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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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CrushDance said:Wow. You guys really ran with this huh? Well let me break it down.
After I logged off GAF and went to work. I found to my dismay that the guys shift I'd taken was one of filing, I hate filing. Shit takes forever. Well I wasn't that bummed out about it, I got extra hours anyway, but I was a little angry that he'd lied to me about what he was doing today. Anyway Catherine walked by two hours in and I didn't really say anything at first, I didn't know exactly what to say "Hi" didn't seem right. So I jokingly quizzed her about why she was acessing the work server at 4 in the morning. She explained that she'd forgot some work and had stayed up anyway, I said I had stayed up too and then....awkward pause. Eyes averted both ways and I said, cheerfully mind you, "That's cool" and promptly went back to work. She stayed for a bit longer and our eyes met as I snuck a peak Well I thought I'd "tested the waters" enough but was unsure as to what my next step would be. Halfway through my work, she came by again and asked if I wanted anything to drink. This time I bit my tongue and quickly said "Just" a cup of water. And then my stupid ass friend in the next cubicle "I want a heart on mine too!" Jesus Christ. I gave him the stare of death and she just looked away right away and didn't say anything. I started panicking because his comment screamed "I'm insecure" and it made me worry that she might look down on me.
Well she got me the water but this time there was nothing on it. I checked. Me and my friend didn't talk for about an hour, I was beyond pissed. Eventually I opened up and told him that was a stupid thing to say, because the only way anyone would have known about the previous incident would be if I told. I didn't want her thinking I gossiped about her...er.....right...I was pretty sure I'd fucked up badly, and for some reason, I "cared" I started trying to catch her gaze and whatnot, but she wasn't being receptive. One time she just gave me this weak smile(I've seen that smile before) You know, the "You've fucked up" one that girls give? Aggravated I tried not thinking about what SHE was thinking, but it just got to me and I started making mistakes and dropping things around me. Then about thirty minutes later, she came back around wearing her suit jacket, heading for the door. Fuck, I wanted to say something, she didn't even say goodbye. I turned to me friend and just shook my head. He then went on to tell me that she was a tease anyway and that apparently(I wouldn't know since I'm still relatively new) she does this all the time. I asked him for an example and he couldn't give one. I just slumped over and tried working.
Then she came back.I thought she forgot something and didn't even look at her as she approached and pretended to be busy "This is for you Crush, I made it myself", "Huh?" I looked up at this monstrosity of a milkshake covered in cream with cherry's on top :lol :lol I was at a loss for words. "Wow, thank you!" was all I could say, she placed it down and quickly exited before I could say goodbye.
And on the cup, on the side this time, where I couldn't miss it. A stylized(She likes to draw manga characters apparently)"Crush+Catherine" with a giant heart around it. I didn't even drink the milkshake :lol I mean, it couldn't be more blatant than that.
So there it is. It just seems a bit too much though. And before you guys hate on me, it's not that I don't understand or whatever. But there's this nagging feeling I have still, that maybe she just likes me as a friend or whatever, you know, like a good guy friend or whatever? And what my friend said about her being a flirt bothers me as well, because although she does things like this, sometimes she and I don't even say anything. If I ask her out. It causes major trouble either way, first of all: We work together, it'd be difficult to meld both. Secondly, if she says no, it'll be way difficult to work together smoothly, on top of that. I am kind of fine with her as a friend.
So is it okay if I just want to be friends? To be honest GAF, I'm simply not interested in women right now and am content being by myself. I don't NEED to date her just because she might like me right?
Kind of tired and drunk. Trying to compute response.....I'll get back to you at some point...
CrushDance
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CrushDance said:
Do you want to go out with her or not? If you do, ask her out. See where things go. If it doesn't work out, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
And, really, if things are clicking and whatever, there's a mutual attraction, then you're not "forcing" yourself into a relationship.
Ether_Snake
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CrushDance said:
God damnit fuck!
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
is all I have to say about you.
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Alright.
Fine. You're focused on other shit in your life and don't want to put your job in jeopardy. Thats cool. But when pussy is put on a silver platter and shoved in your face, at least give it taste. Shit. There are dudes in here who have never even kissed a girl or have had any physical contact with the opposite sex. And you...you fucking turn down a girl who may very well, want you to slam your cock into her slippery, wet cunt. Or, be a sweet boyfriend. Either way, you turned down something, potentially kick ass. But nope...no....you don't wanna....Damn man. I hope you don't regret this.
Give GAF her number. We'll do the job for you. :lol
Alright.
Fine. You're focused on other shit in your life and don't want to put your job in jeopardy. Thats cool. But when pussy is put on a silver platter and shoved in your face, at least give it taste. Shit. There are dudes in here who have never even kissed a girl or have had any physical contact with the opposite sex. And you...you fucking turn down a girl who may very well, want you to slam your cock into her slippery, wet cunt. Or, be a sweet boyfriend. Either way, you turned down something, potentially kick ass. But nope...no....you don't wanna....Damn man. I hope you don't regret this.
Give GAF her number. We'll do the job for you. :lol
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twilitesparklemotion
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You still haven't learned how to tell a story.CrushDance said:
We're not telling you to jump in, we're telling you to give it a chance. Personally I think she sounds a bit creepy, but maybe she just really likes you.
@ your edit: sounds friend-zone-ish.
CrushDance said:
We're not saying you have to be her boyfriend. But at least hang out with her and have some fun. It's better than staying at home by yourself. Shit. I mean, go out for dinner, have some drinks, watch some anime or play some games. Whatever. Go out and so something exciting with her. Who cares if something comes out of it or not. Hell, you might even get your dick sucked and get pussy. I mean, what sane man would turn ANY of that down? Why turn down a potentially good night out?
You're in a "how do I get girls" thread. You tell us a girl who's a 10/10 and is into all the stuff you're into is basically gift-wrapping her vagina just for you. What do you expect people to say, and what could possibly be going on in your life right now that makes you think you won't regret jumping on this opportunity later on? It doesn't sound like you're exactly burnt out on the whole dating scene, so that can't be the excuse. And who said anything about having to be in a relationship with her anyway?
CrushDance said:
Then, ask her to do something outside of work? It's obvious that she likes you, or has a crush on you. The ball is in your court to make the move and ask if she wants to grab coffee, or hang out and play video games or something. That's the only way to see if it has potential to go anywhere.
Crush, I wish I worked where you did. I'd go up to that girl, talk to her and ask her out on a date. Lickety split. Any of us would. :lol
So yeah, have fun sitting at your desk, with the thoughts of that creepy asshole co-worker of yours, sucking on her tits and fucking the shit out of her. You had your chance at having a good time, making a new friend, and perhaps, betting your dick wet and maybe even having a nice girlfriend. This is just painful...
So yeah, have fun sitting at your desk, with the thoughts of that creepy asshole co-worker of yours, sucking on her tits and fucking the shit out of her. You had your chance at having a good time, making a new friend, and perhaps, betting your dick wet and maybe even having a nice girlfriend. This is just painful...
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CrushDance said:
This isn't the make a friend thread buddy!
You either date her, or get out, cause otherwise you are just trolling.
If bdizzle sees this shit, he will go ape. :lol
Alright, I will stop ragging on you. For real, that's cool that you don't want to risk getting fired over some girl. I can respect that. But come on, man, at least just hang out with her. Who knows. Maybe you might get attracted to her. You might have fun. Or...something else you won't know 'til you try. Just take the chance. Live a little. Have fun. Don't be such a tight ass. Again, we're just bustin' your balls.
you won't know 'til you try. Just take the chance. Live a little. Have fun. Don't be such a tight ass. Again, we're just bustin' your balls.grap3fruitman
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This is what will happen. You'll be friendzone'd, develop feelings for her while forever stuck in the friendzone and come back to this thread months from now asking how to get her to like you. If I'm right you owe me a Pepsi.CrushDance said:
CrushDance
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CrushDance said:Okay listen. I know I've said this before, but I'll say it again. To be honest, I would like to ask her out...I do like her too. But, and I know it sounds silly...I don't think I'm good enough yet. Yes, yes, I said the same damn thing last year in this thread, but I did very well since then. I lost a lot of weight(46 pounds), became more outgoing and so forth. But I'm still...chubby and I gorged after that last girl turned me down. I was doing so well and then I became depressed and gained back 12 pounds. I still haven't got my license yet either...She does have a car though.(Deja vu...) But it's not "manly"...
Fuck. Okay, I'll ask her out next time we work or chat on FB. Maybe a movie or dinner. No rush, no pressure...*Sigh* Maybe some LittleBigPlanet
Never say you aren't good enough, you always are, let them decide that, not yourself. Nike said it best, " Just DO it. "
grap3fruitman
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Noooooooo, don't do that. I haven't had a Pepsi in a while.
CrushDance
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CrushDance said:Okay listen. I know I've said this before, but I'll say it again. To be honest, I would like to ask her out...I do like her too. But, and I know it sounds silly...I don't think I'm good enough yet. Yes, yes, I said the same damn thing last year in this thread, but I did very well since then. I lost a lot of weight(46 pounds), became more outgoing and so forth. But I'm still...chubby and I gorged after that last girl turned me down. I was doing so well and then I became depressed and gained back 12 pounds. I still haven't got my license yet either...She does have a car though.(Deja vu...) But it's not "manly"...
Fuck. Okay, I'll ask her out next time we work or chat on FB. Maybe a movie or dinner. No rush, no pressure...*Sigh* Maybe some LittleBigPlanet
I have pics. But I'm not posting them, that's a huge breach of privacy/trust, considering I barely know her.
No. If she likes me, REALLY likes me. She'll stay.
:lol Oh sweet crush, I really wish this true. But it isn't.
grap3fruitman
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No, no she won't. There's this thing called "moving on." It happens when you make women wait too long for the "right moment." I'm using a lot of "quotation marks" to emphasis "things." Seriously though, I've waited too long far too many times. Just do it and if you get shot down then you wasted a lot less time getting shot down.CrushDance said:
Edit: I wish I could follow my own fucking advice. Seriously, haha.
industrian
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The Shadow said:
I know. But I was teetering on the edge at times. As in, telling her about my time in hospital this year when I was afraid of being alone and dying. I was actually scared about what she felt about me up until we met on Saturday (which was actually my birthday - she organised a trip for both of us) but we had a great time and sealed the deal that night.
But I think in order to get the relationship I had to go into nice guy mode. She's a "traditional" girl and I had to get her to trust me. As in: trust me not to just fuck her for a few weeks and then be all "Well, time to bail out back to Scotland. BTW thanks for the pussy, did me good y'all." The fact I've got a good job over here with good career prospects did wonders I guess. But I'm actually scared of what her parents will think. She's already broken one "tradition" of leaving her parents' house before marriage and I don't know if her dad will be able to handle his daughter hooking up with a gigantic Scottish guy.
I dunno though, I sent her & her family a gift for the Mid-Autumn Festival so maybe they know about me already. Here's hoping they don't object to me.
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The funny thing being that I've never slept with a girl of my own ethnicity. As in: no white Scottish girls. I've been with Australian, English, Japanese and now Taiwanese.
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NaughtyCalibur
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CrushDance said:
You know you've got a problem when you're agonizing over the thought of the break up before even the first date. Seriously?
I'll keep this brief.
When I was 17 and practically a virgin (really bad sex and some dome from really inexperienced girls) I turned down the hottest chick I'd ever seen (think Eva Mendes) for similar reasons as yours.
My advice to you is simply this: Go through life regretting the things that you've done, not the things that you never had the balls to do.
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CrushDance said:
I had a good excuse of waiting a few months to make a move: she lived on the other end of the country. If she had lived within 20 miles of me then I would have been making these posts in September or October. If a woman is interested in you at all then she is waiting for YOU to show an interest. If you don't show that interest in time then she'll move on.
CrushDance said:
Crushdance, you piss me off. You had some situation in the last thread, then disappeared, and now you come back with similar crap and you keep waaaah waaaah-ing about it. Quit thinking so much and go out on a date with her. If you're not feeling it after a while, just tell her. It's really not that big of a deal. NONE OF IT IS A BIG DEAL.
CrushDance said:Okay listen. I know I've said this before, but I'll say it again. To be honest, I would like to ask her out...I do like her too. But, and I know it sounds silly...I don't think I'm good enough yet. Yes, yes, I said the same damn thing last year in this thread, but I did very well since then. I lost a lot of weight(46 pounds), became more outgoing and so forth. But I'm still...chubby and I gorged after that last girl turned me down. I was doing so well and then I became depressed and gained back 12 pounds. I still haven't got my license yet either...She does have a car though.(Deja vu...) But it's not "manly"...
Fuck. Okay, I'll ask her out next time we work or chat on FB. Maybe a movie or dinner. No rush, no pressure...*Sigh* Maybe some LittleBigPlanet
No. If she likes me, REALLY likes me. She'll stay.
There are so many things wrong with this line of thinking I don't even know where to begin
First let me start off by saying I TOTALLY understand the feeling of "not being good enough". I was a fatass myself, and even after shedding 45 lbs I'm still a chubby motherfucker that needs to lose at least 25 more. It bothers me, and my physical self image is perpetually fucked. But guess what? Most of the time, I'm able to not act on those self-defeating thoughts. One of the best pieces advice I gleaned from the previous thread was something along the lines of "never reject yourself before a girl has the chance to do it first". Basically, let HER make the decision on whether or not you are good enough for her. Don't make it for her. Sure, all ladies would love it if every guy they dated had rock hard abs and a perfect body. But many girls accept the reality that we don't live in an idealized world where we get everything that we want in exactly the way we want it. There are far more important qualities in a human being than their weight and whether or not they have a driver's license
Secondly, DON'T ASK HER OUT OVER FACEBOOK. Jesus man. You see her at work on a regular basis. If you don't have the balls to ask her out to her face, after she has intentionally gone out of her way to brutally murder any art of subtlety left with her intentions, how are you going to have the balls to kiss her? Or to even be able to provide her with an evening of fun? Get all of your bullshit "I'm not good enough" thoughts out of your head. You clearly ARE good enough for her. That poor fucking girl. What the hell else do you want her to do? What could she possibly do differently to make you act on this? You are getting what seems to be an amazing opportunity with literally ZERO EFFORT required on your part. Do you know how hard some of us are working in this thread? How complicated and difficult it is to improve in so many areas just so we can possibly have a chance at finding a girl? And what are you doing? You aren't doing a single goddam thing, and out of nowhere the universe gives you a perfect ten. And your excuse for not doing anything with it is "WELL I AM OVERWEIGHT AND CANT DRIVE SO I GUESS I SHOULD TAKE IT SLOW". Fuck that shit man
And this quote: "No. If she likes me, REALLY likes me. She'll stay." Fuck. I could write an entire thesis paper on how ludicrous this line of thinking is.
No. She won't. She is basically BEGGING you to be that guy for her, but if you pussy out and refuse she isn't going to wallow in self despair for years pining over all of your splendor and glory. She will move the fuck on
Now get to fucking work son. Don't come back here and disappoint us again!
I just punched my fucking monitor....arggggggggghhhhhhhh I fucking hate you Crush.
edit: Ok I'm good now. All I'll say is that you keeping distance and showing little to no interest might actually be working to your advantage, but if you wait too long, she'll lose interest. Now another thing you have to consider is that she is your coworker, so some complications might arise if you start dating and stuff.
edit: Ok I'm good now. All I'll say is that you keeping distance and showing little to no interest might actually be working to your advantage, but if you wait too long, she'll lose interest. Now another thing you have to consider is that she is your coworker, so some complications might arise if you start dating and stuff.
SpectreFire
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CrushDance said:
CrushDance said:
Congratulations, you just dried up the ENTIRE internet's supply of facepalm.jpgs
I hope you're pleased.
twilitesparklemotion
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LISTEN TO THIS MANNaughtyCalibur said:
Kccitystar
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Crush, I've been following this adventure of yours and seeing how you are going to pass up a nice girl who is interested in you is kind of frustrating all of us here on Dating/Girl-GAF.
What I'm seeing in recent posts is something that's been discussed earlier in the thread about self-sabotaging. Don't do that shit bro, instead of trying to convince yourself as to why you WOULDNT want to be in a relationship or pursue anything else with her, come up with reasons as to why you'd want to get involved with her. Honestly, throw that self-doubt shit out of the fucking window. Don't sabotage yourself and come up with reasons why you shouldn't be with this girl or at least pursue something with her.
For crying out loud you have Dating/Girl-GAF fucking ROOTING FOR YOU.
I'm sure the collective here would want you to be the guy who gave this girl a shot and tested the waters as to what she would bring to the table in a relationship or at least a friendship, than to be that guy who kept it distant and at arms length with her even though she's literally throwing herself at you, for her to end up hooking up with your co-worker to spite you.
Don't ever doubt yourself man, I mean, you got her attention by just being yourself. You are the fucking man. Be Date/Girl-GAF's success story.
This girl likes you for you and all the shit you like. She fucking draws hearts on a cup for you and gets you things. Crush+Catherine in a heart?
Dude, she fucking she wants you. You even said it yourself that you like her also, so make that move before that window of opportunity closes and she loses interest.
If you make a move, I'm sure the rest of Dating/Girl-GAF will collectively give you a bro-fist for making an effort.
EDIT: If a first date is what you seek, adhere to the guide in the OP and make it an activity date
What I'm seeing in recent posts is something that's been discussed earlier in the thread about self-sabotaging. Don't do that shit bro, instead of trying to convince yourself as to why you WOULDNT want to be in a relationship or pursue anything else with her, come up with reasons as to why you'd want to get involved with her. Honestly, throw that self-doubt shit out of the fucking window. Don't sabotage yourself and come up with reasons why you shouldn't be with this girl or at least pursue something with her.
For crying out loud you have Dating/Girl-GAF fucking ROOTING FOR YOU.
I'm sure the collective here would want you to be the guy who gave this girl a shot and tested the waters as to what she would bring to the table in a relationship or at least a friendship, than to be that guy who kept it distant and at arms length with her even though she's literally throwing herself at you, for her to end up hooking up with your co-worker to spite you.
Don't ever doubt yourself man, I mean, you got her attention by just being yourself. You are the fucking man. Be Date/Girl-GAF's success story.
This girl likes you for you and all the shit you like. She fucking draws hearts on a cup for you and gets you things. Crush+Catherine in a heart?
Dude, she fucking she wants you. You even said it yourself that you like her also, so make that move before that window of opportunity closes and she loses interest.
If you make a move, I'm sure the rest of Dating/Girl-GAF will collectively give you a bro-fist for making an effort.
EDIT: If a first date is what you seek, adhere to the guide in the OP and make it an activity date
EzLink said:
I completely agree with your post, but I don't think "not being good enough" boils down to "not being in shape". I don't know if that's what Crush meant. Not that it matters here, Crush should just go for it.
Yup. Can't talk for the others as I don't read this thread all the time, but I know I have a crapload of seemingly insurmountable obstacles to overcome with the girl I talked about on the previous page. I'm trying to get in shape, be more active/curious in general, know that she basically doesn't want a relationship with anyone unless her feelings are as strong as they were with her ex-boyfriend (they'd been together for 4 years, that was 2 years ago), and that I'm just a friend to her. All the while knowing that I'm far from being in love with her (only she is charming as hell and fun to be around) and lack self-esteem (I'm poor at holding a conversation for long), which makes it all the harder to keep my motivation. Every other day I feel like I'm wasting my time and that it's no big deal if I give up, yet I'm hanging in there. I'm far from being an example for everyone to follow, but it's frustrating to see that I'm working my ass off for something that's not that important (yet), while Crush likes and is liked by a girl who's fun, attractive and likes the same stuff as he does. Now, I'm not saying I'm doing all this for her, in fact it's more of a pretext to make myself a better person, someone I can be proud of being, but still.
grap3fruitman said:
Very insightful post by grap3fruitman. This is exactly what will happen by following your proposed path.
I know it seems logical to you that "if she likes me she will wait", but unfortunately few things in dating are logical. That woman will look for another man that has the balls to feel he is good enough for her and isn't afraid to take her on.
Edit: Grape, man, don't drink Pepsi. That shit has a ton of sugar and it will make you fat.
hydragonwarrior
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CrushDance said:
This would be my main concern. It's kind of similar to banging a girl you are roommates with. If it goes bad, then - let's say that happened 2 months into a 12 month lease. ...Yeah that'd be horrible lol
But that's only if you focus on the negative as well. I'm sure she's quite aware of the risks too - but from what i can tell, not ONLY friendship could work but something romantic can as well. Romantic (including sex) doesn't automatically mean relationship, unless you say something like "want to be a couple?" or "let's have kids" or the famous "i could be with you forever."
Edit: If you're after a relationship btw, she's probably the best relationship type there is (since she's trying to get to know you more - normally it's the other way around which is usually a pain in the ass)
Solideliquid
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Can some mod just fucking go ahead and ban crush for like a year like my man Combine?
You need to get the fuck out of this thread Crush. Just stop posting, it's time to stop.
You need to get the fuck out of this thread Crush. Just stop posting, it's time to stop.
vitaminwateryum
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If Combine didn't exist I'd think Crush to be a fake account. Holy shit man, I'm not sure what to say other than grow up. You're acting like some sadsack man-child. The girl went out of her way to talk to you about motherfucking videogames and you're still hesitant about asking her out. Also, if you're so embarrassed about not having your license. Why don't you fuckin go get it? Shit ain't gonna change by spazzin' out and running to go play Little Big Planet.
CrushDance
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Mr.Squirrel
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This weekend was fuckin crazy. I met 3 chicks while out, partied til 7 in the morning, and and none of em were ugly. The 1st girl was cute as hell, but she seemed like a damn tease. My boy tried to get with her (house rules, we were at his crib so he got 1st dibs), but he said she was talking bout me the whole time. I have a strong feeling she swallows.
The second girl I don't even fuckin remember :lol. I was drunk as hell and woke up saturday afternoon with 2 unknown numbers in my phone. So I called, and shorty picked up and sent me her facebook page. And holy shit this girl's fuckin pretty
. We talked and she lives 10 min away and remember everything about me. I don't even remember talking to the bitch. She seems classy, so I'll probably have sex with her in my car. You have to let the classy ones realize they're not special.
The 3rd girl I met at the club asked me out on a date tomorrow (dinner and some bullshit R&B concert). I haven't been on an actual date in a long fuckin time so I wonder if I'm gonna be bored out my mind the whole time and just be thinking about PS3's 2011 video game lineup. The best part tho is I'm pretty sure she's bi. Right now I'm trying to figure out if I should ask her about a 3some as soon as we get our entrée, or do I wait until we're back at my place and I'm trying to put it in her butt?
Oh, and this butch lesbian chick told me I was cute and took a picture of me holding a condom i had in my pocket . They were having lesbian night out, but I really thought I could convert every last one of em :lol
GOD I LOVE THE WEEKENDS!
The second girl I don't even fuckin remember :lol. I was drunk as hell and woke up saturday afternoon with 2 unknown numbers in my phone. So I called, and shorty picked up and sent me her facebook page. And holy shit this girl's fuckin pretty
thank you based god
The 3rd girl I met at the club asked me out on a date tomorrow (dinner and some bullshit R&B concert). I haven't been on an actual date in a long fuckin time so I wonder if I'm gonna be bored out my mind the whole time and just be thinking about PS3's 2011 video game lineup. The best part tho is I'm pretty sure she's bi. Right now I'm trying to figure out if I should ask her about a 3some as soon as we get our entrée, or do I wait until we're back at my place and I'm trying to put it in her butt?
Oh, and this butch lesbian chick told me I was cute and took a picture of me holding a condom i had in my pocket . They were having lesbian night out, but I really thought I could convert every last one of em :lol
GOD I LOVE THE WEEKENDS!
:lol Crush.. Do what you want but dont regret your decision.
Got asked out today by a cute persian/german girl the chick who friendzoned me asked me out to dance with her and a few friends.. Think it could work to my advantage bringing the german girl with me but only focussing on her? Or go solo with german girl to a nice place for a drink?
Got asked out today by a cute persian/german girl
the chick who friendzoned me asked me out to dance with her and a few friends.. Think it could work to my advantage bringing the german girl with me but only focussing on her? Or go solo with german girl to a nice place for a drink?- Status