Always, always, always, appreciate and compliment people based on what they have control of, rather than what they don't.
That's pretty good advice
Always, always, always, appreciate and compliment people based on what they have control of, rather than what they don't.
Yeah man if I can't call someone exotic then what's the point of complimenting people all together. Shit getting too complicated.People over-analyzing and looking for problems where there really aren't any is my guess.
Why bother saying anything to anyone anymore. This is where we're headed:
"Hello, this day seems good. How is it for you?"
"What do you mean by 'good'?"
Always, always, always, appreciate and compliment people based on what they have control of, rather than what they don't.
Always, always, always, appreciate and compliment people based on what they have control of, rather than what they don't.
Always, always, always, appreciate and compliment people based on what they have control of, rather than what they don't.
I don't call them either. I don't compliment people based on their physical appearance, as I find it's bad form.
But I think many people do comment based on physical appearances. And I don't think "exotic" is a bad thing to say to someone. I think it implies that they have something unique about them that is attractive. It does not have to be tied to race, in my opinion.
Thanks, I will never tell my girlfriend that she has beautiful eyes again.
I get called it all the time. I love it. It's a fucking compliment. People have thin skin. People come up with most unbelievable reasoning in their own mind for why it's offensive.
You use the word "exotic" for things, not people. As a word, it's incredibly patronizing, as if ethnic features so different from your own are so delightfully quaint.
Also, you come off as an incredible creep. So if you don't do it for the sake of other people, do it for your own.
What?I feel like you can bring race into any compliment. If I say someone looks beautiful, of course you're implicitly saying they don't look like other people. Which includes people of the same race. But that's not your intention.
Overthinking a compliment.
People saying it just think the person is beautiful and unique, regardless of ethnicity.
isn't any compliment based on physical appearance a form of objectification?
God damn I shit like this. How about instead of categorizing compliments, look the person in the eyes who's giving it and you judge if they are being offensive or not. Stop listening to what the internet tells you.
What?
But her weight/fitness level is fair game breh.
I have to go home and let me wife know she's not complimenting herself or others now by using the word =/
I have never heard the term "exotic" used to describe an attractive person without it being tied to their race. And that's the point the thread is trying to bring attention to. I'm not offended when my friends and I are called exotic because I'm aware it's a compliment. It's just that the undertone implies that you're calling us exotic because you're saying I'm attractive ONLY because of my race.
There will be people that won't find it offensive if you call them exotic. My stance is that there are so many other ways to compliment someone, why choose that word.
I let tumblr do my thinking for me.
Always, always, always, appreciate and compliment people based on what they have control of, rather than what they don't.
I don't understand what you are saying. Please explain!
Because there's plenty of people that one would consider beautiful, but exotic is often used to describe someone that is not only beautiful, but strikingly different for whatever reason. People of all races have been called exotic because of whatever unique features they might have.Here's a question for you. Instead of calling someone "exotic", why not just call them "beautiful"?
Hmmm... I've called my friend's daughters exotic looking before. They look like a combination of Brooke Shields and Milla Jovovich in Blue Lagoon/Blue Lagoon 2, which to me is a very exotic look (would post pictures but my definition of NSFW and yours may be different). Maybe I'm doing it wrong.
My immediate reaction to this was "who the hell ever thought exotic was a compliment?" But then I realized that there must be people who genuinely believe it's positive for it to be the dumb racist thing it is![]()
Hmmm... I've called my friend's daughters exotic looking before. They look like a combination of Brooke Shields and Milla Jovovich in Blue Lagoon/Blue Lagoon 2, which to me is a very exotic look (would post pictures but my definition of NSFW and yours may be different). Maybe I'm doing it wrong.
No it isn't. Your post was absurd from top to bottom hence my reaction to it. That has nothing to do with whether or not "exotic" is appropriate compliment.Idk how that could be more clear. Every compliment is like saying you're not like other people.
Thanks, I will never tell my girlfriend that she has beautiful eyes again.
Maybe if you're using the same descriptors that are typically used to describe objects, rather than people.
Like saying that a woman looks "high quality" instead of saying that she looks "stylish". But I'm not saying that this is some sort of RULE or something. It's just the way I personally see it.
I have seen both beautiful paintings and beautiful women.
"Your intentions kind of don't matter" WTF? They absolutely do matter and to discard them in the name of being offended is absurd.
It's not dumb and racist.
From a dictionary definition:
"strikingly unusual or strange in effect or appearance"
Words can be nuanced, the same word can have subtle differences when used in different contexts. This word could definitely be used in a racist way, but it's not racist by default in this context.
It's not dumb and racist.
From a dictionary definition:
"strikingly unusual or strange in effect or appearance"
Words can be nuanced, the same word can have subtle differences when used in different contexts. This word could definitely be used in a racist way, but it's not racist by default in this context.
You noted you find it complimentary. She does too. I was just making a joke that, in light of this thread and Random Internet Writer Proclaims X is Offensive opinion piece, I have to break the news to her that she's not complimenting herself or being complimentary or being complimented like she thought she was.
oh for the love of fuck now
Isn't this an ancient PSA? Like don't call people sweetheart or hon?
Overthinking a compliment.
People saying it just think the person is beautiful and unique, regardless of ethnicity.
Wow, she literally says that your intentions don't matter. Nothing matters more! Words are just a tool we use to attempt to describe our thoughts to others because we aren't mind-readers. It's the thoughts that are the important part.
No it isn't. Your post was absurd from top to bottom hence my reaction to it. That has nothing to do with whether or not "exotic" is appropriate compliment.
And now you know it is inappropriate. I can only imagine the awkward laughter that followed.
This is ridiculous. Exotic is a descriptor for something a person isn't familiar with. It literally says "different from everything I know". It's not derogatory it's not patronizing.
Because there's plenty of people that one would consider beautiful, but exotic is often used to describe someone that is not only beautiful, but strikingly different for whatever reason. People of all races have been called exotic because of whatever unique features they might have.
Do it. Just link it if you're worried.
Tease...
That's my point. "Beautiful" is frequently used for both, rather than just one.
You have much better examples available to illustrate your point than the mentally ill.No, your intentions aren't the most important thing at all. When you do something directly effecting another person or a group of people, their reactions are at the forefront, as they're the intended recipients. Intentions and practice are never 100% congruent, and sometimes the disparity can fluctuate wildly.
I mean, explain stalkers, then. In their eyes, their fanatical devotion is the highest form of flattery, yet the actual effects obviously differ from that perception. I could send you a box full of knives with the note "thinking of you," and I doubt you'd be running into my arms.