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[jon bones]

1 I don't have confidence issues. I'm just afraid of women because I have zero experience with them and I'm nothing special.

2 I'm not going to think I'm the greatest person in the world and I can do no wrong. I don't want to be that douchebag.

1) you have serious confidence issues. you are special, man - didn't your moms ever tell you?? you are a great looking one of a kind dude who has interesting and original insight into the things you're passionate about. if you can't see it, how do you expect a woman to?

2) this is a shitty, shitty, shitty attitude. the first step in this whole process is to feel comfortable with yourself - not in the context of women, where you would understandably be nervous - but just yourself by yourself. personally i am probably one of the most well rounded, great looking, fit, interesting, intelligent, ambitious, talented, hilarious, well read person that i've that the pleasure of meeting but that's just me. i'm sure you're pretty cool, too.

seriously though i often view myself as a sort of an r. kelly/earnest hemingway hybrid. it's actually worked out really well for me.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

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God damnit, now she's talking to me again...What the fuck is? This is ridiculous.

She's outplaying you player.

 

[-PXG-]

She's outplaying you player.

Yeah, I know there is possibility that she's playing games. But part of me is kind of bored and wants to figure shit out you know. Plus, I don't have that much to lose. Hey, I could learn something from this :lol She is kind of shy, so maybe she's constantly second guessing herself and is afraid, or some shit. Or she's a devious cunt. I don't know. I'll keep GAF posted on these shenanigans and maintain the steady flow of lulz.

 

[Mully]

So I need a little bit of advice.

I have been with this amazing girl for nearly 7 months now. From the moment we started going on dates we knew we had something. We both just have this chemistry with one another that I have never had with another girl. It doesn't matter what we're doing we always have a good time.

We both know that we want to be together for a very long while. One night we even drunkedly spoke about marriage, kids, and a house. To be perfectly honest, we're both really ok with that. However, I'm worried I'm might bite my tongue in a few months, years. Are we taking this too fast? I really like the pace we're going at right now, but I sometimes worry that the marriage conversation is a little soon, especially since my best friend just broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Just saw grapefruit's video in the post pics of yourself thread. I don't see much he has to complain about in the looks department for contributing to his lack of confidence.

 

[-PXG-]

So I need a little bit of advice.

I have been with this amazing girl for nearly 7 months now. From the moment we started going on dates we knew we had something. We both just have this chemistry with one another that I have never had with another girl. It doesn't matter what we're doing we always have a good time.

We both know that we want to be together for a very long while. One night we even drunkedly spoke about marriage, kids, and a house. To be perfectly honest, we're both really ok with that. However, I'm worried I'm might bite my tongue in a few months, years. Are we taking this too fast? I really like the pace we're going at right now, but I sometimes worry that the marriage conversation is a little soon, especially since my best friend just broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years.

How many girls have you been with in the past? Is this your first time falling in love?

I mean if you really love and care about her, and the feelings are mutual, I don't think there's anything to worry about. I wouldn't necessarily say that your sense of doubt comes from the uncertainty of having a future with this girl. I think it's just a natural and inevitable conflict between the straight logic of your brain, and the seemingly erratic emotions of your heart. Everyone goes through this shit. It's not something you that just comes to you over night. You two will eventually figure out what is best.

But don't worry about a house, marriage and kids yet. Though everyone moves at a different pace, you've only been with her for seven months. Just take one day at a time and have as much fun with her as you can. Don't spoil it with the infinite possibilities of the future too much. You'll drive yourself (and her) nuts and risk fucking up what you currently have. Don't blow it, because who knows, you very well may have a long future with her. Maybe not. Who knows, and who cares? Just have fun.

 

[Mully]

How many girls have you been with in the past? Is this your first time falling in love?

I mean if you really love and care about her, and the feelings are mutual, I don't think there's anything to worry about. I wouldn't necessarily say that your sense of doubt comes from the uncertainty of having a future with this girl. I think it's just a natural and inevitable conflict between the straight logic of your brain, and the seemingly erratic emotions of your heart. Everyone goes through this shit. It's not something you that just comes to you over night. You two will eventually figure out what is best.

But don't worry about a house, marriage and kids yet. Though everyone moves at a different pace, you've only been with her for seven months. Just take one day at a time and have as much fun with her as you can. Don't spoil it with the infinite possibilities of the future too much. You'll drive yourself (and her) nuts and risk fucking up what you currently have. Don't blow, because who knows, you very well may have a long future with her. Maybe not. Who knows, and who cares? Just have fun.

I've been with a lot of girls in the past. This isn't my first time falling in love either. You're right about the marriage, kids, and house talk though. I think when we say it, it's all pie in the sky talk. We'll talk about having multiple houses and a two dogs, but we both know that's many many years down the line and that it might not happen. I think we just say those things because they're fun to think about. Like as a kid it was fun to think about being a police officer or a fireman.

 

[Veelk]

I know it's been a couple posts, but it's been a few hours and no one has suggested anything.

Will practice socialization....speaking of which, it's Saturday. I am going to be very busy on Sunday because I have a few papers that need to get done for school, but I can use this day to do whatever. I don't really have anyone I can contact to hang out with (Well...probably. I'd have to check, but don't hold out hope), so where can I go?

 

[-PXG-]

I've been with a lot of girls in the past. This isn't my first time falling in love either. You're right about the marriage, kids, and house talk though. I think when we say it, it's all pie in the sky talk. We'll talk about having multiple houses and a two dogs, but we both know that's many many years down the line and that it might not happen. I think we just say those things because they're fun to think about. Like as a kid it was fun to think about being a police officer or a fireman.

Hmmm.... I think you kind of answered your own question. I don't think you have much to worry about. Just keep on having fun with her and see where it goes.

 

[-PXG-]

I know it's been a couple posts, but it's been a few hours and no one has suggested anything.

Just go out. The the mall, to a book store, music store, art gallery, coffee shop, fair, convention, sports/ public event, bar, club, ect. Anywhere that pertains to your interests and a place where a girl may have something in common with you. Anywhere you think a girl would be on a Saturday night. Of course, there the internet too. Just tread with caution.

If you live in a city, or a dense suburban area, you have no excuse not the go out and mingle. Now, if you live in East Bumblefuck USA, then you're screwed.

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goddamnit dp

 

[EzLink]

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[twilitesparklemotion]

Number? You better do more than that son. Damn.

When I say I'm interested, that means I'm interested. I don't know her that well. Plus, we'll be with friends of mine (we're both going to a thing, separately, and I asked her what she was doing after the thing and invited her along.) I just need a way to contact her and see if I want to/can pursue this.

EDIT: Actually depending on the driving/transportation situation and with a little bit of luck I could straight up ask her out tonight if I want to. Finals next week make things tricky though.

THE CONTINUING ADVENTURES OF DOOGLES AND WOMEN

So I've always been mystified by the concept of getting a number/date anywhere, such as Starbucks (where I am a lot). I'm in our student center getting my study group together and this girl walks by, smiles at me. I go into Starbucks to get my herbal tea fix (I'm an addict) and she's in line, looking at herbal tea, so I start up a conversation. It ends in a few lines and I go back to my group, but at least I made the jump and later thought of how I could have continued the conversation or gotten a number. The moral of the story is talk to people because you do get better at it.

Oh, frame of reference because this makes me sound like I'm terrible with women: I'm extremely sociable, have been on a few dates but both of my relationships have been accidental. One lasted four months. Didn't date in high school. That should explain some things.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Just saw grapefruit's video in the post pics of yourself thread. I don't see much he has to complain about in the looks department for contributing to his lack of confidence.

Does Russel have a video? I wanna be like him when I grow up.

 

[TurboLibre]

If I didn't care about the outcome then what's the point of putting in any effort?

I never said you shouldn't care about the outcome, it's just not the most important part.

Here's the wiki definition of self-confidence:

Self-confidence does not necessarily imply 'self-belief' or a belief in one's ability to succeed. For instance, one may be inept at a particular sport or activity, but remain 'confident' in one's demeanor, simply because one does not place a great deal of emphasis on the outcome of the activity. The key element to self-confidence is, therefore, an acceptance of the myriad consequences of a particular situation, whether they are good or bad. When one does not dwell on negative consequences one can be more 'self-confident' because one is worrying far less about failure or (more accurately) the disapproval of others following potential failure. One is then more likely to focus on the actual situation which means that enjoyment and success in that situation is also more probable. If there is any 'self-belief' component it is simply a belief in other`s ability to tolerate whatever outcome may arise; a certainty that one will cope irrespective of what happens. Belief in one's abilities to perform an activity comes through successful experience and may add to, or consolidate, a general sense of self-confidence.

Or think of it this way: You mentioned learning to drive earlier, well how did you build confidence there? You put in the mileage. Did you start driving on the freeway? Probably not, if you're anything like me you started doing circles in a parking lot and cruzing around your neighborhood. It didn't matter where I was driving to, what was important was the time spent behind the wheel. We all looked stupid and made plenty of mistakes, but through those mistakes came experience. It's sort of the same thing with dating. Don't worry about where it's going to lead, just have fun in the moment and if it doesn't go well just chalk it up as a learning experience.

 

[-PXG-]

All fresh and ready to go. About to commence my first date in over two years. Let's see if being in a monogamous relationship for that long has ripened my game, or made it rotten. Wish me luck GAF. I'll be sure to report in later tonight. My lustful virgin awaits...

Peace.

 

[grap3fruitman]

Or think of it this way: You mentioned learning to drive earlier, well how did you build confidence there? You put in the mileage. Did you start driving on the freeway? Probably not, if you're anything like me you started doing circles in a parking lot and cruzing around your neighborhood. It didn't matter where I was driving to, what was important was the time spent behind the wheel. We all looked stupid and made plenty of mistakes, but through those mistakes came experience. It's sort of the same thing with dating. Don't worry about where it's going to lead, just have fun in the moment and if it doesn't go well just chalk it up as a learning experience.

Okay, now imagine you're about 10 years behind learning to drive/talk to women. It's much more awkward than it was as a teenager and you're expected to have the ability already.

I can't really help think about failure, as all my experiences have been failures. I don't know what to do. =\

 

[jon bones]

now imagine we don't care about your excuses. man up and go do something about it. circle back when you have a valid question or you got a girl's phone number.

 

[TurboLibre]

Okay, now imagine you're about 10 years behind learning to drive/talk to women. It's much more awkward than it was as a teenager and you're expected to have the ability already.

Yeah, and in five years you're going to be 15 years behind unless you go out and try. Just go out there and be awkward, eventually you'll get the hang of things.

I can't really help think about failure, as all my experiences have been failures. I don't know what to do. =\

I'm the same way. The good tactic is to only focus on the moment. Try your best to clear your mind of the future and just go with the flow.

 

[grap3fruitman]

now imagine we don't care about your excuses. man up and go do something about it. circle back when you have a valid question or you got a girl's phone number.

Here's one: how do I get a girl's phone number?

Seriously though, I don't know how to start. That's my issue. When I try I always get shot down so I must be doing something wrong, but what?

Yeah, and in five years you're going to be 15 years behind unless you go out and try. Just go out there and be awkward, eventually you'll get the hang of things.

I have tried. I've asked a few women out before and gotten the same response every single time. So what am I supposed to do?

 

[TurboLibre]

I have tried. I've asked a few women out before and gotten the same response every single time. So what am I supposed to do?

Key word: A few. You gotta keep at it. I'm in the same situation you are and it's not easy, but it's what we have to do.

 

[Magik]

Here's one: how do I get a girl's phone number?

Seriously though, I don't know how to start. That's my issue. When I try I always get shot down so I must be doing something wrong, but what?

I have tried. I've asked a few women out before and gotten the same response every single time. So what am I supposed to do?

Replay the situations in your mind and start critiquing yourself and start looking for areas that you feel you didn't do well in. It may be your tone, maybe you weren't looking at her the entire time, maybe you started stuttering etc. Every time you find a little flaw in your approach, you make damn sure that your next approach has that corrected.

True failure is not learning from your mistakes and repeating them again and again hoping to get a different result.

 

[hydragonwarrior]

And it's not that I don't want her to listen to me blather on and on, but I do want to have an actual deep conversation on some stuff. Even if it's something I personally don't look too deeply into, I'd like to hear the other person talk passionately about why they like something. The girl I talked to before. she said she liked going to concerts. I tell her I've never been and ask her why she likes them so much. "I don't know I just like them. It's the experience I guess." Describe it, tell me why you love it so much, what makes it great. It's not that I disagree, it's that people never get into these things, because they want to keep it 'light and airy', as if showing a strong passion for something is so horrible just because you don't know the person. That's what makes me disrespect a person.

I can tell you want to know more about the person. That's good. But without the anonymity that you have here, it's nearly impossible for someone to delve into things with as much detail as a forum post. We have the time to THINK about the words we want to say and backspace what we don't want and we also TYPE faster than we speak.

It's a whole different ballgame when you're in front of someone. You do seem confident in talking about what you're passionate about - which is valuable. You seek women who are passionate about what they do too. But you go through "light and airy" subjects to find out what women love. You ask questions, you LISTEN, and you eventually find what they are passionate about.

Not every woman is passionate about EVERYTHING they like. I mean, she says she likes running the treadmill. She liked that bourban chicken she had today. She likes pizza. In each topic I doubt she'd be able to into detail of why she "loves" each thing so much.

I'm sure every woman has at least one passion, or are in the midst of discovering one, but sometimes you may not even figure that out till the 3rd or so date. People communicate at different paces and it's good practice to move with those paces.

And above all, LISTEN. Calm your urge to interrupt cause u have a "good idea to say." Also learn to enjoy pauses in the conversation. And yes you will have plenty of time to talk about your own passions - just sit back and listen for now. You're still gonna talk, but YOU listening to her will get you so much more than the other way around.

However, reading up I did notice your goals with women are at the moment. I think you might find Mike Works PoF profile to be a good reference point since he's had some luck with that.

 

[-PXG-]

I'm back.

It went alright. She was shy at first, but had a good time. I decided to not make any serious moves on her, I decided to not freak her the fuck out and just have a chill evening with her. She wants to come over tomorrow, but I don't know how I feel about that right now. She's nice, but blah. I kind of wish I went to one of my boy's parties instead. Free food and booze, plus a nice crowd of people I'm familiar with.

Sorry, nothing exciting or down right awful to report tonight GAF. Maybe next time.

 

[Russell]

I feel like slapping my face when I think back to early-2003, when I was going up to random women on the subway platform, straight up asking them if they would want to get together with me. They didn't know me from a hole in the wall; I can't believe I expected anything to come out of it.

Or the time when I sat down across from the attractive girl reading a book in Starbuck's in the Galleria Mall, getting her attention and saying to her, "We should go to my place so we can share each other's bodies." She got up, said I was disgusting, and left.

Or the time I went up to that girl on the Community College stop and asked her outright, "When are we going to have sex?" Looking back I'm surprised she didn't blow up in my face, but instead gently turned me down.

Those experiences taught me that a woman has to know me first before I could hope for anything to happen.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

I feel like slapping my face when I think back to early-2003, when I was going up to random women on the subway platform, straight up asking them if they would want to get together with me. They didn't know me from a hole in the wall; I can't believe I expected anything to come out of it.

Or the time when I sat down across from the attractive girl reading a book in Starbuck's in the Galleria Mall, getting her attention and saying to her, "We should go to my place so we can share each other's bodies." She got up, said I was disgusting, and left.

Or the time I went up to that girl on the Community College stop and asked her outright, "When are we going to have sex?" Looking back I'm surprised she didn't blow up in my face, but instead gently turned me down.

Those experiences taught me that a woman has to know me first before I could hope for anything to happen.

:lol :lol :lol Russel you are definately my favorite poster on gaf

 

[MCX]

I feel like slapping my face when I think back to early-2003, when I was going up to random women on the subway platform, straight up asking them if they would want to get together with me. They didn't know me from a hole in the wall; I can't believe I expected anything to come out of it.

Or the time when I sat down across from the attractive girl reading a book in Starbuck's in the Galleria Mall, getting her attention and saying to her, "We should go to my place so we can share each other's bodies." She got up, said I was disgusting, and left.

Or the time I went up to that girl on the Community College stop and asked her outright, "When are we going to have sex?" Looking back I'm surprised she didn't blow up in my face, but instead gently turned me down.

Those experiences taught me that a woman has to know me first before I could hope for anything to happen.

That's gold. :lol :lol :lol

 

[Barrage]

I feel like slapping my face when I think back to early-2003, when I was going up to random women on the subway platform, straight up asking them if they would want to get together with me. They didn't know me from a hole in the wall; I can't believe I expected anything to come out of it.

Or the time when I sat down across from the attractive girl reading a book in Starbuck's in the Galleria Mall, getting her attention and saying to her, "We should go to my place so we can share each other's bodies." She got up, said I was disgusting, and left.

Or the time I went up to that girl on the Community College stop and asked her outright, "When are we going to have sex?" Looking back I'm surprised she didn't blow up in my face, but instead gently turned me down.

Those experiences taught me that a woman has to know me first before I could hope for anything to happen.

:lol King of Men.

 

[TacticalFox88]

What are the CLEAR cut signs that woman finds you attractive? Most girls that tell me I am, didn't give me a clue at all.

 

[Ether_Snake]

What are the CLEAR cut signs that woman finds you attractive? Most girls that tell me I am, didn't give me a clue at all.

When they tell you.

 

[Mike Works]

What are the CLEAR cut signs that woman finds you attractive? Most girls that tell me I am, didn't give me a clue at all.

When your name is Shawn and you post on GAF.

 

[SRG01]

All in all, I have no idea how my date went. She was shy when we were going through the gardens, but then warmed up when we started googling each other's astrological profiles :lol She agreed to do something next weekend, so we'll see.

 

[norinrad]

I have tried. I've asked a few women out before and gotten the same response every single time. So what am I supposed to do?

I've been reading your stuff for a long while and it really breaks my heart to see you put yourself down like that, its down right depressing.

For the love of God man up, positive attitude goes a long way, you could be the most intelligent, handsome whatever the fuck in the world but in the end it all comes down to your attitude. Give up on the girls for now and start looking after you, there's a you and you seriously need to start working on that.

 

[GeneralIroh]

Here is a little update:
I called girl from the Chinese take-out restaurant on wed to see when she was available but ended up being rejected....
She said she doesn't have a bf but her situation is complicated and doesn't want to be in a relationship : (
I think i messed things up a bit because for some retarded reason i said "lets get to the point, when are ya free for that coffee?"
Should I still text her and try to get her to hangout with me?

On thursday I met another chick at the computer lab. She came to the empty seat next to me and asked if it was taken. After she took the seat I conversed with her a bit and made up some bs about her looking familiar. I said she looked like someone from my art class and found out she was taking the same subject but our instructors were different. When I found out we both had similar extra credit assignments that involved going to the museum I asked her to join me. I told her I was going on monday and she mentioned that was free during that day. I thought things were going well since we exchanged friend request on facebook but then I checked out her status and found out she is in a relationship. Damnit! Why does this always happen to me?

I can get digits but I can never seem to get dates. Help!

 

[ericexpo]

quick question: is it possible to be to funny? I feel like recently i'm giving this impression that i can never be taken seriously.

 

[GeneralIroh]

Here's one: how do I get a girl's phone number?

Seriously though, I don't know how to start. That's my issue. When I try I always get shot down so I must be doing something wrong, but what?


I have tried. I've asked a few women out before and gotten the same response every single time. So what am I supposed to do?

How do you look?
Maybe you're slob who looks angry all the time, try changing your appearance and work on your expressions. Now I'm not a successful at completing the deal but I at least am able to get some digits and small talk because I try to smile and look my best.

 

[Mike Works]

quick question: is it possible to be to funny? I feel like recently i'm giving this impression that i can never be taken seriously.

What a weird question. Um, it is possible to funny I guess?

Can you rephrase that?

 

[Shawsie64]

Seriously, alcohol is my best friend when it comes to chatting up the ladies. I went to a couple parties Thursday night, and everytime I go out now under the influence I make it a point to t talk to every girl I can at whatever party I'm at (regardless of weather or not they are attractive). Not only is this great practice for me, but I've seemed to notice the more I talk to everyone, the more others want to talk to me. It was kind of amusing... amongst all of the drunks at the party, quite a few people remembered my name after only introducing myself once, whereas these same people were asking others they had just met three or four times to restate their name.

There was one girl in particular, from a sorority who was flirting with me. She was way cute, but she eventually left to go to a different party (which she wanted me to come with her to, but she called the frat house it was at and they weren't allowing any non-frat brothers to come :/)


My main warning though is to not overdo it. Find the sweet spot. Last month I was at a party doing really well with this beautiful girl, until I went from "fun drunk" to "asshole throwing up on the side of the house" drunk

The main bullshit though is that I'm still having a hard time letting go of the girl I fell for recently. We are done talking, for good (its been three weeks now). The whole situation wasn't good for me, and I'm definitely better off now that it's over, but goddam I miss her and still care about her. I had a full fledged breakdown the other night, unpleasant shit for sure

Dont let that shit get to you, live and learn be far more and soon you"ll realise that yous two wernt even suited to be together if it went sour that fast i feel the same alot lately but just irrational thoughts in the big picture of things

 

[The Shadow]

Here is a little update:
I called girl from the Chinese take-out restaurant on wed to see when she was available but ended up being rejected....
She said she doesn't have a bf but her situation is complicated and doesn't want to be in a relationship : (
I think i messed things up a bit because for some retarded reason i said "lets get to the point, when are ya free for that coffee?"
Should I still text her and try to get her to hangout with me?

On thursday I met another chick at the computer lab. She came to the empty seat next to me and asked if it was taken. After she took the seat I conversed with her a bit and made up some bs about her looking familiar. I said she looked like someone from my art class and found out she was taking the same subject but our instructors were different. When I found out we both had similar extra credit assignments that involved going to the museum I asked her to join me. I told her I was going on monday and she mentioned that was free during that day. I thought things were going well since we exchanged friend request on facebook but then I checked out her status and found out she is in a relationship. Damnit! Why does this always happen to me?

Don't dwell on what you shoul have or could have done or what you didn't do. But something to keep in mind when a girl immediately says she doesn't want a bf or a relationship. Play off of that, tell her that you were looking forward to chatting over coffee, not to get married. For some reason she jumped to that conclusion so that's one way of letting her know that.

Regarding the second girl, sounds like you handled things just fine but yeah, not every girl is going to be single. Still, make a good impression with her. Girls tell thier female bbfs everything, some which may be single, so it may work out for you indirectly that way.

quick question: is it possible to be to funny? I feel like recently i'm giving this impression that i can never be taken seriously.

Nope. If no one takes you seriously, it's because you're joking or being sarcastic at inappropriate moments.

 

[TurboLibre]

What a weird question. Um, it is possible to funny I guess?

Can you rephrase that?

"Too" funny. He's worried people won't take him seriously. Still a strange question though.

 

[EzLink]

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[jamesinclair]

Alright, this keeps happening with me trying the online dating thing.

Start conversation. 3-4 sentences, a question or two.
Girl does simple reply
I reply, add amusing anecdote, ask followup question
Girl does 2 word reply.


This even happened today with a girl that messaged me.

She starts out with "hey wat up" so I look at her profile to start a discussion going and she replies "oh dats cool"

Bitch, if you want to talk to me, THEN TALK. And learn to spell.

So am I alone with this problem...?

Spoiler

awaits one word gaffer reply

 

[EzLink]

Alright, this keeps happening with me trying the online dating thing.

Start conversation. 3-4 sentences, a question or two.
Girl does simple reply
I reply, add amusing anecdote, ask followup question
Girl does 2 word reply.


This even happened today with a girl that messaged me.

She starts out with "hey wat up" so I look at her profile to start a discussion going and she replies "oh dats cool"

Bitch, if you want to talk to me, THEN TALK. And learn to spell.

So am I alone with this problem...?

Spoiler

awaits one word gaffer reply

dunno

Spoiler

if all she could reply with is "oh dats cool", she isn't worth your time anyway

 

[GeneralIroh]

Alright, this keeps happening with me trying the online dating thing.

Start conversation. 3-4 sentences, a question or two.
Girl does simple reply
I reply, add amusing anecdote, ask followup question
Girl does 2 word reply.


This even happened today with a girl that messaged me.

She starts out with "hey wat up" so I look at her profile to start a discussion going and she replies "oh dats cool"

Bitch, if you want to talk to me, THEN TALK. And learn to spell.

So am I alone with this problem...?

Spoiler

awaits one word gaffer reply

I experience the same thing. Shit gets boring fast.

 

[DY_nasty]

Alright, this keeps happening with me trying the online dating thing.

Start conversation. 3-4 sentences, a question or two.
Girl does simple reply
I reply, add amusing anecdote, ask followup question
Girl does 2 word reply.


This even happened today with a girl that messaged me.

She starts out with "hey wat up" so I look at her profile to start a discussion going and she replies "oh dats cool"

Bitch, if you want to talk to me, THEN TALK. And learn to spell.

So am I alone with this problem...?

Spoiler

awaits one word gaffer reply

yeah it sucks, i'd drop it with her

but for the future, take the retail approach - ask short, open ended questions that have some sort of small joke inserted

i never talk like that in person, but back when i used to run around on myspace it was money

 

[Slayer-33]

So I need a little bit of advice.

I have been with this amazing girl for nearly 7 months now. From the moment we started going on dates we knew we had something. We both just have this chemistry with one another that I have never had with another girl. It doesn't matter what we're doing we always have a good time.

We both know that we want to be together for a very long while. One night we even drunkedly spoke about marriage, kids, and a house. To be perfectly honest, we're both really ok with that. However, I'm worried I'm might bite my tongue in a few months, years. Are we taking this too fast? I really like the pace we're going at right now, but I sometimes worry that the marriage conversation is a little soon, especially since my best friend just broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years.

Sounds like you two have something awesome mofo, enjoy it, go with the flow.. If it comes to the point of marriage you'll know when to ask her.


As for the rest of the page... It just keeps getting better and better :lol


Jamesonlair I typcally just outright stop talking / writting to women that type like that, it's a monstrous turn off I can't stand it.

 

[jamesinclair]

yeah it sucks, i'd drop it with her

but for the future, take the retail approach - ask short, open ended questions that have some sort of small joke inserted

i never talk like that in person, but back when i used to run around on myspace it was money

I've tried various things. Questions. Stories. Jokes. One sentence, one paragraph. Everything short of a crown of sonnets.

Only to get the equivalent of "cool story bro"

Not ALL of them of course, but the vast majority.

I understand that you may not be interested in me, and the destruction of the conversation is a way to get that message across, but again, if you initiate the conversation....COME ON!

 

[SRG01]

I've tried various things. Questions. Stories. Jokes. One sentence, one paragraph. Everything short of a crown of sonnets.

Only to get the equivalent of "cool story bro"

Not ALL of them of course, but the vast majority.

I understand that you may not be interested in me, and the destruction of the conversation is a way to get that message across, but again, if you initiate the conversation....COME ON!

The vast majority do that because most of them treat the messaging system like IMs or chats. I realized that when I actually replied to one of those a while back.

 

[kiryogi]

Holy shit GAF. I've been up all fucking night. The girl I talked to last night, called me back at 1:30 this morning. I just got off the phone with her just a few minutes ago.... Jesus Christ, this is the baddest bitch on Earth. She is the female version of me. She's incredible. I've never clicked with a girl this quickly or on so many levels. No other girl I've met so far in my life has come close to this one. We made plans to go a bar/ club/ out to dinner next Friday. We both already made other arrangements for this weekend. She really wanted to hang out with me on Sunday, but she's stuck at work all day.

Now, I'm not falling in love (or rather, too fast) and neither is she. I don't want to fuck this up. Sure, there are other girls out there, but this one...man....I've had long, deep conversations with girls in the past, but nothing like this. Plus, neither one of us wanted to get off the phone. Our conversation just kept on going and going and going and going and going into the wee hours of the night. Not one single dull or awkward moment. No one. After several hours of talking, I could tell she was getting sleepy, so I told her I'd let her go and call her later. Plus, I was getting hungry. She told me I made her night (she had a crappy time with her friend apparently) and she was so relieved to have such a great discussion with someone who had so many common interests and beliefs.

This this this. This is what I had recently, and it's still whats holding me back. I still can't seem to really get over her. Sigh. She told me she never wanted to hear from me again too. But at this point, I'm just gonna leave it alone for awhile and let her cool off or something. On other news, haven't had a single bit of luck with online dating yet. Actually, I finally got a "Meet me" on PoF. Pretty hot girl, but she doesn't reply back on PoF and if you want to further pursue, she expects you to sign up for another dating site and then msg her there. wtf :lol

 

[DY_nasty]

I've tried various things. Questions. Stories. Jokes. One sentence, one paragraph. Everything short of a crown of sonnets.

Only to get the equivalent of "cool story bro"

Not ALL of them of course, but the vast majority.

I understand that you may not be interested in me, and the destruction of the conversation is a way to get that message across, but again, if you initiate the conversation....COME ON!

one of the cons of online dating

always try and keep it generally short at first though. and never assume that a girl is smart or educated just because she has reading as one of her interests. never.

 

[jamesinclair]

The vast majority do that because most of them treat the messaging system like IMs or chats. I realized that when I actually replied to one of those a while back.

Well that's just dumb, but I guess it sort of makes sense.

If you want IM, then ask me to IM with you. Messaging is for paragraphs, as replies will be hours apart. I consider them like emails.

It's so frustrating.