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[TurboLibre]

What does this mean? You don't maintain eye contact when a girl is looking at you?

Funny thing happened today. A girl showed up at work and ordered a drink. She sat right within my eye line and I noticed she was looking at me almost every time I called out someones coffee. It was frequent and she was there for a couple of hours so I eventually noticed. At one point I was even talking to a friend of mine and I could clearly see her looking at me from over my friends shoulder. These were all glances I noticed in my peripheral. When I eventually caught her eye and smiled she quickly packed up and moved to the other side of the room.

Sums up my experience with women quite nicely.

I'm great with eye contact when I'm interacting with someone. When I notice someone looking at me from across the room my gut instinct is to ignore them because this tends to happen.

 

[Boozeroony]

Hehe. Den Helder. There are some good places to have dinner or a drink, but I can't think of anything decent that fits the time frame.

You probably know it better than I do, but couldn't you just take a walk through the dunes when the weather is ok? Have a drink afterwards, maybe the harbour (not sure if it is any cool though).

 

[Danielsan]

You probably know it better than I do, but couldn't you just take a walk through the dunes when the weather is ok? Have a drink afterwards, maybe the harbour (not sure if it is any cool though).

Yeah like I said, might take her for a stroll on the beach and through the dunes. The weather is supposedly shit next week though. The harbour would probably bore both of us to tears, but you gave me another idea. I used to work in the North Sea aquarium that we have over here. Might just take her there. We could get drinks and lunch + nearby as well.

 

[DualShadow]

Took a girl I fancy to a party and she paid my drinks even though I wanted to split the tab.

What does it mean GAF?!

You're now her bitch.

 

[Boozeroony]

Yeah like I said, might take her for a stroll on the beach and through the dunes. The weather is supposedly shit next week though. The harbour would probably bore both of us to tears, but you gave me another idea. I used to work in the North Sea aquarium that we have over here. Might just take her there. We could get drinks and lunch + nearby as well.

Animals+girls=instant win. From my experience at least, especially when you know a thing or two about the animals. Pussy imminent.

 

[Coeliacus]

Took a girl I fancy to a party and she paid my drinks even though I wanted to split the tab.

What does it mean GAF?!

She thinks you are poor and pitys you OR it was a test to see if you would clue on and get you to pay (you failed).

It's also possible that you have her wrapped around your little finger and you are too clueless to notice.

(Seriously how do we know?)

 

[Minamu]

I tend to use emoticons way too much. Then again, I'm a sarcastic and cynical fuck and with out my and emoticons I'd probably spend way too much time explaining that I meant whatever I said in a joking manner.

I know, right? I'm not so different from the online I surround myself with and I make no distinction between the sexes or people I'm into/not into. At least on facebook etc, I'd rather use them and maybe occasionally look silly, if I can avoid unnecessary backfire etc.

makes your online persona childish and girly as fuck

i'd rather use a simple "lol" instead of any emoticons

":3" is only reserved for gaf :3

That's kinda what I started to figure. Can't hurt to try and remove them I suppose (See, did it again)

Anyone else feel like they're haunted by bad luck? I'm usually laughing about it but it's also so frustrating sometimes. Like last week when I had the family's dog visiting me for a week, I met this cute girl from class I had never talked to before and we hit it off pretty good while out with our respective dogs. And yesterday I find out through a mutual friend that she's not feeling her education and is going to drop off and move back home. Couldn't help but sigh and laugh about it because it's so damn typical xD Feels like someone above is playing tricks on you, you know?

 

[Kad5]

Any sane person would have gone to a motel already , especially in your situation. Get it over it with , are you a virgin or something?

I'm not a virgin but i'm only 18. I don't have a huge source of income.

 

[soultron]

Going to an event where two of the girls I'm still trying to see (got numbers, no dates yet) are going to be at. This should be interesting. Haha.

Just gonna go and have a good time and see what happens.

 

[soultron]

I'm not a virgin but i'm only 18. I don't have a huge source of income.

Have a friend with a car? Borrow it. Or even ask a friend to lend you his place?

I know if a buddy didn't have a place to lay pipe, I'd gladly offer a couch or (as weird as it sounds...) my bed. I'd just burn the sheets after. Srsly.

 

[Furio53]

Have a friend with a car? Borrow it. Or even ask a friend to lend you his place?

I know if a buddy didn't have a place to lay pipe, I'd gladly offer a couch or (as weird as it sounds...) my bed. I'd just burn the sheets after. Srsly.

Yeah it's strange to say it but I've let my friend use my place, and vice versa. didn't seem like a big deal, just trying to help a brotha out.

Meeting a girl for drinks tonight, first time meeting so here's to hoping it goes well.

 

[Jamesfrom818]

Have a friend with a car? Borrow it. Or even ask a friend to lend you his place?

I know if a buddy didn't have a place to lay pipe, I'd gladly offer a couch or (as weird as it sounds...) my bed. I'd just burn the sheets after. Srsly.

Any friend would bring his own sheets, double bag and lay down towels just in case she's a squirter

 

[Bucket-o-roadkill]

I think a girl was playing eye tag with me in class today. I don't know for sure because my eyes were darting around the room like they usually do...

I guess I'll see if she does it again when I have class with her on Tuesday.

Also, any body language tips you guys could give me?

Haha I dont usually EVER manage to get this. When I'm at work, any time a girl looks me straight in the eye and I notice, she then shifts her line of vision instantly. The same when I'm out with mates, I see girls giving the eye to my friends all the time.. Never with me.

I've come to the conclusion that I must just be a completely ugly bastard. Awesome.

 

[Atramental]

Haha I dont usually EVER manage to get this. When I'm at work, any time a girl looks me straight in the eye and I notice, she then shifts her line of vision instantly. The same when I'm out with mates, I see girls giving the eye to my friends all the time.. Never with me.

I've come to the conclusion that I must just be a completely ugly bastard. Awesome.

The girl is at least a 7 so maybe she sees me as someone within her range? Nice body but her face is a little nerdy looking.

I would totally be an 8 right now if I still had my hair...

 

[Bucket-o-roadkill]

i know that feel bro. i still have hair and no ones said anything but my temples are definitely thinning and after i have a bath the tub has loads of hair left at the bottom. fucking sucks, its not a shed because its been doing this for like a year. if i get a monk like hair line its game over man for me. Im tall but in a lanky, crappy way and cant put on weight at all lol

 

[Kad5]

Girl texted me again. she said she has work orientation for 3 days so she isn't sure if she can do it.

I just told her that if it turns out she's available to text me.

We'll see what happens. She seems to still want to do it some other time if not this weekend.

 

[Attackthebase]

She thinks you are poor and pitys you OR it was a test to see if you would clue on and get you to pay (you failed).

It's also possible that you have her wrapped around your little finger and you are too clueless to notice.

(Seriously how do we know?)

Or it could be a sign of her respect for him? Yeah, I'm going to go with that.

 

[The Shadow]

Have a friend with a car? Borrow it. Or even ask a friend to lend you his place?

I know if a buddy didn't have a place to lay pipe, I'd gladly offer a couch or (as weird as it sounds...) my bed. I'd just burn the sheets after. Srsly.

You are an awesome friend.

 

[hipgnosis]

So I recently broke up with my girlfriend and shit has gone pretty crazy since. I arranged an apartment with a girl I know from school, we get along really well and I think this arrangement will work really well. There'll be lots of her female friends hanging out at my place. She has a bf, but she usually gets really kino around me especially when we are drinking and her bf isn't around.

Then there's this girl I met at a bar. We've dated 4 times and it has gone really well, kisses and cuddles etc. She'll be having a party this saturday and she invited me, guess I'm gonna be in the spotlight in front of her friends there. I think I really like this girl and def wanna keep seeing her.

At work there are two girls that are definitely interested. The other girl uses the work messenger to flirt me a lot. Lots of -smileys and she even asked what I'm doing in the weekend and hinted we should drink together.
The other girl is also super flirty but speaks directly to me. We have great time together and talk and laugh a lot. She usually always sits next to me if we take a break or something.

I don't even know what the fuck I should do anymore. Not used to this kind of stuff since I was in a relationship for several years. Guess I'll be dating that one girl more seriously and keep flirting with the others.

 

[MutantCyborg]

Props on actually doing something to change. I know a lot of people that complain about how they don't meet women but then never do anything to change. It's easier to just accept than it is to change, so again, mad props for putting yourself out there.

As for conversation lull's - it's gonna happen, but that isn't always a bad thing. Try to take the moment to excuse yourself from the situation and ask for her number/email/facebook so you can meet up again.

If you're trying to continue the conversation, I like to think of it as Wikipedia - as the conversation progresses, keep noting other "links" in the conversation that you could spin off to. Just like you might start looking at Danny Glover's wikipedia page, you could quickly end up reading about the Predator species (Danny Glover > Predator 2 > Predator species).

As for the "boring town" issue - why not move somewhere else if you don't like where you live?

Thanks it took a lot of willpower to break the mold but once you do it becomes pretty normal.

Thanks for the advice! Unfortunately moving isn't an option for me right now. I guess I'll have to come up with something.

 

[boundedseven]

So I went out on this 'Blind Date' last night setup by my cousin. I metup with her and she said lets not take this as a 'date' but as a casual meetup as she is new in town and looking to meet new people.

So I take her to a bar and we start drinking and get pretty buzzed. The conversation is going well; we are laughing, touching each her and taking pics with each other on my iPhone to see who is shining more due to sweat.

We are pretty buzzed and I take her to another club. There she starts leaning in and whispers in my ear a couple of times and at one time tries to 'smell' me to see what cologne I was wearing, which was strange because I was sweating quite a bit. She even puts her arms around me and we start dancing and we leave the club hand in hand. We are both pretty wasted. I feel around for a night together but I don't sense any vibes so I drop her home. Though she tells me that she had a great time and we should do this again.

Later I msged her that I had a good time and got no response. I saw her on Facebook today and sent a few msgs and no response.

So GAF is it strange that she just goes cold turkey the next day after having a great time the day before? Maybe she is interested and wants me to chase her?

I plan on no contact for 24 hours. I like the girl and advice on how to approach this would be helpful.

 

[Cubsfan23]

So I went out on this 'Blind Date' last night setup by my cousin. I metup with her and she said lets not take this as a 'date' but as a casual meetup as she is new in town and looking to meet new people.

So I take her to a bar and we start drinking and get pretty buzzed. The conversation is going well; we are laughing, touching each her and taking pics with each other on my iPhone to see who is shining more due to sweat.

We are pretty buzzed and I take her to another club. There she starts leaning in and whispers in my ear a couple of times and at one time tries to 'smell' me to see what cologne I was wearing, which was strange because I was sweating quite a bit. She even puts her arms around me and we start dancing and we leave the club hand in hand. We are both pretty wasted. I feel around for a night together but I don't sense any vibes so I drop her home. Though she tells me that she had a great time and we should do this again.

Later I msged her that I had a good time and got no response. I saw her on Facebook today and sent a few msgs and no response.

So GAF is it strange that she just goes cold turkey the next day after having a great time the day before? Maybe she is interested and wants me to chase her?

I plan on no contact for 24 hours. I like the girl and advice on how to approach this would be helpful.

stop chasing

 

[AuthenticM]

So I went out on this 'Blind Date' last night setup by my cousin. I metup with her and she said lets not take this as a 'date' but as a casual meetup as she is new in town and looking to meet new people.

So I take her to a bar and we start drinking and get pretty buzzed. The conversation is going well; we are laughing, touching each her and taking pics with each other on my iPhone to see who is shining more due to sweat.

We are pretty buzzed and I take her to another club. There she starts leaning in and whispers in my ear a couple of times and at one time tries to 'smell' me to see what cologne I was wearing, which was strange because I was sweating quite a bit. She even puts her arms around me and we start dancing and we leave the club hand in hand. We are both pretty wasted. I feel around for a night together but I don't sense any vibes so I drop her home. Though she tells me that she had a great time and we should do this again.

Later I msged her that I had a good time and got no response. I saw her on Facebook today and sent a few msgs and no response.

So GAF is it strange that she just goes cold turkey the next day after having a great time the day before? Maybe she is interested and wants me to chase her?

I plan on no contact for 24 hours. I like the girl and advice on how to approach this would be helpful.

Next time you see her, ask her out again. If she says yes and the evening unfolds in pretty much the same way as before, kiss her.

 

[EXGN]

So I went out on this 'Blind Date' last night setup by my cousin. I metup with her and she said lets not take this as a 'date' but as a casual meetup as she is new in town and looking to meet new people.

So I take her to a bar and we start drinking and get pretty buzzed. The conversation is going well; we are laughing, touching each her and taking pics with each other on my iPhone to see who is shining more due to sweat.

We are pretty buzzed and I take her to another club. There she starts leaning in and whispers in my ear a couple of times and at one time tries to 'smell' me to see what cologne I was wearing, which was strange because I was sweating quite a bit. She even puts her arms around me and we start dancing and we leave the club hand in hand. We are both pretty wasted. I feel around for a night together but I don't sense any vibes so I drop her home. Though she tells me that she had a great time and we should do this again.

Later I msged her that I had a good time and got no response. I saw her on Facebook today and sent a few msgs and no response.

So GAF is it strange that she just goes cold turkey the next day after having a great time the day before? Maybe she is interested and wants me to chase her?

I plan on no contact for 24 hours. I like the girl and advice on how to approach this would be helpful.

That's what alcohol does. People wake up the next day, start to second guess themselves and feel stupid about what they did the night before. That's why a girl will make out with you at a bar and give you her number but then never pick up your calls or flake on dates. When you're drunk, you're in the moment, the next morning you aren't.

With that said, you should just play it cool. Next time you go drinking/hang out with your cousin, invite her our with you guys. Don't chase too hard, especially if the date was originally set with the pretext of "just looking to meet new people." You already tried messaging her on Facebook and she didn't reciprocate, don't keep pushing.

 

[SuperAndroid17]

So I went out on this 'Blind Date' last night setup by my cousin. I metup with her and she said lets not take this as a 'date' but as a casual meetup as she is new in town and looking to meet new people.

So I take her to a bar and we start drinking and get pretty buzzed. The conversation is going well; we are laughing, touching each her and taking pics with each other on my iPhone to see who is shining more due to sweat.

We are pretty buzzed and I take her to another club. There she starts leaning in and whispers in my ear a couple of times and at one time tries to 'smell' me to see what cologne I was wearing, which was strange because I was sweating quite a bit. She even puts her arms around me and we start dancing and we leave the club hand in hand. We are both pretty wasted. I feel around for a night together but I don't sense any vibes so I drop her home. Though she tells me that she had a great time and we should do this again.

Later I msged her that I had a good time and got no response. I saw her on Facebook today and sent a few msgs and no response.

So GAF is it strange that she just goes cold turkey the next day after having a great time the day before? Maybe she is interested and wants me to chase her?

I plan on no contact for 24 hours. I like the girl and advice on how to approach this would be helpful.

you've already fucked up by sending her multiple messages... text and fb. Sheesh, you're in the red now .

The ball is in her court now , you send ANOTHER message and its game over. Don't come off as a needy dude.

 

[grap3fruitman]

I spent $60 on flowers. I know she got them because she was asking my coworkers about them. Do I get a response when I send a text asking how she likes them? No.

I hate women.

 

[SuperAndroid17]

I spent $60 on flowers. I know she got them because she was asking my coworkers about them. Do I get a response when I send a text asking how she likes them? No.

I hate women.

Look at the bolded , YOU tell me something is wrong. I've read your backstory. Why the fuck would you buy flowers for someone #1 . Your not dating #2 . Not your girlfriend

She ignores your texts , yet you go buy her flowers and expect a response? lol

Come on man , its time to see the big picture. The BIG picture

 

[reilo]

I spent $60 on flowers. I know she got them because she was asking my coworkers about them. Do I get a response when I send a text asking how she likes them? No.

I hate women.

Who did you send flowers to and why? Is this a girl that is officially your girlfriend? Is this someone you went on a date with once? Have you even asked her out? Need more backstory on this.

 

[Cubsfan23]

I spent $60 on flowers. I know she got them because she was asking my coworkers about them. Do I get a response when I send a text asking how she likes them? No.

I hate women.

you do something that every other guy in her life has done, and you expected something? lol

 

[grap3fruitman]

Who did you send flowers to and why? Is this a girl that is officially your girlfriend? Is this someone you went on a date with once? Have you even asked her out? Need more backstory on this.

Here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=31204954&postcount=15225

Okay, so a coworker and I have been getting kind of flirty at work recently. At first, I thought it was probably just me thinking too much but we ended up going to a bar with other coworkers and she was all over my arm and we made out. A few days later I was over her place with another friend of her's for drinks and we made out some more, so the interest is clearly there. On that same night, I had no idea of what kind of horrible effects wine would have on me and... I got completely sick in her washroom. She's seemed kind of distant since and now I'm all dopey sad because it's so rare that women show interest in me and now I've gone and fucked it up. ;-;

and here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=31269284

Yeah, completely distant. Completely ignored my text from last night suggesting lunch today. Not even a "Nope, I'm busy." =(

I blamed the latter up to her just not getting my text because my phone sucks. I was venting to someone at the gym about this and she suggested the whole flowers thing, which is where I got the idea and another coworker thought it was a good idea so I went for it.

A little more back-story: she was seeing someone when we were getting all flirty but it was falling apart and she wasn't happy and thus us getting all friendly.

I did get a response from her just a little bit ago. She thought the flowers were "thoughtful" but that her guy didn't. She got them and immediately texted him apparently. Well fuck...

I sent a message back saying "So you're still together? That's disappointing. Oh well." No response. Said fuck it and sent another text. "Can I ask you something? I just did, haha. There was some interest there, right? What changed your mind? I think not knowing bugs me more than anything." And I'm getting the silent treatment again...

Gaf, I'm 24 and I've never had any success with any women ever. Every single time I continue to fail, I just get even more horribly depressed. I don't think I've ever been happy. There's moments where I'm less sad but I don't think I can recall a time when I was actually happy. Emo I know but if I weren't such a coward, I probably would've just killed myself already.

 

[soundahfekz]

I spent $60 on flowers. I know she got them because she was asking my coworkers about them. Do I get a response when I send a text asking how she likes them? No.

I hate women.

Right now a man is fucking her and didn't even buy her a whopper. Come on bro

Here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=31204954&postcount=15225


and here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=31269284


I blamed the latter up to her just not getting my text because my phone sucks. I was venting to someone at the gym about this and she suggested the whole flowers thing, which is where I got the idea and another coworker thought it was a good idea so I went for it.

A little more back-story: she was seeing someone when we were getting all flirty but it was falling apart and she wasn't happy and thus us getting all friendly.

I did get a response from her just a little bit ago. She thought the flowers were "thoughtful" but that her guy didn't. She got them and immediately texted him apparently. Well fuck...

I sent a message back saying "So you're still together? That's disappointing. Oh well." No response. Said fuck it and sent another text. "Can I ask you something? I just did, haha. There was some interest there, right? What changed your mind? I think not knowing bugs me more than anything." And I'm getting the silent treatment again...

Gaf, I'm 24 and I've never had any success with any women ever. Every single time I continue to fail, I just get even more horribly depressed. I don't think I've ever been happy. There's moments where I'm less sad but I don't think I can recall a time when I was actually happy. Emo I know but if I weren't such a coward, I probably would've just killed myself already.

Go for women that.. actually seem decent? You can't expect a woman who's willing to step out on her current man do treat you any better. You probably turned her off by being "weak" with the wine sickness or whatever. At that point you chalk it up as a loss, and let her contact you if there's something to be said. Never buy flowers unless it's your girlfriend, or a woman you've had several mutually intimate dates with and you're taking it to the next level. That "win her with flowers" shit only works in the movies man.

 

[grap3fruitman]

Right now a man is fucking her and didn't even buy her a whopper. Come on bro

Gee thanks for the helpful insight.

I just kind of get really hopeful when a woman shows any interest in me because only four have in my lifetime. This one being one of them.

 

[Sneds]

I spent $60 on flowers. I know she got them because she was asking my coworkers about them. Do I get a response when I send a text asking how she likes them? No.

I hate women.

I don't know why I come into this thread. I cringe every time.

 

[soundahfekz]

Gee thanks for the helpful insight.

I just kind of get really hopeful when a woman shows any interest in me because only four have in my lifetime. This one being one of them.

It's probably not women that's your main problem. You have to like yourself, and become comfortable with your core personality, and start finding ways to use it to your advantage. Being that you mentioned suicide, there definitely has to be other aspects of your life that can be improved, like social interaction and assertiveness. These things collectively make up a mate that is ideal, or suitable for a woman. Practice altering your world around with through your will and this will eventually transition into confidence in other areas. There is no "one" attribute you display that does the trick.

 

[soultron]

Gee thanks for the helpful insight.

I just kind of get really hopeful when a woman shows any interest in me because only four have in my lifetime. This one being one of them.

Try getting out of your comfort zone and actually approaching/talking to random women? It sounds like you're only taking what's given to you.

Numbers game, increasing chances, etc.

 

[SRG01]

Try getting out of your comfort zone and actually approaching/talking to random women? It sounds like you're only taking what's given to you.

Numbers game, increasing chances, etc.

To add, it's also how you play your numbers too. It doesn't help if your "numbers" are from the same group or scene (ie. online dating).

 

[lawlohwhat]

I spent $60 on flowers. I know she got them because she was asking my coworkers about them. Do I get a response when I send a text asking how she likes them? No.

I hate women.

Please don't be that guy.

Women have gotten wise to being treated like princesses. Chivalry is just a means of non-violently oppressing them, lowering their social status, and robbing them of individual rights and power, and this generation of women are not taking that shit anymore. Nor should they have to.

Flowers are meaningless. Spending money on a girl does not make you a nice guy. All you're doing is telling her that you are willing to pay a distinct monetary sum for the chances of being allowed to put your dick inside of her. This may not entirely be the case, of course, but that shit comes off as creepy and needy. Giving a gift like this tells her that you think can buy your way into her life while sitting on the sidelines and not putting yourself out there to be accepted or rejected. You acted from a weak position from the outset, and most girls are not stupid enough to fall for that.

I don't like being this harsh on people in this thread, but saying that you hate women is a pretty offensive statement.

 

[ecurbj]

...You have to like yourself, and become comfortable with your core personality, and start finding ways to use it to your advantage...

I love this because this speaks for those with low confidence. Everyone has it but you first have to like yourself after that you could care less what others think about you. People attract to those that first love themselves. Without loving your ownself, how can you look to someone else? Your statement is spot on. Thanks...

 

[bucsfan0210]

Hey I don't know if this really belongs here, but I was wondering if anybody had any good advice for getting over a girl you were really into.

I had to break up with my girlfriend of a year because I left for college. She has pretty much moved on, and we might be friends down the road, but right now we both need space. But she has just been lingering in my mind, and I'm having trouble getting over her. I got out plenty here and meet a lot of new people, but my mind always starts drifting to her.

 

[greenry]

Hey I don't know if this really belongs here, but I was wondering if anybody had any good advice for getting over a girl you were really into.

I had to break up with my girlfriend of a year because I left for college. She has pretty much moved on, and we might be friends down the road, but right now we both need space. But she has just been lingering in my mind, and I'm having trouble getting over her. I got out plenty here and meet a lot of new people, but my mind always starts drifting to her.

Time, other women.

 

[Furio53]

Time, other women.

Yep. While you might not think it now, it just kind of starts to fade until one day you realize you're not really thinking about her, nor caring. Then you smile. As you're using some hot dumb blonde as a pounding piece.

 

[ecurbj]

Yep. While you might not think it now, it just kind of starts to fade until one day you realize you're not really thinking about her, nor caring. Then you smile. As you're using some hot dumb blonde as a pounding piece.

Nice, but true lol

 

[Cubsfan23]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rbJ1Df_AMV8&feature=player_embedded

 

[grap3fruitman]

Try getting out of your comfort zone and actually approaching/talking to random women? It sounds like you're only taking what's given to you.
Numbers game, increasing chances, etc.

Where would I possibly run into women? All you college students may run across countless numbers of women on campus but I work a 9-to-5 in an suburban office consisting of mostly really old women. Are you also suggesting that approaching random women wouldn't come off as creepy either?

It's probably not women that's your main problem. You have to like yourself, and become comfortable with your core personality, and start finding ways to use it to your advantage.

So I'm fucked, great.

Please don't be that guy.

What? What guy?

Women have gotten wise to being treated like princesses. Chivalry is just a means of non-violently oppressing them, lowering their social status, and robbing them of individual rights and power, and this generation of women are not taking that shit anymore. Nor should they have to.

What the fuck are you talking about? A nice gift to show I'm still interested means I'm trying to oppress her?

I don't like being this harsh on people in this thread, but saying that you hate women is a pretty offensive statement.

Given my life experiences, I'd say I'm allowed to hate women.

I love this because this speaks for those with low confidence. Everyone has it but you first have to like yourself after that you could care less what others think about you. People attract to those that first love themselves. Without loving your ownself, how can you look to someone else? Your statement is spot on. Thanks...

So there's no hope for people like me. Stupendous!

 

[SuperAndroid17]

Here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=31204954&postcount=15225


and here: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=31269284


I blamed the latter up to her just not getting my text because my phone sucks. I was venting to someone at the gym about this and she suggested the whole flowers thing, which is where I got the idea and another coworker thought it was a good idea so I went for it.

A little more back-story: she was seeing someone when we were getting all flirty but it was falling apart and she wasn't happy and thus us getting all friendly.

I did get a response from her just a little bit ago. She thought the flowers were "thoughtful" but that her guy didn't. She got them and immediately texted him apparently. Well fuck...

I sent a message back saying "So you're still together? That's disappointing. Oh well." No response. Said fuck it and sent another text. "Can I ask you something? I just did, haha. There was some interest there, right? What changed your mind? I think not knowing bugs me more than anything." And I'm getting the silent treatment again...

Gaf, I'm 24 and I've never had any success with any women ever. Every single time I continue to fail, I just get even more horribly depressed. I don't think I've ever been happy. There's moments where I'm less sad but I don't think I can recall a time when I was actually happy. Emo I know but if I weren't such a coward, I probably would've just killed myself already.

What the...?

Dude , well no shit shes ignoring you. So damn nosey/needy/all over her face kind of deal. Time to work on this , NOW. Stop investing so much TIME on meaningless crap. She only made out with you because "she was under the influence of alcohol" . You got too attached over nothing.

 

[grap3fruitman]

What the...? Dude , well no shit shes ignoring you. So damn nosey/needy/all over her face kind of deal. Time to work on this , NOW. Stop investing so much TIME on meaningless crap.

What "What the?" I'm honestly confused and I'd like some insight. Is that too much to ask for?

She only made out with you because "she was under the influence of alcohol" . You got too attached over nothing.

She was the one pushing me to go out in the first place. Not that it matters now, haha.

 

[jasonng]

grap3fruitman, take it easy. We're not here to belittle you, some of these advices here may sound harsh but it's just tough love. Granted, it's not meshing well with you but know we're trying to keep you in our best interests. No one here is trolling you, we all have/had girl problems in one form or another. That's why this thread exists.

 

[HighAmperage]

Given my life experiences, I'd say I'm allowed to hate women.

So great, problem solved. If you hate them so much why spend so much time and energy pining away for them?

Dude, you have some serious hurdles to get over if you ever want to be anything approaching happy. I feel for you, I do. I have a lot of the same issues and limitations, and am a lot older than you. I'm no misogynist but by and large I find, let's just say a large percentage of the female population insufferable and exasperating after I know them long enough. I feel that way about most guys too, don't get me wrong. But I'm not trying to fuck them. I rarely meet guys who are insufferable and exasperating in the uniquely frustrating and baffling ways that women can be, however. Not that I'm any prize either. People are a mess, that's just the way it is. If you need another one in your life enough you find a way to work through it and find one whose dysfunction level is compatible with your own.

Get back to a lot of the guys in this thread after they are 35 or 40 and have some more wear on the tires, and I guarangoddamntee that you won't see so many guys aghast at the mere suggestion of the sentence "I hate women". There will be a lot more nodding and muttering agreement. Or the message board equivalent thereof.

You just have to find a way to be happy with who you are, as goddamned trite as that sounds. Until you are, every relationship you will ever try to have will be doomed to fail, and stumbling your way into some chick's pants isn't going to make you happy. Just take solace in the fact that you are not alone, and the fact that so many people are deeply unhappy with themselves is why you see so many relationships in endless turmoil and drama. Such is life. Try to care less.

 

[~Kinggi~]

I have to say i got a nice confidence boost tonight. I mainly hate myself and have extreme social anxiety, but there is this attractive woman who hosts these dinners that i go to with some family every now and then to catch up. She basically hovers around my table all the time, flirting with me. I know she is also acting as a sales woman, but the stuff she says implies she wants to get down. She even rigged the damn giveaway contest at the end of the night so i would win and then told me about it.

As sad as this is, at the age of 27, she is the only woman that has showed that type of interest in me without me pursuing her (those girls amount to 2 in my life, where nothing happened.)

Nothing will happen with her but it is nice to know i am not completely undesirable.

 

[grap3fruitman]

Nothing ever good comes out of this thread whenever I post in it. I'm usually in here just when I'm really depressed over women.