her google talk contacts... I told her I didn't have a microphone and that I'd get one tomorrow, but that's completely untrue (about not owning one). I just wouldn't know what to say to her because there's no precedent for this kind of thing for me before...
 
Boogie said:
Damn right I would be.
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I've found that chatting online breaks down walls for women and tends to cut out games. You then take those same conversations to the phone and before you know it, they want to meet face to face. Sex is always mentioned beforehand so when they finally do meet up, it usually turns out to be a lot of fun.....
 
Kung Fu Jedi said:
As I mentioned in other thread about this last week, read the profiles of the women you are interested in carefully. Look for things that catch your eye, and then write them a personal e-mail that mentions things from their profile. Don't write a couple of messages and then just cut and paste them in. Actually take the time to write something to each woman on a personal level. It goes a long way.

Also, use spell check and proof read before you send it. There are tons of guys on these sites who can't spell or put together a co-herent sentence. It may not seem much to you and me, but to women, it makes a big deal. Plus, You'll stand out more from the crowd. :)
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That's like... more effort than writing a CV! I need a quick fix, I moved up to Glasgow a few months ago, need to meet women.
 
Ok, I've never ever done this before, but since some of the posters here that I respect as cool people like Djtiesto & RevenantKioku seem to have had some luck, I will try online dating for the first time in my life.

Last date I had was ummm, 7 years ago? I dunno, had a 1-2 year gf relationship when I finished HS and started College that ****ed me up and scared me off women for life, but I think it's really time that I give it another shot again.

I just put a profile up at OkCupid and browsed through local people in the area and sent a message to one...

I might try putting up a profile elsewhere.

Can I get some tips from you guys on what I should be doing at this point? I haven't even spoken to a woman in like 1 1/2 years since I got owned in Japan when I went back to a girl's room that I liked after a big meeting in Japan along with her friends and then when we were getting along well her friends upon leaving the room turned to her and said "make sure HE LEAVES YOUR ROOM tonight", which was ****ed up and sorta killed any moment.

I'm not overweight (though I am short 5"4) and not missing any legs/arms, so it's not really a physical issue. It's more that I either hang out with my ALL MALE FRIENDS and go to movies/play games, or I hang around home when not at work and play games/watch/read stuff. So since I never go out anywhere, I never have a chance at meeting anyone female...ever. I had some chances when I was in Japan, but they were all my students and everyone else in the town was 80 :( Sucks to be in the little village with 4k population where everyone moves out for High School :(

Wish me luck fellow Gaf brothers & sisters!
 
Boogie said:
lavalife.com for pay.

plentyoffish.com for free.

okcupid.com isn't exactly a traditional "dating" site. It has quizzes and personality tests and junk. So it's like a dating site and a time waster combined in one.

match.com, though I've never checked it out.
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How did it go for you?
 
Bebpo said:
I got owned in Japan when I went back to a girl's room that I liked after a big meeting in Japan along with her friends and then when we were getting along well her friends upon leaving the room turned to her and said "make sure HE LEAVES YOUR ROOM tonight", which was ****ed up and sorta killed any moment.
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:lol That so wrong

Good Luck tho!!
 
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