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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need

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CrushDance said:
And before you guys hate on me, it's not that I don't understand or whatever. But there's this nagging feeling I have still, that maybe she just likes me as a friend or whatever, you know, like a good guy friend or whatever? And what my friend said about her being a flirt bothers me as well, because although she does things like this, sometimes she and I don't even say anything. If I ask her out. It causes major trouble either way, first of all: We work together, it'd be difficult to meld both. Secondly, if she says no, it'll be way difficult to work together smoothly, on top of that. I am kind of fine with her as a friend.

So is it okay if I just want to be friends? To be honest GAF, I'm simply not interested in women right now and am content being by myself. I don't NEED to date her just because she might like me right?

You...are an idiot.

Hand in your penis son. You're done.
 

Rubenov

Member
Shawsie64 said:
:lol Crush.. Do what you want but dont regret your decision.


Got asked out today by a cute persian/german girl :) the chick who friendzoned me asked me out to dance with her and a few friends.. Think it could work to my advantage bringing the german girl with me but only focussing on her? Or go solo with german girl to a nice place for a drink?

Go out with the Persian/German girl and forget about the other one.
 
You're not interested in women, you're fine with her being 'just a friend', yet you posted that huge wall of text and keep thinking about her and what you should do. M-hm.
 

Danj

Member
-PXG- said:
...

Alright.

Fine. You're focused on other shit in your life and don't want to put your job in jeopardy. Thats cool. But when pussy is put on a silver platter and shoved in your face, at least give it taste. Shit. There are dudes in here who have never even kissed a girl or have had any physical contact with the opposite sex. And you...you fucking turn down a girl who may very well, want you to slam your cock into her slippery, wet cunt. Or, be a sweet boyfriend. Either way, you turned down something, potentially kick ass. But nope...no....you don't wanna....Damn man. I hope you don't regret this.

Give GAF her number. We'll do the job for you. :lol

I read this and in my head it was in Seth Rogen's voice :lol

On a more serious note I definitely agree with the sentiments. Crush, you're seriously gonna post in a thread full of guys who are having difficulty getting girls and tell us that an awesome-sounding girl is attracted to you but you're not interested? What kind of messed up shit is that? This is not some sort of Christian fundamentalist relationship game here where you get the highscore by NOT getting with women until after you're married!

Not gonna punch my monitor (since I'm on an expensive laptop at the moment :lol ) but man... this sort of thing really annoys me.
 
Danj said:
I read this and in my head it was in Seth Rogen's voice :lol

On a more serious note I definitely agree with the sentiments. Crush, you're seriously gonna post in a thread full of guys who are having difficulty getting girls and tell us that an awesome-sounding girl is attracted to you but you're not interested? What kind of messed up shit is that? This is not some sort of Christian fundamentalist relationship game here where you get the highscore by NOT getting with women until after you're married!

Not gonna punch my monitor (since I'm on an expensive laptop at the moment :lol ) but man... this sort of thing really annoys me.

I find it hilarious, because you know a few months down the line she's going to friendzone him and start dating some other guy. Of course he's going to post a thread about it in the OT, girls only date jerks and not nice guys, why doesn't she see him as more than just a friend, etc, etc.

I have no sympathy for people who are determined to fail, despite all advice and evidence to do something else.
 

Rubenov

Member
Guys, give Crush a break. The only reason that girl is interested in him is because he never tried to get with her at all, and some women (especially 10s) find that attractive and challenging.

Just wait until he tries to get with her, his inexperience will lead him to fuck it up. It's better to try, however, because at least he will be learning some things.
 
I wonder how many "players" in here have small dicks. Because in my experience, if your love-tool isn't up to standards fucking gets a lot more complicated. I'm an incredibly confident guy in most situations, look good and I know how to make girls interested, but when it comes to actually sealing the deal I usually backoff because I'm tired of that initial look of dissapointment and the feeling that I somehow have to work extra to prove myself in bed. Being confident is cool, but when what defines you sexually is the size of a thumb most of the times I don't think it's worth the hassle. I'd rather jerk off honestly.

What do you think?
 

projekt84

Member
Crescendo170 said:
I wonder how many "players" in here have small dicks. Because in my experience, if your love-tool isn't up to standards fucking gets a lot more complicated. I'm an incredibly confident guy in most situations, look good and I know how to make girls interested, but when it comes to actually sealing the deal I usually backoff because I'm tired of that initial look of dissapointment and the feeling that I somehow have to work extra to prove myself in bed. Being confident is cool, but when what defines you sexually is the size of a thumb most of the times I don't think it's worth the hassle. I'd rather jerk off honestly.

What do you think?

Have some magic fingers. Make her orgasm 2 times before you even stick it in, she'll appreciate you then.
 
Crescendo170 said:
I wonder how many "players" in here have small dicks. Because in my experience, if your love-tool isn't up to standards fucking gets a lot more complicated. I'm an incredibly confident guy in most situations, look good and I know how to make girls interested, but when it comes to actually sealing the deal I usually backoff because I'm tired of that initial look of dissapointment and the feeling that I somehow have to work extra to prove myself in bed. Being confident is cool, but when what defines you sexually is the size of a thumb most of the times I don't think it's worth the hassle. I'd rather jerk off honestly.

What do you think?

Get better at it. If you have a stub, know how to please her. A guy can have a huge cock but if all he does is saw in and out for 2 minutes, then length is not going to impress her.
 
projekt84 said:
Have some magic fingers. Make her orgasm 2 times before you even stick it in, she'll appreciate you then.
Ok Ill go sprinkle some magic dust on them shits.

CrushDance said:
You serious? :/
Yep. I've had some bad experiences in the past that has made me acquire this point of view.

The Shadow said:
Get better at it. If you have a stub, know how to please her. A guy can have a huge cock but if all he does is saw in and out for 2 minutes, then length is not going to impress her.
Sure. I'm just not sure I need/want to fuck enough to bother at this point though. Maybe this will change when I get older and closer to death, but at the moment I'm content with my penis dry.
 
Crescendo170 said:
I wonder how many "players" in here have small dicks. Because in my experience, if your love-tool isn't up to standards fucking gets a lot more complicated. I'm an incredibly confident guy in most situations, look good and I know how to make girls interested, but when it comes to actually sealing the deal I usually backoff because I'm tired of that initial look of dissapointment and the feeling that I somehow have to work extra to prove myself in bed. Being confident is cool, but when what defines you sexually is the size of a thumb most of the times I don't think it's worth the hassle. I'd rather jerk off honestly.

What do you think?


I think a lot of girls out there actually don't get off on penetration, that's what I think. If you are a good kisser, good with your hands and can eat pussy it often doesn't matter how big your dick is as long as you get the girl worked up. I'm pretty average, I used to worry about it but I don't give a fuck anymore. No one gets out of my bed without at least one orgasm. I've got girls telling me I'm perfect, or screaming about how huge I am, telling me I'm hung like a bear. I'm not, not even close. They say that because I'm confident and I get in there and get to work. My goal is to always get her moaning and/or screaming before I even start having sex with her. All you do is start kissing and rubbing, pay close attention to what makes her breathing change, what makes her shudder, what makes her moan and do more of that, repeatedly and with gusto. She'll be out of her mind before she even sees your cock.
 
Crescendo170 said:
I wonder how many "players" in here have small dicks. Because in my experience, if your love-tool isn't up to standards fucking gets a lot more complicated. I'm an incredibly confident guy in most situations, look good and I know how to make girls interested, but when it comes to actually sealing the deal I usually backoff because I'm tired of that initial look of dissapointment and the feeling that I somehow have to work extra to prove myself in bed. Being confident is cool, but when what defines you sexually is the size of a thumb most of the times I don't think it's worth the hassle. I'd rather jerk off honestly.

What do you think?
Umm...you probably shoulda kept that one to yourself.
 
sooperkool said:
Crescendo meet Mike.

For the record I have been rejected, quite recently, by a girl who was a size queen. It was a blow to my ego so I know where he's coming from. You can't let that get you down. I went from being bruised and rejected to bringing a woman to tears of joy in bed, then to a woman who will tell anyone who will listen how huge and awesome I am. Women are all different. You just have to keep getting back up into the box for another swing.
 
CrushDance said:
Wow. You guys really ran with this huh? Well let me break it down.

After I logged off GAF and went to work. I found to my dismay that the guys shift I'd taken was one of filing, I hate filing. Shit takes forever. Well I wasn't that bummed out about it, I got extra hours anyway, but I was a little angry that he'd lied to me about what he was doing today. Anyway Catherine walked by two hours in and I didn't really say anything at first, I didn't know exactly what to say "Hi" didn't seem right. So I jokingly quizzed her about why she was acessing the work server at 4 in the morning. She explained that she'd forgot some work and had stayed up anyway, I said I had stayed up too and then....awkward pause. Eyes averted both ways and I said, cheerfully mind you, "That's cool" and promptly went back to work. She stayed for a bit longer and our eyes met as I snuck a peak Well I thought I'd "tested the waters" enough but was unsure as to what my next step would be. Halfway through my work, she came by again and asked if I wanted anything to drink. This time I bit my tongue and quickly said "Just" a cup of water. And then my stupid ass friend in the next cubicle "I want a heart on mine too!" Jesus Christ. I gave him the stare of death and she just looked away right away and didn't say anything. I started panicking because his comment screamed "I'm insecure" and it made me worry that she might look down on me.

Well she got me the water but this time there was nothing on it. I checked. Me and my friend didn't talk for about an hour, I was beyond pissed. Eventually I opened up and told him that was a stupid thing to say, because the only way anyone would have known about the previous incident would be if I told. I didn't want her thinking I gossiped about her...er.....right...I was pretty sure I'd fucked up badly, and for some reason, I "cared" I started trying to catch her gaze and whatnot, but she wasn't being receptive. One time she just gave me this weak smile(I've seen that smile before) You know, the "You've fucked up" one that girls give? Aggravated I tried not thinking about what SHE was thinking, but it just got to me and I started making mistakes and dropping things around me. Then about thirty minutes later, she came back around wearing her suit jacket, heading for the door. Fuck, I wanted to say something, she didn't even say goodbye. I turned to me friend and just shook my head. He then went on to tell me that she was a tease anyway and that apparently(I wouldn't know since I'm still relatively new) she does this all the time. I asked him for an example and he couldn't give one. I just slumped over and tried working.

Then she came back. o_O I thought she forgot something and didn't even look at her as she approached and pretended to be busy "This is for you Crush, I made it myself", "Huh?" I looked up at this monstrosity of a milkshake covered in cream with cherry's on top :lol :lol I was at a loss for words. "Wow, thank you!" was all I could say, she placed it down and quickly exited before I could say goodbye.

And on the cup, on the side this time, where I couldn't miss it. A stylized(She likes to draw manga characters apparently)"Crush+Catherine" with a giant heart around it. I didn't even drink the milkshake :lol I mean, it couldn't be more blatant than that.

So there it is. It just seems a bit too much though. And before you guys hate on me, it's not that I don't understand or whatever. But there's this nagging feeling I have still, that maybe she just likes me as a friend or whatever, you know, like a good guy friend or whatever? And what my friend said about her being a flirt bothers me as well, because although she does things like this, sometimes she and I don't even say anything. If I ask her out. It causes major trouble either way, first of all: We work together, it'd be difficult to meld both. Secondly, if she says no, it'll be way difficult to work together smoothly, on top of that. I am kind of fine with her as a friend.

So is it okay if I just want to be friends? To be honest GAF, I'm simply not interested in women right now and am content being by myself. I don't NEED to date her just because she might like me right?
Crush, it's clear this chick hates you and wants you to die. Stay far far away from her man, it's a trap!!!!!!
 
God, bdizzle, did you really need to quote that monstrosity again? Fuck, I read through the whole thing again and shaking my head doesn't work anymore, sighing doesn't work anymore, face palming doesn't work anymore, there's just so much fail. So much. I wonder if he even reads what he writes.
 

Danj

Member
CrushDance said:
Of course I do man. It's rather difficult for someone to have always tried and failed and then have someone like her basically fall in your lap. It's just, shocking? That's why I FEEL so wary, it seems to good to be true.

I think the mistake here is the assumption. Don't assume it's too good to be true, don't assume it can't work out or whatever negative thing it is you're thinking. Actually go for it and try it and find out.
 

vitaminwateryum

corporate swill
bdizzle said:
Crush, it's clear this chick hates you and wants you to die. Stay far far away from her man, it's a trap!!!!!!


Holy shit.

Last post I made was from my phone, and I didn't see that post. I actually feel sorry for that girl.
 
Crush, go with it or turn in your testicles. You're making a shitload of excuses, but here's the reality of what will happen.

You'll hang out with her.
You'll play video games and do other nerdy things.
You'll kiss her.
You'll touch a boob.
Maybe you'll have a sleepover.
Maybe you'll get your heart broken, maybe you won't.
Eventually one or both of you will move on and you won't be working that job together so it doesn't matter either way in the long run.

Is that all really so terrible?
 
MikeOfTheLivingDead said:
I think a lot of girls out there actually don't get off on penetration, that's what I think. If you are a good kisser, good with your hands and can eat pussy it often doesn't matter how big your dick is as long as you get the girl worked up. I'm pretty average, I used to worry about it but I don't give a fuck anymore. No one gets out of my bed without at least one orgasm. I've got girls telling me I'm perfect, or screaming about how huge I am, telling me I'm hung like a bear. I'm not, not even close. They say that because I'm confident and I get in there and get to work. My goal is to always get her moaning and/or screaming before I even start having sex with her. All you do is start kissing and rubbing, pay close attention to what makes her breathing change, what makes her shudder, what makes her moan and do more of that, repeatedly and with gusto. She'll be out of her mind before she even sees your cock.
Yeah, you are probably right. Like you said below however, being subjected to ridicule on this subject can be devastating, especially concidering I don't have your resumé of "successful" fucks to lean back on. :p
I'm thinking on getting some counseling on the subject though, because even if I'm quite happy with my life atm, I can't go around my whole life being afraid of having sex. It's not healthy.

bdizzle said:
Umm...you probably shoulda kept that one to yourself.
Why? I thought sharing of experiences and seeking advice was the point of this thread?
 
Okay so I have a question. How do I find out if a girl is a lesbian without asking her point blank "Are you a lesbian?"

I'm really starting to fall for this girl, but she might be a lesbian. Unfortunately we are both home for Christmas now so I'll have to wait till next month to delve further into finding out if she's a lesbian. Here's what makes me think she may be a lesbian.

1. Her facebook has hundreds of photos, but in just about all of them, they are all with other girls. No boys other than her dad in pictures.

2. She loves sports. Like REALLY loves sports. Her perfect day would be going to an NBA game to see her favorite team play. she mostly uses her iPhone's internet for her ESPN scoreboard application.

3. This one girl she's living with she has known since highschool and they have been living together in college for 3 years. She took her overseas to visit family with her. And they seem to always be around eachother.

4. All of her other friends are really into sports just as much if not more than she is. mens sports, womens sports you name it! I just have never been in contact with these types of women before I started hanging out with her! It just seems...too good to be true being the sports fan I am. And let me clarify, these are attractive girls...and I don't know if "butch" is an offensive term but these girls are not butch at all.

So next month I want to surprise her with tickets to an NBA game to watch her favorite team play. It would be our first date even though we have been to other college sporting events together but her girl friends have always been there too so it has never been 1 on 1. Only thing is of course I don't want to go on a 1 on 1 date with a lesbian I have no chance with because I'm a guy! And decent tickets for an NBA game are expensive! Not to sound cheap but I don't want to blow ~$200 on a date with a girl I have a 0% chance with.
 
There's so much more to sex than penetration. The big dick theory is way overstated. Obviously I can't speak on behalf of women, because I'm not one, but my experience is that finger/oral stimulation and all the other small but important things add up to a lot more than how big your cock is.

Some girls will place emphasis on it, that's just how it is. But there's no need to feel ashamed. It's a bonus, not the main prize. That my good friend is your own ability to make your woman feel loved.
 

Dice

Pokémon Parentage Conspiracy Theorist
Something many guys tend to be clueless about:

Don't speak badly about other girls. (or anyone, but especially girls)

Why? Whatever you say about other girls triggers as a thought in her head that you might possibly think about her the same way. If you are critical of other girls, you could be secretly criticizing her. If your attitude toward them is superficial, your intentions with her are probably superficial.

On the flipside, if you are actually positive about others, speak about them as if they are worthwhile people, and focus on their personalities and strengths, she will probably think that this is the way you view and value her. And you want it to be that way because that is how it truly is, right?

Yeah, actually having class goes a long way.
 

GiJoccin

Member
perfectchaos007 said:
Okay so I have a question. How do I find out if a girl is a lesbian without asking her point blank "Are you a lesbian?"

NBA game is kinda big for a "surprise first date"... why not ask her out on a DATE before then, then make the second date the NBA game if it goes well. if you say the word date and are clear what your intentions are, she'll either say yes, or no, and if she's lesbian it'll probably be no :D
 
GiJoccin said:
NBA game is kinda big for a "surprise first date"... why not ask her out on a DATE before then, then make the second date the NBA game if it goes well. if you say the word date and are clear what your intentions are, she'll either say yes, or no, and if she's lesbian it'll probably be no :D

I plan to invite her for coffee after school is about to resume so we can talk about how our Christmas vacation went and whatnot and during that time I'll ask her about the game. I don't want to use the word date because you're right, that is quite a big first date and it may shock her. Hopefully I can get the balls to ask her out to dinner first so the game could be a second date.
 
Crescendo170 said:
Why? I thought sharing of experiences and seeking advice was the point of this thread?

His response is in keeping with what I've seen of his personality. Dude thrives on the superficial mindset. "Keeping it real" as they say does not seem to be his strong suit. But hey I don't know the guy, I just call em like I see em. I think you were good to post what you did.

Unfortunately I can't entirely relate, but listen to MikeOfTheLivingDead. Technique will always be king as far as I can tell. Especially the "have her going crazy before you even put it in" part.

Another thing is if you can get something really meaningful going on with a girl, you know, the kind of relationship built on a deep sense of trust and compassion and all that shit, then you have a girl who doesn't just want you for your dick. That does a lot, and haters can say what they want but this is how I prefer it. Plus you get to refine your technique specifically for her, and that's awesome.

Goddamnit why do I post in this fucking thread? So fucking terrible and it drags me right down with it. :(
 

Mr.City

Member
Crescendo170 said:
I wonder how many "players" in here have small dicks. Because in my experience, if your love-tool isn't up to standards fucking gets a lot more complicated. I'm an incredibly confident guy in most situations, look good and I know how to make girls interested, but when it comes to actually sealing the deal I usually backoff because I'm tired of that initial look of dissapointment and the feeling that I somehow have to work extra to prove myself in bed. Being confident is cool, but when what defines you sexually is the size of a thumb most of the times I don't think it's worth the hassle. I'd rather jerk off honestly.

What do you think?

You need to unfuck your head. Sex is a wonderful thing. The panting, the moaning, the sounds, flesh on flesh contact, the release; how can you say no to that? There are plenty of options out there in sex literature for a wee lad.
 

-PXG-

Member
Norwegian Wood said:
WTF, i didn't mention anything about her being big :lol
:lol I know


EzLink said:
There are so many things wrong with this line of thinking I don't even know where to begin

First let me start off by saying I TOTALLY understand the feeling of "not being good enough". I was a fatass myself, and even after shedding 45 lbs I'm still a chubby motherfucker that needs to lose at least 25 more. It bothers me, and my physical self image is perpetually fucked. But guess what? Most of the time, I'm able to not act on those self-defeating thoughts. One of the best pieces advice I gleaned from the previous thread was something along the lines of "never reject yourself before a girl has the chance to do it first". Basically, let HER make the decision on whether or not you are good enough for her. Don't make it for her. Sure, all ladies would love it if every guy they dated and fucked had rock hard abs and a perfect body. But many girls accept the reality that we don't live in an idealized world where we get everything that we want in exactly the way we want it. There are far more important qualities in a human being than their weight and whether or not they have a driver's license

Secondly, DON'T ASK HER OUT OVER FACEBOOK. Jesus man. You see her at work on a regular basis. If you don't have the balls to ask her out to her face, after she has intentionally gone out of her way to brutally murder any art of subtlety left with her intentions, how are you going to have the balls to kiss her? Or to even be able to provide her with an evening of fun? Get all of your bullshit "I'm not good enough" thoughts out of your head. You clearly ARE good enough for her. That poor fucking girl. What the hell else do you want her to do? What could she possibly do differently to make you act on this? You are getting what seems to be an amazing opportunity with literally ZERO EFFORT required on your part. Do you know how hard some of us are working in this thread? How complicated and difficult it is to improve in so many areas just so we can possibly have a chance at finding a girl? And what are you doing? You aren't doing a single goddam thing, and out of nowhere the universe gives you a perfect ten. And your excuse for not doing anything with it is "WELL I AM OVERWEIGHT AND CANT DRIVE SO I GUESS I SHOULD TAKE IT SLOW". Fuck that shit man

And this quote: "No. If she likes me, REALLY likes me. She'll stay." Fuck. I could write an entire thesis paper on how ludicrous this line of thinking is.

No. She won't. Unless she is an emotionally unstable pre-teen middleschooler she will go and find a real man to plow her vag. She is basically BEGGING you to be that guy for her, but if you pussy out and refuse she isn't going to wallow in self despair for years pining over all of your splendor and glory. She will move the fuck on

Now get to fucking work son. Don't come back here and disappoint us again!

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God damn, such a great fucking post. Every single word of it is pure, undistputed truth. I'm quoting this shit because it deserves to be quoted. Wow.

Good stuff Ez. Crush, you better fucking read this, if you haven't already.

EDIT

God damnit. My ex posted a new profile pic on FB. She looks fucking gorgeous. God damn I loved being with her. Sweet girl, a lot of fun and a great piece of ass. Shit.
 

Aesius

Member
-PXG- said:
God damnit. My ex posted a new profile pic on FB. She looks fucking gorgeous. God damn I loved being with her. Sweet girl, a lot of fun and a great piece of ass. Shit.

It happens. You'll get over it.

You should probably delete her from your FB, btw.
 

-PXG-

Member
doogles said:
I'll slap you if you need it.

Nah I'm good now. Thanks :lol

You know, I realized something. There are three kinds of women in the world:

Those who are made of stone, those who are made of sand and those who are made of glass.

The ones made of stone are stubborn, willful and difficult to understand. They are both figuratively and literally, hard to penetrate. They put up barriers, and make it hard for others to get close to them. At times, they can be shy. But generally, they know what the want, and most of the time, want to be left alone and be allowed to do their own thing. They are very stoic, intelligent and very straight forward. Attempting to break them down, or force them open, is only going to make them harder, and wear you out. Some stones are meant to be worn down over time. Attempting to cut a perfect diamond quickly will yield undesirable, or even nasty, results.

The ones made of sand are naive, mischievous and indecisive. They are also spontaneous and can be quite a lot of fun. They are constantly changing their minds and can't really figure out what they want. They constantly play games and fuck with other people. They're hypocrites and constantly contradict themselves. They'll say one thing, yet do another. They can be unpredictable and quite handful if you're not careful. They are also liars, cheats and can be deceptive. You never know what they're going to do or how they're going to react in a given situation. Just like a sand storm, they can blind and disorient you. So proceed with caution.

Lastly, the ones who are made of glass are opposite to those made of stone. They are gentle, loyal and overall, relatively tranquil. They don't lock up and don't play games. They're are very open, honest and easy to read. Like glass, they are clear and transparent. However, to their detriment, they are, at times, overly passive and too trusting. They are the hopeless romantics who fall in love too easily. Additionally, if you fall in love with them, and when things don't work out, you end up getting cut. Basically, like glass, if you don't handle it the right well, you will end up hurting yourself.
 

Danielsan

Member
-PXG- said:
Nah I'm good now. Thanks :lol

You know, I realized something. There are three kinds of women in the world:

Those who are made of stone, those who are made of sand and those who are made of glass.

The ones made of stone are stubborn, willful and difficult to understand. They are both figuratively and literally, hard to penetrate. They put up barriers, and make it hard for others to get close to them. At times, they can be shy. But generally, they know what the want, and most of the time, want to be left alone and be allowed to do their own thing. Attempting to break them down, or force them open, is only going to make them harder, and wear you out. Some stones are meant to be worn down over time. Attempting to cut a perfect diamond quickly will yield undesirable, or even nasty, results.

The ones made of sand are naive, mischievous and indecisive. They are also spontaneous and can be quite a lot of fun. They are constantly changing their minds and can't really figure out what they want. They constantly play games and fuck with other people. They're hypocrites and constantly contradict themselves. They'll say one thing, yet do another. They can be unpredictable and quite handful if you're not careful. They are also liars, cheats and can be deceptive. You never know what they're going to do or how they're going to react in a given situation. Just like a sand storm, they can blind and disorient you. So proceed with caution.

Lastly, the ones who are made of glass are opposite to those made of stone. They are gentle, loyal and overall, relatively tranquil. They don't lock up and don't play games. They're are very open, honest and easy to read. Like glass, they are clear and transparent. However, to their detriment, they are, at times, overly passive and too trusting. They are the hopeless romantics who fall in love too easily. Additionally, if you fall in love with them, and when things don't work out, you end up getting cut. Basically, like glass, if you don't handle it the right well, you will end up hurting yourself.
I really like these analogies. The girl I dated before was made of glass and was everything I could hope for, but things didn't work out and she cut me good. I have a date with one "made of sand" on Wednesday. Can't quite place her yet, but at least I know I won't get cut like before. :lol
 

whitehawk

Banned
CrushDance said:
What the fuck? What part of her being cute all of the sudden requires that I go out with her? Do I want a girlfriend right NOW? Not really. Why should i push myself into something that I may not be into at all? Oh right, she likes games and anime, automatic win! I understand what you guys are saying, but it's a bit insulting for you guys to say I should jump in without actually feeling the same way for HER.

Edit: This is what I want. I want to befriend her and become close, take some time and get to know her more and actually DEVELOP feelings for her. If she likes me, she'll hang around too and hell, we might even work it out somehow.
I feel like you're just making excuses for yourself. You do want to date her, but you are scared of having a relationship and you are self-conscious. So instead of admitting it you say "...It's just that I don't want a relationship right now, that's it". There is a reason you have typed up two long posts about this girl, you are interested in her.

EDIT: Ahha, see? I was right. I posted that before I even read this post, which is exactly what I'm talking about.

CrushDance said:
Okay listen. I know I've said this before, but I'll say it again. To be honest, I would like to ask her out...I do like her too. But, and I know it sounds silly...I don't think I'm good enough yet. Yes, yes, I said the same damn thing last year in this thread, but I did very well since then. I lost a lot of weight(46 pounds), became more outgoing and so forth. But I'm still...chubby and I gorged after that last girl turned me down. I was doing so well and then I became depressed and gained back 12 pounds. I still haven't got my license yet either...She does have a car though.(Deja vu...) But it's not "manly"...

Fuck. Okay, I'll ask her out next time we work or chat on FB. Maybe a movie or dinner. No rush, no pressure...*Sigh* Maybe some LittleBigPlanet :p I need to stop thinking about how bad I am and just try, I guess. But I won't be rushing into touching/kissing whatever, just slowly.
 
Hey Gaf, so I pretty much got rejected for the first time in my life. And it doesn't feel too bad.

Basically there was a girl in my college class who I thought showed definite signs of interest. We had good conversations, smiling at each other, etc.

It was strange though I saw her after class and casually said "Hey name, whats up, how about that song today in class jeez lol". (We listened to racist/hate music today that was pretty vulgar :lol ) She didn't even respond and just kept walking next to me. I was pretty thrown of guard. I thought to myself, "Fuck it w/e Ill just take my chance". I go , in a pretty confident voice,"Hey Name, I know its finals week and your probably busy with finals, but do you wan't to grab coffee sometime ? She smiles and says, "Oh well im really busy with this paper I have to finish today so I cant go today, but yeah im really busy,busy etc" I kind of just said "Oh alright" and we went our separate ways.

Surprisingly, as I walked away I wasn't too angry. All my previous fear of rejection finally seemed ridiculous. Maybe its because I haven't reflected on it yet, which I know I shouldn't do. Oh well, progress on the journey to a gf, I suppose. :lol
 

Aesius

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lifeinthefridge said:
Hey Gaf, so I pretty much got rejected for the first time in my life. And it doesn't feel too bad.

Basically there was a girl in my college class who I thought showed definite signs of interest. We had good conversations, smiling at each other, etc.

It was strange though I saw her after class and casually said "Hey name, whats up, how about that song today in class jeez lol". (We listened to racist/hate music today that was pretty vulgar :lol ) She didn't even respond and just kept walking next to me. I was pretty thrown of guard. I thought to myself, "Fuck it w/e Ill just take my chance". I go , in a pretty confident voice,"Hey Name, I know its finals week and your probably busy with finals, but do you wan't to grab coffee sometime ? She smiles and says, "Oh well im really busy with this paper I have to finish today so I cant go today, but yeah im really busy,busy etc" I kind of just said "Oh alright" and we went our separate ways.

Surprisingly, as I walked away I wasn't too angry. All my previous fear of rejection finally seemed ridiculous. Maybe its because I haven't reflected on it yet, which I know I shouldn't do. Oh well, progress on the journey to a gf, I suppose. :lol

Now repeat this as many times as necessary until you find yourself having sex with a lady.
 

siddx

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lifeinthefridge said:
Hey Gaf, so I pretty much got rejected for the first time in my life. And it doesn't feel too bad.

Basically there was a girl in my college class who I thought showed definite signs of interest. We had good conversations, smiling at each other, etc.

It was strange though I saw her after class and casually said "Hey name, whats up, how about that song today in class jeez lol". (We listened to racist/hate music today that was pretty vulgar :lol ) She didn't even respond and just kept walking next to me. I was pretty thrown of guard. I thought to myself, "Fuck it w/e Ill just take my chance". I go , in a pretty confident voice,"Hey Name, I know its finals week and your probably busy with finals, but do you wan't to grab coffee sometime ? She smiles and says, "Oh well im really busy with this paper I have to finish today so I cant go today, but yeah im really busy,busy etc" I kind of just said "Oh alright" and we went our separate ways.

Surprisingly, as I walked away I wasn't too angry. All my previous fear of rejection finally seemed ridiculous. Maybe its because I haven't reflected on it yet, which I know I shouldn't do. Oh well, progress on the journey to a gf, I suppose. :lol

Thats because the guy who doesn't have the balls to ask her out is by far the bigger lame ass than the guy who at least made an effort. So you should feel good about yourself. Also, regardless of the rejection, you stuck your foot in her door. You are on her radar regardless.
 

JB1981

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damn GAF i have been missing my ex hardcore lately. :(

we work at the same company and we are an IM away from each other, so we have stayed in touch since the break-up. We were actually quite friendly for a time (even thought about having sex again) but we moved away from that idea and just stayed friends. She actually helped me through a difficult time coming off of Paxil (i made a thread about it), but last week she morphed into this like completely different person and she now hates my guts. She wants nothing to do with me anymore and is trying to block me at work, even.

i feel like being friendly was a bad idea, i kind of caught a little bit of feelings for her again. A little background: before we split her and I moved into an apartment together andi agreed to continue to pay for my share of the rent while i lived at home with mom to save. So when the rent was due she would come to my house and we would chat in her car. She brought her new dog over to show me, we would take walks and we would laugh and share stories. We would also had times where we would fight, though. And two weekends ago she calls me in a drunk stupor begging me to come pick her up from some party at 2 am. She is crying on the phone saying "I need you to get me ... please come pick me up .. please" - like pleading with me. I told her that I didn't feel well and I wasn't coming to get her. I was also REALLY annoyed with her because she has a bit of a drinking problem and she should NOT be out drinking and getting herself stranded at a party. HER GODDAMN KID IS HOME! She is a mother! What is wrong with her?! And what is wrong with me for falling in love with this person? Why can't I get over this person and feel GOOD about not having her in my life anymore? Any sane person looking at this girl from the outside would see very little to desire but I still find myself getting sad about not having her around and being able to talk to her. I must have incredibly low self esteem for being so hung up on this person.

Give me some hard love, GAF. I need it!
 
JB1981 said:
damn GAF i have been missing my ex hardcore lately. :(

we work at the same company and we are an IM away from each other, so we have stayed in touch since the break-up. We were actually quite friendly for a time (even thought about having sex again) but we moved away from that idea and just stayed friends. She actually helped me through a difficult time coming off of Paxil (i made a thread about it), but last week she morphed into this like completely different person and she now hates my guts. She wants nothing to do with me anymore and is trying to block me at work, even.

i feel like being friendly was a bad idea, i kind of caught a little bit of feelings for her again. A little background: before we split her and I moved into an apartment together andi agreed to continue to pay for my share of the rent while i lived at home with mom to save. So when the rent was due she would come to my house and we would chat in her car. She brought her new dog over to show me, we would take walks and we would laugh and share stories. We would also had times where we would fight, though. And two weekends ago she calls me in a drunk stupor begging me to come pick her up from some party at 2 am. She is crying on the phone saying "I need you to get me ... please come pick me up .. please" - like pleading with me. I told her that I didn't feel well and I wasn't coming to get her. I was also REALLY annoyed with her because she has a bit of a drinking problem and she should NOT be out drinking and getting herself stranded at a party. HER GODDAMN KID IS HOME! She is a mother! What is wrong with her?! And what is wrong with me for falling in love with this person? Why can't I get over this person and feel GOOD about not having her in my life anymore? Any sane person looking at this girl from the outside would see very little to desire but I still find myself getting sad about not having her around and being able to talk to her. I must have incredibly low self esteem for being so hung up on this person.

Give me some hard love, GAF. I need it!

basically you 2 have been maintaining a relationship even though you've had a break-up. You need to end it and since she's mad this is a good time to do so. The reality is this situation will stay the way it is in some sort of a pseudo-relationship right up until she finds a new man but until then she will continue to rely on you. don't fall for this cut her off plainly and firmly.
 

Parts

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lifeinthefridge said:
Hey Gaf, so I pretty much got rejected for the first time in my life. And it doesn't feel too bad.

Basically there was a girl in my college class who I thought showed definite signs of interest. We had good conversations, smiling at each other, etc.

It was strange though I saw her after class and casually said "Hey name, whats up, how about that song today in class jeez lol". (We listened to racist/hate music today that was pretty vulgar :lol ) She didn't even respond and just kept walking next to me. I was pretty thrown of guard. I thought to myself, "Fuck it w/e Ill just take my chance". I go , in a pretty confident voice,"Hey Name, I know its finals week and your probably busy with finals, but do you wan't to grab coffee sometime ? She smiles and says, "Oh well im really busy with this paper I have to finish today so I cant go today, but yeah im really busy,busy etc" I kind of just said "Oh alright" and we went our separate ways.

Surprisingly, as I walked away I wasn't too angry. All my previous fear of rejection finally seemed ridiculous. Maybe its because I haven't reflected on it yet, which I know I shouldn't do. Oh well, progress on the journey to a gf, I suppose. :lol
Awesome job dude. :D
 

Aesius

Member
I think the girl I met at the bar the other night is already blowing me off.

I texted her last night for the first time, and the conversation was short but semi-flirtatious. Today I texted her "what's up?", and she took 15 minutes to respond with "just working".

I really don't know what to say to that. I'm usually good with text flirting, but I know fuck all about this girl. Plus such a closed response seems to indicate disinterest.

Should I just go in for the kill and ask if she wants to get a drink? No sense wasting time with the text message BS if she's not even interested, right?
 
No offense, but why would you try to have text convo's with someone you just met at a bar? Seems pointless since you don't know each other very well and getting to know someone via text is... Yea, why? She gave you her number so use it properly.
Should I just go in for the kill and ask if she wants to get a drink? No sense wasting time with the text message BS if she's not even interested, right?
Seems like you know what to do. Good luck.
 

keuja

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That Catherine girl seems awesome. a 10/10 redhead, who plays video games, read mangas (Gantz!), goes out of her way to make the first step and even does it cutely with the drawn heart stuff?
If you like her, go for it man, give it a chance at least, you don't find this kind of girl around every corner. Even if it doesn't work out, better to have remorse for something you've done than regret never asking her out.
 

Dragon

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For people who are frustrated with dating, always keep in mind there is always going to be another girl/guy around the corner that is incredibly interesting, attractive and into you as long as you remain hopeful, inquisitive and put yourself in the right situation. I know I've been incredibly frustrated with dating, the introduction, convincing them that hey I'm worth their time, and then the inevitable miscommunication/break up over some silly reason or another. I just wanted to say that you can't give up and when you have the opportunity you should go for it. No regrets (
CRUSHDANCEEEEEEEEEE
).

I had a crush on my next door neighbor for YEARS (mas o menos 4) and never did shit about it until it was too late. I regret it ever since, don't regret gaf.

Anyway I'm feeling good today and there's no explicable reason why but there it is! :lol
 
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