I'm going to stay out of this one :lol
All I will say is this: I hate private matches. As much as I like playing with people from GAF, I'd rather go on my own to play public matches than play private. It's nothing personal; private matches just don't do it for me.
I usually log on at 10:00 EST. First thing I do is hit LB to see who's on. Knowing that Aladuf probably has at least 3 people playing with him, I'll join his party. Sometimes there is space, sometimes there is not. If there's space, I join. If not, I go out on my own or try to join with some other GAF people. Due to the spike after the patch, there are more people on. If Duf doesn't have room, then that's the way it works. I don't expect him to boot someone out for my sake. Likewise, if Aladuf or Third joined a party and we had five there is no way in hell we'd ask someone to leave. There is no "in group" or whatever. If you have five then that's it, no more room.