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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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So GAF, I'm going to keep this short, and just see what you guys think.
So, about two and a half years ago I logged into facebook to check if I gotten any messages, notification, etc, and I found I had a new friend request and message in the inbox. it was from the a pretty good friend who I've known by then for about a year or more, saying 'hey you'.
We had pretty good chats and the year next we were going to the same school. She introduced me to her other friends and would quite frequently say hi to me or come up to me and chat.
Anyway, we would also chat constantly on facebook and stuff, until about May the following year. We were at a party and her sister added her number to my phone (I don't quite remember why), and she ended up taking the phone from her sibling and then giving it back to me.
Once I returned home, I noticed the number had been removed, so I decided to send a message on fb about it. She hinted that it was still there, but never confirmed. I wasn't able to find it.
I logged into fb a few days later and saw at the top 'Random Name has changed his/her number, it has been added to your phone-book.' I was curious since I didn't know facebook had that, but, as you can probably see, I found the girl's number there and told her that. She got really mad and decided that what I done was stalking, and she said that was creepy. I said my sorry and decided I shouldn't talk to her for a while until she collects herself, since I told her that I got the number from her facebook profile which was available to any of her friends.
After that, when I asked about it again, she said she 'forgot about it', but never really would constantly talk to me again. In March this year, I remembered she had her birthday, which is three days apart from mine, and saw that she was not on my friends list. I searched her name and was able to access her profile, so I wasn't blocked, but I guess she removed me from her friends.
This year, I'm on an exchange in Japan, so I won't see her until probably the coming summer, or once school starts. Should I try and message her, or play the waiting game? Or say 'fuck it'?
Well, whadya' think, GAF? I wish this thread was around back then so I could of asked about ongoing events, haha
-----Hmm, that turned out a tad longer than what I expected.
So, about two and a half years ago I logged into facebook to check if I gotten any messages, notification, etc, and I found I had a new friend request and message in the inbox. it was from the a pretty good friend who I've known by then for about a year or more, saying 'hey you'.
We had pretty good chats and the year next we were going to the same school. She introduced me to her other friends and would quite frequently say hi to me or come up to me and chat.
Anyway, we would also chat constantly on facebook and stuff, until about May the following year. We were at a party and her sister added her number to my phone (I don't quite remember why), and she ended up taking the phone from her sibling and then giving it back to me.
Once I returned home, I noticed the number had been removed, so I decided to send a message on fb about it. She hinted that it was still there, but never confirmed. I wasn't able to find it.
I logged into fb a few days later and saw at the top 'Random Name has changed his/her number, it has been added to your phone-book.' I was curious since I didn't know facebook had that, but, as you can probably see, I found the girl's number there and told her that. She got really mad and decided that what I done was stalking, and she said that was creepy. I said my sorry and decided I shouldn't talk to her for a while until she collects herself, since I told her that I got the number from her facebook profile which was available to any of her friends.
After that, when I asked about it again, she said she 'forgot about it', but never really would constantly talk to me again. In March this year, I remembered she had her birthday, which is three days apart from mine, and saw that she was not on my friends list. I searched her name and was able to access her profile, so I wasn't blocked, but I guess she removed me from her friends.
This year, I'm on an exchange in Japan, so I won't see her until probably the coming summer, or once school starts. Should I try and message her, or play the waiting game? Or say 'fuck it'?
Well, whadya' think, GAF? I wish this thread was around back then so I could of asked about ongoing events, haha
-----Hmm, that turned out a tad longer than what I expected.
sooperkool
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Keyouta -
Its over for you, move on. Don't waste your time with some ambiguous situation.
Its over for you, move on. Don't waste your time with some ambiguous situation.
WyndhamPrice
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So uh I guess this is a good a place as any to ask this:
The ladyfriend and I (after dating for a month and being busy as hell) finally got around do doin' it.
Or at least we tried. She is a smaller girl, and apparently I am bigger than the other guys she had previously slept with. So after attempting to get it on for a little while, and even moving to the shower to see how that would work out, we called it quits for the night.
How do I deal with this? Just more lubrication I guess? I'm assuming that after we have more sex her body will adjust, but I've never had to deal with this kind of issue before :lol
The ladyfriend and I (after dating for a month and being busy as hell) finally got around do doin' it.
Or at least we tried. She is a smaller girl, and apparently I am bigger than the other guys she had previously slept with. So after attempting to get it on for a little while, and even moving to the shower to see how that would work out, we called it quits for the night.
How do I deal with this? Just more lubrication I guess? I'm assuming that after we have more sex her body will adjust, but I've never had to deal with this kind of issue before :lol
What up stealth brag?
sooperkool
Member
Having had these issues before I can say that you will need lots o patience lube and foreplay. She is going to be nervous and scared after the last attempt so bear in mind that it may be harder the next time.
WyndhamPrice
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sooperkool said:
Why would she be nervous or scared? I certainly didn't get that impression from her on this go around.
sooperkool
Member
WyndhamPrice said:
Because like most women she is wanting to please you and you guys not being able to do it means that she is going to be nervous about being inadequate. Trust me on this one, its going to be in her head. She's not going to tell you that though.
Alright GAF, so first off: SUCCESS
I brought this up a little while ago (on the old thread) - started hanging out with a girl I used to know from way back, things were kind of date-y, and I went for the whole 'more than friends' speal and was ultimately shut down. Wasn't ready for a relationship atm.
After that, we keep hanging out and it remains not awkward until the other night when, after we went out drinking for a couple hours and I drive her home, she brings up that she wants to try being more than friends and we proceed to make out. Schwing. I was kind of surprised by the whole thing, but played it off pretty cool. Told her we'd 'see where things went' and take it from here.
My dumb question is: what's the follow up text for what went down last night? Just the typical 'had a great time, etc etc' and imply that I'm pretty fuckin stoked for what happened, or lay back a bit? (Totally unfamiliar with this kind of relationship. I've never actively sought out someone, in most of my relationships they just sort of happened. Don't know the etiquette)
Also, she's going away on Friday for a week. Try and see her before that, or just give it some space?
Thanks all
I brought this up a little while ago (on the old thread) - started hanging out with a girl I used to know from way back, things were kind of date-y, and I went for the whole 'more than friends' speal and was ultimately shut down. Wasn't ready for a relationship atm.
After that, we keep hanging out and it remains not awkward until the other night when, after we went out drinking for a couple hours and I drive her home, she brings up that she wants to try being more than friends and we proceed to make out. Schwing. I was kind of surprised by the whole thing, but played it off pretty cool. Told her we'd 'see where things went' and take it from here.
My dumb question is: what's the follow up text for what went down last night? Just the typical 'had a great time, etc etc' and imply that I'm pretty fuckin stoked for what happened, or lay back a bit? (Totally unfamiliar with this kind of relationship. I've never actively sought out someone, in most of my relationships they just sort of happened. Don't know the etiquette)
Also, she's going away on Friday for a week. Try and see her before that, or just give it some space?
Thanks all
sooperkool
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Apparently it is for him. I chose not to be an ass about it.
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Thanks Mike and Bd for the reply.
You guys may know that I had a date today in NYC. Well, I'm back...I had such a good ass time. She did too. In spite the nip in the air, I looked sharp as hell. She looked fantastic herself. I'm so glad I went up to the city today. Here's why:
We met at the MoMa, but didn't stay too long. Neither of us went with any idea of what special exhibits were on display. We're both creative types. I'm an artist and she's into all sorts of performing arts and dance. So it was the perfect place to start a date. I haven't been in a long time. I was surprised that they didn't check people's bags and allowed us to take photos. I tried taking as many as I could, but my date kept going on ahead :/ I will say, it was nice going, since what I did see, I can use as inspiration for future projects. I did take took a few photos, but I wish I took more. Anyway, we wandered about in various sections until we decided it was time to go get some food. Originally, we were going to go to my favorite hole-in-the-wall Chinese restaurant uptown, but she didn't feel like going that far up in this cold. For some odd reason, she preferred going by foot than taking the subway. Plus, we didn't want to hike nearly 30 blocks in this cold. We did find a good looking ramen joint, but it was way too crowded. To our luck, there was a Five Guys next door. I've been dying to try their burgers for months. They were pretty good. They gave us a shit load of fries. We devoured every single one :lol After lunch we headed back to her place. We held hands the entire time. We had all sorts of interesting conversations on the way. Her apartment was very nice, but kind of on the messy side. I didn't care though. I helped her make her bed. I joked that she should hire me as her maid.
We cuddled and talked for hours. I ended up giving her a back massage. I had bragged to her that I'm a master at giving massages and REALLY good with my hands...as well as my tongue. Well, I think I lived up to and even surpassed my own hype. It wasn't long until she let me take off her bra and shirt. She congratulated me on how quickly and easily I got it off. She had huge tits, so she required a bra that could harness them (four hooks). After rubbing her back, sides and shoulders for a few minutes, she nonchalantly turned over, presenting me with her massive, beautiful breasts. I leaned down and proceeded to suck on them. Prior to giving her the massage, I gave them light kisses, which I guess made her really comfortable with me. She was really cooled out and at ease with me. It has been a while since I've gotten the privilege of sucking on a big, gorgeous pair knockers. She warned me that she was extremely sensitive, but to her own disbelief, I didn't hurt her. She moaned and loved every bit of it. She requested that I finger her pussy. Unfortunately, she was on her period, so I politely declined. She didn't seem to care too much though. I didn't want to get blood on my fingers or clothing. I fucked my ex while she was on her period once...yeah...not doing anything like that ever again. However, I didn't want to finger because I didn't want things leading to sex and going too fast. I wanted things to be be low key and mellow today.
She did remind me that she wants to take things slow and remain friends for now, which is perfectly cool for me. She's not sure if she wants a relationship. I'm not upset with her because she has been very open and vocal about since I started talking to her. And when I think about it, having her as a girlfriend would be kind of hard. She does live kind of far, and is on the wild side. She's very spontaneous and kind of unpredictable. I prefer a girl who is bit more stable. I don't know if I could honestly date a girl like her, but she is a sweet heart and a lot of fun. She kept on telling me how great I was. She's explained to me (not on the date, but in the past week) that she's had a rough past with guys. She was pleasantly surprised of how genuinely nice and gentle I was. She assured me many times that I was a fantastic guy and that she wasn't good enough for me. But despite what she said about herself, I complimented her wonderful personality and her good looks. Needless to say, she really liked being with me today. Before I left, I stood behind her, while she got dressed in front of her mirror. I glided my hands up and down her sides, kissed her neck and told her how great of girl she was. She then went to her drawer and pulled out, what she claimed, was one of her favorite scarves. She walked over to me and wrapped it securely around me neck. I told her that I couldn't accept it, but she insisted that I keep it. I kept it. After that, she walked me out to the elevator. She gave me a gave me a big hug before I stepped in. I caressed her back, gave her a kiss on her forehead and bid her farewell. And that is pretty much it.
I called her when I got on the train, to tell her I was safely on my way home. She said she had a great time, but again, explained that she just wants to be friends for now. Yeah, it was kind of sour hearing that, after such an amazing day, but I didn't mind too much. She's a fantastic girl, but like I said, there are a lot of reasons why we wouldn't be a good couple. But hey, she could make one kick ass friend. She did remind me throughout the day that I was a very special, unique guy and that she's never met anyone like me before. I've heard that from pretty much every girl I've met. As nice and flattering as those words are, they don't really do much for me. I'd rather have a girl be with me because I'm awesome, not just tell me, you know It's not like I'm not assertive or have low self esteem. I don't know what it is that prevents me from getting that last inch. Oh well...
With all of that said, I'm more than pleased with how today went. I'm glad my date enjoyed herself. I'm cool with just being friends with her. But who knows...maybe she will be something more down the road.
Thanks for reading
We met at the MoMa, but didn't stay too long. Neither of us went with any idea of what special exhibits were on display. We're both creative types. I'm an artist and she's into all sorts of performing arts and dance. So it was the perfect place to start a date. I haven't been in a long time. I was surprised that they didn't check people's bags and allowed us to take photos. I tried taking as many as I could, but my date kept going on ahead :/ I will say, it was nice going, since what I did see, I can use as inspiration for future projects. I did take took a few photos, but I wish I took more. Anyway, we wandered about in various sections until we decided it was time to go get some food. Originally, we were going to go to my favorite hole-in-the-wall Chinese restaurant uptown, but she didn't feel like going that far up in this cold. For some odd reason, she preferred going by foot than taking the subway. Plus, we didn't want to hike nearly 30 blocks in this cold
. We did find a good looking ramen joint, but it was way too crowded. To our luck, there was a Five Guys next door. I've been dying to try their burgers for months. They were pretty good. They gave us a shit load of fries. We devoured every single one :lol After lunch we headed back to her place. We held hands the entire time. We had all sorts of interesting conversations on the way. Her apartment was very nice, but kind of on the messy side. I didn't care though. I helped her make her bed. I joked that she should hire me as her maid. We cuddled and talked for hours. I ended up giving her a back massage. I had bragged to her that I'm a master at giving massages and REALLY good with my hands...as well as my tongue
. Well, I think I lived up to and even surpassed my own hype. It wasn't long until she let me take off her bra and shirt. She congratulated me on how quickly and easily I got it off. She had huge tits, so she required a bra that could harness them (four hooks). After rubbing her back, sides and shoulders for a few minutes, she nonchalantly turned over, presenting me with her massive, beautiful breasts. I leaned down and proceeded to suck on them. Prior to giving her the massage, I gave them light kisses, which I guess made her really comfortable with me. She was really cooled out and at ease with me. It has been a while since I've gotten the privilege of sucking on a big, gorgeous pair knockers. She warned me that she was extremely sensitive, but to her own disbelief, I didn't hurt her. She moaned and loved every bit of it. She requested that I finger her pussy. Unfortunately, she was on her period, so I politely declined. She didn't seem to care too much though. I didn't want to get blood on my fingers or clothing. I fucked my ex while she was on her period once...yeah...not doing anything like that ever again. However, I didn't want to finger because I didn't want things leading to sex and going too fast. I wanted things to be be low key and mellow today.She did remind me that she wants to take things slow and remain friends for now, which is perfectly cool for me. She's not sure if she wants a relationship. I'm not upset with her because she has been very open and vocal about since I started talking to her. And when I think about it, having her as a girlfriend would be kind of hard. She does live kind of far, and is on the wild side. She's very spontaneous and kind of unpredictable. I prefer a girl who is bit more stable. I don't know if I could honestly date a girl like her, but she is a sweet heart and a lot of fun. She kept on telling me how great I was. She's explained to me (not on the date, but in the past week) that she's had a rough past with guys. She was pleasantly surprised of how genuinely nice and gentle I was. She assured me many times that I was a fantastic guy and that she wasn't good enough for me. But despite what she said about herself, I complimented her wonderful personality and her good looks. Needless to say, she really liked being with me today. Before I left, I stood behind her, while she got dressed in front of her mirror. I glided my hands up and down her sides, kissed her neck and told her how great of girl she was. She then went to her drawer and pulled out, what she claimed, was one of her favorite scarves. She walked over to me and wrapped it securely around me neck. I told her that I couldn't accept it, but she insisted that I keep it. I kept it. After that, she walked me out to the elevator. She gave me a gave me a big hug before I stepped in. I caressed her back, gave her a kiss on her forehead and bid her farewell. And that is pretty much it.
I called her when I got on the train, to tell her I was safely on my way home. She said she had a great time, but again, explained that she just wants to be friends for now. Yeah, it was kind of sour hearing that, after such an amazing day, but I didn't mind too much. She's a fantastic girl, but like I said, there are a lot of reasons why we wouldn't be a good couple. But hey, she could make one kick ass friend. She did remind me throughout the day that I was a very special, unique guy and that she's never met anyone like me before. I've heard that from pretty much every girl I've met. As nice and flattering as those words are, they don't really do much for me. I'd rather have a girl be with me because I'm awesome, not just tell me, you know
It's not like I'm not assertive or have low self esteem. I don't know what it is that prevents me from getting that last inch. Oh well...With all of that said, I'm more than pleased with how today went. I'm glad my date enjoyed herself. I'm cool with just being friends with her. But who knows...maybe she will be something more down the road.
Thanks for reading
Barrage
Member
-PXG- said:You guys may know that I had a date today in NYC. Well, I'm back...I had such a good ass time. She did too. In spite the nip in the air, I looked sharp as hell. She looked fantastic herself. I'm so glad I went up to the city today. Here's why:
We met at the MoMa, but didn't stay too long. Neither us went with any idea of what special exhibits were on display. We wandered about in various sections until we decided it was time to go get some food. Originally, we were going to go to my favorite hole-in-the-wall Chinese restaurant uptown, but she didn't feel like going that far up in this cold. For some odd reason, she preferred going by foot than taking the subway. Plus, we want to hike nearly 30 blocks in this cold
We cuddled and talked for hours. I ended up giving her a back massage. I had bragged to her that I'm a master at giving massages and REALLY good with my hands...as well as my tongue
She did remind me that she wants to take things slow and remain friends for now, which is perfectly cool for me. She's not sure if she wants a relationship. I'm not upset with her because she has been very open and vocal about since I started talking to her. And when I think about it, having her as a girlfriend would be kind of hard. She does live kind of far, and is on the wild side. She's very spontaneous and kind of unpredictable. I prefer a girl who is bit more stable. I don't know if I could honestly date a girl like her, but she is a sweet heart and a lot of fun. She kept on telling me how great I was. She's explained to me (not on the date, but in the past week) that she's had a rough past with guys. She was pleasantly surprised of how genuinely nice and gentle I was. She assured me many times that I was a fantastic guy and that she wasn't good enough for me. But despite what she said about herself, I complimented her wonderful personality and her good looks. Needless to say, she really liked being with me today. Before I left, I stood behind her, while she got dressed in front of her mirror. I glided my hands up and down her sides, kissed her neck and told her how great of girl she was. She then went to her drawer and pulled out, what she claimed, was one of her favorite scarves. She walked over to me and wrapped it securely around me neck. I told her that I couldn't accept it, but she insisted that I keep it. I kept it. After that, she walked me out to the elevator. She gave me a gave me a big hug before I stepped in. I caressed her back, gave her a kiss on her forehead and bid her farewell. And that is pretty much it.
I called her when I got on the train, to tell her I was safely on my way home. She said she had a great time, but again, explained that she just wants to be friends for now. Yeah, it was kind of sour hearing that, after such an amazing day, but I didn't mind too much. She's a fantastic girl, but like I said, there are a lot of reasons why we wouldn't be a good couple. But hey, she could make one kick ass friend. She did remind me throughout the day that I was a very special, unique guy and that she's never met anyone like me before. I've heard that from pretty much every girl I've met. As nice and flattering as those words are, they don't really do much for me. I'd rather have a girl be with me because I'm awesome, not just tell me, you know
With all of that said, I'm more than pleased with how today went. I'm glad my date enjoyed herself. I'm cool with just being friends with her. But who knows...maybe she will be something more down the road.
Thanks for reading
Yeah, i find 5 Guys always gives a lot of fries.
twilitesparklemotion
Member
I liked the part where you held hands.-PXG- said:
Oh! Oh! How did you like the MoMa exhibits? My parents have an extra pass to go and I was thinking of inviting the girl I'm going out with Friday if she wants to go. I can go early or later or separate from the family, just seeing if it's worth a date.-PXG- said:
doomed1 said:
Some pieces were great, while others were shit. I love looking at the pretentious schmucks who over analyze the painfully simplistic stuff or things that look like ANYONE could do. That's pretty much the case, no matter what museum or gallery you go to honestly. I personally, love the architectural/ interior/ industrial design stuff. I dabble in those a bit myself, but I'd never do any of those as a vocation. Maybe ID, but that's just me though.
But yeah, if you're both artists, both love art, or just need something interesting to do, definitely go. It's $20 per person and I think $12 if you're a student. We got in for free
Oh, plus there are a lot of good places go for a bite nearby. And, providing the weather doesn't suck, you can take a walk through the park.EDIT
I noticed, it's funny reading my posts when I have Anton Chigurh in my avatar. Kind of creepy. I've caught myself reading posts out loud in his voice :lol
Yeah, I'd get in for free, so that's the motivation. It WOULD be pretty soon after the date on friday though, so whether or not I ask her will depend on if the night goes well or not.-PXG- said:Some pieces were great, while others were shit. I love looking at the pretentious schmucks who over analyze the painfully simplistic stuff or things that look like ANYONE could do. That's pretty much the case, no matter what museum or gallery you go to honestly. I personally, love the architectural/ interior/ industrial design stuff. I dabble in those a bit myself, but I'd never do any of those as a vocation. Maybe ID, but that's just me though.
But yeah, if you're both artists, both love art, or just need something interesting to do, definitely go. It's $20 per person and I think $12 if you're a student. We got in for free
EDIT
I noticed, it's funny reading my posts when I have Anton Chigurh in my avatar. Kind of creepy.
Also, I now actually could use some advice for the date: I WAS going to take her to a show headlined by Jason Yudoff and the New Hotness in Manhattan, but now my second favorite Iranian rock band is having a free show in Brooklyn the same night with a couple other really raw indie groups. The Yudoff show has 5 bands, is at a regular venue apparently with drinks (21+), costs $10, and is supposed to go until 2am. The Free show has 3 different bands of quite a bit of variety (techno, punk, and instrumental ambient respectively), is Free, and will probably be over before midnight. No guarantees of drinks. She's sort of an indie girl, so it could really work out with my indie cred to go to the free show, but the Yudoff show still has indie bands, they're just not as local.
So think I should give her the choice or should I choose one of these myself? The cost isn't really a problem, and I really love to support local acts, since I've been waiting for a while to see the Yellow Dogs live at the free show, what do you guys think?
doomed1 said:
Give her the options and go with what she picks. You're being both assertive and diplomatic, which is good. You don't want to be too assertive, and appear pushy, and you definitely don't want to be an indecisive push over either. Take the initiative by approaching her with ideas, but not shoving them down her throat. You're telling her ,"hey this is what we're going to do", but allowing her to voice her opinion and have a say in the matter. That's what I always do, and it works like a charm.
I know fuck all about the bands and stuff you're talking about though :lol You're on your own with that one.
Yeah, that's what I was planning. I don't even really have any plans to meet up with her yet, probably treat her to a light bite at a cafe I like in SoHo before heading out.-PXG- said:
But seriously man, you live in the area and you don't keep up with the local music scene? The fact that concerts are sooooo prolific in the metro area makes taking girls out to dates stupid easy.
Anyway, I want this final tomorrow to be OVER so I can GTFO and get my groove on!
Scarecrow
Member
Man, I can't seem to hold on to a girl for more than two weeks. I thought this one was promising, but she just called it off. My last near success was exactly a year ago, same results. The one before that was, like, 3 years earlier, same time frame. The universe is clearly trying to tell me something.
Jamesfrom818
Banned
Scarecrow said:
Nail them as many times as you can in two weeks.
Thats the message I'm getting.
There's this girl that I've been hanging out with.
She's in my class, things have been going well. Thing is, I've never really noticed her before the last 3 weeks, as I've been hitting on her friend the entire semester among other girls. But someone pointed out that she's crushing on me, but unless I'm blind I haven't been seeing the same thing.
We tend to end up going to bars, etc. We have a good time, we talk a lot, etc. We've danced, we kind of flirt, I dunno. We got plastered one night, and she was insisting on going home, so I told her, "stay with our mutual friend, or whatever, don't walk home alone." Then she was like "so where do you live?" I drunkenly (and stupidly) didn't pick up on that note and eventually ended up walking her to her place, no action whatsoever.
Every time we hang out we have mutual friends around, and something comes up involving me not getting laid. (Her friend got sick, my roommate locked himself out, my ex-girlfriend was there, etc.)
I asked her on a sorta date and then bailed at the last minute to hang with my ex-girlfriend. Came up with a really good excuse that she believed.
This Saturday is the last chance we have to hang out as she's studying abroad next year and lives in Missouri so no chance of seeing each other during break. She texted me telling me that we need to hang out Saturday night (go to a friend's party, bars probably).
How should I approach it?
She's in my class, things have been going well. Thing is, I've never really noticed her before the last 3 weeks, as I've been hitting on her friend the entire semester among other girls. But someone pointed out that she's crushing on me, but unless I'm blind I haven't been seeing the same thing.
We tend to end up going to bars, etc. We have a good time, we talk a lot, etc. We've danced, we kind of flirt, I dunno. We got plastered one night, and she was insisting on going home, so I told her, "stay with our mutual friend, or whatever, don't walk home alone." Then she was like "so where do you live?" I drunkenly (and stupidly) didn't pick up on that note and eventually ended up walking her to her place, no action whatsoever.
Every time we hang out we have mutual friends around, and something comes up involving me not getting laid. (Her friend got sick, my roommate locked himself out, my ex-girlfriend was there, etc.)
I asked her on a sorta date and then bailed at the last minute to hang with my ex-girlfriend. Came up with a really good excuse that she believed.
This Saturday is the last chance we have to hang out as she's studying abroad next year and lives in Missouri so no chance of seeing each other during break. She texted me telling me that we need to hang out Saturday night (go to a friend's party, bars probably).
How should I approach it?
Acid08 said:
It's natural, man. The most important part to remember is that she did say yes. So she wants you. So act like yourself and don't try to do anything that you normally wouldn't do.
Good luck!
Patriots7 said:
If you're lucky, you may not have to do anything. She'll probably be showing you signs the night of the party. Just don't get too wasted so that you're oblivious to them this time.
But you haven't really mentioned your intentions. What do you feel like you want out of this girl?
I posted a long time ago in the first girl-age, but things didn't go to too well with that girl. I haven't put myself out there (not because of her, but just in general), and a lot of my friends think that's pretty fucking stupid on my part. Which it is, I agree with them. Two chicks asked if I was gay, although I think that has to do more with me not asking out a mutual friend of theirs when the signs were pretty obvious. :lol
I could be picky as fuck too. I notice a lot of looks coming my way these days, but these come from girls that don't meet my standards. I guess I could do what one of my best friends does, and just play the numbers game and every once in a while, hit a 10. But he doesn't have a life outside of work, and his two priorities in life are working and fucking. :lol
I don't know what it is. I got all the tools I need; I'm told I'm a very good dresser by men and women, I work out and I'm not totally out of shape, and I think I look average at the very least. Its funny, because people think since I'm a good talker, dresser, what have you, I'm pretty good with women. I don't shatter the illusion since I talk fairly well with people in a group, and I can make most women laugh and carry on conversations with them. I may have the tools, ,but I need to figure out how to use them unless I want to be a part of Virgin-GAF forever.
To make a long story short, I lack everything but the mentality to get women. Any advice from people who were like me?
I could be picky as fuck too. I notice a lot of looks coming my way these days, but these come from girls that don't meet my standards. I guess I could do what one of my best friends does, and just play the numbers game and every once in a while, hit a 10. But he doesn't have a life outside of work, and his two priorities in life are working and fucking. :lol
I don't know what it is. I got all the tools I need; I'm told I'm a very good dresser by men and women, I work out and I'm not totally out of shape, and I think I look average at the very least. Its funny, because people think since I'm a good talker, dresser, what have you, I'm pretty good with women. I don't shatter the illusion since I talk fairly well with people in a group, and I can make most women laugh and carry on conversations with them. I may have the tools, ,but I need to figure out how to use them unless I want to be a part of Virgin-GAF forever.
To make a long story short, I lack everything but the mentality to get women. Any advice from people who were like me?
Mike Works
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Just pretend that you're the Sharks and this first date is the first round against the Nashville Predators. You got this.Acid08 said:
Granted under my analogy I guess you're never going to get married lol Niemi
Girlfriend is as good as moving in tonight, kinda. I've gone from being super excited to just being super anxious now, she's given up a lot and I spend quite a lot of time working which I'm worried will wear her down after time, especially since she's given up so much to be here. Ah. I just can't get excited about it at all now. Also 5 months - too soon?!
Pickles the Firecat
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WyndhamPrice said:
This is a problem that I feel never gets addressed because of the
stealth brag
Anyway, the absolute most important thing in your life for the next few months is lube. Lube lube lube. People might say "Oh you don't need lube if you can get a girl wet hahahahaha," but those people are fucking morons. The reality is that sometimes even a round peg won't fit into a round hole without some help--or brutalizing the shit out of the hole. Now as far as what type of lube, I can make two recommendations: Pjur Original and Wet Original. These two are by far the best that I have used, and general consensus seems to agree with me. Both are very long lasting and have minimal interference with pleasure. A lot of other lubes, especially the warming ones (AVOID! AVOID! KY HIS AND HERS!) will give you "pleasurable sensations". Treat that shit like it's the plague. It's either going to end in sex feeling less intense (because of the burning sensation on your wang) or your girlfriend getting a yeast infection. I doubt either outcome is high on your wish list. Cautionary warning aside, I prefer Pjur because it's less liquid-y and...well, it looks classier. A black bottle of lube with "Pjur" on the label is sophisticated. No matter how good the product may be, "Wet Classic" with that late 90s MS Paint logo looks like something you'd buy to embarrass a friend on their birthday.
Fact #2: it is going to take considerably more effort on your end to initiate sex, compared to most guys. Just deal with it. Your girlfriend needs to be dripping like a rainforest (drip drip) unless she wants to get a cooch contusion. And I'm not kidding about that. If she is not seriously ready to go, you're asking for a tear and a lot of blood + days of no sex while it heals over. This rule stands even if you're using lube. I assume you know (or will soon know) what her pleasure zones are so just work that and get her all the way ready to go before you fertilize.
As far as how long it'll take before any physical adjustments happen...it'll be a while. It took my girlfriend maybe five months of sex 5+ times a week before things got really comfortable, but even then you're still going to have occasional problems. It's also an issue if we go a few days without sex--tightens back up and the process starts over again, albeit expedited. And we still have to use lube and go slow at the start. But I assume these things differ on a person-to-person basis.
WyndhamPrice said:
There are plenty of reasons. Like sooper said, she wants to please you and will probably deal with some inadequacy issues. It's also probably going to hurt like a motherfucker for her and she's going to be scared of that, too.
My date last night went pretty well. I just got back from her place. We immediately hit it off and as the evening progressed it became pretty clear that she was very much into me. After a great evening we went back to her place and well... on the one hand it was pretty fantastic, on the other hand my nerves and lack of experience held me back a lot. Luckily she was really understanding and it didn't bother her. She has made it pretty clear that she would love to continue with me and see where things end up.
Man she is really great. At first I was a bit put off when on Thursday she revealed to me that she has a tattoo and some piercings. But after seeing and experiencing her in person, I couldn't care less about such trivial things. She is absolutely smoking and a blast to be with, her character really gels with mine and we have a lot in common. Ooh and those piercings are actually damn hot. Especially the tongue piercing.
Hopefully this will lead to something long term.
If anything this year has made me feel like a complete and utter twat for not getting in the dating game earlier and being a complete confidence lacking geek boarded up in my little safe room nearly all my life. I really have a lot of catching up to do. I lack a tremendous amount of experience sexually and with relationships in general and it does negatively influence me. Still it's never too late catch up. If I can do it anyone can.
Man she is really great. At first I was a bit put off when on Thursday she revealed to me that she has a tattoo and some piercings. But after seeing and experiencing her in person, I couldn't care less about such trivial things. She is absolutely smoking and a blast to be with, her character really gels with mine and we have a lot in common. Ooh and those piercings are actually damn hot. Especially the tongue piercing.
Hopefully this will lead to something long term.
If anything this year has made me feel like a complete and utter twat for not getting in the dating game earlier and being a complete confidence lacking geek boarded up in my little safe room nearly all my life. I really have a lot of catching up to do. I lack a tremendous amount of experience sexually and with relationships in general and it does negatively influence me. Still it's never too late catch up. If I can do it anyone can.
High five back at you.Norwegian Wood said:wow Daniel and I both score in the same week.
High Five Son
Feeling pretty good right now. Finally getting some shit sorted in my damn life and putting in the effort to make up for lost time. Now all that's left is getting my school sorted.
Every single word in this post is true. It took my ex a good while to want and enjoy sex.Pickles the Firecat said:
If you're hung and she's virgin tight, grease dat shit up. Also don't be an idiot and shove it in. Be gentle at first and go easy the first few sessions. After a while she will adjust to your size, which will allow you to step it up and be a little rougher. After that it should be smooth sailing. Enjoy fucking the shit out of your girl from that point on
Being too big must be horrible, my girlfriend absolutely hated sex with her ex (the only other person she's slept with) and went weeks or even months without having sex because she dreaded the thought of it. By contrast now she has about as high a sex drive as I could ever imagine a girl having (way higher than mine - not that I'm complaining) and I'm not even slightly good at it either, woot.
She also has a friend that has *never* finished when having sex with her partner of a year because he's too big, and he hasn't been able to finish either. Lots&lots of lube you say? I'll pass on the message if they haven't tried already.
She also has a friend that has *never* finished when having sex with her partner of a year because he's too big, and he hasn't been able to finish either. Lots&lots of lube you say? I'll pass on the message if they haven't tried already.
sooperkool
Member
J-A-G said:
This might sound cold to some but date some of those girls you have been turning down to get some practice in. You'll be much more relaxed without the pressure of trying to make it work and you'll be able to get your head in the game as fa as dating goes. Plus women are always interested in the guy that has something new on his arm all the time.
WyndhamPrice
Member
-PXG- said:Every single word in this post is true. It took my ex a good while to want and enjoy sex.
If you're hung and she's virgin tight, grease dat shit up. Also don't be an idiot and shove it in. Be gentle at first and go easy the first few sessions. After a while she will adjust to your size, which will allow you to step it up and be a little rougher. After that it should be smooth sailing. Enjoy fucking the shit out of your girl from that point on
Thanks Pickles and PXG for the advice, I'll be making the proper purchases here pretty shortly so when we try again it'll go more favorably. I think she'll appreciate that, and probably be surprised that I care enough about how she feels too.
On that, she's got a little baggage which is probably interfering with the sexytime as well. The 2 guys she's slept with weren't even in a relationship with her, it was more like a failed friends-with-benefits situation (the first after a breakup, the second after the first one didn't go anywhere). She's told me that in her prior relationships she never really felt like the other person was interested in her beyond her body, so my consistent displays of "hey I actually think you're a wonderful person and I want you to know that I give a shit about you" have taken her a bit by surprise. We spent a few hours in my bed pretty much naked last night just talking, nothing else, and it was incredibly comfortable. She even noted how she didn't really think she could do something like that after only a month, but it felt completely right.
So there's some work ahead of me, but we've hit it off like crazy in virtually every other aspect, I just need to work on getting her to be more comfortable with herself and the idea of being more sexual with me in general. She's nearly there.
It just sucks that she left for California this morning and won't be back till the first week of January. I am not a happy camper :lol
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