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[DualShadow]

How long after getting a girls number do you guys try and organise a date/meet-up?

I got her number on the weekend and tried to organise it for this weekend but she's busy, just worried if the weekend after that would be too long to wait? Would be 2 weeks since I got her number by then.

 

[Xun]

I am on the verge of possibly starting a new relationship with a woman I met online. She is absolutely beautiful, we have been chatting for hours and we seem to be very compatible. she is away on a mission...yes, a religion related mission and will be returning soon after 9 months for good to get back to her civilian life and meet me.

She seems somewhat serious about her faith. And has asked me a couple of times if i was religious. I told her I was raised catholic but I am not a practicing catholic anymore. She seemed to accept that but I detect somewhat of a concern from her. I have not been pretending to be religious, not have I told her that I would be returning to my faith. I consider myself pretty agnostic at this point

So I know that even Darwin had a religious wife and they managed to stay married. I guess what it will come down to is if shes willing to tolerate my stance. I have been online dating for quite some time and have met women both on and off line. I don't have any trouble meeting beautiful intelligent people, but they all didn't work out for whatever reason. Mostly because of personality differences. Now I face one of the most difficult personality differences of all time. I'd like to post a pic of her because she is Nerd-swoon inducing.... too early however. thoughts?

Post a pic.

But seriously go for it if you do truly like her, but be assured it most likely wont go beyond kissing until marriage. That and 9 months is quite some time.

 

[nicoga3000]

How long after getting a girls number do you guys try and organise a date/meet-up?

I got her number on the weekend and tried to organise it for this weekend but she's busy, just worried if the weekend after that would be too long to wait? Would be 2 weeks since I got her number by then.

Honestly? If you're not against it, try a weekday evening meetup for coffee or something. Depending on the type of girl she is, it could be nice. Just a way to get together, chat, and relax a bit. It's a no pressure meetup that gives you a pretty decent idea of how easily you two can shoot back and forth.

 

[BLagiver]

Random question, how many of you, without thinking or worrying about it, would be able to just go to a dancefloor, grab a girl and start dancing with her? By dancing...I mean grinding (the easy version of "dancing") lol.

I let the women come to me or dance with the girls I know because some girls are just weird about who they dance with and will make it awkward by moving away or something. I will also dance with girls who look like they are interested.

 

[dreadfulwater]

I doubt she reads Neogaf.... just have a good feeling about her. No i don't think she'd wait for that stuff. she was quite clear. shes German...raised in Manchester UK...bonus points for accent...

 

[DualShadow]

Honestly? If you're not against it, try a weekday evening meetup for coffee or something. Depending on the type of girl she is, it could be nice. Just a way to get together, chat, and relax a bit. It's a no pressure meetup that gives you a pretty decent idea of how easily you two can shoot back and forth.

Yeah I was thinking about that, but weekdays can be hard for me because I commute to and from work. Certainly possible, might try it this week or early next week.

 

[NihonTiger90]

I doubt she reads Neogaf.... just have a good feeling about her. No i don't think she'd wait for that stuff. she was quite clear. shes German...raised in Manchester UK...bonus points for accent...

dread, go for it, buddy. She's awfully cute.

And Dual, I'd say nicoga's idea is pretty good. Just a weekday meet-up (working with whatever your schedules are) for coffee or something sounds like a good plan to go.

 

[jasonng]

Out of curiosity, anyone here post college-aged and still live with his parents have problems meeting girls? I'm 25, still going to school and working part time, and I still live with my mother. Made a lot of bad decisions but I'm working hard to get my act together. Since I'm more concerned of getting my life where I want it to be, I'm not too worried about meeting girls. If I am interested in someone though and things fly, she will eventually have to learn about my living situation and that can't be attractive to ladies my age.

Anyone in a similar predicament?

 

[johnny_park]

I've been talking to girl on pof for awhile now. We both live in Hawaii but on different islands. This coming weekend she's coming to visit and I don't know how comfortable I am about letting her stay at my place. She seems harmless. Maybe I should just let her stay. It's only for a couple of days and if worse comes to worse I could sleep on the couch.

 

[NeOak]

I doubt she reads Neogaf.... just have a good feeling about her. No i don't think she'd wait for that stuff. she was quite clear. shes German...raised in Manchester UK...bonus points for accent...

If both can come to an agreement about religion, then that wont be an issue. However, take into account that she will keep participating in religious activities.

How would you feel about participating in one of those activities in a non-religious role? Maintenaince, cleaning, etc. I mention it because maybe it dould be a way to... i dont know what to call it. Score points? Share time?

Out of curiosity, anyone here post college-aged and still live with his parents have problems meeting girls? I'm 25, still going to school and working part time, and I still live with my mother. Made a lot of bad decisions but I'm working hard to get my act together. Since I'm more concerned of getting my life where I want it to be, I'm not too worried about meeting girls. If I am interested in someone though and things fly, she will eventually have to learn about my living situation and that can't be attractive to ladies my age.

Anyone in a similar predicament?

Its only an issue if you make it an issue.

I've been talking to girl on pof for awhile now. We both live in Hawaii but on different islands. This coming weekend she's coming to visit and I don't know how comfortable I am about letting her stay at my place. She seems harmless. Maybe I should just let her stay. It's only for a couple of days and if worse comes to worse I could sleep on the couch.

If you snore: couch.

On a serious note: Why would you be uncomfortable? She's the one staying in a place she has never stayed at before. If it makes you comfortable, sleep on the couch the first night, but if she gives you a sign, take the chance.

 

[dreadfulwater]

If both can come to an agreement about religion, then that wont be an issue. However, take into account that she will keep participating in religious activities.

How would you feel about participating in one of those activities in a non-religious role? Maintenaince, cleaning, etc. I mention it because maybe it dould be a way to... i dont know what to call it. Score points? Share time?

that's an interesting perspective. I told her I wanted to start helping out the community in some way. perhaps there is other ways i can show my devotion without bending a knee.

 

[DualShadow]

Out of curiosity, anyone here post college-aged and still live with his parents have problems meeting girls? I'm 25, still going to school and working part time, and I still live with my mother. Made a lot of bad decisions but I'm working hard to get my act together. Since I'm more concerned of getting my life where I want it to be, I'm not too worried about meeting girls. If I am interested in someone though and things fly, she will eventually have to learn about my living situation and that can't be attractive to ladies my age.

Anyone in a similar predicament?

I'm 23 and still at home, I've never had a girl react negatively towards it cause I usually mention that I'm moving out as soon as I can find someone to room with (which is absolutely true).

And Dual, I'd say nicoga's idea is pretty good. Just a weekday meet-up (working with whatever your schedules are) for coffee or something sounds like a good plan to go.

Yeah I was actually thinking taking her to play pool since that's how we met. I told her we needed a re-match haha.

 

[SRG01]

Out of curiosity, anyone here post college-aged and still live with his parents have problems meeting girls? I'm 25, still going to school and working part time, and I still live with my mother. Made a lot of bad decisions but I'm working hard to get my act together. Since I'm more concerned of getting my life where I want it to be, I'm not too worried about meeting girls. If I am interested in someone though and things fly, she will eventually have to learn about my living situation and that can't be attractive to ladies my age.

Anyone in a similar predicament?

Nope, I had zero trouble meeting girls back when I was single. I live with my family at 27 (or rather, they're living with me since I'm the eldest son of an Asian household).

Let me put it this way: A lot of people are still living at home because of the economic situation. And not everyone's lives can afford such a "luxury", if you can call it that.

 

[Mordeccai]

This is a pretty lame question, but here it goes.

I met this chick at a party this weekend, there was flirting back and forth, but I don't place any weight on drunken flirting. Anyways, I added her on FB, and I was wondering what the best way to approach asking her to go out was. Never seen her before, first encounter was at this party. Do I just straight up ask her for her number on FB after some small talk? Ask for the date over FB?

I've just been out of the dating game for a little more than a year and don't want to fuck this up. Would be nice to have somebody for the holidays!

 

[NihonTiger90]

Yeah I was actually thinking taking her to play pool since that's how we met. I told her we needed a re-match haha.

That's perfect, bro.

This is a pretty lame question, but here it goes.

I met this chick at a party this weekend, there was flirting back and forth, but I don't place any weight on drunken flirting. Anyways, I added her on FB, and I was wondering what the best way to approach asking her to go out was. Never seen her before, first encounter was at this party. Do I just straight up ask her for her number on FB after some small talk? Ask for the date over FB?

I've just been out of the dating game for a little more than a year and don't want to fuck this up. Would be nice to have somebody for the holidays!

This is tough, but personally, I wouldn't be too blunt about it. Small talk might be better.

 

[Eggo]

This is a pretty lame question, but here it goes.

I met this chick at a party this weekend, there was flirting back and forth, but I don't place any weight on drunken flirting. Anyways, I added her on FB, and I was wondering what the best way to approach asking her to go out was. Never seen her before, first encounter was at this party. Do I just straight up ask her for her number on FB after some small talk? Ask for the date over FB?

I've just been out of the dating game for a little more than a year and don't want to fuck this up. Would be nice to have somebody for the holidays!

Establish some sort of rapport before asking her out. Small talk/flirt first over the phone or FB chat, so the invitation seems like a natural way to extend the fun you're already having. Don't just ask out of the blue as Joe Stranger who she doesn't know.

 

[johnny_park]

If you snore: couch.

On a serious note: Why would you be uncomfortable? She's the one staying in a place she has never stayed at before. If it makes you comfortable, sleep on the couch the first night, but if she gives you a sign, take the chance.

I guess I'm really not going to be uncomfortable. I do want to make things as comfortable as I can for her though. Also I'm not to sure how I should go about making a move on her. I'm not the type a person to make a first move and I haven't really had to.

 

[Dreavus]

Establish some sort of rapport before asking her out. Small talk/flirt first over the phone or FB chat, so the invitation seems like a natural way to extend the fun you're already having. Don't just ask out of the blue as Joe Stranger who she doesn't know.

I like this approach.

 

[psychicpsych]

Hey neogaf,

I've been lurking on this thread for a while but now I think I can use some advice knowing very well that I receive harsh responses. Basically, Im a whitewashed short filipino american guy living in houston tx who gets so nervous around women to the point of inaction. Ive done some online dating and im beginning to think/believe that girls just arent attracted to me. Over the past 3 years, I started running marathons, ironman races and occassionally go on solo trips overseas to get a life outside of work and hoping against hope that I'll meet someone in the process but have failed miserably as most athletes/travelers I meet are in a relationship.

So heres my current sitation. I was flying into Chicago for the marathon this weekend and had a seat next to this really attractive blond who i later learned was traveling to a wedding on her own. I was able to talk to her a little about marathons (since she ran a marathon in the past) and triathlons (since she is interested in doing those races too). She even runs in the same park as me but lives much closer to it. But there was another guy who is more into triathlons more than me who was able to talk to her more easily than me in our row and seemed to be more interactive with him. But she seemed to be impressed with what i do for a living and i was able to tell her about my trip to pamplona spain last year. When we were getting ready to get off the plane, she was asking me more questions about my own experiences in races. I learned that we have the same flight leaving out of Chicago while we were talking. So I left things as telling her that it was nice meeting her and maybe I'll see here on the flight back home instead of asking for her number or asking her to friend me on FB. Ive never asked a girls number before. Im hoping that I will see her again at the airport and ask her number but I'm not sure how to go about it. I havent been in a situation like this in a long time.

 

[red731]

So gaffers,

I haven't been in relationship for two years...
but there is this one girl and she is very interested in me, but I have told her that I don't want any realtionship.
When we were outside and a little tipsy, I told her that we can sleep together, but nothing more.
She was thinking about it and now she wrote me, that we can sleep together, but she can't guarantee that she wont like me more doing so.
I haven't had non-drunk-as-fuck sex for these two years and this could certaintly raise my confidence and everything related.
But...she isnt so good looking, I mean, face. But she has a vagina and I think that is all that matters for me now.
I think I will go for it since I am not so good in bed and this brings back the confidence raise since I would have someone to fuck...
So...I think I may go for it.
You thinking?

 

[TheVampire]

WHY ARE YOU STILL HERE

GO FOR IT

 

[red731]

...writting accepting
...dat bootycall

edit: I am ill now, so it will be maybe next weekend.
And somebody should kick me in crotch for not using this opportunity and having second thoughs.

I should accept there is no destiny and love waiting for me but fuck my way through life..

 

[Spacebar]

Hey neogaf,

I've been lurking on this thread for a while but now I think I can use some advice knowing very well that I receive harsh responses. Basically, Im a whitewashed short filipino american guy living in houston tx who gets so nervous around women to the point of inaction. Ive done some online dating and im beginning to think/believe that girls just arent attracted to me. Over the past 3 years, I started running marathons, ironman races and occassionally go on solo trips overseas to get a life outside of work and hoping against hope that I'll meet someone in the process but have failed miserably as most athletes/travelers I meet are in a relationship.

So heres my current sitation. I was flying into Chicago for the marathon this weekend and had a seat next to this really attractive blond who i later learned was traveling to a wedding on her own. I was able to talk to her a little about marathons (since she ran a marathon in the past) and triathlons (since she is interested in doing those races too). She even runs in the same park as me but lives much closer to it. But there was another guy who is more into triathlons more than me who was able to talk to her more easily than me in our row and seemed to be more interactive with him. But she seemed to be impressed with what i do for a living and i was able to tell her about my trip to pamplona spain last year. When we were getting ready to get off the plane, she was asking me more questions about my own experiences in races. I learned that we have the same flight leaving out of Chicago while we were talking. So I left things as telling her that it was nice meeting her and maybe I'll see here on the flight back home instead of asking for her number or asking her to friend me on FB. Ive never asked a girls number before. Im hoping that I will see her again at the airport and ask her number but I'm not sure how to go about it. I havent been in a situation like this in a long time.

Damn son you sound really interesting just by reading your post. So you run marathons, in good shape, and have traveled the world. You have tons of shit to talk about with women and stuff they're going to be into.

Stop putting so much expectations on yourself with the "hoping against hope" talk. You're a marathon runner so you know everything there is about putting in work. Now just work on getting girls numbers. You obviously had an opportunity blown, but you might get another chance. Do you want to be the guy who waits on 2nd chances? Hell no....No guys want to do that. All it takes is...."Hey it was great talking with you. We should continue our conversation later. What is your number?"

Also if you meet married couples feel free to get both of their contact info as well. They might have single friends who are looking and you might meet a group of new friends that will increase your chances. If you haven't read The Game by Neil Strauss then I would recommend that book for you. It will open your eyes to lots of situations you might have missed out on in the past. Good luck!

 

[samus i am]

The "I had a great time with you text". If you are after just a hookup you shouldn't do it, but what if you are really interested in a relationship?

 

[Blader]

The "I had a great time with you text". If you are after just a hookup you shouldn't do it, but what if you are really interested in a relationship?

I don't understand, are you sending it or did you get one like that?

 

[Spacebar]

The "I had a great time with you text". If you are after just a hookup you shouldn't do it, but what if you are really interested in a relationship?

Is this after a first date or something? We need a little more detail.

 

[samus i am]

Is this after a first date or something? We need a little more detail.

I re-read my sentence and it was poorly worded, sorry. I went out with a girl on Saturday and it was probably my best first date ever. We ended up going to her place and in the morning we went out for breakfast food. Everything was really natural. I want to send her a "I had a great time with you text". In this situation is it allowed, or should I just arrange to go out with her next weekend?

 

[Spacebar]

I re-read my sentence and it was poorly worded, sorry. I went out with a girl on Saturday and it was probably my best first date ever. We ended up going to her place and in the morning we went out for breakfast food. Everything was really natural. I want to send her a "I had a great time with you text". In this situation is it allowed, or should I just arrange to go out with her next weekend?

Okay I know you're running off the high you got on the first date, but I don't see how you want a relationship with someone you've been on one date with. Its okay to take things slow and just get to know someone.

I honestly never send the "I had a great time with you text or phone call" anymore. I usually wait a day or two and just call back making small talk and setting up the next date. I've been in too many situations where I got too excited and followed up too soon only to crushed in the end. There is nothing wrong with sending the text. I just feel like if I did a good job at the date the girl would send that message. Not me.

Maybe someone else can throw in their opinions as well. Either way, good luck!

 

[Host Samurai]

Okay I know you're running off the high you got on the first date, but I don't see how you want a relationship with someone you've been on one date with. Its okay to take things slow and just get to know someone.

I honestly never send the "I had a great time with you text or phone call" anymore. I usually wait a day or two and just call back making small talk and setting up the next date. I've been in too many situations where I got too excited and followed up too soon only to crushed in the end. There is nothing wrong with sending the text. I just feel like if I did a good job at the date the girl would send that message. Not me.

Maybe someone else can throw in their opinions as well. Either way, good luck!

I don't think it hurts to do that. I think if he wants the relationship he should send it because it makes it seem you respect the women and are not just seeing her as a tempary "fuck buddy".

 

[Houston3000]

In my experience the girl sends that text / makes that call... then I follow it up by setting up a second date. If it's been a couple days and I really liked the girl I might send a message but it's usually directly related to some sort of conversation we had during the date to just kind of get the ball rolling again before asking her out again. For example, during the first date on Friday the girl tells me she's going to a birthday party on Saturday, tells me about the crazy shit they'll be doing. Sunday night I might text, "Hey, how was the party [etc...]".

I wouldn't text a girl, "I had a great time last night" - seems very weak to me as a message in general. You could only really be hoping for one single response, "me to". It doesn't lead to anything or leave any room for conversation around the subject and it doesn't 'break the ice' for asking her out on that second date - if anything it seems more like you're waiting for her to ask you out at that point.

 

[Host Samurai]

I guess it can go either way. I have done that only twice with girls that I liked and got good responses back. I guess it has to do with the age of the girls you are dealing with.

 

[Houston3000]

I guess it can go either way. I have done that only twice with girls that I liked and got good responses back. I guess it has to do with the age of the girls you are dealing with.

Well, to be honest...

If the girl likes you then you're set. It's not a deal breaker if you send an awkward text message after a good first date. People tend to overthink that first message anyways. Sending a message like: "I had a great time last night " is just a lame ass message though and it's weak. It's the same as asking, "Did you have fun last night?", or "So what do you think? Do you like me?" - the only logical response to that question will be, "me to" or she'll ignore you. It's a form of validation, be confident and just continue on with normal conversation, ask for a second date, or hell - just out-right flirt.

Like I said though, it won't outright just kill you in the water. You'll just look weaker and if you keep doing shit like that you'll start looking lame.

 

[NihonTiger90]

In my experience the girl sends that text / makes that call... then I follow it up by setting up a second date. If it's been a couple days and I really liked the girl I might send a message but it's usually directly related to some sort of conversation we had during the date to just kind of get the ball rolling again before asking her out again. For example, during the first date on Friday the girl tells me she's going to a birthday party on Saturday, tells me about the crazy shit they'll be doing. Sunday night I might text, "Hey, how was the party [etc...]".

I wouldn't text a girl, "I had a great time last night" - seems very weak to me as a message in general. You could only really be hoping for one single response, "me to". It doesn't lead to anything or leave any room for conversation around the subject and it doesn't 'break the ice' for asking her out on that second date - if anything it seems more like you're waiting for her to ask you out at that point.

Can't say it any better. It makes being able to work toward asking that second date or meet-up or whatever easier.

 

[psychicpsych]

Well saw her at the airport again and tried to ask for her number. Turns out she has a boyfriend but was willing to run with me if she sees me at the park. I go from feeling great from the marathon to feeling like a complete loser today. At least I've got work and a half ironman race in two weeks to get ready for. I got nothing else.

 

[Kung Fu Grip]

Theres too many rules and games when trying to get a girl. It shouldn't be like that. Its so stupid.

It shouldn't be this hard.

 

[SuperAndroid17]

Theres too many rules and games when trying to get a girl. It shouldn't be like that. Its so stupid.

It shouldn't be this hard.

Confidence goes a long way , but the game has changed. Its no so easy anymore , especially when texting has become the fucking norm instead of phone calls. Oh well , just gotta adjust.

 

[Moussi]

Theres too many rules and games when trying to get a girl. It shouldn't be like that. Its so stupid.

It shouldn't be this hard.

It isn't. Even some of the so called "experts" in this thread don't know what they're talking about. All you have to do is better yourself in every way possible. Gain confidence and start to love who you are. After that it's easy. Just be yourself and it works. Thing is, you have to do the work before putting yourself out there. Once you believe in yourself and think you're the best, guess what you actually are.

If a girl doesn't like who you are after that you know FOR A FACT she isn't worth your time. To me, if I'm even talking to a girl we both know she is the luckiest woman in the world.

For many years I was told to "just be a dick bro! Chicks love douchebags! Don't be soft!" That advice is horseshit. Be yourself and you're set. Easy as hell.

 

[Etrian Oddity]

Confidence goes a long way , but the game has changed. Its no so easy anymore , especially when texting has become the fucking norm instead of phone calls. Oh well , just gotta adjust.

Bar-none the toughest thing for me has been avoiding PIA girls (to use damnable pick-up artist slang) and trying to find a single girl who actually appreciates being treated with respect. I'm surrounded by college girls, and most only want an asshole who wants to hook up with them. Maybe I should aim at grad students, iono.

 

[SRG01]

It isn't. Even some of the so called "experts" in this thread don't know what they're talking about. All you have to do is better yourself in every way possible. Gain confidence and start to love who you are. After that it's easy. Just be yourself and it works. Thing is, you have to do the work before putting yourself out there. Once you believe in yourself and think you're the best, guess what you actually are.

If a girl doesn't like who you are after that you know FOR A FACT she isn't worth your time. To me, if I'm even talking to a girl we both know she is the luckiest woman in the world.

For many years I was told to "just be a dick bro! Chicks love douchebags! Don't be soft!" That advice is horseshit. Be yourself and you're set. Easy as hell.

To add: Don't be cynical when it comes to dating. It's easy to fall into that trap. Frame every girl -- even if it's just one or two dates -- in a positive way.

Bar-none the toughest thing for me has been avoiding PIA girls (to use damnable pick-up artist slang) and trying to find a single girl who actually appreciates being treated with respect. I'm surrounded by college girls, and most only want an asshole who wants to hook up with them. Maybe I should aim at grad students, iono.

Now that's cynical. Are you looking in the right places?

 

[Moussi]

Bar-none the toughest thing for me has been avoiding PIA girls (to use damnable pick-up artist slang) and trying to find a single girl who actually appreciates being treated with respect. I'm surrounded by college girls, and most only want an asshole who wants to hook up with them. Maybe I should aim at grad students, iono.

I'm in university as well and I know what you mean. However trust me THEY ARE OUT THERE. Thing is, you have to be really patient. Which is easy in university as there's so much fucking homework anyway it's hard not to be busy. Also all you gotta do is find one girl and she will introduce you to all her friends which are all cool too. Win.

 

[Kung Fu Grip]

It isn't. Even some of the so called "experts" in this thread don't know what they're talking about. All you have to do is better yourself in every way possible. Gain confidence and start to love who you are. After that it's easy. Just be yourself and it works. Thing is, you have to do the work before putting yourself out there. Once you believe in yourself and think you're the best, guess what you actually are.

If a girl doesn't like who you are after that you know FOR A FACT she isn't worth your time. To me, if I'm even talking to a girl we both know she is the luckiest woman in the world.

For many years I was told to "just be a dick bro! Chicks love douchebags! Don't be soft!" That advice is horseshit. Be yourself and you're set. Easy as hell.

The thing that really botheres me it seems girls are way to picky. If you don't look a certain way, or have a certain job etc, they won't even bother with you. Theres too much expectations. Why the fuck can't i like you and thats it? Its the survival of the fittest. And the fittest are usually fucking dickheads.

Would you say white girls are easier/nicer than black girls? I've been called cute by more white girls than black. They seem more open to things and nicer too. Or do i watch too much TV?

 

[Fantasmo]

Out of curiosity, anyone here post college-aged and still live with his parents have problems meeting girls? I'm 25, still going to school and working part time, and I still live with my mother. Made a lot of bad decisions but I'm working hard to get my act together. Since I'm more concerned of getting my life where I want it to be, I'm not too worried about meeting girls. If I am interested in someone though and things fly, she will eventually have to learn about my living situation and that can't be attractive to ladies my age.

Anyone in a similar predicament?

Be honest. Lies get you nowhere. You'll just end up hiding it and feeling ashamed the whole time. Honesty and busting your ass reaps rewards. You'll surely get some bites on the way up and the bonus is you'll also know who likes you for you.

 

[Kung Fu Grip]

Be honest. Lies get you nowhere. You'll just end up hiding it and feeling ashamed the whole time. Honesty and busting your ass reaps rewards. You'll surely get some bites on the way up and the bonus is you'll also know who likes you for you.

My cousin lived at home up until last year. He was 31. And he gets all the pussy in the world from all walks of life. I don't understand.

 

[Moussi]

The thing that really botheres me it seems girls are way to picky. If you don't look a certain way, or have a certain job etc, they won't even bother with you. Theres too much expectations. Why the fuck can't i like you and thats it? Its the survival of the fittest. And the fittest are usually fucking dickheads.

Would you say white girls are easier/nicer than black girls? I've been called cute by more white girls than black. They seem more open to things and nicer too. Or do i watch too much TV?

About the look part, that was the easiest part for me to take care of back in the day. Get a job, and get a better wardrobe. I'm not telling you to spend thousands of dollars on clothes but you gotta look presentable. Girls can tell and usually don't mind minimal effort.

Beyond that you should have no problems. Jobs and other things are only problems if you make them out to be. Perhaps it's because I'm just a student and the expectation for me isn't that high when it comes to it, but girls really don't care what kind of job you have. As long as you show you have your life under control you're good to go. For example I don't own a car. I could use this as an excuse as I don't have a car to pick girls up etc etc. To me, I need to pay for school first and I'm going to save up for a car. Who cares, I'm awesome anyway who needs a car?

 

[Fantasmo]

My cousin lived at home up until last year. He was 31. And he gets all the pussy in the world from all walks of life. I don't understand.

I'm almost 32. I live with my parents because I made bad decisions that I am correcting. I work. I'm funny. I'm real. I'm honest. I don't go for taken women. I don't go for anyone who isn't into me. If I get mixed signals I don't pursue and never call again unless that changes. I am extra flirtatious if they aren't into me because if I run into them later they might have a change of heart. If not, its fun practice. I'm a great friend if you're loyal to me, and I'm a dick if you cross me. I don't cheat. I do pretty well.

 

[ecurbj]

It isn't. Even some of the so called "experts" in this thread don't know what they're talking about. All you have to do is better yourself in every way possible. Gain confidence and start to love who you are. After that it's easy. Just be yourself and it works. Thing is, you have to do the work before putting yourself out there. Once you believe in yourself and think you're the best, guess what you actually are.

If a girl doesn't like who you are after that you know FOR A FACT she isn't worth your time. To me, if I'm even talking to a girl we both know she is the luckiest woman in the world.

For many years I was told to "just be a dick bro! Chicks love douchebags! Don't be soft!" That advice is horseshit. Be yourself and you're set. Easy as hell.

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About the look part, that was the easiest part for me to take care of back in the day. Get a job, and get a better wardrobe. I'm not telling you to spend thousands of dollars on clothes but you gotta look presentable. Girls can tell and usually don't mind minimal effort.

Beyond that you should have no problems. Jobs and other things are only problems if you make them out to be. Perhaps it's because I'm just a student and the expectation for me isn't that high when it comes to it, but girls really don't care what kind of job you have. As long as you show you have your life under control you're good to go. For example I don't own a car. I could use this as an excuse as I don't have a car to pick girls up etc etc. To me, I need to pay for school first and I'm going to save up for a car. Who cares, I'm awesome anyway who needs a car?

Great advice mate. Glady appreciate it !

 

[jasonng]

Be honest. Lies get you nowhere. You'll just end up hiding it and feeling ashamed the whole time. Honesty and busting your ass reaps rewards. You'll surely get some bites on the way up and the bonus is you'll also know who likes you for you.

I have no intentions of lying and I haven't for the few girls that I came across but I still believed it didn't helped. And I'm well aware there are quite a few in my situation, one of my close friends in particular, and still have success. I just thought the examples that I've come across were the exception for various reasons. But if we're talking about honesty here I am ashamed of my living situation, mainly because it's a reminder of me not being what I consider successful. Not being a downer, it's definitely a motivation. I'm just very hard on myself.

It just sucks that every time a friend has a housewarming party for their new apartment the first thought that comes across my head is "Goddamn son, I would get so much ass if this hot shit was my pad."

Spoiler

Don't know why I talk ghetto to myself.

 

[Mordeccai]

Alright, so this girl is on Facebook right now, and I've gotta man the fuck up and send her a message. But fuck! I just freeze before I can hit enter. How do you guys usually start a conversation with somebody you just met at a party? I'm sitting here and overanalyzing everything, and I just want to punch myself in the dick to bring the analyzing to a halt

Edit: FUUUUUU! As soon as I posted this I just said fuck it and sent her a message but she signed off before I had fully typed it. God dammit.

 

[ecurbj]

Out of curiosity, anyone here post college-aged and still live with his parents have problems meeting girls? I'm 25, still going to school and working part time, and I still live with my mother. Made a lot of bad decisions but I'm working hard to get my act together. Since I'm more concerned of getting my life where I want it to be, I'm not too worried about meeting girls. If I am interested in someone though and things fly, she will eventually have to learn about my living situation and that can't be attractive to ladies my age.

Anyone in a similar predicament?

Be honest. Lies get you nowhere. You'll just end up hiding it and feeling ashamed the whole time. Honesty and busting your ass reaps rewards. You'll surely get some bites on the way up and the bonus is you'll also know who likes you for you.

The same way. I'm 24 living with my mother and sister. My other sister went off to college in New York. My Mother doesn't work due to disability issues. So me and my sister are the ones bringing in income, keeping a roof over our heads. At first I felt ashamed of me living with my mother at 24, being head of household and having one vehicle. But I began to think differently. I'm doing something most other dudes probably refused to do or couldn't do. I'm taking a chunk out of my life to do what my mother did for me practically my whole young years of my own life. So with respect I will do the same to her. It shows I care and will go out my way for people in need. If a girl doesnt understand that or appreciate that then simply, on to the next one.

If anything you should be proud and smart living with mother. Considering how the economy is and the cost of living!

 

[ecurbj]

I have no intentions of lying and I haven't for the few girls that I came across but I still believed it didn't helped. And I'm well aware there are quite a few in my situation, one of my close friends in particular, and still have success. I just thought the examples that I've come across were the exception for various reasons. But if we're talking about honesty here I am ashamed of my living situation, mainly because it's a reminder of me not being what I consider successful. Not being a downer, it's definitely a motivation. I'm just very hard on myself.

It just sucks that every time a friend has a housewarming party for their new apartment the first thought that comes across my head is "Goddamn son, I would get so much ass if this hot shit was my pad."

Spoiler

Don't know why I talk ghetto to myself.

YOU alone should be the HOT SHIT. Not a car, house, apartment, job. Read my post above. I went into detail my situation. And it's kinda similar to yours.