The issues and the discussion surrounding it can often be a prickly beast, but it's pretty benign in this thread at the moment. I actually like talking about this stuff (in lieu of another video to joke about which I am also looking forward to).
I don't think that people are attempting to characterise you as something that you're not (correct me if I'm wrong) the term came about as others have stated in an academic context to describe a specific type of gender identity. Of course there is still valid criticism levelled at the terminology precisely for the feelings that it can invoke in people such as yourself.Maybe I am a white, straight, cis-gendered male, but people don't know anything about me. If I say I'm male then end of story, that's how I would prefer to be treated/recognized. And I think that should go for anybody.