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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need

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hellclerk

Everything is tsundere to me
Varjet said:
So how did that crown of sonnets work out?
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Never did it. Outlined alot of it out, even wrote a couple, but I had other shit going on so I never got to it. Now that I'm 1500 miles away from that rural hellhole and in an area where I have alot more options and freedom of movement, I don't really need to depend on esoteric means to get a date.

Now I can just say "Hey wanna go see a cool band?" at any time really and there'll be a cool band playing SOMEWHERE in the city that weekend.

But yeah, like I said, hot date on Friday, will give details if it goes down and my awful luck with women doesn't play through and I get stood up. :lol
 
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Slo

Member
CrushDance said:
People are really fucked up. I mean, I always kind of knew that society is ridiculous, but this seals the deal. If I had a girlfriend and this girl was hitting on me, or I said I wasn't interested, then she should move on. Same goes for guys. But it seems that people would rather go to a club or whatever and pick up a random guy/girl instead of working for something that will last. If you like someone, what's the harm in waiting? I didn't say wait if they're in a relationship or don't give a damn about you.

I hate this live fast bs. That just means you never really liked me to begin with.
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Crush, right now you think that you're being all coy and calculating your next move, but what you're actually doing is repeatedly rejecting her advances.
 
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whitehawk

Banned
CrushDance said:
People are really fucked up. I mean, I always kind of knew that society is ridiculous, but this seals the deal. If I had a girlfriend and this girl was hitting on me, or I said I wasn't interested, then she should move on. Same goes for guys. But it seems that people would rather go to a club or whatever and pick up a random guy/girl instead of working for something that will last. If you like someone, what's the harm in waiting? I didn't say wait if they're in a relationship or don't give a damn about you.

I hate this live fast bs. That just means you never really liked me to begin with.
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So naive. By taking it too slow, she will start to think you are not interested, which in turn will result in her losing interest in you. She's let you know that she likes you in some very obvious ways. The balls in your court, go for the 3 pointer.
 
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Slo

Member
CrushDance said:
If she was more direct it wouldn't be an issue. I don't understand what's so hard about saying you like someone. Oh wait, the guy has to do it, right?
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Okay, you're just a troll. I admit it, ya got me. :lol
 
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whitehawk

Banned
CrushDance said:
If she was more direct it wouldn't be an issue. I don't understand what's so hard about saying you like someone. Oh wait, the guy has to do it, right?
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Yup.

It sucks, but that's how it is most of the time. Instead of my prom dating asking me out, she told one of my friends that she wanted me to ask her to prom, who then told me, and then I asked her out. It's stupid, but just go with it.
 
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TacticalFox88

Banned
CrushDance said:
If she was more direct it wouldn't be an issue. I don't understand what's so hard about saying you like someone. Oh wait, the guy has to do it, right?
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I'm going to let you in on a secret: 99% OF GIRLS DO NOT CONFRONT A GUY THEY LIKE! Hell, I'd say at least half of that don't even give the guy subtle hints. At least that was my personal experience, half of the girls that (eventually) told me they liked me, literally, gave NO indication AT ALL.
 
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Slo

Member
CrushDance said:
That's not what I f'ing meant. "Hey, I like you. We should hang out sometime!" Most people would say yes. I don't like the whole "playing hard to get shit", again, I'm not talking about this situation specifically. If two people like each other they should be able to say that right? But for some reason it's on ME the person who she LIKES to ask her out? What convulted nonsense is that? Does that make sense to anybody?
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Wow you make it sound so amazingly easy, but yet refuse to do it. Allegedly. :lol

Guys, assertiveness is a masculine trait. Masculine traits are generally attractive to heterosexual women. Every time you cry about this fact on the internet, it sounds exactly like a fat chick complaining about how guys only want "Barbie Dolls" that can fit in a single airplane seat and tie their own shoes.
 
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whitehawk

Banned
Just ask her out. You are not going to change how females and males by bitching about it on GAF. I don't like it either, I hate that the guy has to take the initiative the majority of the time. But, I just go with it and I've had a lot of success this year with girls (went from never being on a date, to dating 4 girls, the most recent whom I've been with for almost 4 months now).
 
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-PXG-

Member
CrushDance said:
That's all I'm saying. It's so ridiculous that you see some girl be all flirty, gossip with her friends etc just to make it obvious to you and NEVER do anything about it. I mean it almost angers me, I don't like the drama and awkwardness that always accompanies this. And everyones telling me that instead of going to work and you know, working and enjoying myself, I have to go out of my way to ask her out? God I hate this shit.


But you're the jerk for not saying anything. *Roll eyes*
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That's just how it is. It's never going to change. Like most things in life, if you want, you have to go out there and get it. SO GO GET HER!

You truly can't comprehend how lucky you are. Your actions are a slap in the face to every single person in this thread. This girl is begging you to ask her out. She wants you. Pussy is rubbing the head of your dick and you won't put it in. You got your golden ticket to the chocolate factory and you won't go. What's your problem?

Stop thinking about shit and ask her out. End of discussion.
 
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EzLink

Banned
CrushDance said:
If she was more direct it wouldn't be an issue
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HOLY SHIT

So glad I had finished swallowing my soda seconds before reading this, otherwise my Macbook Pro would now be permanently ruined

Crush is either a troll or Combine reborn
 
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Cyan

Banned
This reminds me of the old chestnut:

A guy named Saul finds himself in dire trouble. His business has gone bust and he's in serious financial trouble. He's so desperate that he decides to ask God for help. He begins to pray: "God, please help me. I've lost my business and if I don't get some money, I'm going to lose my house as well. Please let me win the lottery."

Lottery night comes, and somebody else wins it.

Saul again prays: "God, please let me win the lotto! I've lost my business, my house and I'm going to lose my car as well."

Lotto night comes, and Saul still has no luck.

Once again, he prays: "My God, why have you forsaken me? I've lost my business, my house, and my car. My wife and children are starving. I don't often ask you for help, and I have always been a good servant to you. PLEASE just let me win the lottery this one time so I can get my life back in order."

Suddenly there is a blinding flash of light as the heavens open and Saul is confronted by the voice of God Himself:

"Saul, meet me halfway. Buy a ticket."​


Crush, meet her halfway.
 
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whitehawk

Banned
Cyan said:
This reminds me of the old chestnut:

A guy named Saul finds himself in dire trouble. His business has gone bust and he's in serious financial trouble. He's so desperate that he decides to ask God for help. He begins to pray: "God, please help me. I've lost my business and if I don't get some money, I'm going to lose my house as well. Please let me win the lottery."

Lottery night comes, and somebody else wins it.

Saul again prays: "God, please let me win the lotto! I've lost my business, my house and I'm going to lose my car as well."

Lotto night comes, and Saul still has no luck.

Once again, he prays: "My God, why have you forsaken me? I've lost my business, my house, and my car. My wife and children are starving. I don't often ask you for help, and I have always been a good servant to you. PLEASE just let me win the lottery this one time so I can get my life back in order."

Suddenly there is a blinding flash of light as the heavens open and Saul is confronted by the voice of God Himself:

"Saul, meet me halfway. Buy a ticket."​


Crush, meet her halfway.
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PERFECT
 
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hellclerk

Everything is tsundere to me
jon bones said:
somewhere between the sonets and now, you really got your shit figured out!
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Not really. The only thing for the immobile (meaning without a car) to do out there during the weekends was to either drink cheap piss-in-a-keg with drunken morons or see one of the student bands that went on once every month or so, and everyone went to those events anyway. Couldn't even go see a fuck'n movie since the ONLY theater in 25+ miles was so damned inaccessible by anything but car.

I have enough common sense to think "Hey, we should go out and do something fun" before turning to a romantic faux pas to get me anywhere, it's just that there was literally NOTHING fun to do that was accessible by foot or (lol) public transit.

Now I'm back in my element. I think it might have ended up working personally, knowing what I know about the girl, but I was in a bad place out there. Here I'm more centered and have more options for the car-less.
 
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SamuraiX-

Member
EzLink said:
HOLY SHIT

So glad I had finished swallowing my soda seconds before reading this, otherwise my Macbook Pro would now be permanently ruined

Crush is either a troll or Combine reborn
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Has GOT to be this. Holy shit. Everyone's been played. :lol
 
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TurboLibre

Member
Crush, what's your strategy here? She's not going to like you more without getting to know you and she won't be able to know you better unless you ask her out. Really, what's the harm in trying? Especially when she's making it weirdly obvious like that.

I've posted the song before, but it really motivated me in a situation similar to yours, so here it is again.
The Great Divide - Louis Logic & J.J. Brown

I think this verse really applies here:
Who would accept the shameless coward that never tried
starring at a better life on legs, and just let it slide.
Am I just petrified she won't say yes?
If I measured my reluctance would my hope weigh less?
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sooperkool

Member
CrushDance said:
That's not what I f'ing meant. "Hey, I like you. We should hang out sometime!" Most people would say yes. I don't like the whole "playing hard to get shit", again, I'm not talking about this situation specifically. If two people like each other they should be able to say that right? But for some reason it's on ME the person who she LIKES to ask her out? What convulted nonsense is that? Does that make sense to anybody?
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She's not playing hard to get you jackass, life does not come with clear outlined and defined statements. She is somewhere right now saying the above and you are screwing this up.
 
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Acid08

Banned
Tkawsome said:
Crush, what's your strategy here? She's not going to like you more without getting to know you and she won't be able to know you better unless you ask her out. Really, what's the harm in trying? Especially when she's making it weirdly obvious like that.

I've posted the song before, but it really motivated me in a situation similar to yours, so here it is again.
The Great Divide - Louis Logic & J.J. Brown

I think this verse really applies here:
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That song is fucking great.
 
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norinrad

Member
Just came back from my date and thought i would update GAF.

I'm in, i hit a home run.

we went for a drink, i made her laugh a lot, we talked and talked drunk some more then when things were getting bored i convinced her to go play table tennis with me. she loved it and when i was about to take her home she told me she has been on lots of dates but this is the most bizarre and fun date she's been on. We met some of my buddies while playing table tennis and she loved them.

we kissed for a few minutes then kissed some more. I told her i was off on Thursday and she said she would like to come to my place for dinner. anyway i don't want to talk too much.


I may have a girlfriend GAF

Life is smiling with me and not at me
 
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DualShadow

Member
Norwegian Wood said:
Just came back from my date and thought i would update GAF.

I'm in, i hit a home run.

we went for a drink, i made her laugh a lot, we talked and talked drunk some more then when things were getting bored i convinced her to go play table tennis with me. she loved it and when i was about to take her home she told me she has been on lots of dates but this is the most bizarre and fun date she's been on. We met some of my buddies while playing table tennis and she loved them.

we kissed for a few minutes then kissed some more. I told her i was off on Thursday and she said she would like to come to my place for dinner. anyway i don't want to talk too much.


I may have a girlfriend GAF

Life is smiling with me and not at me
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So now you can finish that bell curve and work out your chances :lol

I think that was you who counted your rejections lol

Gratz :p
 
Barrage

Barrage

Member
whitehawk said:
You don't have to get laid on the first date to get a homerun bro.
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If we talking High school references, then a home run is full intercourse. Period. That was all I was referencing, don't get mad.
 
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Mike Works

Member
CrushDance: One of the reasons I claimed you were lying is because you stated that she made you a milkshake that had your name and hers written on it inside a giant heart. Then You claimed that she isn't "being direct" with you.

There is factually no way that anyone can't see that sign. Thus, you're lying- either about the girl, the milkshake, or all of the above.

Norwegian Wood said:
I may have a girlfriend GAF
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Be careful not to get ahead of yourself. I'm serious.
 
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Ether_Snake

安安安安安安安安安安安安安安安
CrushDance said:
A girl giving you a drink doesn't mean anything. People ask me if I want drinks all the time and in the past as well. When I was 16/17 I worked in a restaurant(bakery) with this one girl. We always fooled around and one day I brought the milk to pour in the icecream machine, the lid was jammed and she helped me with it. I spilled some on her and myself and she was all "tehehehe". She later made me a icecream, didn't mean anything. I mean come on, how many times has a waitress given you a free drink? at a bar? club? at school? etc Lastly by "direct" I meant as in her just asking me to go out with her. What really has/had me questioning was the fact that she doesn't even talk to me sometimes and she's just that much better than me physically. Hence why I have a hard time believing her to be sincere as well and not in it for an epic troll or something like some girls in the past...

You guys told me to take things easy and not take every girl smiling at me or whatever as interest. Maybe I took it too far, but I'm not chasing after pipe dreams anymore.
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So did you lie about the heart and your names on it thing? Cause you're not mentioning it here, nor did she ask you if you wanted a drink in your original story.
 
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Neki

Member
How do you guys put up with Crush, constantly? Just reading the last few pages, I would have given up already. :lol
 
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hydragonwarrior

Member
Norwegian Wood said:
Just came back from my date and thought i would update GAF.

I'm in, i hit a home run.

we went for a drink, i made her laugh a lot, we talked and talked drunk some more then when things were getting bored i convinced her to go play table tennis with me. she loved it and when i was about to take her home she told me she has been on lots of dates but this is the most bizarre and fun date she's been on. We met some of my buddies while playing table tennis and she loved them.

we kissed for a few minutes then kissed some more. I told her i was off on Thursday and she said she would like to come to my place for dinner. anyway i don't want to talk too much.


I may have a girlfriend GAF

Life is smiling with me and not at me
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Awesomeness.

And Crushed, just giving you a heads up - after enough brush offs, that girl will likely get a signal that says "oh he doesn't like me." She'll get upset and some other guy will console her or her friends will give her a night out to cheer her up and she'll land a guy or she'll move on. Let's say that DOES happen.

Then are you going to say that you would be happy with your brain's choice of not asking her out and you would 100% stand by those reasons why you didn't give her a chance to date you? The only way to answer yes to this is if you are 100% HONESTLY satisfied with being friends only, or you found another girl you liked instead. If it's a no, then you've learned the hard way and know what to do next time an attractive girl comes on to you like that!
 
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Mike Works

Member
CrushDance said:
A girl giving you a drink doesn't mean anything. People ask me if I want drinks all the time and in the past as well.
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You're clearly just trolling. It'd be nice if you could fuck off so we can devote our time helping people that actually want it.
 
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CrushDance

Banned
Mike Works said:
You're clearly just trolling. It'd be nice if you could fuck off so we can devote our time helping people that actually want it.
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Yup. I'm just trolling, a troll that took six whole months to work out. You got me! Forget it man, I don't even know why I posted this shit.
 
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MrSardonic

The nerdiest nerd of all the nerds in nerdland
WTF is going on in here? I remember you CrushDance; grow some balls and stop thinking so much. I'm amazed this girl is interested in you because you sound completely neurotic. You're making life absurdly difficult for yourself.
 
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