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Dating Tips, Double Your Dating, Cocky and Funny, FHUTA... Are You A Believer?

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GDGF

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So do any of you actually live by the dating tips that Cubsfan and others have introduced to the forum? Have any of you actually improved your 'lovelives' by following these instructions. And what about the detractors? Are there any of you so adamant in your own personal beliefs on what makes a successful approach that you wont even be bothered to try these tips? Do you think they're completely bunk?




Anecdotes or hate, have at it.
 
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GDGF

Soothsayer
I'm reading Double Your Dating right now (but I didn't steal it...I found it!) and it's actually pretty interesting. Alot of the stuff is spot on, actually.
 
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Wellington

BAAAALLLINNN'
It does work for a brief initial attraction or to at least get your foot in the door so to speak. After that, you're on your own.
 
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Boogie

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I do believe that it works, albeit it in a limited way.

And I don't think it can work for me. I just can't put on the "act". Funny I can do, but Cocky just isn't me.

My longtime animosity of the tips is simply because of how cheesy the writing is in them, and how repetitive they are.
 
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JackFrost2012

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I believe in funny and funny! I've read the infamous tips, and its version of "cocky" is basically "insult the girl constantly," which I don't think is cool.
 
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GDGF

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It's not, and it only works on messed up beauty queens with extremely low self esteem IME. A little harmless teasing, though...that's going to be ok.
 
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JackFrost2012

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Lost Weekend said:
It's not, and it only works on messed up beauty queens with extremely low self esteem IME. A little harmless teasing, though...that's going to be ok.
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Yeah, but the tips suggest saying things like "let's go to an open bar, so if you're boring I can ditch you easily." If I tried a line like that on most girls I know, they'd kind of arch their eyebrows and be like, "wtf are you trying to accomplish?" I can imagine the type of girl who might find that sort of unchecked, nearly abusive aggression funny ... and I can imagine they're not my type. At all.

I suggest CHARMING and funny!
 
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GDGF

Soothsayer
I agree to that. The above line wasn't harmless teasing, it was being an asshole (which still works for some) I guess it totally depends on who you're trying to pick up :)
 
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warabi-mochi

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It depends on what kind of girl you're trying to pick up. Being cocky isn't really going to be very successful in picking up girls you'd want to be in serious relationships with. If you're looking for the sort of emotionally troubled girls so many people on GAF have written about having problems with, well, have fun.

The only real way to be successful with dating is to be confident. You don't have to be funny. Girls tend to like listening to men talk. Having a good, natural sense of humor helps, but just being confident in what you're saying works wonders. Even if it isn't funny, a well told story catches their attention just as well.

And don't worry too much about being seen as a little bit shy either. Most girls would rather see men as being a little bit vulnerable than as solid as a mountain. It makes them feel like they're needed.
 
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StrikerObi

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I'm cocky and funny by nature, but nowhere NEAR as much as Cubsfan suggests. I just find it works for me. I've got a girlriend right now so I guess it works well for me. Though I find the real key is to be a sweetheart. Just do nice things, little things. That's what matters. Oh, and try and listen.

This much dating drama, it feels like some sort of teen drama on a major network, sorta like...

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Mike Works

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StrikerObi said:
This much dating drama, it feels like some sort of teen drama on a major network, sorta like...

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I guess my eyebrows make me the dad. eXxy can be my wife, Kinesis and Serafitia can by Ryan and Marissa, and the rest of the entire forum can take turns being Seth.
 
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i heart sluts

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Its not just techniques to get your foot in the door or to get laid. A lot of it is about getting your fears and insecurities handled so you don't turn into a total dumbass when you see an attractive girl or THE girl you want.
 
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Cubsfan23

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Boogie said:
I do believe that it works, albeit it in a limited way.

And I don't think it can work for me. I just can't put on the "act". Funny I can do, but Cocky just isn't me.

My longtime animosity of the tips is simply because of how cheesy the writing is in them, and how repetitive they are.
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The only thing limited is your beliefs
 
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GDGF

Soothsayer
The more I read this ebook (Double Your Dating), the more I tend to side with Cubsfan23. I'm no slacker when it comes to the dating scene, but there are some pointers that help me out with quite a few things I needed work on.
 
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Date of Lies

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It just works.

You guys are making a comparisson with the girls you already know. When I started acting cocky/funny around girls I've known for a while, they called me a jackass and now they *hate* me. I dont have time to waste with that though. If you just meet a girl and give her C+F from the start, she'll know that as the real you.

Being C&F also avoids you looking needy when doing all these "nice" things.

This shit isn't that easy though, I'd say it took me 6 months to 'understand,' with various levels of success.

Thing with me though is that I was cocky and funny with my friends, but not with girls so for me it's just a switch, I no longer see girls as the princesses they make themselves out to be, they are people and I now see/treat them like equals. What's the problem?

I'm just being my normal C+F self, while being bit more laid back.
 
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Dyne

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Yeah, most girl friends you have will definitely notice a change in your attitude. I think it's a rare occurence that they'll fall for you. But they're REALLY good sparring partners if you weren't the "nice guy" to them. I've had to elaborate on C+F for a few girls and add my own techniques to get results.
 
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