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[sono]

I can only say that the pain of this is something that you learn to live with, if that helps.

 

[Trunx81]

Next year marks the 40th anniversary of my mother’s death. I was just a small kid back then, so there are only a few memories of her which I can value. I’m still thinking often about what a person I would have been if she would have stayed around.

Worst trigger for me was that Buffy episode “The body”, when Buffy finds her mother lying dead on the couch .. that was me, nearly 40 years ago.

But I know she’s watching me from above, guiding me and giving me hope. And like someone said before: I will see her again. Take care, folks!

 

[Raven117]

I’m still thinking often about what a person I would have been if she would have stayed around.

I wasn't as young as you, but I have this same thought often.

 

[Raven117]

Thought of this thread

I dreamed my Mom was hugged me last night when I was sleeping, felt real, I could feel her hands grasp mine and smell her naturally sweet scent while she told me she's proud of me and to keep going

She's happy

These are the strangest dreams. You wake up with such a weird feeling of having seen your mother, but the bitter taste of reality crashing down.

My mom was in hospice almost 10 years ago. I'm the last one left in my family

Goodness. You aren't alone. You may feel that way, but you arent.

I'm adopted but I always knew it. 4 years ago in August, my birth mom passed of a heart attack. Amazingly not because of COVID.

A little while later I found out who my bio dad is and then in November, I met him! We have been in contact since then... But then he kept losing his phone or forgetting to charge it or not being able to figure it out ... He had to be put in a nursing home last year and around summer this year, he had to be put in hospice. He was losing too much weight and pretty much bedridden. The last time I talked to him on video call was early last week, I believe. And it was the last I saw him. I told him I loved him and I hope to see him soon.

I got the call Monday afternoon that he passed away. He was too weak.

Funeral is this weekend.

I'm sorry to hear this. At least you got an opportunity to tell him that you loved him. For both of you. Im sure things are very surreal right now. Probably numb. There is some comfort in being a part of the funeral service. Family and friends. Having some responsibilities o take care of with that. Might as well take advantage of the distraction. That said, in a few weeks, when every one leaves and you are back home. Quiet. Things may get tough as you start to sort through the emotions. Come on back here if you need to write something down.

Hey man we're here for each other. I'm going see my Dad in December one last time. His cancer is rough and his dementia is weird, he's crazy one moment but then clearly ask me all the time why I haven't seen him since my mom died, it's extremely bizarre to me to see this happening.

So... Yeah I guess I'm saying our dads end is similar, or will be, if you need to chat my DMS are open

At least you get to see him again. Sounds like there is some complications there, but that makes it all the more complicated to work through.