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Geek said:Okay, kids, since GAF is mostly male I wasn't really going to talk about Consumating, since its already leaning heavily toward sausage party*, but here goes.
*Of 20453 users, only 6954 are ladies.
Consumating is really for nerds. Clever nerds and outgoing nerds are more successful, because it's a thinly disguised popularity contest. But it's not all about looks. The site promotes conversation, good tagging of yourself and others, local meetings and, in general, good online social behavior.
And you'll fit right in!
There are 1657 people tagged videogames.
There are 741 people tagged anime.
There are 175 people tagged manga.
There are 100 people tagged rpgs.
But sadly...
Oh no! Consumating can't find anyone tagged shortguys! Sorry, Bebpo!
You should at least check it out. It's free, non-creepy, non-spammy and has a good, constantly updating interface. But, keep in mind the odds are against you. It's competitive to some degree, but also somewhat addicting.
Be nice, be clever and maybe you'll get laid.
I signed up on Consumating cause they said it would be for nerdy/geeky types. The girls (what few there were) still felt a bit out of my league or just had too dissimilar interests.
I did get one girls screen name, but I never messaged her. I kinda felt bad about that.
Is it bad or good to just skip all the messaging, screen names, e-mails and on your first e-mail/msg to a person be "hey, what's up? I'm blah blah blah and you seem cool. Wanna meet up for coffee or something?"
Not really in the mood to sift through days or weeks of e-mailing formalities honestly. Just wanna give someone a shot and see how it goes.
Not really in the mood to sift through days or weeks of e-mailing formalities honestly. Just wanna give someone a shot and see how it goes.
Cornballer
Member
Yes. You can browse and wink if you haven't paid, but you can't email anyone unless you're a subscriber.demon said:
demon said:
I got a message on myspace from a girl, saying
"hi im new to toronto trying ti make some friends here who might can show me around if not still cool i love making new friends
ttyl "
To which I replied
"Well I'd gladly take you up on that offer, but I'm not back in Toronto until September. What are you in Toronto for? "
her answer: "VACATION BY MYSELF"
also got a couple "hi your profile seems cool, if you want to chat, here's my msn"
sooo, yeah, make of that what you will.
ForzaItalia
Banned
Lost Fragment said:Does anybody have much experience with these? If so, do you have any specific site recommendations or tips?
...yes, it's been a while since my last relationship and am feeling a few tings of desperation
Best places if you're looking to get laid....
EDIT: Boogie, send that Toronto girl my way. I'll show her some amazing sites.... :lol
MrToughPants
Brian Burke punched my mom
ForzaItalia said:
Underage girls and elderly women don't count.
I knew this had to be a bump when I saw Olimario's account on the first page of posts. Anyway, I sorta tried some dating sites and I've got a myspace (but that's more so I have an easy way to build up a network/fan contact if I ever hit it big with my career), but quite frankly it's worthless finding someone in my area online. If you're in a small town, don't bother... if you're in any place with at least 250k people in it, then I think online dating could work. But really, online dating sites aren't going to cover up for insecurities you may feel interacting with women. You just have to try a few times and learn from your failures (something I personally should do more of, too, so don't take this as some kind of lesson from the typical dick-waving guy with an inferiority complex). If you're fine around women and you're in a big enough area where you can find some girls online, give it a shot. Just beware that a lot of the time you'll get a scam, possibly even from someone who works for the site using a profile just to keep you interested.
Geek said:
I said to hell with it and created a Consumating account last night. I dunno if I'll meet anyone due to it, but the cool points sytem is amusing and I'm having fun posting in conversations, answering the goofy questions, and throwing tags around. All this and I've already been pegged as a member of GAF. Whee!
FnordChan
Mr. TV Goggles
Banned
My problem is that girls my type don't usually use these kind of websites. Or at least, that's what I think...
Ok, so I gave this stuff a shot for a week and here's my overall impression of the online stuff:
Match.com - they wanted me to pay money and none of the users near me seemed interesting so I said "NO THANK YOU. I LIKE FREE" and was finished with that site.
Okcupid - Had a fun time over the last week finding people near me and sending messages that were generally "hi, hello, blah blah blah, you free this weekend?" To which out of dozen or so people I got only a single reply back and that individual was busy. So yeah, I think the system is not for me. In fact, I think you end up worse off then before, because until you use the online sites you're like "no one shares interests with me! Hell, 99% of the people out there have never even heard of any of the bands I listen to or movies I watch". But then going online it's like "Woah! These people do exist WTF WTF"...but then they don't reply so now you know there are cool people out there who are into the same stuff as you but they don't like you
So yeah, I think I'll stick to trying to meet people in real life or at least wait until I'm at law school next fall and try to meet people there. Something about my profile or the way I talk in messages seems to scare off 99% of the women out there (maybe 100% and the other 1% are just nice). Oh well ^^;
PS. And yes I went to Myspace but then I was like "AHHHHHH WTF IS THIS AHHHHHHHHHHHHH" and then I closed the window and swore never to go back.
Match.com - they wanted me to pay money and none of the users near me seemed interesting so I said "NO THANK YOU. I LIKE FREE" and was finished with that site.
Okcupid - Had a fun time over the last week finding people near me and sending messages that were generally "hi, hello, blah blah blah, you free this weekend?" To which out of dozen or so people I got only a single reply back and that individual was busy. So yeah, I think the system is not for me. In fact, I think you end up worse off then before, because until you use the online sites you're like "no one shares interests with me! Hell, 99% of the people out there have never even heard of any of the bands I listen to or movies I watch". But then going online it's like "Woah! These people do exist WTF WTF"...but then they don't reply so now you know there are cool people out there who are into the same stuff as you but they don't like you
So yeah, I think I'll stick to trying to meet people in real life or at least wait until I'm at law school next fall and try to meet people there. Something about my profile or the way I talk in messages seems to scare off 99% of the women out there (maybe 100% and the other 1% are just nice). Oh well ^^;
PS. And yes I went to Myspace but then I was like "AHHHHHH WTF IS THIS AHHHHHHHHHHHHH" and then I closed the window and swore never to go back.
ForzaItalia
Banned
Mr. TV Goggles said:
Every type of girl uses these site...from God fearing virgins to cock loving sluts.....
I've tried out quite a few, but I never can find the kind of guys I like on them, I just get messages from a bunch of weirdoes sending me wacko requests and pictures of thier wang. I don't get out much (i have social anxiety) so its becoming infurating, but on the bright side some of the messages are good for a laugh I suppose. :\
I've tried online dating for a bit. Mostly out of boredome and hey, its easy.
Honestly, I tried the whole 'sending personal funny emails' vs generic 'yo lets do something,' and I found there to not be any difference in success at all. 99% of the time I've been ignored.
Of the, I don't even know, 100? people I've messaged, perhaps 10 responded, 7 of those being 'no thanks,' one being 'ok lets do something' (one date, that went nowhere), one being 'lets talk on aim' (which has since gone nowhere) and one 'you're delusional.'
Honestly, one of the longest conversations I've held with a gril was from myspace when I rather arbitrarily messaged her out of the blue with 'your profile sucks.'
Based on my on and off results for a year, I deem the entire online dating process to be completely random.
edit: oh yeah, and while I'm humiliating myself, I forgot this part. I had one spree where I started messaging fat girls. Very fat. Ugly ****ers. You know, just to actually get a response. I got ignored by them too.
Honestly, I tried the whole 'sending personal funny emails' vs generic 'yo lets do something,' and I found there to not be any difference in success at all. 99% of the time I've been ignored.
Of the, I don't even know, 100? people I've messaged, perhaps 10 responded, 7 of those being 'no thanks,' one being 'ok lets do something' (one date, that went nowhere), one being 'lets talk on aim' (which has since gone nowhere) and one 'you're delusional.'
Honestly, one of the longest conversations I've held with a gril was from myspace when I rather arbitrarily messaged her out of the blue with 'your profile sucks.'
Based on my on and off results for a year, I deem the entire online dating process to be completely random.
edit: oh yeah, and while I'm humiliating myself, I forgot this part. I had one spree where I started messaging fat girls. Very fat. Ugly ****ers. You know, just to actually get a response. I got ignored by them too.
Tchu-Espresso
likes mayo on everthing and can't dance
What do you look like?Bebpo said:
Dynamite Shikoku
Congratulations, you really deserve it!
Yeah, you didn't mention rpgs did you?
ok, here's me, laugh away:
okcupid.com/profile?u=slayn777
note that I despise the very concept of lying about myself or pretending to be someone I'm not. I consider it to be one of th emost disgusting things someone can do. Besides, there's no point in trying to outright hide my geeky hobbies, and I'd rather the person run away now than later.
okcupid.com/profile?u=slayn777
note that I despise the very concept of lying about myself or pretending to be someone I'm not. I consider it to be one of th emost disgusting things someone can do. Besides, there's no point in trying to outright hide my geeky hobbies, and I'd rather the person run away now than later.
Dynamite Shikoku
Congratulations, you really deserve it!
Looking for: Sex partners hehe
I don't really ask girls to hang out until we have shared a few emails or AIM chats back and forth to each other... maybe some girls are intimidated by you doing that. I say, don't give up... online dating is weird for me, I'll have like a few week stretches where I won't get any responses, and then get like 4 different girls IMing me within a weekend. Just don't give up.
slayn I think your main problem is the geek/nerd factor of your profile. And yes I know you don't want to lie or hide things.
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I have a lot of the usual geeky hobbies like video games, anime, and computers and in college even went so far as to develop my own award winning game."
"Books - Song of Ice and Fire by Geroge Martin. Malazan Book of the Fallen by Steven Erickson. "
All big no no's. Don't lie but don't make your focus on things that are geeky/nerdy. It scares away the average person.
If you want to find someone you have to realize gaming/anime as a focus in a profile will not be seen as something to make someone want to contact you.
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I have a lot of the usual geeky hobbies like video games, anime, and computers and in college even went so far as to develop my own award winning game."
"Books - Song of Ice and Fire by Geroge Martin. Malazan Book of the Fallen by Steven Erickson. "
All big no no's. Don't lie but don't make your focus on things that are geeky/nerdy. It scares away the average person.
If you want to find someone you have to realize gaming/anime as a focus in a profile will not be seen as something to make someone want to contact you.
well, i just got owned by that 1600 free 360 live points offer... forgot to cancel during the 7-day trial period for True.com. i just remembered this morning and it had to be cancelleed yesterday
gave them a call... lady wouldn't help me out and am now stuck with a $49.95 charge, but she also gave me an extra free month... so 2 months of true.com... might as well make a profile
what are your experiences with true.com?
gave them a call... lady wouldn't help me out and am now stuck with a $49.95 charge, but she also gave me an extra free month... so 2 months of true.com... might as well make a profile
what are your experiences with true.com?
I changed my profile around some based on the comments of this thread. Improved? Crappier?
edit: as for books... I really don't see how that qualifies as a bad idea. I mean, if you weren't into those kinds of books, you wouldn't have even heard of them. By that I mean, if you recognize it enough to know what kind of book it is, you probably have a similar interest in that area...
edit: as for books... I really don't see how that qualifies as a bad idea. I mean, if you weren't into those kinds of books, you wouldn't have even heard of them. By that I mean, if you recognize it enough to know what kind of book it is, you probably have a similar interest in that area...
Tchu-Espresso
likes mayo on everthing and can't dance
Well those girls arent playing hard to get because you're ridiculously good looking.Bebpo said:
CrushDance
Banned
Dude wtf, Match.com is HORRIBLE! omg, maybe I don't know how to use it? But damn. UGLAY!
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