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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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Count Dookkake
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whitehawk said:
Make sure she knows it's her fault. She should try harder and do exactly as you say.
DualShadow
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Count Dookkake said:
:lol :lol :lol
Qwerty710710
a child left behind
Aurora said:
Well she did text me first twice during the first two days when we exchanged numbers, but she clamied that she never recvied my text back. Maybe phone carriers are fucked up. But what like you said and other have told me I started to push too hard. Also I did suggest we did meet each other when she had a day off which is on Wednesdays. So we both agreed to meet on that Wednesday, but that never happened. In some ways I wish we would of text instead of talking on the phone.
That's the plan. Still, so annoyed at myself that it happened. I was this close, THIS CLOSE. Worst part is that afterwards we went to see a movie, ended up seeing Love & Other Drugs. Well, turns out that movie is based around the invention of viagra and there are a lot of references to impotence....Great :lol-PXG- said:
Suggest not jacking for a while? Maybe I should restrain myself, so I'll have a boner the second she walks in. :lol
Jamesfrom818
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whitehawk said:
Have her sleep over so you can destroy her with your morning wood.
Actually, I should take advantage of the fact that she could sleep over now. During school she can't sleep over during the week, and she works Fridays and Saturdays until 1am so that's a no go. However we are on break now, so things should change temporarily I hopeJamesfrom818 said:
jamesinclair
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thcsquad said:
Not liking smoke = uptight?
Gotcha.
And WTF does numetal have to do with anything?
I'd make a jazz comment, but I'll save it.
whitehawk said:
My first time took 3 attempts. It sucked, but once you break your mental hymen, you're good to go.
I second the idea of having her sleep over. My successful attempt was at 5am (after a failed attempt at 10pm and midnight)
Also, do NOT drink alcohol. Maybe a beer to loosen up, but anything beyond that may equal whiskey dick fail.
And if you do keep failing, I suggest you go down on her so she doesn't feel like a failure.
Qwerty710710 said:
I had a similar experience. A girl came on to me HARD and I think my mistake was giving her too much attention. She kept saying she thought I was really awesome and she loved talking to me etc, so I suggested we meet up. And then she stopped replying.
In the end, for the best. No need to date a crazy girl.
Jamesfrom818
Banned
Shawsie64 said:
No need to be rude. Just respond late and tell her you were with a girl.
jamesinclair said:
oh man this i gotta hear
jamesinclair said:
:lol yea it must be that she's crazy
jamesinclair said:
so much wrong in one post it's amazing. what kind of shit is that. failing is not an option and this is only a hurdle if you can't jump over it.
jamesinclair
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jon bones said:
Dude, this girl would wake me up with her texts wishing me a good day and asking me to text her after work.
And as soon as I mention we meet up....she stops.
You're telling me that sounds normal to you?
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Clearly you have no experience with the matter, so take your advice elsewhere. Failing is not an option? Seriously? What's he supposed to do, punch his limp dick until it gets hard?
No, he distracts himself and her by doing something else, like going down on her and trying again in a couple of hours.
grap3fruitman
Banned
Had a similar anxiety issue, while I got hard, I couldn't ejaculate. Even after hours of fucking. It was good and bad at the same time. Couldn't tell you what to do to fix it though.
CrocMother
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jon bones said:
"It's only a hurdle if you can't jump over it"
gotta remember that one...
For the couldn't get it up guy: How close are you with this girl on an emotional level?
NaughtyCalibur
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Don't sweat it, whitehawk. I went through the same bullshit my first time as well. The odd thing about it was that prior to having sex, I was getting head from this girl for at least a month and never had an issue getting it up/getting off. Then when it came to sex -- nothing. That alone should tell you that it was completely psychosomatic.
After that I didn't have this problem again until recently with this girl I just started seeing, and this time it is worse than ever. First night we had sex took about 4 hours of me stroking myself on and off while watching this TV show "Misfits." I eventually got so frustrated that I ended up going to the other side of the room and jerked it to porn until I was finally rock hard, then came back and fucked her brains out. Lucky for me she's a cool chick and this wasn't awkward in the slightest. :lol
The second time wasn't as bad in terms of getting hard, but I couldn't get off for the life of me so I eventually just gave up and passed out in a puddle of my own sweat. Then she has the nerve to say to me, "well, I got off." Lol, good for you.
I think I just have a lot of stress right now and various other things on my mind that are keeping me from optimum performance. Hell, even masturbation is hit or miss for me sometimes right now -- my mind just wanders... :/
Ultimately, I'd say do whatever you feel you have to do to get over the first hurdle. If that means making sure you're rock hard before she enters the room by looking at porn, so be it. If it means going a week without jerking it, so be it. But I'm pretty confident that after the first time you'll be good to go as long as you're not stressing over other shit.
After that I didn't have this problem again until recently with this girl I just started seeing, and this time it is worse than ever. First night we had sex took about 4 hours of me stroking myself on and off while watching this TV show "Misfits." I eventually got so frustrated that I ended up going to the other side of the room and jerked it to porn until I was finally rock hard, then came back and fucked her brains out. Lucky for me she's a cool chick and this wasn't awkward in the slightest. :lol
The second time wasn't as bad in terms of getting hard, but I couldn't get off for the life of me so I eventually just gave up and passed out in a puddle of my own sweat. Then she has the nerve to say to me, "well, I got off." Lol, good for you.
I think I just have a lot of stress right now and various other things on my mind that are keeping me from optimum performance. Hell, even masturbation is hit or miss for me sometimes right now -- my mind just wanders... :/
Ultimately, I'd say do whatever you feel you have to do to get over the first hurdle. If that means making sure you're rock hard before she enters the room by looking at porn, so be it. If it means going a week without jerking it, so be it. But I'm pretty confident that after the first time you'll be good to go as long as you're not stressing over other shit.
twilitesparklemotion
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Hey GAF, speaking of people you won't date, I kind of have a crush on this adorable girl in my class who is a very religious creationist. I'm an atheist--not the I-don't-care kind of atheist, the religion-is-bad kind. Tell me not to go for it because I'm considering it.
Jamesfrom818
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She is either a prude or a major cum guzzler. Be careful.doogles said:
NaughtyCalibur
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^Bingo. You seem to already be at peace with the fact that a relationship with her won't work out, so just sex her and move on. Seems like a no brainer.
I'm been mailing with this nice lady and she seems very interested. I suggested we do something this weekend but she said she's receiving a visitor(a girlfriend is coming to visit from abroad) from out of town and that she's available for a date next week and that i should come up with something so she can get used to the idea before our date.
She wanted to know more about me through mail, things like how i look at life, whether i have lots of friends or acquaintances, do i enjoy being alone or do i see my friends all the time etc etc.
She really seems sincere because its been long e-mails between us and we just started mailing this Sunday.
so far so good
she lives about 12 minutes away from me
:lol :lol
She wanted to know more about me through mail, things like how i look at life, whether i have lots of friends or acquaintances, do i enjoy being alone or do i see my friends all the time etc etc.
She really seems sincere because its been long e-mails between us and we just started mailing this Sunday.
so far so good
she lives about 12 minutes away from me
Has anyone seen Russel? How is he doing
:lol :lol
DualShadow
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Norwegian Wood said:I'm been mailing with this nice lady and she seems very interested. I suggested we do something this weekend but she said she's receiving a visitor(a girlfriend is coming to visit from abroad) from out of town and that she's available for a date next week and that i should come up with something so she can get used to the idea before our date.
She wanted to know more about me through mail, things like how i look at life, whether i have lots of friends or acquaintances, do i enjoy being alone or do i see my friends all the time etc etc.
She really seems sincere because its been long e-mails between us and we just started mailing this Sunday.
so far so good
she lives about 12 minutes away from me
Has anyone seen Russel? How is he doing
:lol :lol
Huh? Get used to the idea of a date?
Hydranockz
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Very apt choice of wordsNaughtyCalibur said:
Oh fuck what a party. :lol :lol Went out with the girl and some friends. I randomly met with some other girl friends of mine and started dancing away with them, then I slowly realized the girl I was supposed to be going out was watching from afar with this little look of excitement in her face. I stopped dancing with the other girls and went towards her and grabbed her to dance. Oh man... I've never danced as I did there :lol It was intense, kinky, etc etc. I ended up pushing her towards the wall where I gave her a very passionate kiss. I then pulled away and looked at her. She was happy. So I slowly walked away from her and she grabbed me back and.... well safe to say that's been the most intense make-out scene of my life while partying.
Some more beers later, food, a quick drive around the seafront, etc. Didn't get to score with her, but that's good I always say. First date and sex? Nah. Safe to say that's been one of the best parties I've been on in a long time. Let's see what Step 2 is.
As I stated before though, I don't want any relationship. Nope. No way. Money and studies come first :lol
EDIT: It was this song, I swear the same exact remix! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-X_QVXGF8pw . That shit pumps beyond imagination :lol
Some more beers later, food, a quick drive around the seafront, etc. Didn't get to score with her, but that's good I always say. First date and sex? Nah. Safe to say that's been one of the best parties I've been on in a long time. Let's see what Step 2 is.
As I stated before though, I don't want any relationship. Nope. No way. Money and studies come first :lol
EDIT: It was this song, I swear the same exact remix! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-X_QVXGF8pw . That shit pumps beyond imagination :lol
Don't worry dude, this is totally normal. I tried maybe 5 times before I could get hard my first time. The good news is that as soon as you manage to do it, it won't happen again.whitehawk said:
And it's not always just your first time, either. When I'm with a new partner sometimes it take a few tries before I can get hard, but once you do it you won't have the problem again. It's all psychological.
Best advice is to really not think about it at all. Don't even think that you're gonna have sex. Just pretend like you're only teasing each other and having foreplay, then let it happen naturally.
"I better go find my friends but I'll see you later on, what's your number?"Yaweee said:
So easy.
Laughing Banana
Weeping Pickle
Experiencing a woman that I'm supposed to marry in just one and a half months away tells me that she is still in love with someone else, and in fact, has sex with him behind me during our relationship...
...it sucks big time.
...it sucks big time.
Mike Works
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Gee, great advice man.projekt84 said:
TheVampire
Banned
Yes!
So after not much luck lately I rewrote my POF profile last night but this time I went for the more honest, genuine, nice guy look (which read a tiny bit corney) and so far Ive had 2 girls contact me
Too bad I google maps'ed them and they were like 2 hours away.......fuck that
But now Im ready to start mass mailing profiles since I think ive perfected mine now.
So after not much luck lately I rewrote my POF profile last night but this time I went for the more honest, genuine, nice guy look (which read a tiny bit corney) and so far Ive had 2 girls contact me
Too bad I google maps'ed them and they were like 2 hours away.......fuck that
But now Im ready to start mass mailing profiles since I think ive perfected mine now.
Qwerty710710
a child left behind
-PXG- said:
You're right I never met the bitch she said her realtionships with her past boyfriends never lasted past 4 months, so that should of raised some red flags right there. Also I have to stop getting crazy over girls so fast.
Talking to this person now, but I've stated a few times my availability and if she wanted to hang out, to let me know. She has said she wanted to, but she wanted me to pick the place or whatever. I know it might sound straight forward to some, but what do some of you think when a girl asks to come to your place, hang out and have drinks? Granted I haven't met this person face to face, but have talked to her casually, and closely, at times for the past five years. Usually off and on through the years until mainly last summer. I've mentioned before about just casually seeing a movie or something regular, but it kind of never went anywhere. She also mentioned this drink she likes and mentioned sleeping on the couch, etc.
Most girls I would be led to believe are just tossing hints "Fuck me", but this one doesn't seem to be that way. She is usually an honest person and not really scared to hold back her feelings, so, it's just hard for me to capture what she wants.
Most girls I would be led to believe are just tossing hints "Fuck me", but this one doesn't seem to be that way. She is usually an honest person and not really scared to hold back her feelings, so, it's just hard for me to capture what she wants.
Hey dudes I've just got a quick one:
I met a girl when I was travelling, and we hooked up a couple of times, it was awesome. We're from different states, and we chatted on facebook a little bit but it's now been a few months without any contact.
My question is, it just so happens that I'm moving to her state, and I wouldn't mind getting in touch with her. Should I go straight for the phone call option, or in this day and age is it better to send a facebook message?
I met a girl when I was travelling, and we hooked up a couple of times, it was awesome. We're from different states, and we chatted on facebook a little bit but it's now been a few months without any contact.
My question is, it just so happens that I'm moving to her state, and I wouldn't mind getting in touch with her. Should I go straight for the phone call option, or in this day and age is it better to send a facebook message?
_Alkaline_
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Laughing Banana said:
Oh dude. That's awful. Hope things turn out ok. Keep your chin up.
Obviously I'm not in a position to give advice since your issue is considerable perilous and is only something that you can figure out.
Get some mates around, play video games, have fun.
Link1110
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With online dating, when should I try qualifying the girl somehow? I'm going on the 4th message volley, and she seems interested; going back to my profile and referring to it and such (also even sending me a second message despite me holding a MASSIVE Idiot Ball on my reply to her before it) . Does messaging her in the first place count as qualification, or should I say something in the next message.
Gonna have to agree with the other guys. If she's talking to you, she's interested in you, and if you make it past a few messages she's willing to go on a date with you. You aren't trying to prove yourself enough to get her number or shit like that after a brief exchange like you would in bar.
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