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[False Witness]

Alright, I've been talking with this girl, who I had a speech class with last semester, on facebook for quite a while. Yeah, means pretty much nothing, I know. Anyway, about a week back she asked me to come by her work (one of those movie/cd/games stores) and check out what all they had since we've been talking movies and music and crap. She mentioned walking me through and helping me pick stuff out if I needed her too.

Well, I headed there after class last Saturday and kinda shopped around. It was pretty busy so I stayed near the exit door and browsed the selection. I ended up picking about 6 or so movies out before I noticed her walking up to me. Once she got up to my side, she said, "So, seeing anything you like?" I was all, "Yup. Yup. I think I've got it covered here." She kinda nodded her head for a minute or so and then walked away.

After about ten more minutes of awkward browsing, I made my way to the end of the checkout line at the back of the store. There was some other girl there working the cash register while the girl I knew was doing some stuff with the inventory there behind the counter. Well, there were a bunch of people in line in front of me, but that one girl checked them all out. Once the person in front of me walked up to the counter, the girl I knew went over to the other cash register there and waved me over. After she rang up my movies and grabbed the discs out of the drawer by the counter, she asked me what I was doing for the rest of the day. Like the idiot I am, I said, "I'll probably just go to sleep. I've been up since yesterday morning." Then I nodded my head.

It wasn't until after I left the building that I remembered she had told me she was working 12-6.

So... um... did I totally fuck this situation up? Was she dropping hints left and right that I was missing because I'm a clueless bastard or am I just putting too much weight to relatively normal actions?

 

[ThanksVision]

You done fucked up man.

 

[False Witness]

Well... that's awesome. Does it seem like I was giving off 'disinterest' vibes? What's the proper way to recover that fumble?

 

[BladeWorker]

Well... that's awesome. Does it seem like I was giving off 'disinterest' vibes? What's the proper way to recover that fumble?

Well unless you're not relaying any physical signals that she was giving you, I can't say I blame you for your nonchalance. It's not like she was brandishing herself as a prospective mate. Nothing you've described goes much beyond being friendly, with limited bent-over-backwardage which would suggest open invitation.

Find yourself in a situation where you run into her outside of work or classes. Strike up a conversation based on your last encounter, and emphasize that you'd like to chat more about <movie/artist/whatever> over coffee/dessert/drinks that Saturday/Friday night next.

Re-assess when you're both in a situation where you're both going to be clued in to whatever chemistry is there. If there's no chemistry, you've had a cool conversation with someone with similar tastes (let's hope) as you. If there's chemistry, then by golly you're going somewhere.

 

[~Kinggi~]

Every time i go out i realize how fucked i am. Cant even make eye contact. Feel like its getting worse sometimes. I spend most time concentrating on looking natural. Went to the movies tonight (usually always on my own) and i got really depressed seeing all the couples. Im gonna get wasted.

 

[SRG01]

Every time i go out i realize how fucked i am. Cant even make eye contact. Feel like its getting worse sometimes. I spend most time concentrating on looking natural. Went to the movies tonight (usually always on my own) and i got really depressed seeing all the couples. Im gonna get wasted.

You need wingbuddies. Or gradually expose yourself to less-stressful social situations first.

Coffee girls, dude. Coffee girls.

 

[TurboLibre]

Every time i go out i realize how fucked i am. Cant even make eye contact. Feel like its getting worse sometimes. I spend most time concentrating on looking natural. Went to the movies tonight (usually always on my own) and i got really depressed seeing all the couples. Im gonna get wasted.

In my experience strong eye contact is pretty rare. I'm good at it and noticed most people are too scared/nervous to look me in the eye while we're talking, they'll dart all over the room instead of giving me a single glance. So don't beat yourself up too much, it's a common problem. I know how you feel about movies though, worse is when nobody else is there. I can't count how many times I entered an empty theater and though "Story of my life".

 

[Danielsan]

Arranged a date with another girl. Sadly she has a busy schedule next week so we have planned the date for the Monday after. I generally don't like having such a long period of time in between though. It leaves too much room for her cancelling and also means I'll have to keep things "warm" for more than a week. Then again, I first talked to her this Wednesday so it still falls within my "actual date within 2 weeks" rule.

Also I'm already a lot more into this girl than the one that came by on Thursday, so I'm willing to put in a bit more effort for this one.

 

[Ermac]

so gaf

Went out for a friend's bday last night. Met a girl who was in the group. Hit it off pretty well. I just graduated college and she's a senior now.

problem" I'm living at home at the moment, and she's in a sorority house that doesn't allow dudes in at night (maybe during the day too, I can't remember).

How to have le sexy time? I've never been in this situation before.

 

[Jamesfrom818]

so gaf

Went out for a friend's bday last night. Met a girl who was in the group. Hit it off pretty well. I just graduated college and she's a senior now.

problem" I'm living at home at the moment, and she's in a sorority house that doesn't allow dudes in at night (maybe during the day too, I can't remember).

How to have le sexy time? I've never been in this situation before.

Are you positive that she wants to touch your penis?

I wouldn't worry about it. Go out with her and just have fun. If the opportunity presents itself, I'm sure you crazy kids can find a secluded public place to slip it in. I know I did when I was younger.

 

[JumpingTheGun]

post sex taco bell always tastes extra fucking delicious

 

[tearsofash]

My divorce was finalized a few days ago. Not sure what to do now. I don't have problems meeting ladies, but once it gets to a personal topic I don't know what to do. It feels like a black stain I just want to ignore. Divorces are messy and I'm always afraid they'll ask me about it. I don't want to talk about it much because it still evokes so much emotion in me.

I don't want to make it seem like I'm hiding something and I know gals don't like liars so i don't do that.

 

[soultron]

Not strictly Girl-Age on this one, but I just had a really depressing (I'll explain why after) talk with my roommate.

My roommate is 26 (27 in Dec.) and I only turned 23 this year. He's always been a really laid-back, dependable, responsible friend. Got himself a GF after a 5 year dryspell. She's kind of demanding of him (asks if he's financially stable, obviously sees/wants a future with him) and, in addition to that, his dad has been having health problems lately -- so he's majorly changed his life lately. He works maybe 40-50 hour weeks at a dead end job and never really wants to do much at all anymore unless it's with his family or GF. Which I understand and respect.

We just had a talk about how he's trying to focus on eventually making a future for himself, be it with his GF or another woman. I understand it's because he's older than I am and, honestly, his own life is his responsibility to make it into what he wants. I'm proud of the guy. I guess I just miss the "old" him, my best buddy.

The entire conversation just made me feel really, I dunno, immature and irresponsible, I guess. I'm still in school, still enjoy drinking, don't want a long-term relationship/marriage/kids right now, and am just generally much more care-free. I know there's an age gap, but damn. I'm proud of the guy, again, but it kind of made me feel like I'm this free-wheeling idiot bumbling through life without a care in the world. He's really grown up into a fully-fledged adult in the last year, and I still feel like I'm 19, I guess.

 

[Kinitari]

You're being ridiculous soultron - you're looking at this like it's some sort of race, like there is a very straight road you need to follow, and like he is ahead of you on that road. You know as well as anyone that there is no carbon-copy route to success and happiness, and as fucking after school special as this sounds, how you get there is just as important.

Enjoy your youth, and remember that you are still moving toward the sort of future you want, just not the exact same way as everyone else. For some perspective - I turn 25 in November, I only started going to post-secondary last year. It's been an amazing experience, and it's given me so much confidence and direction that I am in the best place I've ever been. Had I gone to school 3, or 4 years ago, I would not be in the right state of mind to succeed as much as I am now, to appreciate and learn like I am doing right now.

 

[Seam]

Not strictly Girl-Age on this one, but I just had a really depressing (I'll explain why after) talk with my roommate.

My roommate is 26 (27 in Dec.) and I only turned 23 this year. He's always been a really laid-back, dependable, responsible friend. Got himself a GF after a 5 year dryspell. She's kind of demanding of him (asks if he's financially stable, obviously sees/wants a future with him) and, in addition to that, his dad has been having health problems lately -- so he's majorly changed his life lately. He works maybe 40-50 hour weeks at a dead end job and never really wants to do much at all anymore unless it's with his family or GF. Which I understand and respect.

We just had a talk about how he's trying to focus on eventually making a future for himself, be it with his GF or another woman. I understand it's because he's older than I am and, honestly, his own life is his responsibility to make it into what he wants. I'm proud of the guy. I guess I just miss the "old" him, my best buddy.

The entire conversation just made me feel really, I dunno, immature and irresponsible, I guess. I'm still in school, still enjoy drinking, don't want a long-term relationship/marriage/kids right now, and am just generally much more care-free. I know there's an age gap, but damn. I'm proud of the guy, again, but it kind of made me feel like I'm this free-wheeling idiot bumbling through life without a care in the world. He's really grown up into a fully-fledged adult in the last year, and I still feel like I'm 19, I guess.

Your time will come, just enjoy your life and the change will ocourr naturally. But if you would like to be responsible, start the progress on your own. It's not like you are not able to do that, you are a smart kid.

 

[SRG01]

Not strictly Girl-Age on this one, but I just had a really depressing (I'll explain why after) talk with my roommate.

My roommate is 26 (27 in Dec.) and I only turned 23 this year. He's always been a really laid-back, dependable, responsible friend. Got himself a GF after a 5 year dryspell. She's kind of demanding of him (asks if he's financially stable, obviously sees/wants a future with him) and, in addition to that, his dad has been having health problems lately -- so he's majorly changed his life lately. He works maybe 40-50 hour weeks at a dead end job and never really wants to do much at all anymore unless it's with his family or GF. Which I understand and respect.

We just had a talk about how he's trying to focus on eventually making a future for himself, be it with his GF or another woman. I understand it's because he's older than I am and, honestly, his own life is his responsibility to make it into what he wants. I'm proud of the guy. I guess I just miss the "old" him, my best buddy.

The entire conversation just made me feel really, I dunno, immature and irresponsible, I guess. I'm still in school, still enjoy drinking, don't want a long-term relationship/marriage/kids right now, and am just generally much more care-free. I know there's an age gap, but damn. I'm proud of the guy, again, but it kind of made me feel like I'm this free-wheeling idiot bumbling through life without a care in the world. He's really grown up into a fully-fledged adult in the last year, and I still feel like I'm 19, I guess.

It's not being young or old, being mature or carefree. It's about making the best out of the life that you have.

A life of responsibilities isn't necessarily a life without fun. You have your responsibilities too: school, friends (yes, they are responsibilities too!), and so on. Don't view his life as something that your life has to resemble.

 

[Wolfe]

Not strictly Girl-Age on this one, but I just had a really depressing (I'll explain why after) talk with my roommate.

My roommate is 26 (27 in Dec.) and I only turned 23 this year. He's always been a really laid-back, dependable, responsible friend. Got himself a GF after a 5 year dryspell. She's kind of demanding of him (asks if he's financially stable, obviously sees/wants a future with him) and, in addition to that, his dad has been having health problems lately -- so he's majorly changed his life lately. He works maybe 40-50 hour weeks at a dead end job and never really wants to do much at all anymore unless it's with his family or GF. Which I understand and respect.

We just had a talk about how he's trying to focus on eventually making a future for himself, be it with his GF or another woman. I understand it's because he's older than I am and, honestly, his own life is his responsibility to make it into what he wants. I'm proud of the guy. I guess I just miss the "old" him, my best buddy.

The entire conversation just made me feel really, I dunno, immature and irresponsible, I guess. I'm still in school, still enjoy drinking, don't want a long-term relationship/marriage/kids right now, and am just generally much more care-free. I know there's an age gap, but damn. I'm proud of the guy, again, but it kind of made me feel like I'm this free-wheeling idiot bumbling through life without a care in the world. He's really grown up into a fully-fledged adult in the last year, and I still feel like I'm 19, I guess.

I completely understand but if it makes you feel any better I'm 29 and in the same boat as you (and wouldn't have it any other way at the moment).

 

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[soultron]

Thanks for the input, dudes. I'm responsible in the fact that I take care of myself physically and mentally, neither drink nor smoke pot in excess (barely do either), am fairly debt-free, and have a clearcut career path/goals, but... still. I guess it just sucks watching someone you really respect feeling like some bell has tolled and he has to completely change who he is. I just feel bad because he stresses so much. It's really changed who he is and it's tough to watch.

 

[Chiave]

I think this is relevant to the thread.

Boomhauer's secret I couldn't find the whole clip. But whenever I get a haircut and some nice clothes I'm gonna end up doing something like this.

 

[Atramental]

Good ol' Boomhauer.

 

[Kad5]

Interesting event happened the other day.

Turns out there is a sub shop that sells beer near my campus. It's basically a speakeasy for people under 21.

I went there and went to an upstairs area to see guys and girls getting drunk and smoking (some of it weed).

I had three girls hitting on me (they were probably kind of tipsy).

I ended up going out of that place with a girl on each arm. So close to ending up in one of their rooms but she ended up having to do other things....

It'll happen eventually.

 

[lopaz]

The important lesson to remember, is that bitches are not shit but hos and tricks

 

[ThanksVision]

So yeah, here goes nothing.
Senior in HS btw.

So this girl and I have been talking for a while now. Getting really close and stuff. We like each other, but we had never really talked about "Us" as a couple, ya know, making things "official." Now I really LIKE this girl. She's amazing etc. I don't need to get into detail, she's just great. Anyways, I finally talked to her about it (paraphrasing obv.): "We both know there is something here, and I have to ask if it's going anywhere." She said she wasn't ready to be in an actual relationship (she got out of a long one 2 months or so ago and we've been talking/hanging out everyday since) and she wanted to take things slow. I just told her to lemme know when she is ready, that I'll wait as long as it takes because of how much I like her, and that it really is just a title in the end. I know she likes me a lot, she said so straight up and still acted flirty and long hug goodbye etc.

What do I do in this situation?? I'm willing to wait. I really like her, and we have really great chemistry when we're together. I just want to know if there is anything I can do to push the process along? I felt like she was totally ready... But I guess I read wrong. How will I know when it's the right time?

 

[Kad5]

So yeah, here goes nothing.
Senior in HS btw.

So this girl and I have been talking for a while now. Getting really close and stuff. We like each other, but we had never really talked about "Us" as a couple, ya know, making things "official." Now I really LIKE this girl. She's amazing etc. I don't need to get into detail, she's just great. Anyways, I finally talked to her about it (paraphrasing obv.): "We both know there is something here, and I have to ask if it's going anywhere." She said she wasn't ready to be in an actual relationship (she got out of a long one 2 months or so ago and we've been talking/hanging out everyday since) and she wanted to take things slow. I just told her to lemme know when she is ready, that I'll wait as long as it takes because of how much I like her, and that it really is just a title in the end. I know she likes me a lot, she said so straight up and still acted flirty and long hug goodbye etc.

What do I do in this situation?? I'm willing to wait. I really like her, and we have really great chemistry when we're together. I just want to know if there is anything I can do to push the process along? I felt like she was totally ready... But I guess I read wrong. How will I know when it's the right time?

Make a move. You'll be able to know. That will be the right time.

 

[BobFromPikeCreek]

So yeah, here goes nothing.
Senior in HS btw.

So this girl and I have been talking for a while now. Getting really close and stuff. We like each other, but we had never really talked about "Us" as a couple, ya know, making things "official." Now I really LIKE this girl. She's amazing etc. I don't need to get into detail, she's just great. Anyways, I finally talked to her about it (paraphrasing obv.): "We both know there is something here, and I have to ask if it's going anywhere." She said she wasn't ready to be in an actual relationship (she got out of a long one 2 months or so ago and we've been talking/hanging out everyday since) and she wanted to take things slow. I just told her to lemme know when she is ready, that I'll wait as long as it takes because of how much I like her, and that it really is just a title in the end. I know she likes me a lot, she said so straight up and still acted flirty and long hug goodbye etc.

What do I do in this situation?? I'm willing to wait. I really like her, and we have really great chemistry when we're together. I just want to know if there is anything I can do to push the process along? I felt like she was totally ready... But I guess I read wrong. How will I know when it's the right time?

Dude, don't wait for her. That's ridiculous.

 

[ThanksVision]

I honestly don't know why she isn't ready... She always initiates conversations and hangouts, blushes, etc. So I'm completely lost.

 

[BobFromPikeCreek]

Don't sit around waiting for her to MAYBE one day say "ok, I'm ready to start dating you!" That's just beyond pathetic, bro.

 

[Kad5]

I honestly don't know why she isn't ready... She always initiates conversations and hangouts, blushes, etc. So I'm completely lost.

Fucking make a move.

I don't know what else can honestly be said. It's not like she's gonna suddenly not like you if you go in for a kiss or something.

Just be sure to make the moment right.

 

[kuYuri]

I was reading through the OP and one thing that isn't clarified for me, does the "don't pay for everything" also apply to first dates?

 

[Oozinator]

When a girl rejects a guy, does it mean she believes he is not worthy of her and she is "better" than him ?

 

[Jamesfrom818]

When a girl rejects a guy, does it mean she believes he is not worthy of her and she is "better" than him ?

That does happen and you're better off not getting with any girl that thinks like that. Most of the time, I think they just aren't interested in your body or personality though.

 

[greenry]

I honestly don't know why she isn't ready... She always initiates conversations and hangouts, blushes, etc. So I'm completely lost.

If you wait, you will be waiting for a long, long time. If she wanted to date you she would be. To me, it sounds like you were her attention outlet since she broke up with her boyfriend.

 

[Rur0ni]

If you wait, you will be waiting for a long, long time.

.

 

[Vidocq]

What is the best way to gauge someone else's interest in you? I've never really had any experience in being the 'initiator.' All the girls I have been with were extremely forward and pretty much ran the whole show. I had no clue they were even interested in me until they straight up asked me out.

So... any help here? I just can never really tell. I've been told many times by people's friends that I completely missed some pretty obvious signs.

 

[Rur0ni]

So... any help here? I just can never really tell. I've been told many times by people's friends that I completely missed some pretty obvious signs.

Sounds like some sort of passive approach. Although you state that you don't have experience with being the initiator... best bet is to take control of these encounters if you have interest in a girl so you don't have to be concerned with the unknown. Get more comfortable there and your intuition about women you speak to in everyday life will improve.

As far as a woman who doesn't really pull the trigger, all you can really go by is how often she makes an effort to talk to you, be in your presence, etc... at which point you need to test the water with light flirting and see if she's receptive. You have to put yourself out there just a bit. You don't have to be all in with every encounter.

 

[Vidocq]

The thing is, my interest usually comes after I know someone is interested in me. I like people who like me and I'm pretty impartial to everyone else.

That second part is pretty helpful though.

 

[Danielsan]

Falling for women who are already in a long tem relationship blows...
I'm dating other women to take my mind of her, but every time we meet up I'm reminded why I want her.

 

[Minamu]

Hey, could use some opinions on my online profile The site just gives me a blank page to type a maximum of 2000 characters. This is a fairly accurate translation of my 1100ish character long profile.



"Hi! I’m a relatively new resident in this town who is studying design at college. I’m simply here because I believe there’s nothing wrong with having more fun than usual Life is short, so it should contain as much substance and excitement as possible, in my opinion. Of course, I enjoy some quiet time occasionally as well, but it wouldn’t be so bad to share something special with someone else for that matter I thought this site sounded like a fun thing to try out, because surely, it can’t hurt, right?

I’m a dog person first and foremost but I love all kinds of animals. I seem to have managed to develop a kind of ”dog radar” where I almost instinctively say ”Woof!” whenever I see a dog, heh. I consider myself a very open and extremely honest person who is generally very light hearted and easy going. Life may be quite serious sometimes but why let that weigh you down and let it win?

Rock and metal is what’s usually being played at home. I’m currently in a Megadeth and Judas Priest phase, but I can easily listen to almost anything, really. Iron Maiden is the closest band to my heart though ^^

Send me a message if you’re wondering anything."


More? Less? Remove/add something? I'm gonna change the start about being new here, because it's not really true after a little more than a year xD

 

[Calion]

Falling for women who are already in a long term relationship blows...
I'm dating other women to take my mind of her, but every time we meet up I'm reminded why I want her.

Ugh. C'mon man. Falling for anyone in a committed relationship creates nothing but emotional heartache and drama. To make it worse, you're wasting your dates time by using them as a rebound (if you want to call that a rebound) girl.

 

[Danielsan]

Ugh. C'mon man. Falling for anyone in a committed relationship creates nothing but emotional heartache and drama. To make it worse, you're wasting your dates time by using them as a rebound (if you want to call that a rebound) girl.

Yeah I know. It's wasted energy. Definitely not trying to waste the time of my dates by using them as rebound girls. Just want to find someone who is available and can make me feel about them like I feel about this girl.

 

[computers putin']

Simple question, a while ago, a girl I used to work with asked me if I wanted to "come get drunk with her" later that night. I don't drink, so I said no. I didn't really think much of the question then, but now that I'm reflecting on it ( no idea what brough it about ) it feels like she was making an advance and I was just being my usual dense self and I didn't pick up on it. Did I miss something, or was it just a simple invitation and I'm overthinking right now?

 

[Lionheart1827]

I was reading through the OP and one thing that isn't clarified for me, does the "don't pay for everything" also apply to first dates?

I think there was a few pages of discussion months and months ago about it and it seemed like an epic battle.

Myself, I'm a big supporter of always paying on the first date. If she says she wants to pay, insist that you pay. I guess if she insists and doesn't back down, then offer to go half, but I always feel the guy should pay imo.

I guess I'm just old fashioned. Paying on the first date for me goes hand in hand with opening doors and all that kind of stuff.

People here will disagree with this, but that is what I recommend.

With my girlfriend now, we just figure out paying on the fly, sometimes go half, I pay, or she pays. When it comes to something like an anniversary or something really special, I usually pay, but we have been known to go half there, too.

 

[Atramental]

Simple question, a while ago, a girl I used to work with asked me if I wanted to "come get drunk with her" later that night. I don't drink, so I said no. I didn't really think much of the question then, but now that I'm reflecting on it ( no idea what brough it about ) it feels like she was making an advance and I was just being my usual dense self and I didn't pick up on it. Did I miss something, or was it just a simple invitation and I'm overthinking right now?

Well now is a good time to start...

 

[ch0mp]

Simple question, a while ago, a girl I used to work with asked me if I wanted to "come get drunk with her" later that night. I don't drink, so I said no. I didn't really think much of the question then, but now that I'm reflecting on it ( no idea what brough it about ) it feels like she was making an advance and I was just being my usual dense self and I didn't pick up on it. Did I miss something, or was it just a simple invitation and I'm overthinking right now?

The last time a girl invited me to her place for drinks.... it wasn't really for drinks.

 

[grap3fruitman]

Okay, so a coworker and I have been getting kind of flirty at work recently. At first, I thought it was probably just me thinking too much but we ended up going to a bar with other coworkers and she was all over my arm and we made out. A few days later I was over her place with another friend of her's for drinks and we made out some more, so the interest is clearly there. On that same night, I had no idea of what kind of horrible effects wine would have on me and... I got completely sick in her washroom. She's seemed kind of distant since and now I'm all dopey sad because it's so rare that women show interest in me and now I've gone and fucked it up. ;-;

Yeah, completely distant. Completely ignored my text from last night suggesting lunch today. Not even a "Nope, I'm busy." =(

 

[SRG01]

So an update:

It's better now, after learning that it's sometimes better to show rather than tell. Oftentimes, despite needing a lot of non-verbal reinforcement, I forget that I can communicate non-verbally as well. I'm not talking about kino, but rather... better hand-holding, differences in the way I hug or kiss, etc.

So yeah, the problem was because I wasn't communicating my needs properly and I found a way through it

Simple question, a while ago, a girl I used to work with asked me if I wanted to "come get drunk with her" later that night. I don't drink, so I said no. I didn't really think much of the question then, but now that I'm reflecting on it ( no idea what brough it about ) it feels like she was making an advance and I was just being my usual dense self and I didn't pick up on it. Did I miss something, or was it just a simple invitation and I'm overthinking right now?

You've got to be kidding me.

 

[Beowulf28]

So I've been talking to this girl lately and I'm starting to like her, BUT a friend of mine seems to like her too. I'm not sure how to proceed and if he does like her I don't want to break the "bro code".

 

[BobFromPikeCreek]

Simple question, a while ago, a girl I used to work with asked me if I wanted to "come get drunk with her" later that night. I don't drink, so I said no. I didn't really think much of the question then, but now that I'm reflecting on it ( no idea what brough it about ) it feels like she was making an advance and I was just being my usual dense self and I didn't pick up on it. Did I miss something, or was it just a simple invitation and I'm overthinking right now?

Wow.

 

[Rur0ni]

So I've been talking to this girl lately and I'm starting to like her, BUT a friend of mine seems to like her too. I'm not sure how to proceed and if he does like her I don't want to break the "bro code".

Sounds like one of you needs to back off, or both. Depending on your friendship. If it were a less than great friend that I don't want to lose, I'd go for it, assuming I genuinely liked the girl for relationship material.