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PhoenixDark said:
How did it go for you?
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How the hell do you think it's gone? :P

Most women won't even give you a reply. Even AFTER they give you a "smile" on lava (a sort of free indicator of interest) and you shell out the credits to message them.

And even past that, a lot won't put any effort into the conversation. So you're left with a rather small percentage willing to meet. That's why the free sites would be better, except that, for example, plentyoffish.com is filled with immature, vacuous, myspace cam whores and any remotely attractive women have to sift through a dozen messages a day. Hard to stand out.

I've messaged one girl who turned out to be a she-male.

I've met about 8-10 women off of these sites. 3-4 of which turned out to be fatties, the rest of whom just didn't click. Apart from the one girl who was the closest thing I've come to a girlfriend (for those who remember that saga). Other than that, never gotten past a second date with anyone from a dating site.

I have currently (within the past two weeks), gone out with two girls from lava. But I'm not really placing much hope on either of them developing a significant interest in me.
 
Boogie said:
How the hell do you think it's gone? :P

Most women won't even give you a reply. Even AFTER they give you a "smile" on lava (a sort of free indicator of interest) and you shell out the credits to message them.

And even past that, a lot won't put any effort into the conversation. So you're left with a rather small percentage willing to meet. That's why the free sites would be better, except that, for example, plentyoffish.com is filled with immature, vacuous, myspace cam whores and any remotely attractive women has to sift through a dozen messages a day. Hard to stand out.

I've messaged one girl who turned out to be a she-male.

I've met about 8-102 women off of these sites. 3-4 of which turned out to be fatties, the rest of whom just didn't click. Apart from the one girl who was the closest thing I've come to a girlfriend (for those who remember that saga). Other than that, never gotten past a second date with anyone from a dating site.

I have currently (within the past two weeks), gone out with two girls from lava. But I'm not really placing much hope on either of them developing a significant interest in me.
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Pre or post op?
 
Who thinks GAF should make a fake woman profile and toy with poor, unsuspecting nerds?

Like that fake MySpace profile only better.
 
So I guess a real good question would be:

Since I read gaf, play videogames, watch anime, read manga, listen to Japanese/US music...should I leave that stuff out of my profile? I mean there's the whole "you should be truthful" thing, but then there's the whole "wow, he's a dork" thing, which I think would put off a lot of women from even giving a 2nd thought.

Should I just put other interests and then reveal that later on if things progress or should I put it outfront from the start?

On 2nd thought I probably should not ever mention GAF. :P
 
Bebpo said:
So I guess a real good question would be:

Since I read gaf, play videogames, watch anime, read manga, listen to Japanese/US music...should I leave that stuff out of my profile? I mean there's the whole "you should be truthful" thing, but then there's the whole "wow, he's a dork" thing, which I think would put off a lot of women from even giving a 2nd thought.
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Imagination and creativity are perhaps a person's most important traits. So show her your true creative abilities.....and lie your ass off.
 
Bebpo said:
So I guess a real good question would be:

Since I read gaf, play videogames, watch anime, read manga, listen to Japanese/US music...should I leave that stuff out of my profile? I mean there's the whole "you should be truthful" thing, but then there's the whole "wow, he's a dork" thing, which I think would put off a lot of women from even giving a 2nd thought.

Should I just put other interests and then reveal that later on if things progress or should I put it outfront from the start?

On 2nd thought I probably should not ever mention GAF. :P
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Yes and yes and yes
 
Bebpo said:
So I guess a real good question would be:

Since I read gaf, play videogames, watch anime, read manga, listen to Japanese/US music...should I leave that stuff out of my profile? I mean there's the whole "you should be truthful" thing, but then there's the whole "wow, he's a dork" thing, which I think would put off a lot of women from even giving a 2nd thought.

Should I just put other interests and then reveal that later on if things progress or should I put it outfront from the start?

On 2nd thought I probably should not ever mention GAF. :P
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Why would you specifically mention GAF? Like she's even going to know what it is?
 
Wow, 5-month bump. What brought this thread back to life?

That said, the girls on Yahoo are typically eager to meet. But anywhere you go, beware of fat girls. No pictures or face-only pictures means they're on an all-Oreos diet.
 
Cheesemeister said:
Wow, 5-month bump. What brought this thread back to life?

That said, the girls on Yahoo are typically eager to meet. But anywhere you go, beware of fat girls. No pictures or face-only pictures means they're on an all-Oreos diet.
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Although a good rule of thumb, this is not necessarily always the case.

The first girl I met from lava had no picture on her profile, and she turned out to be gorgeous.
 
Boogie said:
Although a good rule of thumb, this is not necessarily always the case.

The first girl I met from lava had no picture on her profile, and she turned out to be gorgeous.
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How did it go after you met her?
 
PhoenixDark said:
Well you're making progress at least.


Pics..?
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That's not progress. That was nearly 2 years ago and the first girl I had met from online. Since then has been the exact opposite of progress :P
 
I signed up for plentyoffish, but I never messaged anyone in my area. They're either obvious McFattersons, Myspace rejects, or girls who look interesting but whose "what I'm looking for" sections kinda scare me off. I've gotten two messages from a couple "girls", but they're not exactly the kinda girls I'd wanna harpoon, if ya know what I mean.
 
The only experience I've had is with OkCupid, and I had sex with the girl the first night and never really saw her again. She was fatter than her pictures, too.
 
Boogie said:
She was the "closest thing I've come to a girlfriend " one.
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How far did you get with her?

Johan van Benderschlotten said:
The only experience I've had is with OkCupid, and I had sex with the girl the first night and never really saw her again. She was fatter than her pictures, too.
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:lol
 
demon said:
but they're not exactly the kinda girls I'd wanna harpoon, if ya know what I mean.
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Smile you son of a bitch!

for some reason I thought he shot him with a harpoon gun. it turns out it was a rifle, but after all the effort I spent finding that picture, I figured I might as well post it.
 
Here are the odds you're up against when dating online... Not a random sample, but perhaps representative of your metropolitan area.

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Yeah, I was bored.
 
i met my current bf of 5 months on gaydar. which isn't much use to you.

it's kinda embarrassing :p 'WE MET ONLINE!'
 
Bebpo said:
So I guess a real good question would be:

Since I read gaf, play videogames, watch anime, read manga, listen to Japanese/US music...should I leave that stuff out of my profile? I mean there's the whole "you should be truthful" thing, but then there's the whole "wow, he's a dork" thing, which I think would put off a lot of women from even giving a 2nd thought.

Should I just put other interests and then reveal that later on if things progress or should I put it outfront from the start?

On 2nd thought I probably should not ever mention GAF. :P
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Hey, thanks for thinking I'm one of the cool posters! Well here is some advice for you...

You said that you haven't really had much experience talking to women, for the past few years when you were in Japan. Well, I think you should probably just go out on dates with a few women, expect nothing from it, just to 'gain experience' ;) It's good to practice your social graces, talk to them, and get comfortable being around them. I was shy and awkward as hell for a good portion of my life around the opposite sex, now I am a lot more laid back and less nervous around women, since I went on lots of dates via the dating sites. I even suggest you go on dates with girls you might not be physically attracted to, or mentally attracted to, at first... just to get practice dealing with the various types of personalities out there. And who knows, you may eventually grow to like that person...

I'd suggest you downplay the whole RPGs, Japanese music, anime angle for now... you can mention it in brief but don't make it the focus of the profile. Make sure to mention outdoor/physical activities you like and make that more of a priority... a lot of girls seem to be really into that. There *ARE* girls out there who share your interests (one of my ex girlfriends used to buy and beat all the big RPGs before I did, and another one of my exs gave me some FF5 doujinshi as a graduation present because she knew I loved that game), and some of them are actually average to decent looking.

Of course, don't feel obliged to take my advice... Since I am still single =] I get dates quite frequently... like I'll go out with a new girl every other weekend it seems... but am still searching for the right one, even though there has been a number that really liked me.

Best of luck, keep us updated with how it goes!
 
Cheesemeister said:
Here are the odds you're up against when dating online... Not a random sample, but perhaps representative of your metropolitan area.

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Yeah, I was bored.
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Hell yeah, Orlando is in pretty bad shape, man. We're victims of location.
 
match and yahoo are good if you can score a free 3/7 day pass.

match is like shooting fish in a barrel. make a good profile and let the profits come to you.
 
Reznor said:
Hell yeah, Orlando is in pretty bad shape, man. We're victims of location.
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Ha, guess I got lucky since I met a girl in Orlando on Yahoo personals and ended in a serious relationship for 2 years with her.

Oh and I agree with downplaying the GAF and anime stuff in your profile. I re-wrote a profile to be a bit less geeky and got many more responses. Not saying to lie just to put other info in there about yourself.

On another note I prefer match and just recently started dating a girl that I met on there
 
I was considering trying one of these sites just for the fun factor, and to see just how serious these girls are in following through, but then i thought about the slim possiblity that someone would recognise me and that embarrasment was too much :lol
 
Myspace works for me in 2 ways.

1) You can shotgun approach hundreds within a few hours and meet someone new off of it, as long as you move quickly to the telephone. I've only met "whores" using this method though, YMMV.

2) You meet someone out somewhere but you feel like you're rushing things so instead of asking for a phone #, you get their myspace first and move from there. Girls have a much easier time giving that out. This is a smooth initial contact that you can move to dating if you like the girl. Good way to get responses from normal-er girls.


My friend has done Match.com with great success. There are very few guys on there with any game at all, so it's perfect if you have even a little bit. He's dated a lot of very nice looking girls from there.
 
The Black Brad Pitt said:
I was considering trying one of these sites just for the fun factor, and to see just how serious these girls are in following through, but then i thought about the slim possiblity that someone would recognise me and that embarrasment was too much :lol
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I actually recognized a few girls that I went to college with on match.com. I was surprised to see that a few of them were having trouble "finding the right guy".

That is one of the nice benefits of picking up girls on myspace.com. You don't look like a complete loser if you have a myspace account, as you might on match.com or eHarmony.com :lol

I had to do a psych report on online dating sites a few years back. I can't remember what type of conclusions I made, but I seem to remember a lot of the women claiming they were "free birds" or "free souls" or something.
 
MaverickX9 said:
I actually recognized a few girls that I went to college with on match.com. I was surprised to see that a few of them were having trouble "finding the right guy".

That is one of the nice benefits of picking up girls on myspace.com. You don't look like a complete loser if you have a myspace account, as you might on match.com or eHarmony.com :lol

I had to do a psych report on online dating sites a few years back. I can't remember what type of conclusions I made, but I seem to remember a lot of the women claiming they were "free birds" or "free souls" or something.
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I know a couple of dickheads who have a myspace account with hundreds of girls added. If you look at their friends list it consists of only girls. I think people see through this. Needless to say they are both still virgins.
 
I did match after breaking up with a long term girlfriend and wanting to get out and active and stop feeling sorry for myself. It is definitely interesting.

One girl who I was emailing and talking with on IM a lot started texting me one night saying that her friend just got engaged and they were out celebrating, and she wanted to meet up. I was sick and staying in that weekend, so I told her I couldn't, but I wanted to have dinner with her the next day, to which she said that was cool.

The next day, i called and left her a message, to which she never replied. Then I got home late after being at a friend's. I check my myspace and see that she cancelled our date THROUGH A MYSPACE MESSAGE. The message basically sounded like she most likely had a boyfriend and they basically got back together that night. Though, I was extremely close to getting some "my friend's getting engaged, i'm feeling sorry for myself and alone" sex.


Another girl was really awesome, but we just really didn't have too much in common, and not much to talk about when together. We did go on three dates, however. And one of them (when we both went out drinking) was a lot of fun. And she was really, really hot. I kinda blew that one.
 
Drey1082 said:
I did match after breaking up with a long term girlfriend and wanting to get out and active and stop feeling sorry for myself. It is definitely interesting.

One girl who I was emailing and talking with on IM a lot started texting me one night saying that her friend just got engaged and they were out celebrating, and she wanted to meet up. I was sick and staying in that weekend, so I told her I couldn't, but I wanted to have dinner with her the next day, to which she said that was cool.

The next day, i called and left her a message, to which she never replied. Then I got home late after being at a friend's. I check my myspace and see that she cancelled our date THROUGH A MYSPACE MESSAGE. The message basically sounded like she most likely had a boyfriend and they basically got back together that night. Though, I was extremely close to getting some "my friend's getting engaged, i'm feeling sorry for myself and alone" sex.


Another girl was really awesome, but we just really didn't have too much in common, and not much to talk about when together. We did go on three dates, however. And one of them (when we both went out drinking) was a lot of fun. And she was really, really hot. I kinda blew that one.
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What happened with the last girl? How did you blow it? (besides on her face :lol )

Oh and post pics.
 
FlameOfCallandor said:
Anyone use craigslist for dating? I always laugh at some of the funny posts.
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I use it when I'm bored to laugh at the posts, an occasionally you can find interesting people who are bored at work to talk with (although there's almost never a repeat conversation).

Trying to find someone to date on there is pretty much 0% chance. It's fairly obvious who most of the real women are, and I don't know if it's because I'm in LA or not but even the weird/overweight ones are SUPER PICKY. At least that's the impression I gather from reading the profiles. So many women in need of reality checks.

All the ones that seem relatively normal probably get so bombarded by emails that it's hard to stand out.

Not too mention the number of people hoping to trick desperate males and then repost their pictures and personal details online for laughs. Remember never say/send anything you would be embarassed if hundreds of thousands of strangers saw.
 
Bebpo said:
So I guess a real good question would be:

Since I read gaf, play videogames, watch anime, read manga, listen to Japanese/US music...should I leave that stuff out of my profile? I mean there's the whole "you should be truthful" thing, but then there's the whole "wow, he's a dork" thing, which I think would put off a lot of women from even giving a 2nd thought.

Should I just put other interests and then reveal that later on if things progress or should I put it outfront from the start?

On 2nd thought I probably should not ever mention GAF. :P
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Okay, kids, since GAF is mostly male I wasn't really going to talk about Consumating, since its already leaning heavily toward sausage party*, but here goes.

*Of 20453 users, only 6954 are ladies. :(

Consumating is really for nerds. Clever nerds and outgoing nerds are more successful, because it's a thinly disguised popularity contest. But it's not all about looks. The site promotes conversation, good tagging of yourself and others, local meetings and, in general, good online social behavior.

And you'll fit right in!

There are 1657 people tagged videogames.
There are 741 people tagged anime.
There are 175 people tagged manga.
There are 100 people tagged rpgs.

But sadly...

Oh no! Consumating can't find anyone tagged shortguys! Sorry, Bebpo!

You should at least check it out. It's free, non-creepy, non-spammy and has a good, constantly updating interface. But, keep in mind the odds are against you. It's competitive to some degree, but also somewhat addicting.

Be nice, be clever and maybe you'll get laid.
 
junkster said:
My friend has done Match.com with great success. There are very few guys on there with any game at all, so it's perfect if you have even a little bit. He's dated a lot of very nice looking girls from there.
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QFT.
 
I met up with a couple different girls within a couple weeks of signing up for Match. One of them was an absolute dud. I went out with her twice and never talked to her again after. The other one has been my gf for almost six months now.
 
I met my fiance via Yahoo Personals. Before I met her I had a few days, nothing crazy about any of the women, at least that they displayed on the dates... ;)
 
thatbox said:
I took the free eHarmony quiz once and they said I was hopeless :(
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Congrats, you're now one of us :lol

After a long, nasty breakup with a girl I'd been in a relationship with for over two years, I was feeling sorry for myself so I logged onto eHarmony one weekend and got addicted to online dating for a few months. Here are my findings -

eHarmony - the personality profile/compatibility analyzer is mostly a gimmick for weeding out Christians and atheists. The entire service is geared towards finding a hubby for a fat/ugly/terminally boring Christian woman, so that's almost exclusively what you'll find there.

match - Decent service that caters mostly to people 18-28. Anything older than that, and it's highly doubtful you'll be matched with someone that you'd want to get involved with. Lots of 40 and 50 year old pedobears floating around there too, which makes most of the girls skittish and more than a bit cautious when you first initiate a conversation. Once you break down that barrier, then there are a lot of possibilities. I met two really nice chicks there and am planning to fly out and spend some time with one of them early next year.

myspace - Not really a dating service, per say... but essentially that's what it has evolved into. Again, if you're in high school up to your mid-twenties then it's a great way to meet a hot "normal" girl. Most of the chicks seem more laid-back and easygoing since myspace isn't considered a dating service, and they don't feel as threatened about meeting new people.
 
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