I don't think the article is saying it's an offensive word it's just you shouldn't use to describe a human being whether or not you meant it as a compliment.
Not too come off as some sort of dictionary thumper, but you're trying to make an argument based on conflating nouns and adjectives.
This entire discussion is about how using the word "exotic" to describe a person is tactless.
You could say it to somebody who is the exact same ethnicity as you, sure. You COULD do anything.
Nor is it necessarily not racist to use the word to describe somebody of the same ethnicity as you, if you're doing it because of their look (i.e., they're browner).
I'm not sure why you keep saying this like it's a magic word. Yes, in the infinite vastness of the universe, containing within it a never-ending multiplicity of possible events, you could interact with people who found it complimentary to be called exotic, and if you could identify that situation, you could safely use the word.
If you can actually identify every social situation perfectly and the appropriate phrases and actions to take, then many discussions about social graces will seem foreign to you.
But many people use the word "exotic" in situations where the people they're talking to will be offended, and they should stop doing that unless it's their explicit goal.
Which is just silly, because not all human beings will be offended by it as a compliment.
I know human beings who would take it well. Does the fact that people exist who wouldn't take it well mean I shouldn't use it to compliment the people who would?
No one here is associating it with the word weird
Because the world only operates on literal definitions?
I've occasionally seen the odd hot Indian woman in a sari being told, "oooh, you're so exotic". Do you know what that really says: "you are a weird oddity in this area and/or my impression of you is defined entirely by your ethnicity".
I guarantee you that it is nearly always experienced as a racist statement by the person hearing it, which is the entire point of this thread.
You might not consciously be thinking "oh, this person is 'strikingly unusual'", but as you point out, that's what the word you're using actually means. Not only is calling somebody unusual not a compliment, I don't consider myself unusual. So what you're really saying is "I think you're weird because of how different you are from me, but I like that."
How nuanced!
Intent =! Impact. If you accidentally stepped on my toe meaning you didn't intend to step on my toe you still impacted me with pain and still owe me an apology.A world where intent doesn't matter.
Amazing.
this is an assumption based on your location and not necessarily the norm.
I suppose then it has gained additional meaning in your region than it has ever had in mine. I've never heard exotic to have animalistic undertones and that its association to animals is as strong as its association to a foreign art style.
Perhaps this is more an American thing then. I will admit that there is a very nuanced history in the States which carries undercurrents of tension and demeaning towards race that I do not comprehend. I have never heard exotic used for a black person who isn't, say, dressed out of the local norm. I've heard authentic French cuisine called exotic and it wasn't meant to indicate it was base or only fit for animals.
this is an assumption based on your location and not necessarily the norm.
This entire discussion is about how using the word "exotic" to describe a person is tactless.
You could say it to somebody who is the exact same ethnicity as you, sure. You COULD do anything.
Nor is it necessarily not racist to use the word to describe somebody of the same ethnicity as you, if you're doing it because of their look (i.e., they're browner).
I'm not sure why you keep saying this like it's a magic word. Yes, in the infinite vastness of the universe, containing within it a never-ending multiplicity of possible events, you could interact with people who found it complimentary to be called exotic, and if you could identify that situation, you could safely use the word.
If you can actually identify every social situation perfectly and the appropriate phrases and actions to take, then many discussions about social graces will seem foreign to you.
But many people use the word "exotic" in situations where the people they're talking to will be offended, and they should stop doing that unless it's their explicit goal.
This is how language behaves. Words have different meanings depending on context and the relationship of the people it's used amongst. You knowing people who take "exotic" as nothing more than a compliment doesn't mean there isn't people who wouldn't. So it would be wise to refrain from using that word outside of that relationship considering the argument the article in question put forth on its usage.
Yes they are:
I can't think of any situation in which a person can be called "exotic" and it being a compliment.
You could say this about any word that a certain group of people find offense. Over the internet, I've ran across quite a few women that have said they hate being called beautiful BY ANYONE, because they feel the word objectifies them and they don't like having their physical appearance being judged at all.
Now are we supposed to stop using that word to describe people just because a few people found it uncomfortable?
I can't think of any situation in which a person can be called "exotic" and it being a compliment.
I am quoting the definition of the person I'm responding to in that post. You'll have to take it up with him.
I can't think of any situation in which a person can be called "exotic" and it being a compliment.
Exactly. It's so fucking creepy.
I don't understand why you're arguing with me here.
Y'know I think it's actually kind of disappointing that some people react so negatively to being told that they look different. I really enjoy standing out.
You could say this about any word that a certain group of people find offense. Over the internet, I've ran across quite a few women that have said they hate being called beautiful BY ANYONE, because they feel the word objectifies them and they don't like having their physical appearance being judged at all.
Now are we supposed to stop using that word to describe people just because a few people found it uncomfortable?
What is the hypothetical location you're describing where people use "exotic" in a non-racist manner?
Whether it's the norm is irrelevant.
Why should you automatically assume someone wants to be called that instead of assuming they don't until proven otherwise?
This is what I'm talking about. Compliments have shit to do with trying to flatter someone. It's all about releasing your personal feelings onto them and expecting them to accept it no matter what.
What is the hypothetical location you're describing where people use "exotic" in a non-racist manner?
You could say this about any word that a certain group of people find offense. Over the internet, I've ran across quite a few women that have said they hate being called beautiful BY ANYONE, because they feel the word objectifies them and they don't like having their physical appearance being judged at all.
Now are we supposed to stop using that word to describe people just because a few people found it uncomfortable?
Because your position is academically true but practically meaningless and so advancing it is detrimental to communication.
Yes, the word "always" is fraught with peril* because there are exceptions to every rule. This is so obvious as to not be worth stating. Why are you stating it, here, now?
* usually
A world where intent doesn't matter.
Amazing.
It's interesting. We have such a huge clash of different cultures and backgrounds that it's common to be exposed to something new. In that sense, it's okay to use the word exotic to describe a foreign art or object. At the same time, and because these cultures have already been established here in the US, they're not considered foreign. So when it is used to describe a person, it's baffling because the precipitant would probably not consider any of his or her features different or foreign.
Great, my wife's using a racist word, denigrating herself and others rather than giving a compliment, and now she's also creepy.
Oh, so you have nothing. Okay.
People get offend by everything. It seems like they are looking for things to be offend by.
I enjoy standing out but not because of my ethnic background.
If I had a third eye on my forehead then hell yeah, call me exotic.
Intent =! Impact. If you accidentally stepped on my toe meaning you didn't intend to step on my toe you still impacted me with pain and still owe me an apology.
because that's how human interaction works in some places. you won't know what is someone's limits or what their whims are until you interact.
Some people like to give compliments. some people like to receive. For example, i now know you don't like to be called exotic because of this thread. but it took you responding to the word to find out. i wasn't going to guess because where i'm from it's a term of endearment and often coveted.
so if we had met in person, had conversation and i referred to you as exotic and you would have been offended you would have let me know. and now i KNOW. and from them forth i would take into account that you and maybe the people in this area don't think of it in a positive manner. but that's because your background is not the same as mine, and i won't know until i take that chance.
so in this case, using it with you will take on the definition based on a negative context. but only with you. not with my family or MY general area.
But why are you testing strangers limits?
Words can devastate and shatter a person beyond repair man. People on twitter are developing ptsd from all the meanness.Physical pain is different than choosing being to offended that a person thinks they have a unique look.
And I say "choosing" because I don't think anyone was actually distressed about being called "exotic", unless you want everyone on the planet to be a lemming and look/act/feel the same.
You make some asinine argument after acusing people of dictionary thumping, and I'm the one that has nothing to say?
Calling someone a specimen is in an entirely different league than describing how them come across to you.
I'm sorry if you're idea of dictionary thumping means understanding language.
Physical pain is different than choosing being to offended that a person thinks they have a unique look.
And I say "choosing" because I don't think anyone was actually distressed about being called "exotic", unless you want everyone on the planet to be a lemming and look/act/feel the same.
I don't think it's amazing, or perhaps you're necessarily understanding what is being asserted. If you've hurt or offended someone, no, your intent does not bear any influence on how they should feel about what you've said. I don't think anyone would deny that hurting or offending someone intentionally is worse than offending or hurting someone unintentionally, so it matters in that sense. But if it was unintentional, you should simply apologize and move on, rather than mounting a defense that you didn't mean it the way they received it and that they are wrong to have been offended. I guarantee you it'll be better received than apologetics.
(I'm sure there are exceptions to this general rule, like a person who takes umbrage at being called something because they confused it with another word, or don't know what the word actually means; please don't be annoying by bringing up situations like that.)
People in this thread have pulled dictionary definitions to justify the use of the word, lauding the so-called positive connotations. And my point was that dictionary definitions alone cannot justify any word use when it comes to people. The example I gave was the use of "magnificent specimen" to describe a woman.
You counterargument, as far I understood it, was that specimen is a noun and exotic is an adjective.